Regret not running off with my present husband who used to be my
Posted By: Linn on 2007-06-14
In Reply to: Do regret any of the following - things?
friend. Yes, my friend and my late husbands friend. We started dating after the other died and if I had known what he was like then, would have left the husband and the kids behind. Never have known such happiness in my life. I wasted years and would like to have those over again- life goes too fast to waste time.
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My husband got ours as sort of an early birthday present for me
back at the end of July. My birthday isn't until the middle of September, but he happened to stop at Target on his way to work one day and they had just gotten about 9 or 10 Wii systems in, so he got it then as I had told him that was what I really wanted for my birthday, and he knew that we probably wouldn't be able to find them when it got closer to my birthday. He is just as hooked as I am on it! He has bought himself a ton of games, and I have bought a ton for me too! He likes the war-type/shooting games, and I like the Mario type of games, so I bought every game that had Mario in it and reserved every one that is coming out for the Wii! LOL! Right now, I am playing Mario Galaxy and am totally addicted! I find myself taking breaks during work to get my quick Wii fix! LOL!
Need meaningful ideas for Valentine Present for husband, everything is geared up for the ladies!! nm
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Do regret any of the following
marriage (or not)
divorce
kids (or not)
I had one 29 years ago and DO NOT REGRET IT AT ALL. SM
Never have had a second thought. Zero guilt. It was the right decision for my life and my family at the time. I am a good citizen now, good job, loving spouse and family. To those of you saying it is wrong under any circumstance - you have no right to judge me; that's between me and my God.
but do you honestly regret...
Having them? That's harsh, IMHO...of course! I'm sorry you don't have a good adult relationship with your children...that's gotta be my worst fear (well, one of them anyway)...God bless
Not all regret their first encounter
I started early at 15 and I don’t regret it, only regretted probably not more with the same guy. I was in 10th and finished school without another encounter but I would disagree with a psychological impact- just does not apply to all.
Only regret was not doing it sooner
Thrilled with the results. I continue to have periods every month, but they are so much more manageable.
I don't regret leaving either...
Been gone since last August and couldn't ask for a better company to work for now. I owe MQ a lot as they did hire me right after I graduated my MT course and I did learn a lot while I was there, but having said that, I haven't looked back once since leaving.
I regret mine too
I had horrible teeth, as well, from a young age and went through many procedures to have a better orthodontic benefit. after having gotten the dentures though, I experienced also that they were too big and looked worse than they felt, leaving me looking like Bugs Bunny. I am on my third set of dentures since 1994, and I am still not satisfied with how they look or feel. I rarely wear them when I am at home alone. I have a difficult time eating anything with them and usually eat (at home) without them. I am sure this is causing some digestive problems, as well, but when they hurt to wear them, what can you do? I have thought seriously about implants, but these are so expensive and for those of us with NO insurance, much less very poor dental insurance, I cannot afford those either. Think long and hard about dentures. I understand your plight and dentures may seem like a good option, but they are not always what they are stated to be, either. I hope you find a good solution. I would take my horrible teeth back in a second, to at least be able to eat. good luck to you.
You'll never regret see inside
being home with your children. They will grow and will become more independent, and then you can work you life away on-site. That is the avenue I am currently taking, and boy is it a nice feeling to be home with them. Good luck to you, and I know it is a tough decision. 
A present for you mom
http://hoagiesgifted.com/
there are a lot of articles about fitting in or not....
I picked out my ring and absolutely regret it!
I really wish I would have had him do it all and we would have just slowed down. I love my husband to pieces, but it would have been nice to have a proposal and a surprise to see my ring for the first time. We kind of just agreed to get married and then went ring shopping together, but now I wish there had been more romance involved. Just let the boy pick it out - If he knows you well enough like he should if you plan on marrying him, then he'll surely pick out something you like.
I had a similar problem, had the surgery, and only regret
Abdominal surgery is no walk in the park, but it improved my life 1,000% to get rid of all that unnecessary 'equipment'. (Never wanted kids, anyway.) I was only 34 when I had the surgery - wish I could've had it at age 14!
She was a wedding present
From my husband to me. When we brought her home she weighed just 1.5 pounds. She was so scrawny. We almost lost her twice and boy did she cost us a fortune, but it was well worth it. We found out she had asthma when she was about two and when I found her she was turning blue. She was on steroids for a long time. She weighed 20 pounds, quite a change from when we first got her. Then she ate fake pine needles from our Christmas tree one year and had to have emergency surgery to get this huge wad of needles out of her intestine. She was the sweetest cat and wouldn't hurt anything or anyone. She used to sleep on my head (on my pilow) which drove my husband nuts. LOL. She purred like a race car. I'll miss that definitely. I still have a, what I call, a wacky 10 year old black cat at home. I think he knows she's gone. Thank you so much.
I have always been a little sick of having get everyone a present
It's ridiculous. It's Jesus' birthday, not everyone elses. I would be very happy if I could get away with only buying for my own children for Christmas morning from "santa," and I wouldn't care if nobody got me anything or anybody else got anything for my kids.
It is just so stinking ridiculous to have to buy for my mom, my sister and her spouse, my sister-in-law and her spouse, my brother-inlaw and his spouse, my mother-in-law, my father-in-law, two aunts and uncles, three nephews, three neices, and two cousins.
I am just so sick of the money that is spent for all this cr@p. And it is cr@p. Last year one of my daughters got a piano book from her aunt, and she doesn't even freakin take piano lessons. Might as well just flush your money down the toilet.
I have been single again as long as I was married and there is not a day I don't regret leaving s
BUT it was still the right thing to do. I have been happier since and I am fine on my own, but it was extremely tough as he didn't pay child support and I could not find a way to make him (not for lack of trying though and a social worker whose job it was to collect his arrears kept telling me no, I didn't really need it!). Financially it was terrible, but the relief of his absence was enormous.
He was critical. He was always rude. My friends would only come to visit when he was on the road. The kids would pick up their messes, but he made more than they ever did, never helped and constantly criticized me for not being a perfect housekeeper like his mom...who didn't work, had a housekeeper and spent her days at the mall shopping. I had more kids than she did, worked always and ended up being too exhausted for him. He is a homophobic homosexual and going out on "mommy and daddy" dates was always humiliating because he spent the evening looking at other men's behinds.
I got out and suffice it to say, at quite a price financially and emotionally. I have not remarried, have only had one relationship in 15 years and feel too damaged to ever try again, but I am FREE from all of that.
My kids were pleased when he left and were all too anxious to help him to leave the house!
Will let other share the present president...
…Now he is 1 that I will change the channels on, always something better to watch such as the cooking shows, animal shows. I knew the election outcome but after that and the flubbs, such as his war and Katrina, other folks can have him as their own. Being as I have never watched the "soaps" don’t have a clue as to what is preemptied there but I have choices here at home and I simply watch what I want to.
Anyone out there with a gothic kid present or in the past???sm
If your child was previously gothic, how long did it take for them to grow out of this phase? I'm tired of seeing our 15-year-old wear black all of the time. She refuses to wear anything else, and the black eyeshadow looks ridiculous. I told her the other day that if she isn't going to wear her other makeup that she wanted over the summer then give it to me as I'd give it to a kid that would wear it - especially since there is some that hasn't been opened yet. She isn't happy that we won't let her get those weird body piercings or tattoos... but oh well, we've told her that until she is on her own she has to live by our rules. Overall she's a good kid and doesn't socialize outside of school so at least we're not dealing with the "what's my kid doing with their friends at night" thing!
yes I believe his present wife was seated next to him
and next to her was Laila's mom. They seemed friendly with each other and both were very supportive of Laila.
I got the best Christmas present today,
an answered prayer. My oldest boy got a job (he's been out of work for 6 weeks)and starts on Monday and the pay is actually pretty good compared to what he has been getting. No box for me to open on Christmas morning, this was all I wanted. 
The Diaper Genie was the best present I ever got
My husband's friend actually bought it for me.
Birthday present from a 5 year old
When my son was five we were walking to school in March, my birthday month. We were talking about my birthday and he said that he would pick flowers for me for my birthday. Unfortunately, in New York there are no flowers yet in March, and I gently pointed that out to him. His face fell for a moment, and then suddenly brightened with an idea - "You like worms?" he said.
Dogs - past and present
What breed(s) do you have now? What have you had in the past?
I have two Basset Hounds now.
In the past, I've owned a Beagle/German Shepherd mix, a PitBull/Doberman mix, a Beagle, and another Basset Hound. Growing up, I had a Chihuahua and an English Springer Spaniel.
Love Basset Hounds the best of all breeds, followed closely by the Beagle.
yep, regret marriage. been in it way too long to be unhappy and wasting life. nm
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Talk about a good Christmas present....
Here in Atlanta we have a new member of our community, a 100 day old panda!! She is not on display yet, took her first steps the other day and has to be walking some before her debut. I am so happy. She is absolutely beautiful and her new name is Mei Lan which means Atlanta Beauty. I saw her parents when they first came to live with us several years ago and now I can hardly wait to see her. What a wonderful Christmas present already.....Can't get any better!
Your one all-time-favorite Christmas dish and present?
Red velvet cake
Round-trip plane ticket home to my family for Christmas
Past, present, future. Still expecting miracle.
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Running...
Isn't it funny how one subject will lead into another? Do you mind if I ask you questions? - like, how long have you been running? how far do you run? How long did it take for you to get motivated to keep it up? I joined a women's run/walk clinic last year and really enjoyed it but it was in the evenings and I had other things going on, work, etc so didn't get to do it but for just a few weeks. I've wanted to start running but just haven't. They've even put sidewalks in our neighborhood now. I don't have any dogs to run with although I might could use that excuse to the hubby to get one. I can't run on a treadmill for some reason - the flooring is too hard on my feet? - i can run on a cement track though and it doesn't seem to bother me. TIA!
He had the running fits and
loved to ride the trains and probably knew loads of people all around the country so I have first hand knowledge of not always a down on your luck kind of deal. He came from a wealthy family (his grandmother gave us stock in General Motors as a wedding gift- years ago when it was worth a lot) and there were physicians, ministers, teachers and the like. He had a degree in refinishing autos, had good homes even with my brother and at 1 time my mother AFTER our divorce - the entire family loved him but that is what he wanted, left the homes and stayed out there until he really aged. My son and his wife got call from shelter asking would they take him in and the ahelter paid his 1 way ticket to their home and he has been there now for the last, oh probably 4 years. It was his own choice, never anyone elses and know from experience you can be homeless by your own doing.
Thanks everyone! Running to the store to buy
stuff now. By the way, she's 8. Sorry, I forgot to say that before. Thanks again!!
tell her if she does not stop running she will not sm
get to go with you anymore. Find someone to watch her and stick to your guns. kids need and want consistency. Make it stick.
re running to get keys
to go outside -- if you have to get keys first -- what are you going to do in case of a fire? If you have keyed dead bolts, you ought to leave them in the inside of door for safety.
Get this one, ad running here in town
It is a person supposedly in medical field and she is saying got a job at XYZ and says "see what X college have done for me." I want to call the place, tried to find a number- is that the way you want to be represented? Terrible English.
Thanks - they are running a special
It's for 11 pieces including brushes, video, etc. I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and if I don't get it by then I'll check out WalMart. Thanks for the tip.
That ad has been running for almost a year in
our newspaper, also with the "must order within 48 hours." When I saw that, it rang a bell for another heater I did buy and was I ever sorry.
I would have checked out the company claims a little more before jumping on something like that.
Another point: You will not get the amount of heat you do with wood. Can you possibly convert your wood heater to coal and wood or even pellets?
We used wood for 20 years (Fisher stove) and I, too, was tired of getting up in the middle of the night 2-3 times. I begged for central heat in our new place and boy, was I sorry. I was always cold (for 10 years). So, last year we bought a used coal/wood burner. What a difference! I'll never go back to central heat again. That stove heats our 1500 sq. foot home and I'm never running around with sweaters on anymore. I don't have to get up in the night to fix it, either.
My son bought a pellet stove last year for his 3 story home. They love it and don't use their central heat either. It does cost a few bucks more for the pellets.I think he bought $1000 worth, while we only spent $500 on coal and the wood is free.
Just remember when others are running you
down it is something wrong on their part that they would do this. Strange but sounds sorta like you married your father with the lecturing. Good men are out there. Took me forever to have a true love.
if you want to keep the car in good running condition. nm
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Running over a dog and leaving the scene?
Going on her merry way, shopping or whatever...?
Probably doesn't have animals; I agree.
I think I am running a doggie day care here sm
LOL I have 2 dogs of my own a golden and a cocker. My son and his girlfriend magically get this chihuahua (sp?). Anyway, he is apparently abandoned by his owner who moved to California and said she would be "back in a couple of months" to take him back. When he first came into the area, his owner had a "party" and the puppy who is all of 7 months old got into some pot and ate it-had to be rushed to the vet for nasty temperament changes, and wow talk about mean. He bit anything and everyone including me at least 3 times. Well, we have all been working very hard with this little tiger to bring that demon temperament under control and he's coming along quite nicely, gets along with all of us, loves to play with my dogs and run in the yard. So what's the problem? I think I have spoiled him with love and discipline. He has to come over every day now. It's so cute. All my son has to say is "want to go see the dogs?" and he's jumping all over the place. I sure hope the owner doesn't come to claim him back because he is so well behaved now. All he needed was a little discipline and letting him know he can't run the show. He doesn't even bare his teeth at me anymore. He's such a doll. All the dogs lay in front of the full-view door and take their naps in the sun.
I could see kids running through the house with sm
pieces of chicken I guess - and little greasy hands touching everything. At least with spaghetti they might sit at a table - my opinion only -
Love doing that when I am running late and
need to fix something quick.
running out of minutes with a week to go sm
in your monthly plan. I have 1,000 minutes for $55, just got rid of land line 2 months ago and am very close to going over at a charge of 40 cents a minute. Geez. Guess I need to upgrade my plan.
What kind of people are the ladies above running into
I have never had anyone question why I was married or not, why I had 1 child or 2, why I this or that. Where do you live to have questions put to you like this? I live in the deep south and I am an older person and I just do not get questioned like this. My business is mine UNLESS I volunteer it.
I call ahead and ask if he's running late.
They'll usually tell you. Then I get some other errands done. They have said that if he gets caught up in the meantime you will have to wait.
Funny, but I find the earlier I arrive for my appointment, the earlier I get in. They must take arrived patients in if the scheduled appointment is late.
do you have any loose neighbor kids running around?
lol.... never know... my neighbors little boy last year took his crayola scissors to my hosta's.....geeze
all for the sake of media, once again, running lives
I never started watching this useless gimmic of a show; typical media crap that it is.
I have sat here with tears running down my face, astonished
I had already heard the buzz about Simon talking about this person but had not seen. What an absolute joy to hear this. I thank you so much for sending. I will definitely forward to my daughter first and from there it travels on. A true jewel, she is.
Is this your Einstein-kitty running the printer?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvBiSW5QFKY
Running around barefoot ruined my feet
Now I have to invest more money in Birkenstock's because arches have fallen. As a person ages sometimes those really good feet might come back as oh, my aching feet.
Filthy country - sewers running down their streets
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That song drives me crazy! It keeps running through my head!
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