Problem wearing wedding band..sm
Posted By: HappyCat on 2007-10-17
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I was recently dx with RA, and have been having some issues wearing my wedding band. Two main problems - my fingers get puffy and wearing the band makes my hand itch (even though they are solid gold). I was thinking about getting a tattoo'd ring on my ring finger, but I was wondering if you all could come up with some ideas that are creative but perhaps not as painful...I don't mind the permanancy, as I am married with the intention of staying that way for life.
Thanks in advance, y'all.
HC 
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I had a somewhat similar experience with my wedding band...sm
Quite suddenly my finger would itch underneath my ring. It would become red and almost blister like. I would have to take my ring off for a few days for it to go away. I took the ring, which is not a plain band - has two rows of diamonds so the underside is not smooth, to the jeweler and had it cleaned. It hasn't happened again since. It wasn't dirty to the naked eye, but there was apparently something in there. Perhaps your diagnosis and your reaction is a coincidence. It's worth a try.
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
Any out there with Lap-Band or
gastric bypass done? Would love to hear your experiences and comments. Thinking about it for me.
I am considering a lap band
Minimally invasive, easily reversible. Ironically, the surgeon at our local hospital who probably does 15-20 gastric bypass procedures a week has a lap band himself - not bypass surgery. What does that tell you?
I worked at that hospital for five years and transcribed many, MANY diagnostic imaging reports on patients who had problems with gastric bypass surgery, some of them several years after they had it done. It is tempting, but I am not ready to spend the rest of my life eating one or two ounces at a time and worrying about malnutrition because of impaired vitamin absorption.
I am having my yearly physical next month and I will talk to my doc them about a lap band. Personally, I would not consider anything else. Too dangerous.
Never take them off - band and diamonds. nm
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how about liquid band-aid?
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Municipal band
The next town over from where I live has free municipal band concerts every Thursday night in the summer. They do classical, popular and movie/show music. They've been doing this for 77 years. There is a bandshell in the park downtown, parking is free and you can bring a picnic supper. The town festivals always have free musical entertainment. Sometimes the downtown merchants sponsor an evening of free music.
Try going up or down in band size.
For example, try a 34 DD or a 38 C. When you go up or down in band size, it changes the size of the cups. I ended up having to do that and you'd be surprised how different the cup sizes are when you adjust the band size.
FYI - Rock Band
We were going to trade in 1 guitar for the rock band set and were told the Rock Band still has a lot of kinks to work out and the sales person advised us to wait until after this Christmas as it will probably be the big thing for Christmas and the problems will be worked out.
I would love to get the 80's one too! I didn't know they had that! My husband was a DJ in highschool and I bet he would love that. Ok, that's now on his xmas list. lol Thanks!
Another band geek here
Also a flute player; principal flute in concert band my senior year, only flute in jazz band. Too much of a goody two shoes for drugs or alcohol or stretching exercises, even... did take part in a Vietnam war protest or two, and walked several miles to school on the first Earth Day, which accomplished exactly nothing because the diesel exhaust-belching school buses ran anyway, regardless of whether I rode them or not.
And I may join up with some friends for the "Teed Off Party" on the 4th of July....
had dinner with the band a few years ago
A friend of mine works for them and asked if I wanted to go before the concert. Loved it!!! Great band
Don't you think he sounds like the other boy band guys? sm
To me he sounds like the guys already on the radio so there's nothing that has come from his mouth that I'd want to buy.
Plus he dresses funny - wouldn't want a CD cover with a goofy outfit on it staring at me ! My husband thinks he's gay because sometimes he wears gay type clothes... especially that whatever it was last night.
nope, not going to swallow Band-Aid for my...NM
   
White. Big Band or Disco
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A good friend of mine had a lap band
However there are a lot of hoops to jump through testing wise before you can have those procedures done including a psychiatrist. Also if you do not follow the directions you can become sick, which means you cannot over eat and must exercise. She is doing fine with it, but did it mainly because her back bothered her so much. Come to find out her back is still an issue and she needs surgery to correct that. So, if it is a last resort, I'd say it is worth a try, but I would not do it with all of the complications and risk of infections unless it is a serious must.
Marching on the field at band camp ...sm
it was my freshman year of high school. One of the adult volunteers heard it on the radio, ran to the band director crying and insisted that he stop the practice because of the news.
spent NYE playing Rock Band for PS2
a lot of fun though discovered I'm never going to be a drummer (or a singer) :) So I guess I won't quit my day job.
Strike up the band, blow up the balloons!
Ready to celebrate. I wrote here some time ago about a problem with a CPA cousin. My father died and he put in writing and also told the people where he worked any money coming from there should come to me. When I got the money it had to be made out to estate of .......My cousin who supposedly was taking care of my father's last bill, etc. told me I could not cash the checks (duh) and to send to him for putting in estate money. I asked him to pay off father's last owed bill out of the money (he never did this 3 years ago now) and did not probate my father's will (said not enough there left after most all spent). I wrote a letter to cousin finally last year and said I wanted this back, next of kin, basically belonged to me. Ignored, another letter, ignored and finally asked on here who to contact for the head of CPAs and a person told me. Thanks to you, contacted the officials and after giving my cousin a deadline and telling him I had contacted the people over him, he finally sent me a check on the very last day of the deadline I gave him!! Now I wonder with him doing family like this, who else has he jipped?
I love an alternative rock band called
Minus the Bear and so does my 15 yo son. 
PJ wearing
How many of us stay in our PJs all day?
Ive been at home now for about 5 or 6 years - I cannot seem to break this bad habit of mine!! I think it is beginning to wear on me. I miss "having to" buy new clothes and looking nice everyday...now, I cannot seem to find a "good" reason to get fixed up for the day home by myself!!!
Anyone else go through this!!!
PJ Wearing!
Almost every day unless I have an appointment of some type! No makeup and hair in a ponytail! It does feel good, though, I have to admit to "fix up" every once in a while and sometimes I do miss it but not enough to put forth the energy most days.
I have been wearing them for years and
was told by orthopedic guy to wear those or Clarks and I have worn and love them. These last ones I got have killed my feet though and I have a problem on the outer side of the foot hurting. I looked up the Crocs someone suggested and those looked pretty comfortable, might try those. Might have touch of peripheral neuropathy, never know when the feet are going or not. Thanks
Has anyone heard of a 5 yo, nearly 6 yo wearing a bra
bra. She wants a bra. She has been asking me for one for weeks and she won't let up. There were bras hanging in the kid clothes section at Wal-Mart and she begged and begged for one then but I said no. She is not developing at all but she claims some of her fellow kindergarteners are wearing them. What are other mother's doing. Is this a new trend? I don't know. When I was 5 I never heard of a bra.
Wearing Bras
Yes, I just for the first time this year bought bras for my daughter. She seemed okay with it, but she's slightly overweight, so I felt this would be easier than buying T-shirts that are not long enough to tuck in. So, we went with the Sport Type kind that she seemed to like at first, and now I've noticed she's not wearing them. So, I asked her why, and she says she just forgets, which is highly possible, since it's only been since school started. I just feel better knowing she's wearing something, but of course, she was wearing T-shirts. So, what is one to do? I really do not see any harm in the bra. I am totally against having little girls dress beyond their age, but we're talking underclothes here, so if the child is comfortable, then just try one to see how she likes it. My daughter was kind of embarassed as it was actually my idea since I felt she needed something under her regular shirts, since they tend to be thin and unforgiving in her situation. Good luck to you, but I in no way, shape, or form believe that bra at 5 means thing at 10 and even if it does, so be it. I think a person has a right to a certain degree to wear the underclothes of their choice if any at all!
I just think there could be worse things that she is asking for at 5.
They may wonder what you're wearing!!!
 or what we're drinking  , but who cares! AHHH, the luxury of working from home! I can wear or NOT WEAR whatever I want. That's all part of the biz!!! On the norm, I have to go out and pick-up tapes, so I'm with the post above. Shower mid morning after getting hubby and kids off to school so I can do it in peace, and then if not going out, maybe sweats and if going out, then jeans/shirt. Boy, do I save a lot on WORK CLOTHES!!! To poster above, I am taken very seriously!! I make loadz of money!!! They take me very seriously when I'm making my deposits at the bank. 
Today I'm wearing
Obsession for Women.
I like a mixture, keeps me from wearing out. NM
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And I see nothing wrong with a guy wearing a bro.
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Yep. Sweating while wearing
something that has nickel in it...it is a chemical reaction.
It sucks big time. I had a BF years ago who gave me this really pretty bracelet that was gold plated. I wore it and it put a welt on my wrist. It was painful even.
I cannot even handle the button on my jeans. I have to make sure I have undies that go that high or tuck my shirt in, it is that bad. Once I had a pair of sandals and I was allergic to the buckle. That was awful too.
I am wearing white socks
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Wearing panties sure does not make
my feeling of security. Under PJs?? You don’t sleep with a teddy bear still, do you?
Have you tried wearing Crocs? I love them! nm
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Yeah my DD just turned 9 and has been wearing 5s - sm
now for a few months. I wear a 7 and can actually squeeze into her a a pair of her open-ended sandels. She has always been in the 95th percentile for height and weight, but is slowing down some, now at about 88%.
If they are wearing bras at 5, it will be thongs at 10
makeup at 12, and birth control pills at 14. How about these unbelievable salon parties some of these mothers are doing for their 8 and 10 year old girls; taking all the girls to the salon to have the hair and makeup and nails done. Today, just about everyone is a ''wannabe''. I want to be rich; I want to be beautiful; I want to be famous; I want to have big boobs; I want perfect teeth. I want a nose job. I want to be thin. I want a designer handbag. I want a cell phone, an IPOD and a blackberry! Why, because everyone that matters is or does! Everyone they look up to. Everyone on TV! That is all they know.
Ask a group of very young girls today what they want to be when they grow up and see how many say, a singer, an actress, a movie star or just plain rich and famous in any way possible! It's terribly sad what this world has turned into. And some parents are just as bad because they want this for their children, also.
TV and media magazines should be banned; it's not only destroying the kids but adults also. How many of you feel your self-esteem lowering more and more by seeing all of this stuff? How many of you have contemplated plastic surgery, veneers, teeth whitening, losing weight, especially in the last ten years? How many of you suddenly are feeling bad or envious of others because you don't have that big gorgeous home or that expensive great car?
It's a horrible world we now live in and that's why I am not having children.
And don't tell me I don't know about children because I have two nieces and a nephew that I practically raised.
Good day ;)
I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
Is anybody wearing green today?
I forgot, but when my kid tried to pinch me (oh brother), we realized I had a green coffee cup and some green lines in my shirt. HA. So, do you care about this green stuff? Frankly I care about the green in my wallet, so I am typing more than thinking about green beer today. LOL. Happy St. Patty's Day! (green face icon)
About the same time he starts wearing a bra . . . NM
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wearing your heart on your sleeve
I too have spent too much time thinking about this. From your post, your description of your daughter's intelligence and your own dismay at the rudeness of these people, I can only come to one conclusion.....You are hanging around people less intelligent than you are. Not figuratively, but IQ. You are sensitive, they are obtuse.
However, I have also discovered that the people who use a simple "hello" as currency to give or take away, are broke. The worst snobs in my neighborhood are broke and don't want anyone to know. They try to hide their financial status, but you don't so you are scary.
I have been treated the worst by the mean and stupid. Think about what a breath of fresh air your daughter is to that little boy. I am glad you went to the party.
You wearing a bra ? What kind of underwear and color ?
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Ok then, is it just me or did y'all see that girdle thing she was wearing?
Like a long-leg body shaper or something.
And guests have been wearing colors, etc. for too long
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Been wearing Tova for 15 years and LOVE it!
I receive lots of compliments that I simply *smell good, * not *what perfume are you wearing?* Works for me!
No, but I do have a new pair of shoes I've been wearing a lot (sm)
I was kind of wondering if they might have caused it. I think I will just stop wearing them and see what happens.
Thank you
It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
Afternoon or evening ceremony? What is the other mom wearing? What looks good on you?
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I don't know about you, but if I could look like Tina Turner at her age, wearing the silver suit,
I would not complain. Yeah, she is a little bit slower, but her legs still look great and she can still strut her stuff in what looked like 4-inch heels.
My 7-year-old girl is now wearing a size 6 ladies shoe...sm
I'm afraid to try to guess how much that foot is going to grow before she gets to high school! She's also 2 heads taller than the kids in her class.
i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age.
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