Potty Trouble
Posted By: My3Boys on 2006-11-09
In Reply to: Ok mommies (& even daddies if you're out there).. - (sm)
Was reading the board tonight and just wanted to share my experience with you about my son (who is now 18). He was also a very independent, smart, could do anything kid, but refused to potty train. However, he really wanted to go to "school". After explaining that they did not let kids into school who still went to the bathroom in their pants, he informed me that he would starting wearing his big boy pants and going to the big boy potty once he started school and by gosh that is what he did. Stubborn as all get out! Your daughter sounds a lot like him...used to hide to have his bm and could have cared less about wearing dirty diapers or pull-ups (I cannot remember, but I don't think they were available yet). Anyway, I got a lot a grief from many friends and especially family about this. He was my first child and it really stressed me out, but he took care of it on his own in good time. I am not sure whether you can try something like this with your daughter such as a special place that she might like to go or the all time favorite...a bribe. Whatever happens, it will work itself out in the long run. Just remember not to get too stressed about it and take it all in stride and do not worry about what other people say. My son is now a terrific young adult who has been wearing his big boy pants for a long time and has suffered no severe mental setbacks that I can tell ( ) from all the pleading and begging his father and I did. Sorry so long, but I worried so much about this and frankly I could kick myself now since there were so many other huge issues that we would be facing later on. She will get it....hang in there.
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potty trouble
Just like when a pacifier mysteriously disappears, you can hide the pullups and act like you ran out. She may suggest buying more, but conveniently, the store will be out of her size. She won't tolerate going in panties nearly as well as the pullups at her age. You may have more laundry, but if you stick to it, she'll come around. To avoid the pullups at night (so she doesn't catch on), use rubber sheets and avoid late drinking. Continue with the praise, rewards, and all the other methods simultaneously. If she's able to hold her poop that long, with the right foods, she'll be less able to put it off (of course, I don't mean give the poor thing diarrhea). It's just that children tend to be on the constipated side according to my pediatrician, so that might be partly why she can go so long. Make sure she eats plenty of veggies and put her on the potty at the same time daily, preferably in the morning after breakfast or warm milk, cocoa, etc.
That could have been me re: potty training
My daughter is almost 3-1/2 and she's doing everything your daughter is doing and I'm at my wits end. She can't get into preschool until she's potty trained (I wanted her to go a couple hours a day for two day). I've tried absolutely everything. Taking things away, bribes, offering her incentives (if you use the potty like a big girl we'll redo your room), and on and on, and nothing. I felt like I was the only one who was having these issues. I've tried no pullups also. Nothing works. She'll sit on the potty and as soon as she gets off she'll pee on the floor. She's just very stubborn. You can tell she knows what she's supposed to do, she just doesn't "want to" (her words). (Sorry so long).
potty train
My older son, we let him in the house all day naked. He hated to be naked and that did the trick. Now, i am try to train my almost 3 year old. He uses the potty alot but it not consistent. We put on big boy underwear and he seems more aware not to go in his pants but we still have accidents. We set the timer every hour and have him go. If he is outside playing though an accident. We got him one of those little seats to put on the big potty. I never used a potty chair (as i wasn't going to clean it LOL). My daughter was alot eaiser, actually i had her doing #2 on the potty before #1, very strange I know. I also use bribery. Candy is a good thing when potty training. I know my almost 3 year old does not seem all that ready and more immature than my older boy was at this age but still have to try. He will go when he wants to and hops on the potty himself at times during the day its just the consistency that gets me. Good LUck to both of us, LOL! Please feel free to email me directly if you wish.
potty training
With both my children, 1 boy and 1 girl, we used stickes and once they had an entire line full they got a small prize. With my son he still slept in pull-ups and he always woke up wet and I figured out it was becuase he knew it was okay. Put him in underware and that stopped almost immediately. I was determined to train my daughter before we went to Disney World....big mistake. she was trained but when she had to go there was no waiting, even if we had stood in line for a ride for 45 minutes we had skip the ride and go straight to the restroom. Plus, didn't want her sitting on the potty...boy did I learn my lesson.
Potty training
I have a boy and a girl, I bribed them both! It works. My daughter loves jelly beans so we got a small gumball machine and filled it with jelly beans. When she would go in the toilet, she got to turn the handle and get her treat. My son did not care about candy, so we used matchbox cars with him (for #2). I guess bribe her with something she REALLY likes. Dollar store toys work well too! Good luck.
Well, maybe they are terrified of the potty chair because we
missed the window of opportunity to teach them when they are younger. Here's just one of many articles on the topic:
http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Potty-Training/Article-Cleveland-Plain-Dealer.htm
And a Google search with words like "disposable diapers" "American" "late potty training" will turn up lots more information along this vein.
People seem to think that training children early is cruel. But there are gentle techniques for teaching continence, and we need only be in tune with the signals children give. The later age of toilet training indisputably correlates to the introduction and widespread use of disposables in this country. Did you know that Dr. T. Berry Brazelton signed on as a spokesman with Proctor and Gamble back in the 1960's? He was paid a lot of money to promote disposables.
Disposables are a big business in this country. Advertising and time have erased the memory of a time when most American children were trained by age 2. It can be done. It takes a little patience, knowledge of gentle techniques, and lots of praise. Children do tell you when they are ready to train, but these days people don't know the the nonverbal cues that children give us. Instead, we wait for children to stand up, walk over and say, "I'm quite finished with using diapers from this point forward."
The tide is slowly turning again, however. Perhaps your grandchildren will be toilet trained at 18 months as more and more people discover that it's far easier to train a younger child than it is an older one. The older child has basically unlearned an unconscious thing. Most people will accept that it's easier to learn a new language when we're younger rather than older. It's exactly the same for toileting.
potty training puppy
Please do not and I will repeat that DO NOT potty train your puppy using the crate method unless you do not work at home and will not be home for 8-10 hours every single day. I have had many dogs in my life and crate training is crate training and potty training is potty training. Yes, you want the pup to know that the crate is his safe place and yes if you cannot keep an eye on him you will want to put him there but first think about these questions....after he goes outside and pees do you let him have a drink? Do you play with him thereby making hime excited? Either of these things will cause a pup to go pee again even though they just went. It could also be submissive peeing and if you dont make a big deal about it, he should out grow it; however, if you check for drinking and playing and this does not seem to be submissive then the next time you go to the vet mention it to them. My friend's pup did this until she was fixed and the vet had a reason why it happened(even did it in her sleep) and she did out grow it and is much better.
And there is no real time table for saying a pup should be totally housebroken and accident free. I always say within the first six months, it is your fault and up until a year, an accident can happen. Yes, btw, I have had pups that were trained within 6 weeks or less of coming home; however, I did have a boxer that honestly took six months before she really got the idea. Also I suggest bells on a string/yarn etc and hung from the door knob and when we ask them if they have to go potty or you are taking them out, stop and jingle the bells and say something about going potty. I and my friends have used this method and it seems to help them get the hint too about the door being the way to get to go potty.
Best of luck
Potty training question. SM
I'm a grandma. My daughter toilet trained herself at 18 months. Now her daughter is 3 and is potty trained as far as #1, but will only go #2 in a diaper. She will cry until daughter puts diaper on her and then she goes to the bathroom in diaper. I suggested she not change diaper immediatly, since she is very tidy and maybe will not like wearing dirty diaper. That is the only time she wears one.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
potty training puppy
Of course not. I guess I should have been more blunt about saying that you should not confine a pup to a crate and call it potty training or be foolish enough to say that by locking it in a crate that it is potty trained.
Potty training puppy
I just got a new puppy yesterday. It was a stray that someone put up on craig's list. It looks as though she was abused by her previous owner because she is so shy and scared around my husband (she does not like men), but is not that way with me. In fact, she follows me around all day long. I can't even go to the bathroom! lol She is peeing everywhere. What are your tips on potty training a dog. I do not want to scold her because she is already very shy and afraid. And what about tips on when I am trying to work. If I do not give her attention for a short while, she starts to whine. It is like having a baby here. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
Any ideas on potty training a 2-year-old boy? sm
I have 2 girls and they were so easy to train (no joke, one day tops). My son on the other hand, well, I'm afraid I will have to go to school to change him  We bought him a potty chair and he is terrified of it. He just turned two, but when my girls were his age they were already trained. I've always heard boys were harder to train....any help would be appreciated!!
Question about potty training puppies...
Please no one poke fun at my question... I have never potty trained a puppy before and have a few questions. I have a 12 week old Corgi boy named Cody.
How long does it take to potty train a dog. Is it 6 months or longer or should he have the idea down for the most part by age 3 months?
The one thing that I do not understand is why after I take him outside, he will go pee (it seems like he is completely emptying his bladder), I will praise right away, then we go back inside and 5 minutes later he dribbles on the carpet. I'm sure this is normal, but I am not sure what to do about it. Should I put him back in his pet crate immediately?
I know there are a lot of dog experts on this board... I appreciate any advice you can give.
Thanks! Melissa (and Cody)
It is Lent so I am being honest - potty mouth without the kids.....sm
in private, I let RIP at times, it just feels good and releases a lot of tension, and of course right after I say a "forgive me god," which is so hypocritical, but he made me Latin and with a simmering temper, so what else can I say. Never in front of kids, my elders, mainly alone.
My 2-year-old twins are potty trained. (1 wears pull-ups at night).
nm
Have you ever had trouble with your
bones just aching and thought something else and come to find out you did not have enough calcium and once supplemented, the pain stopped? Has anyone been so deficient in calcium that this actually happened? Thanks.
Trouble is.
That I think they believe her that they cannot do anything without her. I think she just loves to bully. It gives her some sort of power or something. I think that is why she kept insisting she look after my kids while I work. Normally I am a submissive type that is a target for bullys but when it comes to my precious girls, I draw the line. I have become better and taking up for myself and especially my babies. She had some ugly things to say about me too from what I understand when I told her no that the girls and I were happy with the child care they were receiving at the daycare.
I have been wondering, if I called the CPS if they would make the parents put the children in a regular daycare or something better then what they are getting. She still feeds that 2 year-old and insists that the DIL still feed that 2 yo baby food because Aunt does not want and is not going to cook. DH told me that when I left the room that she told the little boy that he was going to get a dose of Tylenol because she needed to get some sleep. It is a shame that she treats him like he is a burden.
The only way you could get in trouble with the IRS sm
Is if that person worked ONLY for you. A lot of people try to pass their full-time housekeepers off as IC because they don't want to bother with the taxes. Those are the people who get into trouble. That person is an employee, not an IC. But if they work for other people as well, they are an IC and responsible for their own taxes.
If you have that much trouble trying to....
communicate when you're trying to buy something off her, imagine how bad it will be if there are problems later and you are unhappy with the product. I would just go to some other place.
I'm not sure I want to know what trouble that may be LOL - NM
NM
What do you do when your child gets in trouble?
Spank/Swat
Time Out
Natural Consequences (ie, if they won't stop throwing food, then lunch is over, or if they run away while you're out, it's time to go home)
Re-direction (ie, trying to get your child to focus on something else)
Other (possibly a combination of methods or something else entirely)
When I had trouble, it felt like a really...sm
sharp, hard pinch along my sternum. I was given Motrin. I did have a workup first before the doctor decided on costochondritis - EKG, treadmill, echo. I do have mitral valve prolapse.
Arm hair trouble
It seems like over the last several years the hair on my forearms has gotten darker and darker. I'm so self-conscious about it, I feel like it makes me nice and mannish looking :(
Here's my question: would it help to put hydrogen peroxide on my arm hair everyday? Bleaching is such a hassle for a large area like that, and I don't have the money now for laser removal. I think hydrogen peroxide lightens hair, but would it make a noticeable difference on my arms?
anyone have trouble with their neighbors...????
beginning to wonder if there could be anything worse to have to put up with. I have been dealing badly with these people for almost 2 years now and am in the process of remodling to sell out and find a better spot to live. my neighbor is going down hill quick. what used to be the all american suburb, has turned into trash neighbors...sorry had to vent!!!!
Well, guess I am in trouble then because
my housekeeper who has been with me exclusively for the past say 15 years or so only works for me. No taking out of taxes, all under-the-table, how if she never does taxes, pray tell, will the IRS know???
I'm in a world of trouble, then
because all my grandparents with the exception of my maternal grandmother deceased before I was born. I am now in my 60s and have actually made it this far without knowing any of their history. What is a lady to do?
Daughter In Trouble
I wish you, your daughter, and your family well. I mean that sincerely. You need advice from an attorney -- not from a lot of us speculating on a web site. I worked in child abuse for many years before MT work. It is doubtful (my opinion only) that you will be successful in bringing charges against this young man because of the age of consent of your daughter. She was not raped; she had sexual relations with him willingly. IF you are successful - please be prepared for the price you are going to make your daughter pay. She will have to testify at his trial and the defense attorney will make her look like the worst XXX in the world. It will be horrible for her - at best. Please think long and hard about what you are about to do to your daughter.
I would keep the lines of communication open and drop it. You will be so sad if you put your daughter through this only to find that -at most- the boyfriend will receive probation. Remember my words, "Being a winner does NOT mean you win." Sometimes the cost is very, very high Mom.
Been There As A Prosecution Witness 1,000,000 Times and now an MT because of it.
Lilly
Trouble concentrating
Just wondering if anyone else suffers from SAD and has trouble concentrating this time of year. I am losing my motivation to do anything (besides eat). Any helpful suggestions would be appreciated. The shorter days are really starting to affect my drive. I'm usually very energetic and upbeat. Just have the blahs.
Second at 36. I didn't have much trouble sm
keeping up with them. They make you young again, take you back to playful times. I agree, have always looked 10 years young than my age.
Most of my friends had kids much earlier, had no education, no idea which way was up. Somehow, they all turn out ok. Something to be said for your mothers, and older mothers, too.
In my expeirence, the older mother know much more about the ins and outs of applying for financial aid and college than do the younger mothers. Been there, done, that, and all of that. Worked for mine. Graduated NYU in 2005 and is well onto her way to great career..
What would you do? School trouble.
We moved here to Texas about 2 years ago and have never had any to deal with the kids and school behavioral issues before, but my 14-year-old daughter apparently just had her 5th tardy to a class (she's a talker and I can easily see how's she's distracted getting from locker to classroom) and was given a choice in school today of ISS (in-school-suspension) or take swats.
Swats? I had no idea they still spanked kids at school. Didn't that stop happening about 20 years ago? I talked to one mom earlier and apparently in Texas it's still legal and she didn't think twice about it and said her own kids had been paddled in school and she thought it was just fine.
It's not that I'm trying to get my daughter out of her punishment, but apparently since I didn't sign a "paddling permission" slip, she has to choose the school suspension thing. Though she brought the slip for me to sign tonight if I choose. She apparently actually wants the swats because she says that's what all the other kids do and (quote) it doesn't hurt. She says she doesn't want to miss class anyway and it's dumb to miss classes if she doesn't have to.
While I agree with her on the missing class part, I can't help but wonder what the point of a punishment of a paddling is IF it the kids say it doesn't hurt AND they choose it instead of in-school suspension. It seems so barbaric. Do they really think smacking the kids with a piece of wood is going to keep them in line? I suppose it worked when we were kids but I thought our society was past that now.
So I'm just wondering what you all would do (need opinions). As I said, I talked with one mom tonight that said just go ahead and let her be paddled, it's no biggy. I asked my daughter if she thinks that will keep her from being so chit-chatty and not making it to class on time and she just shrugged her shoulders. How can the kids be so calm about the whole thing?
I hate parenting sometimes! So do I sign the "no paddling" slip or not? 
Used to be in you got into trouble at school,
expect more of the same or worse when you got home. I do not consider abuse at all, good children then unlike the ones now.
Trouble with incontinence, anyone else?
I have been taking some medication for incontinence, basically has not worked, gotten severe and unable to control. My question to you is if you have had and what steps have been taken to control it. Thanks.
Well, now I know why Lindsay is always in trouble. sm
From the words of Dina Lohan herself: "It was very tastefully done," Dina tells PEOPLE of the photos, a recreation of Marilyn Monroe's legendary 1962 photo shoot shot by Bert Stern. "I respect the photographer as an artist, so I look at them artistically. For him to call Lindsay 46 years later and to say can you recreate these photos is an honor. I looked at it as art, and as Lindsay doing a character. So I don't look at them like it's Playboy; she was being a character. So if you look at it that way, you can look at it as a mother."
And Dina adds that had the photos been inappropriate, Lindsay's sister Ali would not have visited the set. "Trust me," Dina tells PEOPLE, "I wouldn't have sent my 14-year-old to the set [if the shoot was in bad taste]. And obviously Lindsay wouldn't do anything with her sister there, that was risqué."
What a joke! I don't care what icon - I would never encourage or be okay with my daughters ever doing that!!
This country is definitely in trouble....
IMHO, many people have blinders on. Still buy like crazy, charge everything, drive brand new cars with big monthly payments, have all the toys, new everything and then only pay minimums on their CC payments or miss a house payment or two and think everyone lives that way. People need to learn how to save money, plain and simple. DH and I both work, make just over six figures, have only the house payment, cars paid for (not new ones but don't care to impress anyone with our cars), no CC debt, gas prices aren't hurting us too much and we can still take nice vacations 2-3 times a year. Most people these days live like there is no tomorrow, don't bother to save for retirement, try to keep up with the Jones' and are miserable. We make a nice living, live well within our means and are content. Do we want new things...sure, but we pay cash for what we want. Nothing irks me more than when someone charged to the hilt on credit cards complains that the debt collectors are calling them because they are behind in payments. Most people whould be able to ride out a recession if they had some money in the bank.
no..asking for trouble, especially if she is the only girl!
And please, no one comment on how THEIR daughter is so good and would never do anything wrong, how you have to trust kids and give them their space, or state that this is a different time than when we were young. 90% of 16 year olds are ridiculously immature. Oh, and even good girls get pregnant, drink and take drugs, even if they are on the honor roll, have a part time job and help around the house. Be a good mother and say no...you don't have to justify your decision..you are the mother.
I had trouble believing - sm
My daughter was four when we moved into our house and within months she was insisting she was seeing lights, orbs, etc. I admit I heard footsteps but told myself I was hearing things. Anyway she eventually, about 3-4 years later,had actually seen and knew the names of two - spirits? ghosts? I was still skeptical - overactive imagination, etc, until she and I saw something in our living room at the same time that I could not explain any other way about two years ago. She's 16 now. Yeah, I would believe.
PS - my philosophy about most kid behaviors like wanting to sleep with parents has always been - somewhere between now and college she'll stop . . sucking her thumb, crawling in bed with me, get potty trained, etc, etc, etc. It puts things in perspective. And here we are on the brink of college and the only thing left is she's asking me to tuck her in at night. I'll do that till the night she gets a husband to take that delightful task over for me!
Trouble with daughter
Sounds like the girl is crying for help, but mom is shacked up with her boyfriend and doesn't want her daughter to mess up her meal ticket. How sad.
anybody else have trouble with vasovagal
i had another spell this morning. the doctors don't seem to know what to do to help. ANybody else have this problem?
Anyone every let someone use their address for ? and gotten into trouble?
My husband just called me and said his nephew who moved to our state from another a few months ago got a ticket. The nephew said he wanted to use our address which my gulliable husband said yes to. This nephew, by the way, has a place to live (think he is in a rented place) and I find it strange he is not able to receive what he needs at his own address. I am very upset over this and am going to tell the nephew when I see him no to his request. I do not want to try and skirt by any legal issues, thereby possibly putting myself into a mess. Anyone had any trouble with anything like this before?
Dizziness - anyone have trouble with this after transcribing all day?
Or anyone know of any help for this? The more I transcribe, the worse it is.
rosie might be in trouble if he sues her.
but i agree with her...why is he involved in MISS USA anyway? does he own it??? cuz, he like she said does not have a good track record for role models.
My child got in trouble at school.
I need some opinions from other moms. My little 5-year old dd got in trouble at school and was put in time-out. First, she was talking to her other friends during a movie that they were watching, then she was talking and playing during nap time. She did not get to go skating or get ice cream like we usually do on Saturday nights. We went to Lowes to get some things for the house and she found a book that she wanted, I told her no because she acted up in school. That has been her punishment so far. I am thinking about having her go apologize to the teacher Monday for acting so ugly Friday or would that be too much?
She has been in daycare since 1 year of age and last September she went to Pre-K. This is the first time anyone has mentioned having any problems with her. The night before my 15 month old kept us up all night and I know with my 5 year old doesn’t get enough sleep she does act up and I feel that was the real problem, she was tired.
Can it really cause trouble from inside a purse?
I'd rather be barked at then sprayed with cologne, but then I reeeeally like dogs. In some countries they are allowed to come inside restaurants. Fun.
We have the same trouble with ants in the summer.
around the areas you think they are coming in. The only thing is if you have a small child, this may pose a risk of them getting into if you place it low enough. You could also try sprinkling it outside around your home.
I am sooo glad to see this...sorry you had trouble but...sm
I took it for 1.5 days and started getting odd, painful muscle spasms in the back of one thigh. I looked it up and saw that was not only a side effect but apparently a serious side effect, so called the doc to get something else. He had never heard of that reaction!! I still refused to take it and got something else. Then had to go to a specialist for different problem. I asked him about that side effect with Cipro, and he had never heard of it. I know they think I'm nuts, but I know that's what it was. The spasm frequency slowed one day after stopping Cipro, but it didn't quit entirely for several days. I won't ever take it again.
I've tried a lot of paper and it still has trouble.
nm
Trouble staying awake - what do you do?? (nm)
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You can get in trouble for spanking with an object...
I'm not against spanking when appropriate, but I used to work as a legal secretary and saw people get child abuse charges for spanking with belts. I think if you use a bare hand it is legal, but the law probably varies from state to state. Just wanted to warn you!
Trouble with your bowels or sex life???
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i'd try going to an internist/trouble shooters.
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Then to stay there is only inviting trouble
I would live in a 1 room apt before I would put up with this circus. How much is peace of mind worth? She is enabling him to drive her crazy by living on his property. Nothing worth that much.
ahem...Kelly Ripa ALSO has trouble...nm
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