Regardless of her ridiculous behavior,
Posted By: sm on 2009-04-03
In Reply to: Seems like your girl had a change of heart - True fan
she sang horribly & was annoying to watch perform. No great loss...
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It seems to me the key here is whether this behavior sm
is a change from his previous actions, or whether he was always like this and is getting worse. If the latter, your marriage doesn't sound like it's worth working on, not just because of his behavior (which would be repulsive to me), but because you obviously don't have any positive feelings for him anymore. As a member of a strong Christian church which also advocates that the man is the head of the family, this kind of behavior would be completely unacceptable. Men are to treat their wives with respect and understanding.
If it is a change from his behavior when you were first married, he may have a serious medical or emotional problem. If so, and he doesn't get help, things may just get worse. Good luck to you.
Odd cat behavior
Does anyone know why my female cat would meow/cry loudly almost as if in distress when I use the oven? It's really starting to freak me out, like maybe it is going to blow up or something and she's trying to warn me. It seems to be working fine as far as I can tell and this has been going on a while now. Any ideas?
Bad Behavior
Apparently it was Megan's brother who was heckling Kara the night before and yelled out "broken record". Kara went up to him after and confronted him two different times. Megan seemed to get a big ego rather quickly. I think her mood came down to a screeching hault when Simon said they weren't even going to bother letting her sing again. Someday she is going to look back and cringe at that spectacle
Bad behavior............. sm
It has been said that people will treat us as badly as we allow them. Don't believe yourself to be unworthy of good treatment because that would only set the relationship up for more bad or possibly worse treatment in the future. Hold out for someone who treats you well and treasures the opportunity to be in your company. He is out there and he is the one who is worthy of your time.
From the behavior you describe... sm
And the fact that you said he's old, it sounds to me like this guy is senile or has other mental problems going on. BUT, I think it would be a mistake to assume he isn't dangerous just because he's a little old guy who seems a little off. I also think you should notify the local police about him. He might be a danger to himself, if not others. If nothing else, he's a nuisance and should be reported.
I'm also someone who has all doors and windows locked at all times, and I don't open the door to strangers. Sometimes I do feel like I'm a little bit paranoid, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I also have the car doors locked when I'm driving anywhere.
I'm amazed that anyone leaves doors and/or windows unlocked, but I know it happens. My mother-in-law and father-in-law, for example? OMG. They never lock their doors! They live in a small mobile home park for seniors, in a small-ish town, and my MIL feels like it's safe. What really kills me is, she doesn't lock their doors at night, and she takes out her hearing aids to sleep, so she wouldn't even hear anything if someone did come in their home at night! She says "Oh we have great neighbors. Everyone watches out for each other." What?! Crazy. And this is a woman who loves to read true crime novels and watches court TV and knows about the things that can happen. She worked as a legal secretary for decades and is very intelligent in all areas but this one. I just can't understand it. They don't live near us, but when we go to visit, I go around and lock all the doors at night. Otherwise, I'd never get to sleep!
As a side note, there is an excellent book called 'The Gift of Fear' by Gavin DeBecker. I highly, highly recommend it to all women. Get a copy today! I also like a show on the Discovery Channel called 'It Takes a Thief.' It's very enlightening about just how easy it is for criminals to break into most homes.
That's my 2 cents. Stay safe, ladies! :o)
And again, she cannot change his behavior, only hers
will not back down on that one. Lots of reason for divorce. Staying because of the children is an absolute wrong way to work at a marriage. She finds him disgusting, surely the children notice or they will when they age a little. I would not care if I had 10 children hanging onto my apron strings, would not want to stay somewhere that I am so unhappy I ask outsiders what they would do. My mother divorced in a time when no parents divorcing, believe it or not, and when I went to elementary school I was asked why no daddy. I turned out well, felt it had no adverse effect on me. Saw him, didn’t see him, ?? Really loved my stepmom though. He did do a good thing right in his life by bringing her into it.
There is also the behavior issue of (sm)
submissive piddling.
You can buy something called a Belly Band for him to wear in the house. If he dribbles with it on, he gets himself wet, so this can teach him not to let that happen. I've just heard that not all pet stores call it a Belly Band or know what that is, but you can Google something like house training, canine belly band, and you can read about it and maybe order on line.
Corgis are so cute. You can post pictures here on the gab board.
Behavior changes in husband
I have searched the internet for some clues to what is described below but not even sure what key words to enter in a search.
Anyway, husband is 46 and exceedingly fit and athletic his whole life. Behaviorally and genetically he is prone to accentuated mood highs and lows, not quite bipolar probably but close. Runs heavily in his family. He tends toward aggression, bullying and denial at times. Childish at times, even naive, very literal even though highly educated. All the above has been increased by about double (particularly the childishness in behavior and decision-making) in the past year and it is nearly intolerable. He often doesn't process what I say or else is just not listening to me. I have to repeat things over and over and worst of all, he makes poor decisions about things and I often feel like I'm living with an 8-year-old. I am stressed on an almost constant basis. Alzheimer's came to mind but couldn't find anything that really fit in looking at symptoms. Is there the possibility of mental illness manifesting itself at this age?
behavior problems
We have had and still have behavior problems with our son and he is ADHD, have you had your child tested? He also has ODD, which stands for oppisitional definance disorder. He sees a therapist on a regular basis and it has helped tremendously with his behavior.Your school psychologist is not very good or qualified if he has not referred you to any outside help. Your pediatrician should be able to help you out and point you in the right direction.
Terrier behavior sm
We had a part terrier (not pit bull) who destroyed everything in sight when we left her, sailed over a 6-foot fence, took clothes and glasses and buried them in the ground, etc. She literally was a "goat" and the payoff was when she ate the living room couch when I had 20 people coming over and it was Christmas Eve. When I called the shelter they told me that if I brought her there and she did that with someone else, they would have kept bringing her back and she would eventually be euthanized. Sixteen years and a lot of furniture later, she finally died of old age. When she was 10, she began to get a little better, but we put up with an awful lot. I have talked to others who have had "terrier" type dogs who did crazy things when left alone. I don't think the dog will change, but good luck. I have Uncle Matty videos, green apple spray (she liked it) and tons of self-help books for owners of dogs as mentioned. All I can say is good luck, you have to have patience, common sense and a sense of humor. I hope there's a reward somewhere for what we put up with as animal lovers but I did not have the heart to see this crazy, one-black eyed dog being put down, so I kept her and kept trying. She ate the shingles off the house, a brand new shed, a few couches, some kitchen cabinets, and the list goes on......it's true. Animal Lover here! You could buy a kong at the pet store and put peanut butter in it (or several) to keep the dog busy for awhile, but when that's empty, expect the next best thing to disappear.
Kids behavior
How a child acts at home is not an indicator of how he/she acts when away from home and parents, no matter what is taught in the home. It is always good to get the whole scoop from others who were there exactly what happened before you go off on anybody. It just could be that the other mom is sitting there angry because of what your child might have done to her child that she might have felt the need to defend herself against. I learned this from experience. I thought I had the perfect angel also, raised with good morals, two-parent home, involved in church, no bad behavior at home, but found out I was dead wrong when watching a video from the school (also a private grade school). Just something to think about.
need some insight into son's behavior
I wonder if anybody has any insight into my son's behavior and performance in school. His dad and I have talked until we are blue in the face and we have also left him alone and have given him space regarding his grades. Neither causes any change. He just keeps telling us he doesn't care about high school and that it does not matter. He has no respect for the teachers (not many of them take teaching very seriously, in all honesty, so I can't much blame him for that) and he doesn't feel like he should try since they don't.
This is a kid who scores in the 98 to 99th percentile on standardized testing. He is SO smart, friendly, outgoing, quick-witted, and for the most part respectful. He doesn't smoke or drink or do drugs. He plays guitar in the praise band at church. He is a good kid, but he just refuses to do his school work.
This has been a struggle for the past 4 years of high school. He is supposed to graduate in May, but the last 9 weeks report card came today and he got 2 F's, a D and a C. The 2 F's were gimme classes, believe it or not. If he doesn't bring those up to average a passing grade he won't graduate. It makes me sad, confused, frustrated beyond belief, worried, just to name a few emotions.
He says he thinks he has ADD but I think he just WANTS to have it so he can have a pass, so to speak. I think it could be some deeper problem, like our family dynamics, playing a role. Does anybody have any ideas on how this boy can be inspired to rise to meet even the smallest challenge?
And her behavior is just despicable, you are right
to be angry.
Who needs 'friends' like that?
Dump her!
Is this new behavior or just increased lately? sm
If it is not new, then I agree with the posters below. However, if this is something new, see if there are any changes in his diet or medications if he is on any. I've posted about this before, but my son (who will be 8 in a couple of weeks) went from a typical 7-year-old to an out-and-out tyrant when he was placed on Singulair for asthma. Everything was an argument, even things he normally liked, and if he did not get his way, watch out. He had nightmares and barely slept, was hearing voices, and told me several times he wished he had never been born. I cried every day and was 1 day away from an appointment with a behavior specialist when we figured out it was the medication causing the problem. We still say he should be a lawyer when he grows up because he is always trying to figure out loopholes in the rules, but overall he is a good kid who is now happy without any of the issues he had while on Singulair.
OMG - that is eerily similar to my cat's behavior
although he always drank out of the sink - he has pretty much begun living in the bathroom and yelling. I keep going in to see if the faucet is dripping (yes I have to leave a faucet dripping) and it is. He is more loving and requires more attention. When my daughter goes in to take a shower he yells outside the door like he is dying. I will say that I know that crystals forming sometimes indicates antifreeze ingestion - but there is no way your cat could have survived that. Thanks for the info. Maybe there is hope. He is eating now - with some coaxing.
No, but change in behavior might cause me to look for MySpace or other
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Sweet. Very kittenish behavior.
Bet he'd have drooled on her if she'd have scratched his head. But the love bites might have hurt, LOL.
husband's behavior due to porn, LOL
His behavior is NOT due to porn. If his behavior is so bad it is due to HIM...nothing evil caused him to be this way, just him and his choices.
I don't get what's so wrong with porn? If consenting adults are in it and consulting adults are viewing it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It does not mean the person looking at it is a deviant. Geez...some of you people have some serious hang ups with sex and sexuality.
Try to loosen up a little ladies, maybe life would be a little more fun.
Old enough when I see immaturity and child-like behavior
Poor things.
Older cat's behavior- confusing me
My older girl says nothing, usually but today she is being very vocal, not like she is in pain but just sounding off. She has lost weight but gained 1/2 lb when I weighed her yesterday in 2 weeks (on medication for her appetite) but seems to be roaming so to speak, constantly walking around (usually sleeping) and wanting all attention from me and that is not usual for her. She seems to be pacing back and forth so to speak. Anyone have cat that theirs acted like this?
When my son was in second grade he had behavior issues (sm)
I know many may not agree with me, but I believe positive reinforcement for good behavior and negative consequences for bad behavior works. Every week our school sends home a folder with the child's "grades" for the week in schoolwork and behavior, with 4 being the best (pretty much unattainable for my son!) 3 being good, 2 being so-so, and 1 being really bad. I put him on an allowance schedule with chores he had to do with a certain allowance each week. HOWEVER his grades in his folder would greatly influence this allowance. Gettings 3s would keep his allowance the same, getting a 2 automatically took off $2 (he never got a one but that would have taken his whole $5 allowance). If he ever got a 4 he would get an additional $2. This worked really really well for him, but all children are different. Good luck!
i see it as a human behavior post.
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You agree with her childish behavior?
I thought immature, totally out of character for a supposed-to-be-grown mother to boot and totally a turn-off for me and my family. I am so glad she is off there. I would hate to see her in any way rise to be the example of what an American Idol should be. Good riddance!
You are only responsible for changing your behavior, not someone elses
I am the product of a divorce years and years ago and thank goodness my mother had enough sense to not stay with my father. He was actually caught running around on her with other women. I knew my father growing up, spent time with he and my stepmom, loved her but I missed absolutely nothing by not having him in my house every day. You are responsible for your own self-. The advice you are giving is like saying a man messes around on a woman, drinks too much and maybe after the marriage he will change. You can only make yourself happy, no one else can do that for you. I have never had a time when I could not stand my husband, never and I would believe he probably feels the same. We laugh when others say they have to work at marriage- we just do not get this. Like I said, product of divorce, happily married myself, never missed my father, saw him but never, ever close in my life. By the way, I am one of the older and wiser group also.
Research passive-aggressive behavior. (sm)
Do you feel you are always at emotional crossroads and everything you decide to do together is handled like warring nations, not like loving partners?
Living with a passive-aggressive behavior spouse creates a daily emotional roller coaster. One is "stressed on an almost constant basis" and feel as if caring for an unresponsible teenager.
The passive-aggressive personality pretend not to listen, "forget on purpose," and purposefully do not complete tasks they agree to accomplish. Sullenness is also a characteristic of the behavior. The passsive-aggressive behavior can "rob" another one from a beautiful relationship. They cannot always see themselves and have a tendency to blame others (especially spouse) for their behavior. They sometimes display "revenge."
To rule out other serious medical conditions, encourage your husband to schedule an appointment with his primary care physician for "preventive care" only, letting him think nothing is wrong. The physician should order lab testing, and ask for thyroid function studies, etc.
Wishing you the best!!
weight gain and antisocial behavior
Has anyone else noticed that this job tends to make you gain lots of weight and become pretty antisocial? I feel like I am just sitting here watching the pounds add up daily... I do not want to get dressed and leave my house - If I do get dressed, I come straight back home to put on my comfy clothes and sit my butt in this chair all day long. I moved to a new town 3 years ago and still have not met a soul because I am in my office by myself all day long with no source of networking to make friends. It has become a pretty lonely life for me.
I am even to the point of going to the local outlets and applying for a minimum wage job just to have a reason to have to get up and put clothes on and get out of the house every day. I don't know what else to do - am at wits end here!
I think what you are experiencing is all normal teen behavior. sm
I can't think of anyone that I hung around with in my teens that didn't run away. Trust me ---- they ALWAYS COME BACK.
So you can pinpoint her behavior change. What is her history before she came to you? nm
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Puppy mills are bad, but bad behavior ususaly result of
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If the child gets lethargic, then please go see the doctor. If behavior is normal,
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7-year-old with behavior problems at school inquiry...sm
Our 7-year-old has problems with peer relations, has always had this and it's getting worse. She is a moody child and comes on too strongly with her peers which is why she doesn't have but 1 friend.
We're now having increasing problems with her talking back to the teachers at school when she's redirected for not doing as she's supposed to be doing in class. We've had problems with both of these issues with her in the past but it was better last year when she was in a smaller classroom setting. Now she's in a class with 25 kids and the problems are worse than ever. Sigh.
We've tried role playing with her on how to respond to her peers appropriately. She's been given everything from rewards for good behavior to restrictions for not behaving, but the problems continue. The school psychologist has put her into a group of kids that have a hard time with peers once a week to help with the socialization skills.
Anyone else deal with this and if so, what strategies did you use to overcome this? I'm more concerned about her negative responses to the teachers than anything. We're not having problems with her behaving at home - it's only at school. Any suggestions will be greatly welcome!
No, I'm sorry. That is beyond ridiculous to have
your children living with someone you hate and hates you so that they can be near a football coach? And then to have to ask advice for how to handle it that you each hate each other? This is her KID, for Lord's sake! She has him living with someone who hates her over a coach? Sorry, but situations like this are only contributing to the delinquency of this world. That is just plain shameful, and I will NOT apologize for thinking so.
Think it is ridiculous for all of this
graduation for small children, pomp and circumstance, proms next or are they doing those already at this age also? Why not make an overall speech to the individual class about how much all appreciated instead of handing out "rewards." That is why the kids getting out of control, it starts really early, don’t want to leave anyone out and it just escalates from there on.
This is ridiculous!
I knew the gas prices were going up, up,up but I have just checked a hotel/airplane package from my city to Las Vegas for 4 days and on Delta today it was $4,545.81! Yes, I am in the US. I do not know whether to book today or wait until these prices go down!! Anyone else want to join me for that price??
This is ridiculous
http://helpmybabylive.com
This couple is looking for $50,000 to not abort their child...talk about a scam.
Well I think it's ridiculous!
Come on now, they've been together for what, 24 hours, and he's madly in love...engaged! Please... just last week he was popping pills and booze, mourning his poor dead wife. Now he's all snuggled up to Donna, who by the way, looks just freaky to me...I think it's really just d*u*m*b...oh, but it is a soap, right?
ridiculous
I don't know what is wrong with today's kids. I don't know if they are not being taught right from wrong at home or what it is, but it is getting to the point that I don't even want my kids going to school and being exposed to these kinds of people! By no means am I a teacher, and I do understand that one day they will have to go to school, but there is no call for this. And on the "sex offender", it doesn't seem to me that he was a legal adult, and an age gap of 3 years is not all that much. I heard on the radio here about how a teenager in high school was slapped with sex offender because he smacked a girl's butt at school. THAT ticked me off. They made the sex offender registry for a reason, not for little high school kids and their parents to abuse.
Seems ridiculous to me
That anyone would think that way. If someone has a stable relationship then "dancing" should have no impact on it. It's a harmless show for goodness sake that takes a lot of hard work. I do know that, I think it was the year before last, (I don't watch religiously)Kristy Swanson and her partner ended up together and he was married at the time, but their relationship must not have not been very stable if this show broke them up. As another poster mentioned actors and actresses do it all the time in their jobs.
Well, I am sorry that you think it's ridiculous for me to think this way.
Stable relationship or not, there is no man on earth who could resist (Jesus was even tempted!) a woman when dancing close to her like that. Stability has nothing to do with it. It's wrong no matter how you look at it. I'd like to see you give your hubby up to one of those dancers to practice with them 6 nights a week 10 hour days for 3 months straight. Would you do it, LinK?
It seems ridiculous because it is - sm
You are not ready to divorce. This issue has not been worked through yet. You have too much unfinished business with your marriage. You have got to get back to a marriage counselor. If hubby will not go, go alone. It may be you decide things will not work out, but I urge you to turn explore every avenue before throwing in the towel. Then if you do leave him, you will know you did all you could and not need to look back. Best of luck. 
Really??? That is ridiculous sm
Bleeding the beast? What happens to these people's logic?
Ridiculous.........
I suppose the news needs some garbage to throw out there to get attention. This is not a man, but a woman, with the body parts to have a child. Just no breasts. So what now, does a woman with a mastectomy suddenly become a man? Pleeeeezzze!!!! I do feel for that child. How in the world do you explain all this? Then again, if the child grows up among it all, probably won't think twice about it.....this will be the norm for that child.
I thought I would be sick watching Oprah oooh and aaah over this person, A MAN GIVING BIRTH........what a joke!
That's ridiculous, isn't it? There should be
continue to hire new workers when existing workers aren't able to get enough work to live on.
actually I don't think everyone else is ridiculous
I used to believe the same things myself.
As far as having an innate knowing, I believe deep down we all feel we have a hole inside if you will. I know when I was searching and seeking I felt that. Yet when I found Jesus, it was like he filled that hole.
I believe that it requires faith to believe. That is why we don't have an innate knowledge.
I believe that if someone doesn't have Jesus they cannot comprehend all that the Bible has to say. That is why we need the Holy Ghost, to interpret for us. I read the Bible at least three times cover to cover before I accepted Christ. I could have been reading a different language for all I understood. After accepting him though, I started to understand, and parts of Scripture stood out like neon lights when I needed them.
I used to believe that everyone could get to heaven any ol' way they wanted, just as long as they were good people. Now I know that isn't true. If we could get to heaven by good works, why did God have to send his Son to die?
I have studies on this a lot. Like I've said before, I was practically dragged kicking and screaming to Christ :) I did not want to accept what I knew as the truth. Why? Because doing so meant giving up my own selfish wants and needs. Giving up my own fleshly desires. No more going out and living crazy and doing what I wanted. But you know what? I owe Him that. He died for me. And you. And that is regardless of whether you believe Him or not. That's the amazing thing. He died knowing that even 2000 years later people would be practically spitting on Him. (Not saying that you personally are, but there are a lot of people who do)
Anyways check out that site, and if you are truly searching, I urge you to really check out that book by Josh McDowell. Ravi Zacharias is also an amazing apologist that really opened my eyes and helped me to understand a lot. He has a website with some essays and he also has a bunch of books (you can find them at Lifeway and I'm sure other bookstores).
If you ever want to talk, please email me. I know what it's like to be searching and to not know what you believe. I ran from God for so long, but when I finally came to Him I didn't understand why I had run for so long. No, life will not be a piece of cake if you become a Christian. More likely, you will endure hardship and trials and tribulations. But this life here is a blink of an eye compared to the eternity we spend with Him after.
Just imagine the things that could be done in this world if everyone allowed God to work through them and to bring forth the talents that he has given them. It would just be amazing!
Times are going to get hard soon, and people are going to have to make a choice. I know my Lord will be here when it is all said and done. I pray that you will be there with us!
That's ridiculous
What do they expect, for you to call every 5 minutes just in case they come up with something else? "This is me calling to see if you have made any plans in the last 5 minutes." Totally stupid.
I would have to wonder if they wanted me there.
this is ridiculous
This is absolutely the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Mean old people live A LOT LONGER THAN YOU THINK and news flash THIS IS NOT THEIR LAST CHRISTMAS, IT NEVER IS...
That's Ridiculous
Please ignore this person who obviously hates their life very much. 99.99% of us support you and think you did a good thing.
Some people just have no life and this is the only way they can get any attention. They say negative attention is better than no attention, so this person obviously needs lots of attention.
You know the rest of us support you. Ignore these types of posts.
Now, that's ridiculous.....
how does cutting off the outer ear to do with preventing ear infections? The absence of an outer ear enhances the possibility to get an ear infection.
I would rather assume that uncircumcised men miss out.
I think it's ridiculous
to label her as a sex offender. There has to be a better way to handle the situation.
I think that's ridiculous (sm)
Anyone applying for unemployment has obviously worked and contributed the funds available. It's all based on prior earnings and you have to meet certain guidelines to collect on it anyway.
Where the heck does drug testing enter into this equation? Just another way to avoid paying out monies that are due to the people who are entitled to them. One more method of ripping away yet another right from the American worker.
Sorry, I don't care if John Doe tests positive for weed, opiates, benzies, or WHATEVER his DOC may be, that is completely irrelevant to his entitlement to unemployment that he worked and paid into.
What a bloody pathetic excuse to spend a huge amount of taxpayers' money to avoid paying people what they have earned and are entitled to.
It's ridiculous.
When I was in college, I had an English professor actually give an assignment over the weekend that was to get high and write about it. Absolute nonsense! We wonder why our country is in the mess it is in when college professors condone illegal behavior.
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