Remember they are doing split custody, they might - sm
Posted By: on 2007-02-17
In Reply to: What about her 2 small children? - jm
be with daddy right now, either way though you are right. She can get away with it now that they are little and have no clue what she is doing, but if she continues on this way they will catch on eventually.
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You can request family court counseling and the children get to talk to the counselor and say who they want to live with and why. An 11 yr. old can definitely choose which parent to live with, and if father is a bad parent, you can also have supervised visitation only, so the child does not have to be alone with him. Talk to your lawyer.
Because he is trying to get 50% custody (sm)
If I don't prove how he is before I leave what if he gets that and they have to be with him alone without me? Did that cross your mind?
A GAL does not have physical custody -
in the best interest of the child - a lawyer who represents the child. The GAL can make recommendations that this or that person be best suited in raising the child, or make a recommendation to a court that evaluations need to be done, etc. MOST GAL's do a splendid job in looking out for the child's best interest, but there are those whose priorities are more in line with being in favor with a particular party (a judge, a person of influence, etc.). I've seen great GALs and not so great GALs. Time will tell what will happen in this case.
Custody-how much say does an 11-year-old have? PLEASE HELP
 My 11-year-old son has recently started tearfully asking me to divorce his dad. I have been borderline on it for a while but was trying to keep the family intact - one reason being that I was afraid of how my husband would treat my son and 8-year-old daughter when I was not here. In discussing the possibilities of divorce, I told my son that his father could possiby try to get 50% custody of him. He said tearfully, "if that happens, I'll just shoot myself." I have never heard anything like that come out of my child's mouth. His dad is overbearing and he truly doesn't ask the kids (or my for that matter) opinion about anything...just does whatever he wants and expects us to just live with it. He is very concerned with what everyone else thinks but in truth doesn't care much about us. I guess my son is finally seeing that. I asked him to talk to his dad about how he feels but he is too afraid and said his dad will just say , "you got that idea from your mother."
I'm scared. I do want to consider filing for divorce, but if my husband gets partial custody the trauma on my children will be devastating! And he has much more financial means to fight me in court than I have.
How much say does an 11-year-old have in court about who they live with? If we went to a family counsellor first would that help at all?
CUSTODY not company LOL
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Yes, 2 of them split.
NM
they have joint custody w/dad being primary...
Please, open your mind - occasionally there ARE extenuating circumstances, you know?!
I have joint custody w/ dad being primary
Am I a deadbeat mom as well?!
This was agreed upon by both dad and I .. Child lives out of state, I get all holidays and summers....
Just because no support is being paid doesnt mean the person is a deadbeat .. every situation is DIFFERENT....
Why does everyone think negative?!
OP should get custody of kids if things so bad.
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Brittany just lost custody of kids
Effective this Wednesday, going to KFed, how long??
I loooove my split keyboard!!!!!!
okay it is official. I looooooooooove my split keyboard!!!!!! Now that I am used to the difference it is so much easier to type and it doesn't hurt my wrists! I just wanted to exclaim to the world that I totally love my keyboard!!! (i know i'm a dork)
Second marriage. We split bills. I don't
xx
Try sleeping with a wrist split first.
It might just do the trick and it's cheaper than paying a doctor.
I also work a split shift.
I stay in my pajamas as long as I can. After work I chill and then do whatever chores around the house, and then take a shower and make myself somewhat "presentable" by the time everybody gets home.
How to split insurance with a deceased person?
My brother was dead. First I knew nothing of the insurance money. They got in touch with me. They gave me half and spent a year trying to find the children (2) of my deceased brother. After a year and they could not locate, they got in touch with me again and sent me the remainder. Any more questions?
Hi, NightOwl, We can split, you take the larger one, I take the smaller ones! LOL...nm
nm
I agree. My mother is a drug addict and lost custody of me
and I went to live with my grandmother so both of them have less than stellar parenting skills. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you let into your life.
split time between home and grandparent's farm
When I got divorced, I left my home town and moved 1000 miles away. Stayed there 2-1/2 years, came back to my home town's neighboring state for 3 years, but back to the neighboring state that was 1000 miles away again...
now I'm back in my home town.
I moved to several different areas in those locales during that time, so I actually moved a total of 9 times in 7 years. I am sick of moving my king size bedroom, but I will probably move again next year, just a mile or so away though. I hope it's the last move!
The fair thing would be to share it and split the prize - sm
good karma and all that. I try to do that though, I have had more bad than good lately. I am expecting a refund of an overcharge today in my account, bank informed me yesterday that the store (7-11) appeared to be refunding in full all four purchases I made on a particular day ( I am disputing 3 charges and only 1 of them partially as I did owe some of the money). If they do refund all I will end up with an extra $120. So if that ends up being the case I will do something with half of that to benefit someone else whether it be a school fundraiser, the local Goodwill, a charity I like to donate to, etc. I try to balance it all out, plus it is nice to be able to help others when you can.
twins nor triplets would be born at same minute. must be split personality, LOL! nm
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Split up what you have and stagger the pieces, play with it, add some glass, and/or start
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You should have split the insurance money with hour stepbrother's WIFE AND CHILDREN...
they are the legal heirs, AND COME IN FIRST PLACE, EVEN BEFORE YOU!
don't remember Minnie, but I remember Kiki! Though I would rather not.
nm
Definitely remember Buffy's Bark. Also had a Bassett Hound and remember his bark(EOM)
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My ex did that. What I remember was that it
was horrible in the summer and going under houses was not always the greatest experience. He would find dead animals and of course spiders, mice, rats.
Just remember: He's a MAN, he's not a god. LOL
nm
Don't remember anything, just something SM
that felt like cramp and then I woke up. No damage.
My friend, who is quite tiny, said she was moved around quite a bit, but no damage done.
I feel they were excessively rough with you, but that is just my opinion. Also, it sounds like they did not give you enough sedation. You are supposed to feel very relaxed.
Wow! I can remember when ...
we charged $25 period to type it. Then I got to thinking how long I've been out of school. How depressing.
now remember..sm
Brooke also went to Bridgette to see if she could conceive around the same time Taylor did..so, Bridgette could have taken Brooke's eggs, saved them, and used them on Taylor. Anyway, why in the world would Taylor and Nick trust Brooke's daughter with their future child??? I mean come on, Brooke's throwing herself shamelessly at Nick, yet they go to her daughter for in vitro? Wow...
I don't remember the first one....
I couldn't stand looking at Roxy...*lol* - too much gum show......and I do watch the food channel a lot!!! I used to like Rachael Ray before she got REAL famous and glammed herself out. I so liked her when she lived in upstate NY doing the 30-minute meal show or $40 a Day show. Now I refuse to watch her - her voice is very annoying to me today.
GO_AMY!!! 
I was 8 - Remember seeing it on TV (sm)
I remember it being such a shock because he had just always been there and seemed like he always would be.
Remember then from when I was a kid sm
my dad's company picnics, with horseshoes, bbqs, lots of fun
As we remember.....
I would like to ask everyone, as you remember the 9/11 attacks today, to also remember the bombing of the Murrah Building in Oklahoma City on April 19, 1995. The 9/11 attacks were far greater in scale and in death toll, and I mourn for those who died and for their families. I also mourn for the 168 people who died in the Oklahoma City bombing. Fewer in number, perhaps, but the lives just as precious. It was so hard for me to watch as rescue workers went through the rubble of the day care and pulled out those tiny bodies...
When we send our soldiers into combat, we train them and give them the best equipment available to defend themselves and destroy the enemy. The people who died on September 11, 2001 and April 19, 1995 were innocent civilians who had their lives ripped away in an instant, by people who had no respect for the sanctity of life and who were too cowardly to take their fight to the battlefield where it belongs.
Never again. We must be vigilant. These events occurred on our own soil. Each of has a duty to keep our eyes and ears open, and to cooperate with the increased security precautions our government has implemented. We are all soldiers in this war.
You THINK you remember until it comes down to it (sm)
When they are actually there in your care you have to remind yourself of exactly what babies can and can't do at certain ages. But maybe you are perfect. If so, I apologize O Great One. It ticks me off when people have smart-axe comments for no apparent reason.
thank you so much, was trying to remember the name of that myself, NM
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Everyone does not think like you and I you have to remember that.
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I can remember my mom when I was
a kid wore one every day, whether at work or at home, and those things back then definitely looked uncomfortable.
I'm trying to remember
but I do remember waking up feeling completely flushed hot on the inside, a pool of sweat in the middle of my chest, my heart pounding, thinking I would like to rip my clothes off and jump into the tub filled with ice. Stuff like that. They're quite nasty little episodes. Did you have one? Are you over 45?
and remember this
don't go crying the blues to anyone here when your insurance premiums and medical bills are totally out of control. It is awards like the one this person wants that make insurance unaffordable for countless Americans. any monies awarded in courts will be coming out of your pocket if you currently pay insurance premiums. Yes, I feel for the child, but money won't fix it. This costs everyone, not just the dog's owner. and it solves nothing. she still has not answered the question of what injuries the child sustained, either. to see financial renumeration above the costs of any bills incurred is unfair to EVERYONE.
You have to remember
It is very easy to take email and board postings out of context. I don't think that is quite what she meant. Sheesh.
I still remember....
....leaving cookies and carrots on a plate, for Santa and the reindeer.
I must have been around 11 years old or so, and that Christmas morning, I found a beautiful, handwritten note from my mother. I don't have the note any longer, nor do I remember exactly what she wrote.
But she explained in a loving, wonderful way, the meaning of Christmas, including Jesus, and Santa. I recall the meaning of the note, letting me know that it is the gift of giving, within us all, to give and receive, gifts in His name, and that Santa was the vehicle of that giving, for us, as small children.
I don't remember being disappointed that Santa Claus wasn't "real." Because her note made me realize that the whole season was bigger and brighter, than just Santa, gifts, and tinsel.
And I realize that Santa IS real, just like God and Jesus are real. If we believe, in that small child way, the reasons for believing, will always be with us.
Remember too well
We live in Mississippi now but lived in Florida a very long time, from Miami to Jacksonville and the panhandle. We did sit through a few 1-2 level hurricanes but were fortunate only a few days without power. After Katrina, so many of our friends and family were severely affected from New Orleans to Gulfport. We sat here in MS without power for over a week but lost nothing in it. We did have neighbors and friends that had their homes leveled by huge falling trees and three years later before one got their insurance to cover properly for them to rebuild. We were 200 miles inland with a lot of severe wind damage, so I am sitting on pins and needles knowing another one is heading in this general area and so many friends and family along the coastal areas.
Lets just all pray for everyone's safety.
I remember that too. It would be more fun
to be in the holiday spirit longer if I had more money to spend. Used to get all done before Thanksgiving, but now am waiting until the last minute, because then I won't over buy things. Plus right now, it's just paycheck to paycheck, how do you tell kids that...
PS: I want to boycott K-mart too. Every time I go in there, never find what I want, and always ask myself why I try. LOL.
I can remember as a kid when we had
chest colds, parents would put it all over our chest and then covered with a warmed towel.
jss: Do you remember seeing an
old reenactment about a girl who went upstairs to bed with her Siamese cat? A man broke in and the cat attacked him when he was coming up the stairs. It was too funny; that cat latched on and stayed on him down the road, drawing blood every step of the way!
could be she is right. I just remember
people talking about the pettycoats. Crinoline usually brings to mind scarlet o'hara, but I don't know the difference. Oh, for a ཱུ chevy to ride in.
Just remember that as they get s/m
more frail and need help and have to depend on you, you have kept your head up high, making you one ahead of them.
Yep, I remember that now that you said it
Now that you mentioned it, I remember. My grandparents lived in Kentucky and had a farm. My grandma had chickens and had fresh eggs every day. She never kept them in the fridge. Always in a basket in the pantry.
I remember.
My parents used to take us downtown once a year to shop and look at the display windows. Then we would eat at one of the department stores. Dad would take half the kids and mom would take the other half so we could all buy for each other. I remember one year when I was about 6 I was with my dad and my sister and I saw this beautiful red coat I wanted to get mom. We took it up to the counter and my dad told us to give the lady our money. Between us we had 35 cents. We gave it to her and she wrapped it up for us. My dad still tells that story today, how we bought mom a coat for 35 cents. We never did see him give the saleslady the rest of the money, and it was sweet how she played along.
Oh, do I remember!
It was a big deal around Christmas time. We'd take the bus or train to a store in another town because they had a Christmas display made up of moving figures as big as a 3-yo child. People would come from miles around to see it.
We had two 5&dimes in our town right aside of each other. One was "modern", bright lights and big display windows complete with a lunch counter and all open displays. The other was dark with all wood shelves and bins, so cramped only 2 people could fit in the aisles if they turned sideways. This store also had the candy in glass cases that you paid for by the pound.
We also had another old general store like the older 5& dime but he even sold shoes. He had a pair of red shoes with bow ties on them in the window one year. I wanted them so bad because they matched a skirt I had at the time, but they were $10. I only got an allowance of $.50 a week. I was afraid it would take me forever to save the money. Our school's magazine sale was going on at the time and I worked hard to sell as many as I could to win the $10 prize. I won and bought the shoes. It was one of the happiest days in my life.
and remember..
the air raid disaster drills at school during the Cuban missile crisis that the kids had to do? How about this one - got a driver's license from Sear's Catalog for 25 cents. No test. you just fill out the coupon, send in 25 cents and they send you a driver's license. Anybody else do that? Yes, I am older than dirt's mother. anyone remember the "rag man" or the "egg man." they would come down your street with a horsedrawn wagon, one selling eggs, the other picked up old rags but for the life of me I don't remember what they did with those rags! Remember the "milk chute?" They would deliver the milk and put it in the milk chute. If we got ourselves locked out of the house, forgot our keys, we would climb in through that milk chute! I remember listening to the green hornet on the radio. The whole neighborhood got together for that. Kukla, Fran and Ollie anyone?
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