Same as in case with my father,
Posted By: Interesting! on 2009-03-05
In Reply to: I am very grateful!... - steph13
but not of bad mind but insurance policy that he had taken out years before, had no named beneficaries, his wife had died before him, his son and I was the only 1 left (not counting my brother's children) so the money went exclusively to me. This was a policy from probably the 1950s he probably just forgot about. Heck, he had even forgotten about loads of stock that his nephew told him about and he cashed all that in prior to his death in the 2000s. Just a simple case of forgeting, not dementia in his case.
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I am sure this is not always the case, but
I have had the cashier call me over if there was no one in her line even though I told her I had more than 10 items. She said she hates not having anything to do...Of course, as soon as I am finished loading my stuff here comes someone with 2 things in their hand! :-)
I don't believe this is the case.
Come with your opinions of spooning out meds. Yoga is a great way to channel stress, but sometimes an SSRI for the long term is better. As most of us know, if you don't have time to exercise, you will probably not do Yoga either.
I have come the conclusion that older people are not as understanding of what SSRIs are used to treat. You are not weak because you have anxiety and/or depression. Most of the older generation think this is just being lazy.
I'm living proof it is not being lazy, it is an actual condition. Don't make my mistake and wait until you crash and burn. I'm still recovering from a severe anxiety attack that occurred almost a year ago. My mind still raises at night. My severe anxiety attack was due to a few different stressful situations all occurring at one time. My brain/body could not tolerate all of that stress. This field does not allow much in the way of vacations, but knowing what I know now, I take the vacations and DO NOT TAKE THE WORK WITH YOU WHEN YOU GO.
Believe me, it will be there when you return. I am still struggling with time off, but I have decided to take two days out of the week where I do not feel the need to WORK!
Try this OP in addition to seeing your doctor. Take some time off every week! You will be amazed how much better you feel.
I want to believe that would be the case (sm)
I really want to believe that would be the case. If I can just get him to cooperate - I would love to be able to be friends with him and raise our children the best we possibly can.
In that case
when you send out invites to anything, I think you should stipulate no gifts. No gifts, no thank you cards. I think not sending a thank you note is just bad manners, no upbringing. I give money to charities and expect no response but an invite and getting gifts, only nice way to handle this.
If that is the case, I think what I have is really
better. If it runs off batteries, can it whisper sweet nothings in your ear, does it give you strokes, talk dirty to you at the appropriate times, etc? If this is no, think I will just stay with my best half.
Unfortunately that is not the case here.
With a family this size there have been a few losses. No one extremely young, but still losses. Like I said they lost her husband about 20 years ago and while there was definite grieving it was not like this at all and his death was very unexpected.
no not the case...
When it is just her and her mom she always calls. She says mom is driving me up the wall today or something to that nature. She loves her mom to death but sometimes they clash. She always talks when her mom is home. I am not JEALOUS. I am concerned because this is not her and I don't understand it. I am looking for opinions on postpartum depression, which if she does have it nothing I can do anyway. All I can do is send her a card and let her know I am there. But I have never seen anyone behave this way after giving birth. I guess there is a first for everything.
In my case, it does.
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in my case
Da#m husband. HA HA HA
Even if that's the case and they do in sm
fact get paid minimum wage (keep in mind, some make less and are expected to supplement with tips), $7.75 is still not an adequate amount added to the cheap $2 tip to make it worth the gas, insurance and wear and tear on one's car. I stick to my OPINION that $2 is insulting.
In my case,
I'm the one who strayed. It's all my fault, because I married a man who I felt safe with instead of working through childhood traumas before trying to get married. So now I've been married forever and this near-perfect match came along, except for an impossible age difference. It honestly felt like I could not stop myself, though I never thought this would happen to me. The physical part lasted 6 weeks, and the infatuation lasted 6 months before that. I think this one person was unique, but without a good sex life at home, I'm certainly vulnerable to temptation in future. I did not and would not have ended it because I was ecstatically happy.
My husband is a good man, but I think I should divorce him to be fair, but financially it would be a disaster for both of us. Plus he doesn't want to split. All my friends' marriages are at the breaking point also.
Oh, in that case
I don't think I would call. I'd just leave it alone.
That just stinks if he doesn't hear anything though. They should atleast call him back and let him know. I hate when people say "I'll get back to you on Monday" and then don't. If that is the case, he might be better off not working for this guy. Or, you could think of it another way...maybe they are conflictd between 2 applicants and still trying to decide. They should atleast call him back though. That's what the secretary is for! lol
But in this case ...
My dog didn't want anything to do with the technician. If he came in the room, my dog growled and kept backing away from him. I will admit it was kinda neat looking to see the hair standing up on his back.
more on above - as I said in my case - sm
I do trust him BUT I would still wonder....in my case my DH did cheat on his first wife 2-3 x (I'm his 2nd wife--he did not cheat with with me, I did not even know him then, met him 3 years after his divorce) despite his paranoia of STDs, pregnancy, etc, though he was adament about using condoms so that kind of took care of his paranoia I guess. A few months ago my DH all of a sudden wanted me to buy condoms (we don't use a standard BC). I thought it rather odd since we have not used condoms since before the kids were born. I have just kept my eye on them and made sure the numbers have not changed as he has only used 2 of them since I bought them. He travels from time to time so has many the opp to cheat if he really wanted to (he's been out of town now for a month, home on the weekends). So while I trust him I am not blindly accepting that he will not cheat. He knows though if he ever did (and I caught him) I would divorce him over it and make sure I got full custody of the kids to boot, so I think that helps, that and I know he does love me still after 14 years together. So just keep the eyes and ears peeled and look for anything out of the norm. Good luck.
Jan. (in case you are the same jan)
Isn't Gy a unit of measure?
In this case, my DH had been her only - sm
sexual partner ever, and she his at that point. They were high school sweethearts, etc., married when he was 20, she was 19.
Just in case you want to know
I was at the animal shelter 1 day and a man brought in a dog, said it belonged to his son but his son left and the guy could not afford to feed the dog. He was asked if he had ever fed the dog since left there and the answer was yes. The people then informed the man he was legally responsible for the animal and he could be and would be held legally responsible for the dog. As far as their dog being in heat, your dog apparently has not been neutered or else even in heat they could not have mated, right? You have responsibility as a dog owner, also.
Maybe your way is the better way. But every case is different.
I could never ask my children for money. I suppose this is wrong, too.
I just cannot take their money for which they work so hard.
Last not least, I am the mother and them becoming 18 does not change much in the relation.
That is not the case --
My son had never been in my home before (we had not seen each other in 6 months) until last week. The minute he walked in the door and she came into the room, she started barking and growling and behaving in a manner that I had never seen before when a stranger entered my home. It has only gotten worse and I swear to you, he has not been in the house alone with her and she will not go into a room with him. He honestly did nothing to her to start it. Believe me, if he did, we would be estranged for another 6 months! that is why I am so out of ideas.
We have tried everything. He is really upset by it too. He has sat in the floor quietly and not said a word holding snacks for her, he has laid in the floor and not moved while placing the snackes within arm's length, and nothing works. She will not even go close to his shoes at the door without turning around and running back to my office and hiding.
She was not abused as a puppy (she came from family friends), but she did get parvo and have to be in the hospital for a week and I am wondering if something about him reminds her of something there. That is all I can come up with.
I think she said the father did not want her around
so really she should take that same stance. I think you just cannot sometimes may an enabler understand what they are doing wrong. My deceased husband, I talked to him about his enabling with his daughter and he told me he would do until his last breath and he did. She was a total invalid after that, did not have a clue (at 30 something) how to make her way. Oh well, glad I wasn’t the mother.
You ask about my son's father?
The father came around after the son grown and now lives with him. No money ever from him while my son growing up, not a penny, nothing. I have nothing against the father, just always thought he basically did good to take care of himself but not a father figure at all for the son. He was able to work, chose to live on the streets and finally got too old to be out there and my son and his family took him into their home. I was there but people have to understand what money does to people, especially if a lot of money, thousands and thousands. My son was upset about my inheritance and that is what happened. It is sad but not my fault he would choose the love of money over his mother. Wish him well.
your father
This is a touchy subject. Yes, it sounds a little like he may be trying to "take the easy way out" but really, what he is doing is self degradating and really desperate. I believe he needs help. Of course, he is not going to see it or admit it himself. That's WHY he needs help. He has threatened to take his life and spoken of wanting to die. I think you should call 911 or see if your town has a crisis team and tell them that he has said he is going to kill himself. Have him taken by ambulance or let the crisis intervention team figure out the transportation. Once he is at the hospital professionals will evaluate him and decide whether or not he needs to be committed against his will or long term treatment. They will give him counseling and even point him in the direction of how to start managing life again. The worse that could happen is that they say hes fine and send him home (which they will not do without at least providing him with information for outpatient treatment and other local agencies that can help him).
However, how will you feel if, God forbid, he does hurt or kill himself while you thought he wass just bluffing?
And even if it doesnt go that far...he will continue to harass you and your mom.
He needs help of some kind and as his daughter I think you should find a way to help him.
How do you know her father was
there for her? You are assuming that. As far as writing him off, it might be the best thing for her. Toxic people are very dangerous. Obviously you had a story book childhood and until you go through something like that, it is impossible to understand. Because it is a parent, it does not mean you have to put up with emotional and mental abuse.
Father in law
My father in law is an ok guy. One problem. He likes to come to our house and watch TV. On Saturdays and Sundays, I am off work, and I like to relax on the couch in Pjs and watch my TV. My husband drives an 18-wheeler, and a lot of times when he comes in if it is on weekends his dad will come over that morning and sit here ALL day long. My husband said last time you know I love dad to death and like for him to come visit but after a couple hours it is time to leave. Well now my husband isn't at home and he comes over to visit my son who is 11, and tells my son lets watch a movie or something. Well this is my weekend to relax and lay on the couch and watch TV. I feel like I can't relax in my own home. He doesn't have satellite at his house so he wants to sit here and watch. I am so fustrated. He needs to go home. I think he uses the excuse when my husband is gone to come see my son so he can sit here and watch movies. I would like to watch my own TV. URRRGHH! Any advice?
until the DNA is done in California (case)....they had
Well I do NOT believe Stern is the father at all........but Bahamian law is vastly diffferent from USA law....unfortunately. But there is the DNA case in California ongoing......
I think they didn't want Daniel's DNA accessible and is why he is buried in the Bahamas. However, Larry Birkhead may very well be the father.......so we will all still have to wait until the DNA case is over in California.
Patience............the truth shall prevail..................eventually....even if it takes decades..........it shall surface one day.
Just in case you didn't know...sm
I initially had the same complaint as you with my Tracfone. About 95% of the time, if I technical issues, etc. and needed to call them, I would get someone who spoke very little English and was incredibly difficult to understand! As you know, extremely frustrating, especially when you are already annoyed with your phone not working.
At any rate, in case you didn't know, a lot of times you can avoid calling the company completely by going to their website at www.tracfone.com (I had the phone for a good 2-3 months before I was made aware of this). You can buy minutes and other accessories, add minutes, etc. The most convenient thing IMO is you can resolve a lot of techical issues online. All you need to do is register your account and go to technical support. There, you will find a list of common error messages. You can also activate or reactivate your phone. Usually any technical issues just involve clicking on the appropriate error message, entering your SIM card #, and you are given code(s) to enter into your phone. You usually do have to wait a few hours for this to go through. However, I still find it much less frustrating than calling the company.
If you already knew this, sorry about the long, drawn out reply, LOL.
The ONLY one I have ever felt for in their case is....
Years of therapy due to what both of her parents have done. THEY have done it - nobody else - and the child is COMPLETELY innocent at 11....
In these cases, it's only the children who suffer...and these 2 nutcases should definitely know better, not like they are ill-educated and/or ignorant throughout the life.
Evidently they both need parenting classes and anger management classes....they have both created a very bad emotional situation for their daughter and personally she should probably be removed from their homes (possibly placed with a grandparent or some other relative) until these 2 nutcases CHOOSE to get themselves together.
I'm not going to jump on your case about this sm
But I wonder why you think these kids need to be told now? Has something happened that makes you think that someone besides their parents might let it slip? If that is the case, then maybe you need to talk to the parents about it and tell them that so-and-so found out and isn't good at keeping secrets, or whatever the case may be.
In any case, if you talk to anyone about this, talk to the parents.
If this was the case, then the doctor
should have had something like this posted in the office. One would think. I think $100.00 is a little high for a missed appointment anyway. The standard is $25.00, but most offices have it clearly posted if that is the case. Good luck! Give 'em h-e-l-l------!!!!!!
Probably dust in case
It is very easy to open up case. Just look for some big screws holding case cover on. They usually just spin and you won't need any tools. After you get it off, used canned air to clean out the inside of case. Lots of dust can get on fans, boards, air vents and makes PC heat up.
No. In this case I believe in incompetence.
 The rest of the time I believe in incredibly good luck, usually brought about because of someone else's incompetence.
Why the civil case since
your son returned the stuff?
Perhaps something more could be worked out between the store, your son, and the police (or his counselor) so you needn't pay this fine.
In that case, Texas ought to be against also
because their capital punishment rates right up there with Florida and I would bet Texas is definitely into whuppings!
Is someone studying your case? (nm)
x
I might go get it checked, just in case (sm)
With all the pool infections and such going around...has he been swimming in a public pool lately?
Just in case you don't know and can watch
this is what Oprah is about today.
Yes, the case was in Atlanta
The rings he took were from a young, married mother and her husband was relentless in finding out who did this. Not only was he able to recover his wife's rings but others saw the guy on TV and he also had committed crimes against their relatives. I definitely would ask about cameras that might be there. The home should want to assist.
In case nobody mentioned it,
the cat could have a UTI or kidney stones. However, I had a cat that started urinating on the bed because we introduced a dog to the family and she didn't like the dog. Then the littlest thing would set her off, like using the vacuum cleaner, or DH staying out late. DH would come home, flop into bed, and shriek in a most unmanly fashion after landing in cold urine. I talked to a cat behaviorist, who told me to put out 7 different litterpans with all different types of litter. I couldn't live like that.
A second young cat we adopted at about 6 months of age played much too rough with me and with another cat we had. I had to take her back also.
I think she's a verifiable nut-case! Even her own
so many kids. (It's the mom taking care of the 6 she already has, too.) And as soon as she got out of the hospital, Nadia went and started doing all this self-promotion on TV.
I watched the interview, and noticed something rather glaring about her. Her eyes never seemed to match what her mouth was talking about. (Sure sign of lying.)
I think this was all done in the name of publicity and hoping to make money off of it. The doctor was totally irresponsible for implanting her with so many embryos, to begin with, because of her age, number of kids she already has, and financial status. (I wonder who paid the bill for the implantations? I don't think Medi-Cal pays for things like that!)
Also, it was negligent of both the mother and doctor to her her carry all 8 of them. Even if she had 'only' 4, or 3, the chances of prematurity and developmental problems would go way up. I type this stuff every day - all these 'million-dollar babies.' Each one will probably be in the NICU for months, and cost for 8 of them will run in the millions. And that doesn't even take into account all the future assistance they're going to need - speech or physical therapy, IEP's if they have learning disabilities, special classes or schools, special equipment or tubes if they have breathing or feeding problems, the list is endless. And guess who indirectly pays for all of this?
If ever there was a case for MANDATORY STERILIZATION, this nut-job woman is definitely the most deserving.
Where I live that is not the case
All places have hooks and I have been in lots of restaurants as well as the nicer hotels in Las Vegas so don’t know where you are coming from.
I wish that was the case, but I'm the opposite.
Even after 6 years I have a very hard time with ESLs (and my largest account the doctor is from Peru). I hate when someone from another country tries to ask me something, I can never understand them and I feel like a total dope. One time I told a lady I didn't know where the item she was looking for was, when actually I couldn't figure out WHAT she was looking for!
Not Morton's in this case
That was checked for. Have been a patient for some years now. One foot while walking, right one, will hang up at the ankle just when trying to step down and then on the left at night wakes me from sleep sometimes with a really bad hurt over the top of the foot, does not go through. Like I said, have spent years trying to find what and why. Tired of trying.
You are so right, remembering the case
where my father went into the ER, could not get his shirt on nor button it, horrible pain in back. Checked over, said he could go, wife about to take him home and noticing his discomfort apparently someone had 2nd thought. Had to have emergency AAA repair, lived but like you said, people look at physicians as godlike. Oh, I could write half a book on my own issues with what I have come across in dealing with the medical field. It would not be glowing.
My father in law tried that with his indoor cat
and once they got outside the cat totally flipped out like a crazed wild animal. It was a very scary experience from what he described. So just be careful.
I do not live in 1 but my father had 1 and
when you pull the carpet up as I did when I got the trailer it only had cheap plywood underneath it. Having said this I was going to rent it out as eventually wanted to sell for the land it was on (6+ lake front acreage) so we put down linoleum (spelling?). A trailer is mostly made from the very cheapest you can get, thus the cheaper prices most of the time than homes. We took inexpensive commercial carpet for some of the bedroom floors and hubby put that down. These are about the cheapest you can do, don’t think your idea of a faux finish will work with the plywood but then you can always check on that. By the way, do you have to tar the roof of yours? Most trailers require this- did not know until after I had in possession- the only difference is a regular roof was put on this 1 - most are flat on the top and require tarring.
Actually he is a wonderful father...
who takes time out of his sleep schedule to be with them, eat dinner with us, go to kids' sporting events and the usual things people do without missing a beat because everything works out for their schedule. People who sleep during the night have no clue how hard it is to sleep during the day when it is light out, loud noises outside like lawnmowers, snowblowers, leafblowers, construction and more than you could realize. Nobody schedules meetings at 1:00 am so you have to get up after a few hours. Going to church on Sunday with your family and having family day requires less sleep because he works Sat. and Sun. night.
I feel sorry for you that you can't have an open mind enough to see that not everybody has the same life, same feelings, same jobs. If I can make him more comfortable including having a dark bedroom then I will and I asked for help in achieving this goal, not to have someone who doesn't know him or our family come on here and insult us. Not once did I say this was something he told me to do or makes me do..I am doing it because I love him. If he gets home in time in the mornings he gets the kids ready for school. Marriage is about give and take.
Your father was a 1 in a million.
A lot of men would have left being walked on and demoralized but your dad didn't want to leave you to suffer it alone. Usually, even when a mother isn't fit to raise a goldfish, mothers still get custody of the kids, and that's sad. There are a lot of great dads out there and they really need to be given the praise they deserve. What a great dad you had. I can see why you cherish him so much.
From what I can gather, he has only seen his father twice ....sm
in his entire 11 years. I think his great-grandmother raised him and also raised his mother (which would be her grandmother). Well, I think this lady just recently died and the child came to live with the mother and mother's boyfriend. The mother's 5-year-old lives with his father and I have noticed that the mother has him every other weekend. All of the kids except for 1 are from single-parent homes, including my own. I have been divorced for 5 years. I do not think that should be an excuse though. I am a very involved, hands-on, in tune, on top of things mother and I work my butt off to have what we have. My daughter sees her dad every other weekend sporadically. Yes, it does put a lot of responsibility, worry, etc., on the custodial parent but that is our job, not the neighborhood's job. There is another single mother who lives here and her husband is in jail. Her 2 sons are very well behaved. Then there is this mother and the single mother of the 2 girls who just suck at parenting. You rarely ever see them and they both take "nerve pills" and "sleeping pills." I've just never been that type of person and I have hard time understanding how you can bring children into the world and not take care of them. I don't expect the rest of the neighborhood to raise my daughter. Am I wrong to feel this way?
Father-Daughter
I don't know that one. Now I'm curious and have to look it up and hear it!
Can you talk to your son's father about this?
Can you discuss this amicably if you are on good terms, perhaps approaching it from the angle of what's best for your son.
father/daughter
My take on this whole situation is they are playing us. They probably both knew they were going to be in the house, so I would not take it too seriously.
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