Really? People are invited to a shower over the phone?
Posted By: Miss Manners on 2007-06-21
In Reply to: Not necessarily, many phone calls may have been made. (nm) - jo
If I were invited to a shower via a telephone call, I might think that my inclusion in the party was an afterthought. It's far nicer, and manners dictate, that a written invitation be sent for a party, especially when the party includes gift-giving.
There is no way to defend asking guests to address their own envelopes for thank you cards. I stand by the opinion that it is tacky. If you know someone well enough to ask them to a shower and expect a gift from them, then you should make the effort to get their address and send them a written invitation.
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oops - baby shower - wrong shower!
Sorry, tired eyes here. The thank you notes envelopes might stand and you could make a puzzle with baby words.
Obviously some people didn't read *or get* the whole post about the followup phone call ;)
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Baby shower gift or shower
Anyone have some creative or unique baby shower gift ideas or shower ideas? or what is something that you couldn't live without when you had your baby.
I have heard of giving a book instead of a card and signing the book. Also heard of wrapping the present in a blanket or crib sheet instead of spending money on paper to throw away. I have heard of charging an "admission fee" of a package or diapers or 1 package of diapers buys a raffle ticket for a prize.
Not being invited...
I know the feelings of not being invited places by husband. But when the other wife is going that is just a slap in the face. I mean how rude can he be? That is wrong. It sounds like he just don't want you to go because something going on he knows you wouldn't approve of. I myself got dumped on this evening. Everyone and their wives and children were going to a superbowl party at a friends and my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and everybody going but he got dressed spur of the moment and said he was going and took my son with him but didn's say get dressed or are you going or nothing. I didn't know he was leaving until he went to walk out the door. So obviously he didn't want me to go. I know they couldn't be doing anytning wrong with kids there but it hurts my feelings that I wasnt included. So I know how you feel.
or just maybe you were invited
because she'd like to share the joy with all her family. but with your attitude, you may as well stay home. Personally, i would bet she'd rather you would just show up dressed anywhichway and nevermind the gift. Maybe it would be an opportunity to re-connect with the mother, aunts, etc. On the other hand, I am sure not everyone that RSVPs shows up.
Bud was married 27 yrs & his mother never invited her to call her Mom
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Your parents sort of invited themselves to spend -
the night at your place instead of their usual Christmas day routine. You were kind enough to offer to let them come with you to your husband's Christmas Eve party, but for whatever reason, they don't want to. I would just go on ahead to the party and have fun! You never know, maybe your parents would ENJOY just a quiet evening at your house after the long drive.
They still have THREE choices: Stay at your place by themselves, go along with you, or go back and do it the original way, coming to see you just on Christmas Day. The ball's in their court. And think how disappointed your husband's folks, plus all the cousins, etc. would be if you two didn't go.
I suppose the fourth option is for him to go alone and you to stay home lone with your folks, but that doesn't sound very fun. So I'd do the party, and you'll get to see BOTH sets of parents, and they'll both get to see you.
The first turkey I made and I invited my poor dad over . . sm
I cooked the poor bird with the green bag of giblets inside!!!! I will NEVER forget the look on my dad's face when it appeared from nowhere! I was 25 then. Many years and good meals ago. . . LOL. Sorry, you asked! 
I am invited to a Birthday party for a friend of mine, whom
I have known for many years. Her mother and my mother were friends. Her mother died a few years ago.
The problem is that I am a nonsmoker and my family all 100% nonsmokers. I maintain a smoke free environment at all costs. My friend smokes heavily as well as about 95% of her family. They will all be there. I have some health issues, not respiratory, and I do not want the second-hand smoke exposure. In addition, my eyes burn, my hair and clothes reek of smoke, etc. What do I do? This is a special birthday for her marking a milestone. If I don't go it won't look good. . . if I do go I will be very heavily exposed to the smoking for the duration of the party, I am sure. What do do? Thanks for any advice you can give. 
I would take his phone away or make him pay the bills for the phone
He can use the postal service to write her letters if he wants but there is no excuse. College is not highschool and if he's gonna make a go of it...be the parent and discipline....my opinion but take the phone away.
shower...(OP)
Thanks y'all for all the great replies...apparently I am not alone in my feelings here!
Anyway, as I mentioned, this is my DH's family...the ultimate shower-givers. They give a shower for every baby (in my family, it's 1st baby only...unless--like mine--they're 8 years apart), every wedding, new home purchase...anything you can think of. BUT...the kicker is...if I don't show up to this thing, next year when my DD graduates and I have her grad party, they WON'T show up...that's just the way they are. So, I'm thinking of taking a "vacation" that weekend and just mailing a card with my "greenbacks"---BTW, love the fake money idea---after all, that's all she really wants, right?
Ah, families---aren't they just WONDERFUL---
Shower curtain or not?
I have a bathroom that goes off my office and really not used but having a dinner later on and I do not have a shower curtain here. I had the bathroom painted and did not want to get a rod that would have to be on the painted part as afraid it would pull my paint off if removed. The shower/tub is a wrap around and being as I do not have another shower curtain in the house (enclosed showers) wondering if anyone can tell me, does the rod fit on the shower part or would it fit outside, that being on the painted part. I hope this makes sense. Any suggestions?
Wedding shower...
My niece is getting married in August and is having a shower in July. Long story short, they live together, have been for a looonnnggg time now. On the invite, it says "Money preferred" with a bunch of $$$ around it. They're calling it a "greenback shower"...Is it just me, or is this totally disgusting and greedy? Makes me not wanna go. Also, I am not even sure how much to give. We never see them, only at family functions (DH's family.....)...anyway, is it just me that feels this way?
wedding shower
I agree. I think they have a lot of nerve expecting guests to "finance" their life together. Are they getting married after so long just to make some bucks? Or are you supposed to help offset the cost of this wedding? Are they registered? I'd give her a gift (if that's what you'd prefer). If you feel you have to give money, I'd probably stay in the $25.00 range or whatever you feel comfortable giving. Of course, you could always make an excuse and not go. After all, they'll probably want money as a wedding gift also!
Good for you! I think a hot shower sometimes can
do wonders. I know what you mean about the flashing in the field of vision. My mom and I get that, too. She describes it as zig-zaggy lines. I only had that about 3 times, but was at the mall and was trying to read a price tag and could not understand why everything started to look wierd. You are right. . the headache came later. My mom said if she took something the minute she saw the flashing, etc. she was okay, but it she waited too long she got a terrible headache. I am glad you avoid that one! 
shower head
 I'm looking for a shower head that will help me get all the shampoo & conditioner out of my hair. I have one that allows me to adjust the settings and that helps. I think the problem is that I am so short that even with the high pressure it doesn't completely remove all the shampoo since I am so much farther down than the shower head. I want to get one of the removable ones but before I went and spent the money I was hoping for suggestions. Whenever I go to my hairstylist, my hair always feels so much better for a week or two after she rinses it with that high-pressure sprayer so close to my head. I'm sure her shampoo makes some diffference too, although I'm pretty sure it is just not being able to completely rinse my hair out that is causing me the frizzies. Thanks for any suggestions on a reasonablly priced shower head.
I moisturize right out of shower, then go sm
do other things getting ready, then do my BE. I think it is better if your face has dried.
isn't that a baby shower?
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Try baby oil in the shower but
Also, only pat yourself dry after showering and make sure the water is not too hot, and then put the baby oil on.
My fav lotion so far and I've tried quite a few is St. Ives the one with collagen. It's not even that pricey.
Another good one is Eucerin as mentioned above, but also Avon has Moisture Therapy that is wonderful and hubs loves that one plus one from Bath and Body Works but it's pricey but he says it stays with him. He hates "the girly stuff" but he doesn't want eczema patches to form.
Does it clean the bottom of the shower/tub also?
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Pop in the tub with him next time or invite him into the shower with you. Might
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Give 'em a shower! sm
I spray mine with 409, let it sit for about 10 minutes and then shower it off. Or, I stick them out in a down pour and they get nice and clean.
Shower/Wedding gifts
The only time that I give money or a gift card as a gift is if I am traveling to the wedding and then it is just easier than trying to pack a gift, get it through security, etc. When I take a gift, if it is something that is duplicated or something the couple does not want or need - I leave it up to them to return it - I let them figure out where it came from and how to return it with no gift receipt. Today's brides and grooms are a bit too greedy and ungrateful for my taste - I can't count how many thank-you notes I have never received - so I make them work if they want a return - which now days usually cannot be for cash.
After your shower, elevate legs
and rub lotion into your feet. The massaging action with your feet elevated really moves the blood out of them that collects during a warm shower.
why pay for him to have heat, bed, shower, food.
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Run a hot steamy shower in the bathroom and
Put the baby in the bathroom alongside of you, of course, but not in the shower. Just try to get the baby to get the steam from the shower. I used to do this when mine were little, and it worked great.
baby shower gift
I see all these different gifts here and they are all just wonderful gifts. Something that we REALLY appreciated after the birth of our twins was a couple of friends paid for a housecleaning service to come over and do a one time big cleaning for us. We were a month early with them and while I really appreciated every single present we received, that one was a biggie. Also, your time. While the cleaning people came in, the hubby came over and helped my hubby get the cribs together and a dresser (we were not quite ready (lol)) . And the wife helped me with the children and picked up some food. Also restaurant gift card or now even a Visa gift card would be great. That way it can be used for anything they need, now or later on. Hope this helps. Main thing is, give it with your heart.
Rock. Bath or shower?
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Pedi. Bath or shower?
shower...treadmill or elliptical?
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He takes his cellphone in the shower????
What the heck does he do for a living? If it does not require constant use of his cellphone, then no, you are not being paranoid! Do you always hear him on his phone? Does he make it a point for you NOT to hear him?
I don't know you, him, or the situation but something about this is bothering you to the point of putting out feelers here. I would not let him know about your **paranoia** yet, but I would not let him move in permanently either. You need to take some time to find out about this feeling you have. Could be nothing, but you need to find out on your own before discussing it with him.
I just went to a sweet bridal shower..
It was at a restaurant in a private dining room. The mother had a stuffed animal that the bride had loved forever and it was dressed like a bride and there were pictures of the girl at various ages holding that stuff toy. A short letter was read from the animal about all of their adventures together and how she was all set to go with the bride on her honeymoon.
All of us were given nice poster cards, decorated with lace, and we were told to write down some advice for the bride. Later on she read them out loud (some were funny and most were good advice). Then they were laced together into a book for the bride to keep.
We had a cold salad lunch and had cupcakes decorated nice for dessert (beats having to cut a big cake). Gifts were opened and then we were on our way. Forget to mention the groom and the father of the bride showed up with roses for the bride and then they ate somewhere else. A bridesmaid dress on a hangar was displayed and I think there were some little decorations on the table.
Want to redo my shower, need ideas
I have redone my bathroom last year and blinged it out, dark gold for the walls, slate for the floor and then had granite vanity top put in. I have a jet bathtub that is never used, hubby and I both shower. The shower itself is just plain Jane, nothing special. I could have the tub taken out and expand the shower over but not sure what I want yet. I have been thinking about some rock detail or tile detail for inside of the shower. Anyone out there who has done remodeling for the shower? Thanks
Aquasana shower filter system
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Bath/shower gel? Pair of earrings?
Nightgown/pajamas? Gloves/ scarf? Candle? CD or DVD? Purse? Movie tickets?
Me too, the detachable shower massage comes in handy! nm
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Gave 'em a shower - look brand new - thanks!! (nm)
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Shower girl only, have jacuzzi, don’t use, don’t care for other
NM
Good baby shower gifts? sm
I am going to my first baby shower ever, and I am not a mom so I need some ideas for good gifts for the shower. She is not finding out what she is having so I have no idea what to get and want to get a gift that she will use. Any ideas appreciated.
Hawaiian Ginger Calgon Shower &
Moisturizing lotion, my grandson Cameron gave me the last time he was here, for my B-Day before he went back to Hawaii....Very nice! I just used some of that old time favorite White ginger, I think, over at my sista's house the other day....
Shower on first break in the morning after working almost 3 hours, then
change into street clothes, causal, jeans and blazer, whatever. Then out on my break to the mall for human contact, music, something nice to drink, then back home to finish up my last shift. Works great for me and I never, ever go a day without showering, sometimes bubble bath, completely dressed, ect. This schedule is great for relieving pain with the warm shower/bath and helps me get the job done.
Donnie and shower. Go to movies or rent a movie?
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Anyone have any good/unique baby shower games?
My oldest daughter is having a baby at the end of June and I am throwing a baby shower. I would like to do a couple of simple games. Any ideas???? Thanks in advance.
I would not let my coworkers throw a baby shower BEFORE the birth of my daughter...
because both of my sons were born unexpectedly 2-3 days before their baby showers were planned. We had the baby shower 3 weeks after she was born.
(Was kind of embarrassed also to have a baby shower for the 3rd child anyway, but it was more gracious to allow them to throw one.)
I take a shower before I start work and put on makeup but just wear comfy clothes...
I don't get dressed up or anything...maybe taking a shower before you start working would make you feel better...I can't work if I feel dirty--lol
I have been asked to handle the bridal shower for my niece's wedding and I need ideas!
My niece is 18 and getting married very young, but not getting married because she "has" to, if you know what I mean. However, the maid of honor is my other niece who is 17 and not in a position to plan and pay for a bridal shower and so I've been asked to plan and then co-host the shower with my neice, the maid of honor for my niece, the bride. Confused yet?
And the wedding is in August! So I need to decide on a theme, location, and get invitations out by July. I want to do something unique and fun, but right now I can't seem to work up a unique idea to save my life! Help!
Bridal shower atire would probably be fine. Find out if hats are "de riguer" for the occasion.
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You live where it's cold or warm? Driving gloves? Some nice body scrub/shower gels? nm
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you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt.
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying "walk a mile in my shoes" is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
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