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Posted By: MT.IC on 2007-07-06
In Reply to: Seek out a counselor. - NM
Hello,
Divorce is a very hard thing to go through, especially for children...more so them than you or him. I also was the product of divorced parents, so I know the strain it puts on the children. I have also seen so many women with the same questions and worries. It is always a definite to try and work things out before you make the definite decision of divorce, but if there is no possible way you can stay with him, then I would say move on...now...
MT work is not as bad as you might think. I had a child and quickly became the "single mom." I was the responsible one and was the unfortunate one with no child support, but for 6 straight years (married now)we made it without him or the child support with me working as an MT, both hospital and at-home (at-home the majority of the time). I made the bills, we bought name-brand clothing and still had money to have fun together...WITHOUT HIM. I even had periods of time where I had more than the two mouths to feed for a while. The best thing about MT work is you can set a goal and as long as the work is there, you can achieve that goal, no matter what bad you have read on these boards. I made it and my son was happy, I was happy, and that is all that matters. Even after marriage, we have seen lay-offs with my husband and we still made it with me working as an MT...now 4 mouths to feed and mortgages to pay, et cetera.
You can make it as an MT on your own...with children, I promise...been there, done that.
If you would like to talk more about this...please, feel free to e-mail me.
Hope this helps!
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Hi, I am responding to this post because I am a product of divorce. My parents divorced when I was 7 and then completely ended their relationship when I was 9...into the arms of two other people. The best thing is I gained new siblings out of everything that I loved very much, step and half. My brother was also a product of divorce whose marriage was failing last year..now, sad to say, I lost my brother to suicide. Who does it really hurt in the long run? Fighting hurts the children, and so does a divorce. My advice to you would be to seek the marriage counseling first, and then if you just cannot make it work, then seek out divorce. Just my opinion, but I hope it helps.
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I think it is just a matter of personal opinion, no winning or losing to it. Just as mt101 called me paranoid, I dont take it personal. I am my own peson and my happiness/well being is not wrapped up in what another thinks. I dont know that person and she can think what she wants. I would never try to tell her she could not have that thought. The whole "sticks and stones" thing. I just think it is sad someone can let anothers opinion make them feel so miserable.
This may be a little late but I hope you read.
I couldn't even finish reading half of the posts below. The one titled "I am just amazed by the ignorance of some people" was pretty rude and ignorant in itself. Sounded like it came from some child having a tantrum. Some people just do not have any sympathy for others (they must be missing the empathy chromosome in their gene pool), or maybe they were wronged by their parents…who knows. It is so easy for other to write nasty comments when they don’t know the entire story or life history between you and your family.
Nobody knows what anyone goes through with their family members. Not everyone has a loving “Walton” relationship with siblings, parents, etc. There are families out there struggling with relationships, sons and daughters treating parents like absolute garbage thinking they are owed something. I have a bil in his 40s and he thinks that his whole family owe him, but he never gives in return. So for anyone to tell anyone that parents owe their kids anything just because they are their kids? Well I’d have a few things to say to that.
Here’s my thoughts. If you are the happiest you have been in a long time, you have a husband that understands you better than anyone else, you are financially secure, etc. That’s all that matters. Sounds like your kids are grown enough to understand, and if they aren’t TOUGH! Please don’t let them make you feel guilty for anything.
I read a book by someone years ago and he said family is the worst for trying to pull you down. If they see you are happy and financially secure, etc and they are not, they will cut you down. So the saying goes “Misery loves company”.
I didn’t see anything in your post saying you were going to disconnect your phone, the way I read it was you were asking if you should let everything go through to the answering machine or disconnect. I would do the first. Let the answering machine pick up everything. If that doesn’t work then yes, I would disconnect the phone or get a new number. Then you will be in control of your life. Don’t let others rule your life and don’t let anyone get you down.
I love my family dearly but some of them I will put through to the answering machine and call them back. You could always write them a letter too explaining your feelings.
I say write a letter to your kids, put the calls on answering machine and take care of yourself and the ones who love you! Your too good of a person to let anyone get you down. You are entirely correct – you do not have to answer to others! Live your life on your terms, not theirs. – P.S. – don’t let the know-it-alls on the board get you down.
Oh SOOO cute. But please read inside for a warning (I'm a dog owner) sm
Puppies develop habits really quickly, so discourage licking the can thing. Mine would get cans out of the garbage and one had a cut edge and he terrribly cut his mouth and tongue. I felt like such a careless dog mom. A true accident, but now maybe I can help you prevent the same thing? Please excuse my post... I am not a know-it-all and I actually don't like it when someone posts something lighthearted and then someone (like me) gets kind of off topic in the thread with a reply like this one, but maybe it will help you prevent an accident. But this is an adorable picture and I love your puppy. 
This may be a little late but hope you read the post and it helps
There are many sites you can go to. The one I frequent the most is a genealogy forum. Below are some sites I go to often...
http://genforum.genealogy.com/
http://www.cyndislist.com/
http://www.familysearch.org/eng/default.asp
http://www.familytreesearcher.com/
http://www.rootsweb.ancestry.com/
http://www.cousinconnect.com/
http://freebmd.rootsweb.com/
Then if I'm stumped sometimes I'll type in last name and the town and/or country they were born in and a whole bunch of info can be found.
I hope the above links have helped. I haven't been to this site in awhile so forgot to check back on my original message. I did find out that one of my husbands great, great (don't know how many greats) married Robert the Bruce, and I found that my grandmother's uncle was the mayor of Preston England. I've found a website that has pics of him. Also is interesting to find out what type of people our in our history. One of my husband's great uncles dressed as a woman to leave ireland (don't know why), and one of his great great uncles was an outlaw from the wild wild west days. It's great fun.
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At the time I posted it was a 23-y/o Korean THE DETAILS of who did the shooting had not hit the newswires UNTIL THEN.
If I don't read before I go to sleep I can't fall asleep. I will read sm
until I begin to fall asleep. They say reading relaxes you fully and it works wonders for me.
I used to suffer from insomnia, but not since I've been doing this - about 5 years now.
Plus, I've grown so much and have gained wisdom by doing so. I enjoy Christian books and reading the Bible.
Maybe this is where that one came from...(inside) LOL
http://www.snopes.com/medical/potables/mountaindew.asp
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chocolate/bannana pie. yeah sounds crazy but is really delicious. i found it at grocery store few years ago and everyone loved it.
take a graham cracker crust, slice banana in round circles and layer on bottom of crust. middle layer mix chocolate pudding and cover on top of banannas. cover with chocolate cool whip although i can't find chocolate cool whip anymore, you could probably mix chocolate syrup with cool whip to produce the same. top cool whip with rounds of banannas for decoration and grated chocolate and/or small squares.
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Perhaps next year, you should ignore your ungrateful neighbors. Take those cards (and your kids) to a local nursing home and share them with lonely seniors. I can guarantee they would be greatful, and it would be a great lesson for your kids. Might as well share your kindness and caring with someone who will appreciate it!
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I had very heavy bleeding during periods, would pass lots of clots. Also, when I would stand up, I'd feel a gush coming out. Sorry to be so graphic. I've heard that people have had a lot of pain with them, but I didn't. It was found by my doctor. He asked me if I felt that in my abdomen and I told him I thought I was just fat. My uterus was 22 weeks size.
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Sometimes you have to unplug speakers and plug back in in order for your plug-and-play devices to register. You may even have to unplug speakers, restart and then plug in. If that does not work try restarting with speakers plugged in. I have had to do all 3 in the past. You could test them by plugging them in to a walkman or portable CD player. Might try Sound effects manager or sound effects and audio devices under control panel and go through a troubleshooting phase. I have a gateway and mine will only work in the "right out" plug.
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The women in my family have used this for years for washing babies as well as our own clothes. My mother used for dishwashing. I am very familiar with its use, sorta like we have always used pressure cookers, some people scared of them, just things we have used over the years. Watch that toothpaste, though!
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Too funny. Baby diapers and cut a whole out for the tail. You can get or make an elizabethan collar to put on her neck to keep her from tearing them up. (pic.) http://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=15227&Ntt=diapers&Ntk=All&Ntx=mode+matchallpartial&Np=1&pc=1&N=0&Nty=1
You can buy the cloth pants that they make for dogs at Petco or your local groomer
(pic) http://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=14459&Ntt=pants&Ntk=All&Ntx=mode+matchallpartial&Np=1&pc=1&N=0&Nty=1 I bought a pair and then made a pattern. Attach with buttons or velcro across top and there is a slot on these for pads or you can use adhesive kind. Can't resist emailing a copy of one of my babies with Sock diapers. I keep my husbands socks if the get a whole in them from his steal toes. Usually in same place so I pull her tail through there. Designer diapers.
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It is a personal and universal truth. You find out it is a universal truth when you accept Jesus personally. Thanks! Have a good one!
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Posted previously but it apparently disappeared when moved to gab board.
I searched baked hashbrowns...
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/r/bl80201e.htm
This site lists a lot of dishes down about half way, ingredients are listed below names so you can scan for cheese.
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/Hash_Brown_Potato_Recipes.htm
Couple more. 2 of these have cream of cheddar soup. Gives good taste without the harsh texture of some cheeses.
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/r/bl50809f.htm
http://www.cooks.com/rec/doc/0,1926,145187-236204,00.html
Oh well have to hunt the others again!
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Unless this is your post at below site (ripoffreport.co) you really should go there and file a report as well as at my3cent.com.
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/191/RipOff0191127.htm
LOL! Sorry about that...(inside)
http://www.e-wisdom.com/credit_cards/
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Here, they have a lot of baby K names with their meanings for both boys and girls. I love new babies, I will be an aunt by this October and the little girl's name will be Ava Elizabeth.
http://www.thenewparentsguide.com/baby-names-k.htm
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Not a prescription. Should be available in any vitamin department. Brand not important--I always just buy the cheapest! Pills/capsules are big though--I have to cut them in half--so also buy with that in mind. As I recall there usually aren't directions--I usually take 2 for first dose then 2-3 times a day for really no specific time period just p.r.n. (like when I start to feel the blister coming up again) and preventively (mine triggered by sun exposure so take after I have been out in the sun).
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Are you asking for something to remove the paint/stain or something to remove the paper? Your saying "sticky", is this like something with sticky backing that has stuck to table?
Sure you want to know? Look inside.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scrapple
I don't get any of this either. Inside
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Insist he go to counseling with you. If he refuses, attend on your own. You have some issues of your own that could use some help. Sharing misery stories with others on the Net is not the answer...Best of luck to you! :-)
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I find it odd that you go through all of this about not gifting and trying to stay away from materialism, it's not what it's about...yet you don't mention one word about the real reason for Christmas.
Sounds like you're just not interested in being involved in Christmas, not that you have a respect for the birth of Christ.
By the way, the reason for gift giving is the same reason He came to us -- to give a gift. :)
Nothing wrong with buying gifts. It is not materialism. It is celebrating by giving to others, as He gave to us.
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Maybe he misses you. Maybe he was just relieving some pressure. It's not that bizarre. Maybe you should tell him that you're there and available, and you wouldn't mind a morning romp or nooner yourself. You'd be surprised what a healthy bedroom life can do for a marriage even when there's discord. Guys feel closer to their women when they're getting some, but I understand how difficult it is as a woman to be physical with a guy when he's completely ticking you off. DH and I have figured out that when we get jerky toward each other, it's because we feel that one of us is carrying more of the load or not getting enough support from the other. So we try to make time to do something together even if it's just talking or going to lunch.
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If the cat is going to be totally an inside cat, I think it is okay. . I don't think their should be too much pain associated with it - certainly not for 2 weeks. . But if the cat will be outside at all, it would not be a good idea, as it would have no way to protect itself or climb a tree to get away from dogs, etc. .
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You all condemn Done's husband, though we do not even know what he wrote in this 'notorius' letter. How can you then judge and label him?
I said it already before, some people - I am not referring to Done - perceive even constructive criticism as abuse.
For instance, if a person is obese and somebody tells this person who cannot stop eating...'I think you should really lose some pounds...'
Some people call this 'abusive', 'rude', insensitive, etc.............
inside or outside dog? nm
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Is he being picked on in school? Sounds like there is more going on. Especially the part about him saying he is fat and then not liking stuff the week after you bought it, makes me wonder if somebody has made fun of the clothing/shoes and now he doesn't want to wear them. Kids are ruthless and mean. I would try to dig deeper. My heart breaks for him. I hope he feels better about himself!
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My daughter (now 19) has always had more guy friends than girls mostly because she does not care for the drama and backstabbing that many teenage girls engage in. What I would take into account is how your daughter acts around these boys--how does she dress (my daughter is an athlete--no low-cut shirts, short skirts, etc) and what are her mannerisms (too flirty or just chillin as friends) or do you see something more--watch the behavior. Have always welcomed all kids to hang out at my house--even though it has driven up my food bill--because I feel that way I know what they're doing, hear how they are acting/talking (they can forget you are around the corner), and I get to know who they are hangin with. As time goes by you can get to know who a lot of the kids are in your town including siblings and parents--have always made it a point to network, network, network--soccer games, helping in school, etc. Always offer to drive too--they will also sometimes forget you have ears up there in the driver's seat. I like to remind my kids that they don't know who I know so they should keep that in mind when out in public because you never know what could get back to me.
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when in doubt, always try foodtv.com
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/george-stella/teriyaki-sesame-chicken-skewers-recipe/index.html
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I bought our Wii when it first came out, preordered it 2 years ago. My son got braces earlier this year. The orthodontist does not offer a payment plan so those thousands of $$$ have gone on the credit cards. it may have been a bad move to set up myself to be in debt like this but as my child has a very bad overbite, buck teeth and teeth behind each other I considered it a small price to pay for help with self esteem issues.
You will also note my original question did not solicit advice on what to do with the system. This is my son's decision, not mine. I was asking this to cover all of my bases BEFORE I retrieve the system in less than 2 hours from now.
By the way you sound very generous; I hope if you win anything you can give it to charity. Maybe you will win Powerball one day!
What I can't understand is this: If my son were to win $250 the replies in this thread would be very different. No one would suggest he give it back to the orthodontist.
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I can't help but giggle at your reference to "piranas"...I always use "locusts" but I like piranas even better, lol!!!
I'm on PMs/graveyard at least 5 nights a week, so it's nice to know there's company out there :-)
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If you're feeding your dog commercially bought dog food, Purina supposedly puts stuff in the food to make the poop easier to scoop (i.e., firm).
If you're feeding your dog regular food, try feeding him hamburger meat mixed with cooked rice for a couple days. That's what Granny used to do with her little white poodle that followed her everywhere and lived a nice long life.
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He's 10.
He doesn't get residuals or anything, the contract i signed said it was a total buyout. But the fee he was paid was enough for gas back and forth (it's an hour and a half away) and food, plus I told him he could have a game he has been wanting.
He has had 3 agents for a while but this is his first real job so i'm hoping this will jump start his career!
howabout trying from the inside...
putting something IN you instead of just ON you, ie, by using flaxseed oil capsules? Flax is so good for you anyway.
Do you believe there is even a website for this? inside...
http://www.ehow.com/how_16647_rid-home-crickets.html
I have THE BEST answer for this inside: sm
JUST ASK THE INSTRUCTOR WHAT HE MEANS!!!!!!
First I think you need to find out more ...(see inside)
about exactly what the purpose of this class is. Maybe it's kids they feel might need a little extra help to be ready to advance into 3rd grade. Or maybe it's just the opposite, maybe an advanced class for kids who have already learned most of the 2nd grade stuff, to keep them busy until August or September, when they advance into the third grade. I would contact the school to see exactly what the purpose of this class is, and why you daughter was chosen for it. Then you will know how to handle it. Good luck.
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Texas governor orders STD vaccine for all girls
Gov. Rick Perry signed an order Friday making Texas the first state to require that all schoolgirls be vaccinated against the sexually transmitted virus that causes cervical cancer.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16948093/from/ET/
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http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Entertainment/story?id=2883542&page=1
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It speaks for itself.
http://www.theonesolitarylifemovie.com
LOST fan here, see inside.
If they were not dead before, they probably will be now, unless they find some way of digging out. Orrr, maybe the conversation the guy had with John, where things don't stay buried if they're too close to shore, hmm. However, what was the point of this episode? It centered around 2 people that we really haven't seen before, then they seemingly get killed off in the same episode. The only thing related to the series was when Raphael (I think his name was), was hiding in the bathroom when Ben and Juliette were in the Pearl bunker watching Jack on the monitor and making some plans about him. Other than that, I totally did not get the purpose of the episode.
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http://www.braun.com/na/products/fooddrink/breakfast/coffeemakers/aromadeluxe.html
TMI (inside post)......n/m
Inside this was supposed to say
thud
but I put it inside brackets so it disappeared. I'll try it with spaces:
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Would love to have some of the inside
scoop, how about sharing some?
uh.....keep your cats inside where
they are safe from ALL the bad stuff that lurks outside.
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http://www.weightwatchers.com/health/asm/calc_healthyweight.aspx
Look inside for how much they offer LOL!
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