Sara withdrew tonight due to filing for divorce. nm
Posted By: Eeyore on 2006-10-13
In Reply to: I have not watched it yet this year . Is Sara Evans still on? - Sherry
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When filing a homeowners claim consider this...sm
Homeowner's policies are determined by how many claims you file in "x" period of time, not the dollar amount. Therefore if you file a claim for instance for the carpeting and the replacement is $4000, then have another claim then you'll probably be cancelled or have rates go up, regardless of whether or not the next claim is for something with a high ticket dollar amount or not.
It is generally recommended by the insurance industry to not file claims for things that aren't for major ticket items, i.e. a fire or loss of thousands of dollars worth of stuff.
thank you, sara, this has been
enjoyable, seeing some places I have never seen and a few that I have, but far too long ago. Makes me realize again what a great country we are living in.
Thanks, Sara (nm)
:)
Would filing your taxes late affect your stimulus check?
We filed an extension, and then sent our return out about two weeks late. We are getting a refund, so it wasn't like we owed the IRS or anything. It was just a complicated return and we were just procrastinators.
I have not watched it yet this year . Is Sara Evans still on?
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divorce
Been there. You hit the nail right on the head -- his drinking overpowers or affects every aspect of your life, and your childrens' lives. Every day, every minute. Most people can't comprehend the constant stress that puts on a family. He's absolutely miserable with his drinking, and wants everybody around him to be as miserable as he is. Tired of walking on the eggshells and sick of the promises that mean nothing? I know I was! Drunks tell you what they think you want to hear to buy them more time. You need peace in your lives for once. You need to be able to predict what your day is going to be like when you wake up in the morning, and so do your kids. I hope it is a 'friendly' divorce for you. You may hurt his ego more than anything else. Good luck to you. I'll be keeping good thoughts for you. I will tell you this -- when my ex left after 12 years, my children and I finally felt like we could BREATHE.
Just let me know about the divorce! nm
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divorce
Me, too, Freebie - I absolutely despised the man after 17-1/2 yrs., got divorced. He had the nerve to die 5 yrs. later. Had I stayed, I would be on easy street now instead of wondering whether to pay the phone bill, the electric bill or pay for Christmas or charge it. If I only knew then what I know now - haunting isn't it?
Divorce
My children were 14 and 11 at the time of my divorce, they are now 24 and 21 and are happy productive adults that any mother would be proud of. Not to say it wasn`t a very hard thing to go through, but all the fighting is very hard on the children to. I remember my daughter telling me that if I was to ever take her dad back she would be very mad at me, what does that tell you, if your children are old enough, talk to them about their feeling and fears.
Also, their dad got in their in there head and promised them all kinds of things that never came to past, to get them to stay with him so he didn`t have to pay child support,so be ready for that to, but as I said it didn`t take my daughter long to figure that all out, now she is grown and married and her and her dad hardly speak, which breaks my heart, it not fair that a child should have to do without either parent. Anyway I could go on about this subject all night cause it is a heartbreaking thing for all involved.
But you are the only one that know if it`s worth hanging on to.
my prayer`s go out to you in whatever you decide.
After my divorce
and my 45th birthday, it seems like everything changed for me. Things I thought were important, aren't anymore. I don't care about what I have, I'm more interested in what I've done, or more specifically, haven't done yet. Even my politics have changed some. Life changes you. Its like Character Remodeling as we mature.
I've always been suspect of anyone over 45 who tells me that they have no regrets in life. Have they lived life with eyes wide open? Nothing could have been made better?
In some ways, if you aren't evolving and changing, is it possible that you are not living? Great question.
divorce
It takes time. Be extra kind to yourself, seek support if you need to. It does get better, trust me. I am now in a place where I'm happiest I've ever been. I'm still alone but independent and free!
Divorce
I divorced my first husband when my children were 1 and 3. He was a crack addict. It wasn't easy but it was the right decision for me. I would definitely suggest going to Al-Anon. I didn't make it there until quite a few after my divorce, but it helped me a great deal. Best of luck with your decision.
Shelly
If you are going through with the divorce,
it will come out when you list assests, debts, etc.
divorce
I always think it is funny when women think divorce is the best thing for everyone and will make everyone happy.
Kids need two parents whether you are divorced or not, not a counselor to straighten him out.
Divorce
My jerk of a husband told me I have less than 2 weeks to move out -- that he spoke with a lawyer -- personally I don't think he has, but is this legal? My name is not on our home, but I have my own car in my own name, which I pay for and he has a set of keys-- refuses to give them back to me. I have about $80.00 to my name these days until payday. You know how it is with MT work -- living paycheck to paycheck. What can I do? Is there free legal help for women?
Divorce
My jerk of a husband told me I have less than 2 weeks to move out -- that he spoke with a lawyer -- personally I don't think he has, but is this legal? My name is not on our home, but I have my own car in my own name, which I pay for and he has a set of keys-- refuses to give them back to me. I have about $80.00 to my name these days until payday. You know how it is with MT work -- living paycheck to paycheck. What can I do? Is there free legal help for women?
It was on CNN tonight.
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TONIGHT!
Oh, children.......Tonight is the night....Can't wait!
Not tonight.
It's my bowling night (time away from everyone) so it's fast food night, but I love using the crockpot in the fall and I've been looking on the internet for quick easy recipies that I've been trying for the past few weeks.
She may be gone tonight
Hopefully. I can't stand her. Did you notice that she was in the room of the people who were leaving and then they moved her to another room? Rose was the one who's parents had died she had blond hair and was very young. I liked her a lot. I think the guy who's wife died has an amazing voice. He was my pick. I also can't believe the guy who played that character actually made it through to the next round.
AI Tonight
I won't go into who made it either for those who may have it taped, but I was really pleased with the results and loved seeing Michael Johns. Loved him from last year and very hot in person. I hate the format this year like I mentioned above. I liked it better the other years, but this year we get 3 Wild Cards so maybe your favorites who don't make it in the next three weeks will be back.
AI Tonight
I think Lil and Matt or Lil and Anoop will go home tonight. I really do like Anoop though. My top three prediction, Adam, Danny and Chris with Adam winning. (Love Adam). I'd be very happy with a Danny win also. I'm getting my AI concert tickets when they go on said May 9th. I'm so excited!
Amicable divorce, can it be done?....sm
It's time DH and I end our marriage. It's not a good situation for any of us. Long story short, DH thinks it is me because I'm a miserable B**ch. All I know is DH is an alcoholic, which overpowers everything, so I have no idea, in all honesty, what lies beneath. The kids and I pretty much know every morning when we get up that today will end like every other day with dad coming home after his six pack +, feeling guilty, looking for imperfections in everyone else to gripe about to avoid the fact that he's drunk once again, and no mater how much we try, in the end, in an argument.
I'm mad at DH for choosing the alcohol over his family, I'm angry at myself for staying longer than I should have, etc., etc., etc.
I've decided the bottom line is that I want healthier, more peaceful, and more productive lives for myself and my kids. In the best interest of my children, he is their father and no matter how much hostility I feel towards him, the best thing for my children is that neither of their parents ends up destroyed or broke over the divorce. Basically, I want to remain focused on the goal of providing a better life to myself and my children, including not contributing to the destruction of their father. My suspicion is he is going to end up destroying himself anyway, but I honestly don't want to force that to happen. The optimal outcome for the kids would be to end up with two emotionally stable and financially secure parents. Is it possible to end the marriage without destroying the kids? Is it possible to stay focused on the ultimate goal of having a more peaceful and satisfying life for you and the kids and to just let go of anything that does not make a positive contribution toward that effort? Has anyone successfully managed an "amicable" divorce, or at least as amicable as possible? I've already wasted 15 years on a marriage I knew all along was never going to be successfull no matter how much I wanted it to be. Any advice?
Question of dog in divorce
I filed for divorce due to abuse, only married 4 years with no kids but we do have a dog. He is considered "marital property" in my state and therefore part of the equitable distribution which is 50/50. I am wondering how it will be decided who gets him. My soon to be ex did pay for the dog (a purebred) but he has been at home with me from day one so. Has anyone been through anything similar that can give me a clue as to how this might be decided?
This came up when my daughter got a divorce
and she and her husband got their dogs from the humane society. I was heartbroken thinking the dogs would be going back. I had already thought what kind of ad I would put in the paper, maybe hunting a good home for my granddogs.Long story short, she and her ex now share joint custody. Both are on good terms with each other and if my daughter needs time for herself, she contacts him and they switch the dogs over to his place and vice versa. It is so great for me and I still have those little ones in my life.
How long until the divorce comes
through??
I can't believe he'd do that. Men. Just wait till she puts Ex-Lax in his brownie right before his big presentation at work.
After a divorce is final...
After a divorce is final...what are your thoughts on the mother and her child requesting that their names be changed back to her maiden name?
"Traditionally, courts ruled that a father had an automatic right to have his child keep his last name if he continued to actively perform his parental role. Although there is still some bias in this direction, it is no longer strictly true. Now a child's name may be changed by court petition when it is clearly in the best interest of the child to do so. When deciding whether to grant a name change, courts consider many factors, such as the length of time the father's name has been used, the strength of the mother-child relationship and the need of the child to identify with a new family unit (if the change involves remarriage). The courts must balance these factors against the strength and importance of the father-child relationship. What this all boils down to is that it's up to a judge to decide which name is in the child's best interest."
What would really be in the childs best interest if he doesn't grow to know his father anyway? keep the last name? or change it?
See a divorce attorney
Find out what your rights are in your state. If the children are staying with you, then your husband should be the one to leave. It doesn't matter if he says he won't do it. It matters what the law says he will do. If you have a court order telling him to leave, he will either leave or go to jail.
I understand how difficult this is, I really do. I have been married a long time and have come very close to divorce, to the point of physical separation, twice. No matter how bad the situation is, your life is entwined with your husband's and it hurts to break those ties.
But for your sake and the sake of your children, you need to do it. And you need to be prepared. That is why you must to have someone on your side who knows the law and can help you make sure you and your children are protected and get everything that you need and deserve.
Try Divorce Care
I went through a divorce. The kids were very young and many years after the divorce, the kids started asking questions. I heard of a program through our church called Divorce Care. It was wonderful! That support group helped my children as well as myself. Google it and there just may be a church in your area that provides that. Good luck.
See inside RE: Divorce.
It sounds like you have gone in different directions; however, marriage is about compromise. It sounds as though you've gone in different directions. What a shame. It is a tough world, but think before you act because I know someone who was in your shoes, and she divorced her husband and now it is really hard for her to make enough to survive, let alone, have any fun. I think it sounds like you need a "weekend getaway" to number one, light that flame again. You also need to do some research on your own and try to compromise in where you live. It is obvious you will need to be the house hunter, and then once you find what you want within reason for distance to his job, hunting, backyard, etc., you sell it to him in a way that first and foremost meets his needs, and then put your needs second this time. That way, he feels "ownership", and you in the long run get exactly what you want. Keep in mind, men are just big little boys, and most want a very simple life. l wish you all the luck, but I wouldn't give up on your marriage as your children will ultimately suffer.
My SIL wanted a divorce until
he got accepted into medical school. Then things changed rather quickly. The person he is married to now he met in med school and they graduated together and work together at the same hospital. She encouraged him and motivated him the entire time he was in school. He didn't start med school until he was 31 so it was a big decision on his part. Am so proud of him.
Divorce is like suicide
It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Wait a while and things will get better. It always does. I have been married to the same guy for 40 years and I dated him for 5 years before I married him and based on this experience I give you my "aged" wise advice!
I think you are just ticked off that he never considers what you want to do and so you feel like if he went to Africa or somewhere for a few months it would give you a respite from anger. Go to counseling or get a friend of his (if he has one who is suitable) to let him know that your complaint is a valid one and that he needs to take a look at his behavior of always making plans without consulting you. Let him know that you guys are a "we" not an "I". Just temporarily, go downtown and get a pedicure and buy something new for your trip that he planned that you did not want to go on. You will feel better, have a new outfit or two, and your feet will be lovely until this resolves itself (and it will).
Sometimes it comes down to divorce OR suicide
I've known too many people who pretended it would get better someday and it never did. All it did was add years of misery to their lives. Depends on the issues and the big picture - sometimes divorce is the best answer.
Except FL has no fault divorce. Everything is 50/50.
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Can't seem to move on after divorce
I'm divorced now for quite a few years and have just had absolutely no interest in dating. I have 2 children (older) and bringing men into their lives in any capacity has never sat right with me, yet I'm lonely. My ex has moved on (in a new relationship) and unfortunately I have to be around them during kid's functions. It's not that I'm pining for my ex. I just miss being a family unit. I sought a little counseling but it didn't help. I'd appreciate any advice anyone might have who has been in a similar situation.
What do I think? Time for a divorce!
I will NEVER be able to understand why women put up with stuff like this. Your husband sounds like an ***.
I have - or had - a friend whose husband was like this. Very controlling. They fought all the time because unlike you, she WOULD push the issue constantly. The fights eventually became physical. After so many times of her crying on my shoulder and asking for advice (my advice was pretty obvious), I finally decided I couldn't be her friend anymore. I did care for her, but I can't be the shoulder ever time he hits her and then be waiting for the next time to say the same things again.
It bothers me a lot that women put up with controlling jerks like that, and I just can't stomach being part of it. That is your sister! Who is he to tell you that you can't see her?
Ugh, this kind of stuff makes my stomach turn.
Yes, get a divorce lawyer - sm
I talked to one before I confessed to my DH about the debt he knew nothing about ($88K) figuring my marriage would be over. In the event of a divorce I would have walked away with no debt, no home, but enough leftover to either buy a house with a good downpayment, or rent and be able to afford it for quite a while. I know my DH would have tried to get the kids too but I don't think he would have "won" despite my deception about the debt. I do everything for my kids, he does nothing except make dinner a couple times a week and takes them to the movies or skating every 3-4 weeks, that is it. I never got so low as to open cards in his name, and I am thankful I never sunk to that level though it did cross my mind once or twice I knew it was horribly wrong. I suspect he just filled out them in your name, maybe even on line, and then transfered his debt to yours, possibly putting himself as a user on the account, but even w/o doing that he could still transfer his debt to "your card", I know, I would transfer debt off my husband's cards onto mine so his credit would stay pristine, and so he would not find out. I would inform the companies that you did not open the accounts, have a fraud investigation started. As for telling him about the debt, since you are already heading for divorce, I would not tell him a thing, let the lawyers figure it out. They will do a list of assets and debts and figure it all out in the settlement. He can find out then. Run a credit report on yourself and find out how many cards he opened up in your name, and call each one, or better yet talk to a lawyer first and see what they have to say on the matter. I know my mess was/is bad but very thankful my DH ended up to be forgiving enough or just too lazy to go thru another divorce (I am his 2nd wife), and/or did not want to put the kids thru that. But the sooner you get the ball rolling and start taking care of things the better you will feel, I know, I feel so much better now. You kids will be happier too. Do not stay for the kids or keeping a stable home, etc. If you are miserable, then they are too and it is a horrible example for them. In my case a miracle happened and things are better than they have been in a long time, but it sounds like your case is terminal. I wish you the best of luck.
My psychiatrist says I need to get a divorce
I never thought this would happen to me, but after 3 visits, my psychiatrist says that I'm wasting my life and my husband's by staying in this marriage. DH hasn't fallen out of love, but I married for the wrong reasons and life has gotten stressful and I've been so depressed I wanted to die. This MD says my marriage is a goner and I need to face it and get out. These are terrible economic times to try to go it alone, and one of my problems with my marriage is that we have not managed money well, so I'll come out of it with more debt than equity. And what a terrible time to try to sell a house. Yuck.
Oddly I found somebody with a townhouse with a room to rent and a separate bathroom near my work. It would cut my commute down to nothing, and I really wish I could move right in and get on with my life. So I guess the psychiatrist is right, but am I up to all the work ahead to get out on my own and survive??
Before the divorce he never came to my house...sm
and he lived next door. He never called, never cared about associating with me or not. I seen him of course because I was living right next to him. That is what is so weird for me. We have never been close at all. Daddy was always a loner who didn't like to be bothered with children, his or anyone else's.
Fortunately, since divorce sm
I do not have to give a ****. Actually before that, did not give a **** either. Nonsense.
No when you get a DIVORCE that makes ...sm
you SINGLE once again because you are divorced and no longer married.
I'm not thinking about divorce
I'm just trying to understand these feelings. Like I said, I would be devastated without my husband. He's my best friend. And there is nothing wrong between us.
I just don't understand why I constantly feel like I am at war with myself. Everything is fine, so why is half of me so afraid, restless, whatever you want to call it?
I am sorry about your marriage. I couldn't imagine being with someone for that long and then having to decide to leave. I don't know if I would be tough enough to do that!
Thanks for this! I will try this tonight....yummy. nm
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AI is on tonight at 8, Dubya at 9! nm
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Saw the kitty tonight!
We went to see the cat tonight. She is doing as well as can be expected. Very happy to see us. Apparently, she does not like the tech who is watching her (stranger to her) but started to purr as soon as I scratched behind her ears. Plus I brought her bed. I just hope we brought some comfort to her. It was very hard to leave though. Once again, you all are a great group and your kind words are much appreciated!
Did anyone see "Lost" tonight?
Man, I was so sucked in by Juliet's act - what is her game? Tonight we find out she was angry with Ben because he wouldn't let her go home and she was afraid her sister had died from the cancer instead of being cured like Ben said. Then he shows her pictures of her sister, happy and healthy, with her two-year-old son.
So, even though he won't let her leave, Juliet has every reason to be grateful to him for curing her sister. So was her whole act with the posters telling Jack to kill Ben on the operating table just to gain Jack's confidence - and thereby (with the help of Ben and his magic button that activated an implant they put in Claire) ingratiate herself with the group - and to what purpose?
And is her story about the pregnant women dying true? Yes, one of them appeared to die on the operating table, but obviously while they had Claire they weren't just "saving her life" - they implanted her with some kind of device for their own purposes.
Man....I was really starting to feel sorry for Juliet. I wanted to like her. And now this. Can't wait till next week!
What's for dinner tonight?
I got mine from PA tonight
I'll send it out this week.
Thank you, but I'm so frustrated tonight
as my daughter just came in crying (it's way past her bedtime) afraid that she's going to miss her advanced-math class that she's in because they do group work and there's really no way to make it up once she misses it. This kid even goes to school SICK because she doesn't want to miss school! She's a type A personality, minus the chit-chat.
I never thought I'd have a kid beg me to sign a paper that tells the school to paddle her, but that's exactly what she wants. How do I argue with her when she doesn't want her grade to be affected?
I went through their school handbook tonight with a fine toothed comb and see that indeed corporal punishment versus ISS is the choice in frequent tardies. I've heard rumors that the principal of her school is not very friendly, so I'm really not excited about having to discuss this with him (I'm having a few mini-crises myself right now, and with the holidays, this really is stressing me out).
I want to take the simple way and just sign her paper, but then I don't know, is that really the right thing to do? Probably not.
Calgon, take me away!
Party tonight...
Other than being well hydrated and snacking, any other suggestions to stave off a hangover in the morning....just in case I might have 1 too many Fuzzy Navels?
It's my first NYE party in ages...I'm so excited!!! 
What's for supper tonight? (had to ask)
Yesterday's sounded so good, wondering what is up for today. LOL.
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