Religious difference between husband and wife?
Posted By: Cofused on 2009-06-05
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I am Christian and interested in a guy who is Jewish. What are the pros and cons of marrying someone from other religion?
Give me a broader view of problems that can arise in a relationship when your spouse is from other religion in general and Christian/Jewish marriages in particular.
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My husband's ex-wife supposedly -sm
used sex as a weapon in the terms of as a reward. He had to jump through hoops to get it and basically grovel to get lucky. She apparently did not like having sex so he got it maybe once a month if he was a good boy. That just is not right, and there are women (and men) who do this... and women who string men along with promises, etc. in order to suck them dry (no pun intended).
I missed the part where the wife came in after the husband's surgery and
Yeah, I keep forgetting it is on and have missed a few since it started back up, but I am sure I can catch up eventually. Who was that actress that played the crazy agent ???
This is exactly why some of us are not religious ! LOL
I am quite content with my life the way it is, thank you :)
please get off your religious soapbox....SM
How DARE you infer that anyone who isn't *born again* isn't getting into heaven......You are insulting the black community and the Jewish and Muslim communities among MANY OTHERS.
Please get off your religious fanatic soapbox.............
FOR. I don't see them as a religious statement - sm
but rather, a statement of love for the person who died there, an expression of sadness that they were lost, and a little reminder to everyone else driving past it to back off on the throttle a little bit.
Actually, certain religious groups have to earn their
way to Heaven by "saving" people - getting them to hear the salvation message and be "born again"...They keep a tally, and believe that God keeps a tally, and first of all earn their place in heaven and then lots of bonus perks - some jewels in crowns, certain seats at the big old banquet table, positions of authority, etc. In particular, the Jehovahs' W group focuses on this. Poor things - they want us to believe that Heaven is for everyone, while they are busy earning bonus points - sort of like the old Green Stamp days, or earning frequent flyer miles! So, they don't care that they are obnoxious and in our faces - they believe this is what they have to do, and it has its perks in their sick minds. Poor things. And I believe this confrontational style in any religion turns away far more than it saves - even THE savior was meek and nonconfrontational - he never forced himself on anyone - but some just don't get it...though they will some day.
No MT, politics or religious posts here. NM
Goldbird
I'd still like a place to discuss religious
or nonreligious beliefs for those of us who are not Christian. I'm sure that is not allowed on the Gab board, which is okay, but where does one go then?
I love hearing other points of view if they are willing to hear mine, and that certainly goes for Christians as well.
Have you spoken with your religious advisor?
If you have one, you might want to try that route. It may be that because she was so well-behaved before that talking with someone she respects would make her realize how bad her behavior is. Kids at that age can be awful; I know I was. I never did drugs or drank, but I really resented my parents for always being on my back. I think with the situation she is in now, you need to stay a step ahead of her. Good luck. I'll be thinking of you.
No, not adherence to religious dogma at all (sm)
Christians believe that every person on Earth is a sinner, and for our sins to be forgiven, we believe that Jesus was and is God's son and that we can pray to God and tell him that we believe Jesus died for our sins. There is plenty of evidence to be found to show that Jesus was not just some nice guy or prophet who died on a cross. Believe me, I looked into it when I had doubts. As for adherence to religious dogma, if you study the teachings of Jesus himself, you will see that he was against those who clung too tightly to their religious beliefs, the Pharisees, who thought they were better than others. Jesus did not hang around ultra-religious pious people, but instead hung around those who were hated in their community, and caused quite a bit of gossip because of it. He stopped the stoning of a woman who was caught having unmarried sex with someone else's husband and said let he who is without sin cast the first stone. No one threw a stone. That is how it is supposed to be.
Ask your religious leader what he thinks about
it -- isn't that why they make those tithe envelopes with stubs on them? I claim all deductions that I have a record of.
The hyper-religious phase
The world's hyper-religious phase is almost out of style,but it has been a long run don't you think?
I taught sunday school for years and I was considered not "religious enough." The next generations will not care for all the "in your face" stuff either.
All the same, you still have a lot to do to get down to two trucks and looks like DH is ready to leave yesterday! So I won't pray for you, but I will say get busy!
Religious conviction is a narrow road for some.
dd
Btw, wasnt thinkin of this from a religious standpoint
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I disagree with that...Gab is for all but not for religious discussions I guess so (sm)
It would only be fair to give others who are non-Christian but want to discuss religion a forum to do so. The thing is I am a Christian but I love to hear others' points of view as well. But if we can't discuss that on Gab board, and can't discuss it on Christianity board because it would be offensive, then I guess we can't discuss it here at all?
There is a religious not hygenic reason for circumcision.
Like so many Jewish commandments, the brit milah is commonly perceived to be a hygienic measure; however the biblical text states the reason for this commandment quite clearly: circumcision is an outward physical sign of the eternal covenant between G-d and the Jewish people. It is also a sign that the Jewish people will be perpetuated through the circumcised man. The health benefits of this practice are merely incidental. It is worth noting, however, that circumcised males have a lower risk of certain cancers, and the sexual partners of circumcised males also have a lower risk of certain cancers.
The commandment is binding upon both the father of the child and the child himself. If a father does not have his son circumcised, the son is obligated to have himself circumcised as soon as he becomes an adult. A person who is uncircumcised suffers the penalty of kareit, spiritual excision; in other words, regardless of how good a Jew he is in all other ways, a man has no place in the World to Come if he is uncircumcised.
adminstrator...can we have a religious political radical board until the election?...sm
so as not to disturb the rest of the flotsam and jetsam of the gab board? So far everyone has been reasonable... Cat
My son met his wife somehow
on the internet. They've been married 4 years..Very nice girl... Also know 2 other couples who met online and happy together. susan
Does he have a wife?
Maybe you can talk more calmly with her about it. I would be furious too! But if confronting him you don't know what you may do or say and your daughter doesn't need to lose a friend right now. Dyslexia is not the worst thing that can happen, although right now to her and you it may seem that way.
Have you looked into the disability act laws and getting her some support or into programs for this?
Share the below with your daugher, if you haven't already, it is a list of famous people that had dyslexia; Albert Einstein. Tom Cruise. Thomas Edison. Many others.
http://www.dyslexiamentor.com/famousdyslexics.php
All the best to both of you.
To wife sm
Try some on-line help anonymously for awhile. Just Google recovery or AAonline and you should find some help there. Give him credit and help him. Remove all alcohol from the house, support him and realize it IS a disease, not a flaw in his personality, he inherited this in the gene pool but although there is no cure, it can be turned around with the right support. I know someone who will not admit it and he has lost everything.He thinks beer is not alcohol. So be grateful for the awareness and pay no attention from those who judge. Good luck, it takes a lot of work, it didn't come on overnight but with your help and his higher power, he can do it if he is ready.There is Al-Anon, AA, Adult Children of Alcoholics but beware, some go to these meetings and tell all they hear there. You can decide later if you want the whole community to know. Usually those who judge point the finger, having three pointing back at themselves. It's not always anonymous. Get some professional advice and get rid of all the temptations. You may have to change playmates and playgrounds. You will figure this out as you go along. Only listen to the positive, ignore all who judge, they know not of what they speak, it's a disease. Just treat it as taking the sugar away from the diabetic, same scenario, help but do not enable!
My son and his wife - sm
have been married eleven years and over time developed a pattern for Thanksgiving, at least - they trade off years, one year coming to our house for dinner and her parents' house for dessert, and vice-versa. Of course, she's not a cook and has never been interested in hosting their own holiday dinner. They've always slept over Christmas Eve at our house as we have two more children still in school (had actually, one's not in school anymore but living at home) and shared Christmas morning with us, then go to her parents' house for Christmas dinner. I don't know if that's going to change now that the last of the kids are basically grown now. Unfortunately they aren't able to have kids, but if they did I would encourage them to stay home and we would come to them.
Yes. My son's second wife never
cooked. It was always McD's, Taco Bell, Pizza, etc. She never cleaned either. All she knew how to do was spend the bill money. (She didn't work, BTW).
Now my grandson is on a diet at 15 yo, 195 pounds.Thank heavens, my son woke up and got rid of her.
My mom worked every day and when she came home, made supper and it was always on the table by 5-5:30. If my father was on the 2nd shift, she'd make him a hot meal, put it in a square metal container and I would bicycle it to his work. When I was old enough to use the stove, I would make supper once or twice a night. In the summer, I would clean the house so she would have less to do.
I worked 2 jobs most of my life, but always had time to take my boys to their baseball practice, wrestling practice, and when old enough, to their PT job and pick them up at 10-11:00 when they would get off, went to open house every year to see how they were doing, etc. I also made sure their homework was done (not that boys really bring homework home in those days LOL), had a meal on the table for them every night, never had snacks like chips or pretzels in the house. The only thing they had to drink was water or milk. No soda. BTW, my husband during this time was away from home all week, so it was all left to me.
The parents today are too pressured, as are the kids. Kids are not allowed to be kids anymore. They are 7 going on 70. I think it's time they get back to being normal kids. They need breathing room. I don't know who ever decided that the kids had to be in every sport, every club, every volunteer activity the school has, but it's crazy. Not all kids fit that mold and they shouldn't have to. Plus their grades are expected to be A's and B's, nothing less. Perfection is the norm and no one is perfect.
What's wrong with this picture?
I'll jump down from my soapbox now.
Here's how I see the difference
Happiness is derived from a sense of accomplishment or achievement...it usually involves a skill or talent. It is something you usually work toward. Very much akin to enjoyment.
Pleasure requires no skill or talent. It is usually physical.
What's the difference?
You say, "That's the difference." Can you clarify?
You are correct, I didn't phrase a query. I told them what I wanted them to do, and I told them in a calm and respectful manner. I didn't lecture them about what they were doing, I just told them that I would like for them to leave. In our township, school property is not open to the public. It can only be used by permit after school hours, and I am the permit holder. I am within my rights to ask others to leave the property during the times when I'm designated the responsible party for the property.
So I didn't ask the teenagers to leave. Had I asked, "Will you please leave," the answer could be yes or no. That was not my goal. Therefore, saying "I'd like for you to move off the property," clearly states what I want done.
Still, I don't understand what you mean by "difference" in your post. The difference between what and what exactly? Are you saying that I should have asked them a question and then abided by whatever answer they gave me? And that since I didn't offer the opportunity to decline a request, they were within their rights to be disrespectful and shout obscenities?
difference -- sm
The lady who posted on MySpace also, if I remember right, had sent personal emails to this young girl. There was a deliberate attempt to hurt this child and progressed over time. The woman is not being punished for her posting on MySpace, she is being punished for her deliberate attempt to deceive and hurt someone else. Nothing would have happened to her, I believe, if the child had not taken her own life. Once a crime happens or is committed, her intent changed from bullying to involvement in a crime.
the person who wrote her opinion about another person has committed no crime against that teacher whatsoever. If a student can be suspended for calling a teacher a name, then perhaps EVERYone who calls someone else a name, should be punished in some way, shape, or form, but the last I knew, our country was still a free country and we were able to express our opinions about another if we chose to, even negatively.
What is the difference in that and them
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age difference
Actually, I married a man 17 1/2 years older than I am. Outside of his kids (his oldest is 5 years younger than myself), things have worked out quite well for the last 32 years. He raised my kids and they love him and treat him better than his own kids. Depends upon what you are looking for in a relationship.
Difference here in what you and I say
You said busted your butt to pay for. I did not have to do that, never paid a house payment in my new home, husband does that for me.
well I think the difference is
mentally challenged is a PC word to describe anyone with a mental illness - (does it also mean, or instead mean, someone with mental retardation?)
Autistic is specifically someone with one of the autistic spectrum disorders. They may be mentally challenged, but all MC are not autistic.
Then there is physically challenged, the PC word for the physically disabled, which I personally hate... because I am physically disabled... disabled will do just fine....
What difference I see
Pork skins are sold in the package and can be out of the shelves, usually in the potato chip section. Cracklins which are fried bits of pork are sold in the meat department and need refrigeration, otherwise they spoil. Skins need no refrigeration.
There is a difference between ...
supply and demand and "inflation". Just look at the over supply in houses and cars now and you can get a great deal now. There is a fear of the food supply becoming scarce (whether that's true or not, I do not know), and scarcity or fear of scarcity increases the value.
Please tell me the difference in you
being a working single mother as opposed to a working divorced mother. Does it make a difference in your marital status or lack of some kind of way that a guy would talk that way? I just wonder how that plays into it?
Age difference...sm
My hubby is exactly 3 weeks older than me (we are both Virgos, but he doesn't act like a Virgo...he's too calm, cool, and collected).
Religious posts and political posts go to appropriate boards. NM
Goldbird
Talking to the ex-wife
Your boyfriend/husband talks to his ex-wife because he is mature. She means nothing to him. He would be with her, not you, if that was his choice. Don't you have ex-boyfriends? Do you speak when you meet them in the street? Please don't go down this road or you will experience a LOT of pain. You cannot ever "make" someone be faithful to you. Either they are or they are not. Dogs need to be tossed aside because life is too short. Work on your self-esteem. Choking someone to death with your insecurity and jealousy is the quickest way to make your boyfriend/husband say, "Bye-bye." My grown children stay with my husband's ex-wife when they are in her city visiting. We have had her over for Thanksgiving dinner. Was it 100% comfortable? No, but we did it for the children. Everyone has a past when they are over 18. Accept it, don't make it bigger than it is, and enjoy your relationship. That is very good advice.
Your knowing the wife well would be
much more important than you hubby talking to his buddy now and then. She's the one stuck with cleaning, getting a guest room set up and worrying about meals. Some women enjoy that, but many are just too busy to drop everything.
I agree that he should always put his wife first
but my brother was pretty much the same way...family was always an after thought if he thought of them at all and I assure you he is not gay.
To confused wife...
It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT. The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS. It probably will not matter what you change about you to him. If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.
Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't. Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.
And your child is being hurt by these outbursts. She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time. In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.
You all need help, even the child. Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help. Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right. Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate. Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...
confused wife
It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.
I agree about the wife, but...
she knows what side her bread is buttered on! Play the stand by your man, humiliated wife in public means for a much heftier settlement when the divorce proceedings start...not that she doesn't deserve it but come on, if your hubs was going to hookers for almost 10 years you'd be dumb as a post to not suspect it or at least get a hint of it from someone... Then again, they may just have that type of relationship where it is okay with her as long as she has the prestige, power and money that he brings. His daddy is worth 500 million dollars.
At least it is not a bombshell to the wife.
They both admitted their relationships..had counseling and moved on. you know it has been said for years now that good people are afraid to run for office for fear of a skeleton rattling around somewhere. You know an investigative reporter will dig it out.
my hubby did that with his first wife!!
I didn't believe him when he told me that he had only known her for two weeks when he married her! I said to him, "what were you thinking and no, I will not marry you right now"!
The wife will be gone at night
I am still thinking they are going to lock you in the basement for 10 years!
Dear Ms K9's wife
Try as you might, you cannot tell me your husband can approach any and all pitbulls and put them back on their chain- I was not born yesterday and don’t believe that for 1 minute. Tell someone else who does not know better, ok? You have named (except for the doberman) all dogs the police department close to me do not allow to be rescued because of their known aggressive behavior, chows, rotweilers and the pits. Better luck next time, sweetie.
He should consider his wife FIRST, not his stylist.....
nm
As his wife contacted you, you must have had some
contact details. Her son was in jail and instead of helping her, you took their inheritance share, PRETENDING that you do not know their whereabouts?
WOW!
I hope you are not one of those religious freaks, that would really be too much of a hypocrisy!
What the wife says and does is irrelevant
since the agreement was only with the husband. The wife has nothing to do with it.
I can't tell the difference when something has MSG and when it doesn't. nm
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thanks Jon-but I knew difference between the 2.
If you want to make a difference each
month you can give $30 a month to Worldvision and sponsor a child and also help the community the child lives in. They also have a way you can give gifts at Christmas with their catalog (which I did this past year made my family cry) where you give $13 for a wheelchair! OF course it is not a high tech wheelchair but one that works well for the child that needs it. I have been doing this since 2003 it is a blessing.
Only difference, is most were legal and
not anymore. I do not want to pay more taxes and they pay ??? none perhaps to cover them. I pay enough as it is without adding on extra mouths to my taxes.
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