Run, run fast and don't look back!!!!
Posted By: -StepMonsterMT on 2008-10-11
In Reply to: Update on jealousy/stepkids... - Amanda
Being a step-mom to kids who have no idea what the meaning of respect is SUCKS. Especially when the father has no interest in teaching them! Been doing it for almost 10 years now, don't put yourself through it. If he doesn't "get it" after this he probably never will, and will never change.
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Back away now, and do it fast. Then you will find out. I think he is not the one, but you sm
will learn quickly. (he sounds like a jerk to me).
Run away fast from this tramp and don't look back! nm
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Need help fast!
Is there a way to get a certified copy of a birth certificate in a couple days? Other than driving to the county where you were born? I live in California and I have looked at some websites but the fastest I can see is 3-5 days and I need it in like 1-2. Any help is appreciated!
Not so fast!
Your return only equals about "10% or so" assuming that the stock or fund you pick stays flat or goes up in price. If you lose money on the stocks, the 100 bucks they give you at the end may not even get you to break even. You also have to subtract the cost of your trades. 10% a year is a killing in this market.
You can learn to read charts & screen stocks at www.clearstation & www.morningstar.com.
You have to have a strong stomach to be invested in anything other than a passbook savings account right now unless you are in a VERY conservative fund, in which case there is no way you are going to make 10%.
Rule of thumb is the closer you are to retirement, the more conservative the fund has to be. The further out from retirement you are, the more time you have to make up your losses (and there WILL be losses).
So be very careful. I hope you're not planning on day trading.
As fast as I could! nm
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not in the fast lane
It doesn't really matter what lane I'm in, but in fact I hardly ever drive in the fast lane. I always move over for people who want to pass me because I figure, That's the guy who's going to keep me from getting a ticket. The point I'm making is that they ride my butt when they were getting off the freeway anyway. I go to the trouble of moving over, & then I see them in front of me, pulling off at the next exit. Like they couldn't have just gotten off while they were still behind me without having to make the big macho statement, or if they were so bent on passing me, there is normally at LEAST one lane to my left that they are welcome to use, since they are almost always going over the speed limit. And on the rare occasions when I am in the fast lane, if someone is riding me I ALWAYS move over. Always.
Jeez. I didn't expect to have anyone get in my face over such a benign thread.
I'm headed nowhere - fast. Or perhaps to
We had DVR'd it and just fast forwarded
through that part.
Netflix -- fast. Love it.
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Mine also, and I go very fast driving over them
and hold my breath or pray pretty much. Years ago my sister had gone over a bridge traveling to Tennessee just before it collapsed and I never forgot it.
On the news today they said something like 70,000 bridges in the country are in disrepair. I say put our taxes to better use! Do something constructive for a change.
Scary stuff.
I can see that time fast approaching...
well, not without my hubby, but the kids are getting to be moving-out age, and we see less and less of them and have more time to ourselves. I enjoy that. But in the winter, my husband works very long hours. I'm home alone all day, working or doing what I do. I have an active life away from my family and enjoy my friends and community. If I had to, I could live alone, but I really don't want to.
Now, an occasional break from the family life is always good! I do solo backpacking now and then, a weekend or several days at a time. I love living by myself with everything I need on my back. It's a real confidence builder!
No stead-fast or gal or man or whatever, this one has improved
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is there a reason you were in the fast lane?
haha since that was my pet peeve, i had to ask... i mean i may be the one riding your butt if #1) you are going BELOW the posted speed limit or #2) there is NO ONE in the other lanes you are passing!!
and you know... you NEVER know why people are going fast. Sometimes they are just irresponsible, but sometimes they may be heading to somewhere that constitutes an emergency for them you know? not that they should put others in danger but i have learned to come to that conclusion...
With the holidays fast approaching...
I am wondering how your kids found out about Santa. My son has never led us to believe he doesn't believe, although we have wondered since he is in middle school now. I found out that he told a young cousin about the truths of Santa, E. Bunny, etc. My husband and I feel like we should approach him about this, not with the intent of being in trouble, but just to let him know that he shouldn't spoil it for the younger kids. Under the circumstances, I think he said it to be spiteful because he didn't want to go to bed for the tooth fairy to come.
I know as a child I was afraid that the holidays would cease to exist if they found out that I (the youngest) knew the truth. It was my older sibling who finally talked me into spilling the beans so no one had to get up early in the morning. I wonder if it may be a similar circumstance. Normally he is very open and honest with us and asks questions and discusses things that most other kids would find embarrasing, etc. He is a very good kid and I was very surprised to find out that he did this.
It would grow old real fast for me - sm
so I can understand you being annoyed, and no it is not heartless. Is he short on cash? Can he afford to feed himself? Obviously is money is an issue then it is a different story. Were you very close before the divorce or is this new behavior? I presume the GF does not want him there for dinner presuming it is a loneliness issue for him. But as you said he is probably keeping an eye on your mom since he asks about her every day, I would presume the divorce was her idea? Or is he having buyers remorse? I would set some ground rules for dad and tell him as much as you enjoy seeing him, etc, that you need some nights to yourself, and to limit it to maybe 3 days a week, MWF or something like that. So he still gets to see you (and stalk your mom) but not monopolize every evening. Or else starting making things you know your dad dislikes!
Thank goodness for fast forward on DVR! - sm
One word - LAME!!
Does anybody know what helps get rid of fever blisters really fast. I just got some and they are
not very nice looking on my lips.
Get her professional help fast. Maybe family counseling. SM
Sometimes it just isn't one person in the family who has a problem. That came out badly, since I didn't mean you or any one in family in particular. Just dynamics of family life.
Best wishes to you. You will need a great deal of strength, but you can all come through this even closer as a family.
LOL! Good suggestion, they would leave you alone fast!...nm
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I'm praying that you get this poor animal to a doctor and fast!
It's your responsibility as Misha's owner to get her medical attention when she needs it. Please do that.
I hope she's okay too.
Slim-Fast here but I'll give ya my support.
Let's keep all each other posted on the progress. I also would like to lose 30 lb.
15 years, no weight gain, I walk a lot, fast.
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Many posts hafta read fast cause they are pulled if
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Classic sign of an abusive is a very , very fast romance - sm
leading to marriage, which it appears you have done. He has successfully isolated you from your family and controls everything you do. He is deciding where you live, what "he" wants to do, work, etc. You don't mentions kids, and I hope you don't have any, but if you do you need to take back some control if you intend to stay in this one-sided marriage. Sounds like you have no say/input at all, it is his way or no way. My DH gives me grief when I visit my family, as do my in-laws, I go anyway. He doesn't like it but he cannot stop me from going. He knows better than to try. He will make my life living hell until I leave, trying to get to stay, but I think only one time did I give in and not go, and boy was I mad at him for quite some time (and myself for giving in). My DH is very passive-aggressive but most of the time I ignore him but other times he gets me all worked up ready to kill him and then he is fine, and I am all mad. Drives me crazy. But after 12 years of this I have learned not to take the bait so much, and have seriously though of kicking him out, though he's refuse to leave as it "is his house" (it is in his name only but we bought it 10 years ago while we were married, so it is every bit mine as his). So if you get to the point when you are sick of his controlling ways, go see a lawyer. I plan to soon myself just to see where I would stand in the event of a divorce. We both have our faults in my marriage and I think it is smart thing to find out what could or could not happen in the event of a divorce. You might want to see what your rights are too, cannot hurt. As for your sister coming, just say, Mary is coming to visit and tough cookies if this bothers you. She has never been here before and I want to see my sister and niece and if you don't like it make yourself scarce while they are here. ---Good luck.
Ima and Ura Hogg, Ophelia Rass, Mike Hunt (say that one fast)
Donald Duck (this was a retarded child) how cruel. Seymore Butts
No fast food. Disgusting. Only locally owned restaurants.
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No fast food. DISgutsing. Only locally owned restaurants.
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Then they can get right back on their tires and rafts and float on back to Cuba! nm
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fast walk/weight lift/exercise machine only way to tone
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Back-to-back black swans that look like (sm)
a giant moustache. My MIL painted it for us and put our last name on it and my DH nailed it to an outside storage room door. It looks ridiculous, and when the kids have other kids over they always ask why we have a giant moustache on our door!
Hayseed was back a few weeks back
But we haven't heard from her since. I miss her too. I hope she's doing okay.
I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
water skiing. Fast dictator or slow dictator?
haha!!
Well, I'm going to at least try to take it back...
...and if they don't believe me, I can't really blame them. Several years ago, they had someone return a computer and get another one, and when they opened the boxes later, they were filled with wood and rocks, etc. I'm still looking for my receipt, but not holding my breath.
My dad used to work at Lowes and he said they kept finding empty nail boxes behind the full boxes. Turns out, people were combining two boxes of nails and only paying for one. I didn't realize nails were that expensive. Who knew?
thank you so much for having my back.
for a little bit was beginning to think i was crazy/
i havent said anything to her yet, but i have to many parents and one of them spoke to teh principal who laghed it off. teh teacher, when that parent talked to her about it, said that seh goes thru this every year with parents and that teh children wanted to talk about it. i told my mom adn let me tell you, she is PO'd to say the least. tonight is our christmas program, my mom said she was going to talk to her, i think i'll be standing right next to her. i cant wait. i wish i was more vocal, adn wasnt so scared that if i did make a fuss she would treat my daughter differently. just dont know what to do here, i feel like screaming, but am too scared...isnt that silly.
MTT, you just took me back to...
that baby sweet smell of Dreft that I used when my kids were little! 
Back at ya!
Sorry took so long! Chickens rock!
Could it be your back...sm
Causing the pain in your foot? Up until just recently, I had that electric-shock feeling in my foot when I would turn it a certain way. It was excruciating! But it would only happen if I turned my foot at a certain, odd angle, like when I was stretching, so I just tried not to move it that way. It lasted for a good 2 months, then finally went away on its own.
I'm certain this was caused by whatever is going on in my back, though. In the last few years, I've started to have a lot of problems with my back. My doctor thinks it's because I have scoliosis, the degree of which is considered mild, but they're finding out now that even mild curves can cause severe pain.
Mostly my pain is from muscle spasms, but there is also definitely some "pinched nerve" type stuff going on at times. Lately I've been feeling an odd sensation almost like something is encircling my big toe on that same foot that had the shock-like pain, but it's very mild.
Anyway... maybe you could see a chiropractor? I went to one in the past, and I could really tell a difference. If I missed an appointment, I'd start to feel that sciatica-type pain down one leg. Also, a physical therapist might be able to help with exercises and tips. Insurance will usually cover that, but they don't always cover chiropractic care.
I got a TENS unit through my PCP and that helps relieve the pain, and I do stretching and strengthening exercises (I even have a DVD for yoga exercises specifically for the back and scoliosis that I *really* need to start doing.)
Anyway, just throwing out some ideas for you. I hope you can find a solution. I know that "shock" pain is horrible!
thanks - got it back
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No. I don't think they are trying to win back--sm
their customers. This particular company has had negative reports about their products for years. Personally, I would never give this pet food to any of my pets even prior to the tainted pet food scandal just because of the negative reports about their food. They are going to be faced with a number of law suits anyway, in regard to the tainted pet products, as are probably some others. I don't think their giving away free pet food is going to win back anyone, who has a lick of sense in their head and true concern for their pets. Actually, being a pet owner, I think I would stay away from any and all of the pet food manufacturers involved in this tainted pet food business. I would no longer trust their products to be safe, no matter what the conditions after the fact. The *quality* pet food manufacturers are not on the recall list, so I would stick with them, for now. but then again, this is just my opinion.
I just got back from looking.
It was awful. As far as the chickens and the sheep, that really did not bother me at all. I grew up on a farm. They had had a party a few months ago and never cleaned up. It smelled of urine. I still have that awful smell with me. GAG. The place looked trashed. There were holes in the walls. I know you are supposed to look beyond that and I tried and tried. The fact that they knew since Monday that we were coming to look, I think they should have made an effort to make it look presentable. Even the realtor agreed with me on that. I don't feel they took us seriously. The realtor said they already came down from 130k to 125k so the potential buyer could put in new carpet or steam clean it. I tried not to make a face but Dh said I had rolled my eyes. My cousin, who knows the owner, said these people do this for a living. They buy houses, live in them for a little while then sale them for profit. I don't think they have a clue about their business. IMO.
DH looked into the attic. He said he could move the beams with his hand. He did put his face on the wall in the living room, he said it was crooked. DH said that our house is better built. I noticed cracks between the ceiling and the baseboard in the loving room but I thought maybe just the baseboard needed to be renailed. DH thinks that is an indication the house is sinking.
The only thing we liked was the living room, sun room and that shop outside. I liked the backyard but the master bedroom was too small. The one I have now is small but it is bigger than that. I want bigger, I don't want to downsize. The other two bedrooms I thought were too small as well but we could live with those if we had to.
I guess the reason they did not take us seriously and did not put out an effort was because I had already told them that 125k was too high for that neighborhood. THe realtor lady said that they had come off but evidently that 125k was their comming off price. I don't think I would want to pay 70k now, not even 50k.
Just getting back to you but the dog
had foot surgery- I saw it prior and had like a lipoma removed from its foot (have seen it since also). Apparently the dog has problems with being mobile as older dog, heavy dog (the guy fed it scraps from the table)and thus the reason for the mother giving it drugs for pain, sorta like I take ibuprofen daily because of fibro. Anyway, I appreciate the post- got email from her again this morning, about nothing really, but once I answer know it will get back to the doggie issue. Several people associated with her have sent her books, items, etc. about her enabling, so she tells me, but she will continue. I have a now deceased husband who did exactly the same- you would never have made him understand it does not help. He told me he would go to his grave and not do any differently and he did. I am not sorry for paying for the surgery but now have decided no more doggie medicine money. Thanks again!
Hey, I just got back from there
and was at the Belliago and I sure did not have freebies. Don’t you have to be one of the big rollers (or they think you are going to spend a lot at the tables) to get deals like you are talking about? Regardless of what places give away free, too spoiled to stay anywhere else now since my stays there.
I back you in everything you have said
and people who think you can ask nicely are probably the ones who have the problem children. Some kids just do not like anyone older saying jack to them. Sorry some people want to hide their heads in the sand. Their children probably don’t know how to behave either so they think youre asking/telling the kids to go was wrong. The kids would have responded the same way to either asking or telling. Poor upbringing.
No, not at all. I'm 37 and am going back SM
to school to be an ultrasound technologist. I started this path back in 1993--graduated from rad tech school in ྛ. Then I had kids and never worked in the field. Went back to school in 2000 to become a medical Transcriptionist and have been working as an MT ever since.
Now, I'm finally working toward finishing my ultrasound degree. I'm really excited about it. I sometimes worry that I'm too old, but I'm not going to let that stop me.
You can do it! 
Chickadee
I'm 60 and going back - nm
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I think I would think back to before it went bad (sm)
The last time you knew he was happy, and find somewhere you can spread them. A place you know he enjoyed or something like that. Before things went downhill.
Just came back and saw something
it was close to where Depends are kept, urinary incontinence supplies- for people who may can not wash their hair and it is a dry substance you put on and comb out, I believe. I have seen other things like this before also.
He should have to pay it back somehow, but (sm)
I know that doesn't help you when you have to fork over $100. Hope it all works out for you, and that he never does it again.
Oh, please, go back to bed or something (sm)
Have you ever been to NYC? I used to live about 30 minutes from there, and spent a lot of time on subways on my way to Columbia Presbyterian where DD had appts. Believe you me, it can be very confusing until you get the "lay of the land" and she sounds like she is trying to help.
No - if it comes back to your son
he may hesitate to confide in you again.
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