Poll here- my husband is 10 years younger but would you date
Posted By: Jennie on 2007-09-21
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someone who is about the same age as your child or have you ever? Watching Dr.. Phil today and seeing 38-year-old woman going with a friend of her sons who is 18. As for me until I married my husband, the only younger guy I had ever dated was only a year younger.
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My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
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Mine is four yrs younger, but no way would date some young
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Been with a man 13 years older, now with a man 4 years younger.
Younger is better, at least in my case ;)
I am in total agreement. 13 years old and wanting to date - no way!!..
One of the problems is, as a previous poster write, is DRAMA. Some girls live for the DRAMA (i come from a family of six girls). These kids (but not all) want to and in some ways are forced to grow up too danged fast and it can lead to life-long problems if they do not have a strong mom/dad or just an extended strong family support system. The media has played and contuinues to play a role in the evolution of our teenagers as well (MTV, etc). That is why it is important to keep these kids busy and involved in activities because it is helpful,. JMO..
I said already that I was much prettier and younger than my husband..nm
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Although I'm several years younger than you (47) I would
say that you are already working at your marriage. You keep the little spats from becoming big arguments, you have a good relationship with your husband, you trust each other, you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours. All of these things are what I consider working at marriage. Those who don't "work" on these things often end up divorced or miserable. Just thank God that you have a wonderful husband and a good marriage. I wouldn't worry too much about "working" on your marriage. Sounds like you're doing a good job of that already. 
24.... 10 years younger!!! nm
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How many years younger?
Mine is 10 and the best thing I have run across.
13 years younger and....
FABULOUS. I never thought I'd have so much in common with someone so much younger but he's turned out to be a definite keeper.
I think younger guys are the best thing around...They're definitely the best angi-aging remedy around, lol!!!
GO COUGARS!!! :)
I am 6.5 years younger than my DH - sm
I have a friend who was about 8 years younger, she warned me not to do it as her DH never wanted to go anywhere or so anything. My DH likes to stay home but likes to go out and do stuff too, so that is not an issue for us. My dad is 12 years older than my step-mom, so for it is working for them, will see what happens when he gets infirm. (74/62)
My son married girl 18 years younger..and
it's his third marriage and her second. He is around 18 years older than her. The problems you described started to show up in the second or third year, but they have gotten through that stage and they both now get along good and enjoy each other's differences...each one understanding and respecting the ways of the other and each one changing for the better. THis has been his longest relationship...six years. And they have similar interests and have fun together and are fun to be around.
5 years younger than DH, although have to act older because he's like a d#@n child...nm
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Not on a first date-ROFL!! May want to make that ANY date!
Ewwwwwww!
Because my husband did it once many years ago and has
never done it again. Decided it wasn't worth losing his family over. That was 26 years ago and we've both done a lot of growing up since then.
My husband has been doing it for about 5 years!
I don't know that much about it, but he has gotten a ton of free gifts from doing it!
my husband had them a few years ago
He was in a lot of pain. Had to keep them covered at all times because we have small children who have not chickenpox yet. He took Vicodin like they were candy. He couldn't sleep, couldn't get comfortable even sitting. He has them front and back on the same side. They usually do not cross over. If you work with food, make sure you wear gloves to avoid contamination, especially if you are cooking for more than yourself. Good luck. I hope they heal quickly and that you have minimal pain. I will keep you in my prayers.
Husband should have put a stop to this years ago.
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Husband had affair 13-14 years ago
It was with a co-worker. He told me about it in the fall 1993. He moved out. A couple of months later he moved back home and said it was over. Our kids were young then, 6 and 9, and the holidays were coming up which is probably why he moved back. Fast forward to the fall 1994. He comes out with that he never stopped seeing her, but now she was moving out of state and it really is over. In 1999, we moved to a different state (not the one she's in... I know where she went). Things seemed to be okay, at least the way they always have been. We even had a baby girl in late 2000. Husband switched jobs last year and I was finally getting around to cleaning out some boxes that he brought from the office. I found an envelope in there from the low life he cheated with with a Christmas card and some pictures postmarked 2006. The message said hope you and your family are fine. I finally found some pictures for you. I hope you like them, etc. They are mostly of her with her husband with family friends. I think it's her husband ... at least it was her husband's name back then I remember, because he had called me a couple of times back when it all went on.
Okay, so it's like 14 years after the fact. I thought it was something we had gotten past. The thing is, I had never seen what she looked like and now out of the blue I'm putting a face to the whole thing. Besides that it's bringing the whole thing back, the feelings, the betrayal, all of it, I'm also shocked that one or way another they have stayed in touch, even with us moving. Now I wonder again, is he really where he says he is when he's out?
Just wanted some opinions here. I'm just a mess right now and don't know whether to say anything or not.
Midnight shift husband for 18 years now......sm
It will get better....eventually. It took about 8 years for my hubby to realize I can't work midnights like him because we have two kids to raise.
Believe me, it is very difficult at times, but it does get better.
It might help if you have a calendar in full view for him to look at, so he knows what type of schedule you are on regarding work, kids activities, etc. Once he sees it in writing and realizes all the pressure that is on you, he may begin to understand.
Believe me, night shift is not easy for the marriage.
It takes great patience and understanding of both parties for it to succeed!
I sleep with my golden retriever at night now!
Do you LOVE your husband? Want to spend your golden years with him?? Drop this fantasy at
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How was your date? :) (nm)
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This will date me but
I won 2 dance contents actually, one in high school on a local television program and I won a sweater and around age 18 I won a dance contest at one of the night clubs (yes, that is right) around town and I won for dancing the Peppermint Twist and that is the name of the bottle of liquor I won, the Peppermint Twist and heavens knows who made that! If I were able to dance as much now as then, sure would keep that weight down!
Anyone have an up-to-date
Copy of the book "What To Expect When You're Expecting" that you'd be willing to give away? My DIL is pregnant and I think this would be a great resource of information for her. I'd pay to have you send it to me...Thanks ladies!
I'd never date at my age.
I'm 49. If I got involved now with a man, you're looking at taking care of someone in their old age. I don't think it's worth giving up my freedom...in exchange for what? Cooking, cleaning after someone, having to be responsible to someone. Ugh. Been there once for a long time. No desire to do it again. At this age, men are only looking for someone to take care of them.
I'll stick to hanging out with my kids, grandkids, and with the girls.
Help with play date
About a month ago my I took my 5 yo swimming and invited one of her friends and her mom. The two girls played for a good 2 hours until another one of dd close friends showed up so she started playing with him. Well this upset dd little girl friend and she came to me saying "dd won't play with me. make her play with me. " I called dd over and said that we invited suzie over so introduce her to Joe and you all three play together. This just upset dd and made her mad at suzie. I was not sure what to do but suzie's mom said it was time to go anyway so they left.
Well, just yesterday MIL took me and dd golfing. DD met another friend and together they played. The went across the street to the playground then a friend of the other little girl showed up. Well, the other little girl dropped dd and started playing with her little friend. DD got upset adn said sandy won't play with me. I said well, I image you're feeling what Suzie felt when Joe came to the pool. DD just sat there mad. MIL said Introduce yourself to the other little girl. DD did not want to do that. Then MIL said well lets go play on the slide. DD went and played but she was still upset, she walked up to Sandy and said "I am not playing with you anymore not even at school." Sandy replys, "That is okay, I have a sister to play with." MIL told dd not to talk to Sandyl that she wasn't worth it and out loud too. (Luckily Sandy's parents were not there). I just said Oh MIL. I started talking to Sandy. I asked her if she was ready for school. Sandy and I had a nice little conversation. It kind of broke the tension between them. I am sure all is forgotten by now.
I was just wondering how other parents handle these situations. TIA
only if he is rich.......but really I would not date - sm
a guy more than a few years younger. I did date a few guys younger 2-5 years which I realized later was a big mistake (in my 20s). My DH is about 7 years older and works out well.
Did you date very long?
Since you are afraid to talk to him alone, see if you can get him to see a marriage counselor with you. If this marriage is going to end, the sooner you can move on with your life the better.
Blind Date
Blind date arranged by a mutual acquaintance.
Married less than 6 months after we met. 9 years end of next month.
Blind date. :) nm
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Would you ... date or marry someone ...
Simple questions .......
Would you ever date/marry.....
someone who is less educated than yourself?
someone of a different race?
someone whose parent's are divorced?
someone who has bad credit or alot of bad debt?
someone who is overweight or obese?
someone who affliates or supports a different political party than yourself?
someone who is rude to customer service staff?
someone who talks a longtime on their cell phone when you are eating?
someone who enjoys a different genre of music?
someone who does not enjoy the same leisure activities as yourself?
someone who is a very picky eater or someone who is a vegeterian/vegan and you are not?
someone who prefers to spend leisure time alone or with friends (without you)?
These questions had me testing my own dating/marriage limits...
Here's a new poll for ya...
Let's get down to the nitty gritty and be honest....Bras or no bras while working from home....javascript:editor_insertHTML('text',' ');
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Can I do a little poll
For those of you who have been so unfortunate to go through an M/C or a termination, could you tell me how long it took to get a period after the M/C or termination, and also how far along you were in that pregnancy?
Just curious here. The doctor said 4-6 weeks, and I'm really hoping my body will cooperate!
to poll
Why didn't you give your opinion of Europeans?
BTW, most of us have European ancestors. That's a no brainer.
And it did look like you were picking a fight. I'm glad no one fell for it.
I have a standing breakfast date...
every Thursday morning with 3 friends. Weekends are mostly family time. My oldest son always comes home from school on Friday night, so we Netflix. This weekend, we were supposed to play paintball, but it doesn't look like the weather is going to cooperate.
Yoohoo? MT who had date with doc? Pls. share! NM
You can probably make-up a date to see a lawyer
because marriage is based on truth. Just tell him you are done! End of story. If he catches you in a lie, that could spell trouble. JMO. 
Take photos yourself with date stamp
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not a date thing but still embarrassing
while at a small get togther at a friend's house i was trying to sneak up on the host and take a surprise picture of her all evening. I finally tried to seize a moment when she had her back turned to me. Looking into the camera and concentrating I crept up on her quitely...doing soo well until...I forgot she had been loading dishes and walked into and fell onto the open dishwasher door. Everybody laughed so hard. needless to say I didn't get the picture!!!
they have a date list on the IRS website
If you go over to http://www.irs.gov you can check on when you should get your money. They also have a spot somewhere on there where you can check to see how much you should be getting. You should get your check based on the last two numbers of the main social security number, the bigger the number, the later your check will come.
The common date here in Oz is 1 December,
and then everything down on 6 January. I can't imagine not having a tree until Christmas Eve.
Check the expiration date.
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On a date at the drive-in and got in the wrong car
Went to the bathroom and when I came back started to get into a car. Kept wondering why my friend who was also on a date in a car 2 cars away she and her boyfriend were waving their hands wildly yelling no, no. Opened the door and sat in the seat another girl was occupying. Started yelling at my boyfriend cos I thought he had picked up another girl until they said "whose Steve?"
Drive-ins.....okay that goes back to the 70s.
No, to date one can CHOOSE one's treatment.
nobody can force a treatment on you.
The mother has the son's trust, otherwise he would have stayed with the father.
Obviously the father wants to subject the son to this chemo, therefore mother & son ran away.
This boy is going through he** durin this chemo treatment and his mother looks for a less aggressive, accepteable one.
I hope they make it to Mexico...
Pet owner poll: sm
Do any of you feel that the monthly one-spot flea and tick preventions are hazardous to your pets' health?
Between my best friend and me, we had 6 dogs. Since June, 3 of them developed cancers, 2 of whom died. The common denominator is Frontline. Her dog was only 4, and my 2 were 10 and 8. Her dog had a leiomyosarcoma. Mine had squamous cell sarcoma and the other had undifferentiated giant cell sarcoma. We both live in Florida where fleas and ticks can be a big problem.
Two other friends claim they don't give their dogs these preventatives because they were told they were poisonous to dogs, the advice coming from holistic vets.
What are your thoughts and experiences, and where do you live?
Thanks.
Poll: How many of you have a My Space?
I do.
Ok, lets take a poll, how many out there
EVER saw any evidence prior to today of her shaking, trembling, picking at bugs in the air, whatever -NEVER. Let her get some medical help through the court system.
I do Harris Poll
They give you points for surveys and you can spend them on whatever you want. I've gotten a weed whacker and a walkman...I think a couple other things as well.
Poll questions...
1. What ages are your kids?
13 and 8 (boy/girl).
2. Do they have their own cell phone?
13-year-old just got cell phone last September. 8-year-old does not have one. He's been responsible with the cell phone, and I like him having it in case I need him right away as he skateboards a lot outside with his friends in the neighborhood.
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these: Both of my children have TVs in their room. They watch it mostly in the evening hours when they are settling down for bed. The computer they use is centrally based and my husband mainly monitors that one with the parental controls.
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this?
They do not get a regular allowance. I'm fortunate in that they really don't ask for much as they get what they want for their birthday or Christmas. However, I will on occasion get them something special if we are out and about "doing my deliveries" and they are with me. My son has to take care of the trash throughout the house twice a week. My daughter has no chores. I want them to focus on school and just being kids. I was made to do chores from the time I was 5 due to my mother's legs (she had severe arthritis), and I was not always allowed to go places for this reason. I figure in due time they'll have their own homes. They watch me and will help if asked, but have no specific chores to do.
Poll answers
1. What ages are your kids?
15 and 7 (girls)
2. Do they have their own cell phone?
15-year-old does, 7-year-old no.
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these:
Neither one has a TV in their room. They share a computer that is located in a place where we can monitor them. They ask permission before getting on and are usually allowed to be on for no longer than hour. Homework has to be finished first though.
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this?
Yes both receive monthly allowances. Yes, they have chores they must do to earn their allowance.
Oldest daughter (15) gets $100 a month, 10% goes to church and 10% goes to savings. The rest is hers to budget for lunch, entertainment, and clothes.
Youngest daughter (7) gets $10. Same deal as the older one -- 10% goes to church and 10% goes into savings. What is left is hers to spend (usually a Webkinz or will save up for a new Nintendo DS game).
Answers to poll
Favorite job: Being a staff writer on a weekly newspaper in Princeton, NJ. Did not pay well, but I got enough to live and have pocket money, pay rent, etc. Got to meet a lot of interesting people and interview. My stories ran in the paper, and my job was very flexible, I was single and worked all kinds of hours. Those days I actually lived a dream because I was not in it for money. Or, I should say I made enough to be happy and my job made me happy too.
Worst job was when I was an artist painting faces at Disney in Florida. I thought it would be great. It was the hardest job I ever had. I only lasted 1 day and worked 12 hours and did not even get paid because I was a temp and I did not return after the 1 day. It was a million degrees outside, it seemed (I just moved to Fla from up north), and I never sat down or even had a glass of water in all those hours. I had to smile 110% of the time (that is actually a rule at Disney, you could get in trouble for frowning), and the tourists always wanted more (I know they paid for it, but the line was really long and I only was allowed to spend so much time on each person). This was indeed a dream job, but truly the most difficult job I ever had, and therefore my least favorite.
It's the Thursday Fun-Poll !!!! YAY!
 Let's see how alike or different we all are!
Chronological Age: 55
Physical Age: 30
Emotional Age: 12
What State: CA
How you like being an MT: Eh, it's [barely] a living.
What you like/dislike about it: I like to type, but I hate being poor.
Favorite Food: Hamburgers.
Favorite Spectator Sport(s): Figure skating.
Most fun you ever had in your life: Exploring London & Oslo on foot.
One of your worst experiences: Breaking my leg at the top of the mountain while skiing, and having to hop all the way down on one leg because the ski-patrol blew right by me, and didn't even stop to help.
Funniest experience: Getting my fanny-pack caught in a chairlift seat at Squaw Valley, and going clear around the bullwheel before the stoned-out liftie realized what was wrong. Then, mortified, having to jump 6 or 8 feet to the ground while the liftie & others laughed. (Find paper bag. Cover head with it. Ski away fast!)
Best pet you ever had: A dog-pound dog I adopted in 1973. She was my sidekick for 4 years, before getting killed by a car. She understood English, so you had to s-p-e-l-l some things in her presence. She was psychic - always knew what I was thinking. She went everywhere with me: Hikes, horseback rides, long car trips, motels, other people's houses, the Renaissance Faire, art shows, concerts, etc. My mom considered her to be my sister.
Funnest job you ever had: I was a temp for Kelly Girl, and got to work for 2 weeks at an architect's firm located high in the mountains above Malibu Beach. Lots of young, cute guys worked there. Every day at lunch, we all changed into shorts, set up a volleyball court in the parking lot, and played volleyball for an hour!
Weirdest job you ever had: Worked (also as s temp) at a toilet-factory in Van Nuys. The people there were all so high-drama about that place, that I had to stifle giggles more than a few times. I also used to do saddle-repairs and bridle-making. Also got paid to drive motor homes for people who were scared to drive them.
When you win the Big Lottery, you will: Quit my job! (duh...) Buy a small house somewhere, maybe up in Lake Tahoe, preferably with a tennis court in the back. Will remove the net, and turn it into a private roller rink. Will make it "flood-able" for winter, so I can ice-skate in my own backyard. Will maybe get a pet chinchilla. Will travel frequently, especially back to London. Will own a season pass to not one, but several ski areas. Will become more involved in animal rescue.
Your favorite musical group(s): Pussycat Dolls (various); Sundogs (swamp-rock boogie); Red Elvises (Siberian surf-rock); Trans-Siberian Orchestra (orchestral rock); Michael Franti & Spearhead (various, reggae, etc.); Grateful Dead (various).
Latest pet peeve: Obnoxious skateboarders.
Favorite News Anchor: Brian Williams. (What a cutie!)
Favorite past Sat. Nite Live comedian: Gilda Radner
Favorite current Sat. Nite Live comedian: Kristin Whig... (her "Penelope" character has me ROTFL.)
Favorite Sports Hero(s): Apollo Anton Ono (short-track speed skater), Johnny Mosely (freestyle skier), Peggy Fleming (ice skater), and Joe Montana (and I don't even like football!)
Most disliked sports figure(s): Barry Bonds, and all those other 'roid junkies. OJ Simpson is no prize, either.
I cook / don't cook because: If God had intended for me to cook, I would've been born with Teflon hands.
What you would replace in your house: My fridge. It's OLD. The freezer is not frost-free, and this most recent time I defrosted it, it had gotten SO small inside, that only 2 Swanson chicken pot-pies would fit in it.
Who did you look up to as a kid or teenager? One of my horseback-riding instructors. Not only taught us kids how to ride, but she also took groups of us on field trips to places like the Art Museum, the Ballet, historial spots in the city, movies, miniature golf, concerts, the 4th of July fireworks, etc. She practically raised some of us.
Did you pass the 1st time you took your driver's test? No. I forgot to look over my left shoulder when changing lanes, and he flunked me for that. I was sooooo embarrassed, I didn't go back to re-take it for several months!
Do you text when you drive? Haha.... I can't even text when I'm sitting in the living room! Them little buttons is 'way too small for me........
What you hope to see in your lifetime: Solar-powered EVERYTHING... houses, cars, even airplanes. (yeah, right...) Switzerland. Mount St. Helens. Paris. Another Olympic in-person. (Went to summer 1984 in Los Angeles... it was just TOO much fun!) The Westminster Kennel Club Dog Show in person. Death Valley. Burning Man. Australia & New Zealand. Spain. Ireland. A tornado (from a safe distance). And....! MT becoming a good-paying job again someday.
Worst pain you ever felt: A couple of real doozer, 3-day migraines. Yes, those were even worse than my broken leg!
How you treat a really bad mood: I avoid other people if possible. Stay inside all day and watch lots of daytime "trash-TV" shows. Buy a gallon of chocolate-chip-cookie-dough ice cream, and polish that puppy off in one sitting. Spew a little on Craigslist's "Rants & Raves" board. Bake a few million cookies. Go for a very long drive, hike, skate, or bike ride. And....double up on the Prozac
Favorite gemstone: Amethyst
Favorite color(s): Purple
Favorite domestic animal: Horses, cats
Favorite wild animal: Mountain Lions
Happy Flyer, or White-Knuckler? Happy mid-flight, white-knuckler on takeoffs/landings.
Phobias: Bees, especially killer-bees. Large numbers of any type of bug. Sharks and jellyfish. Sometimes seaweed.
"I would rather die than eat a - :" Tomato.
A friend or relative who passed away 20+ years ago gets to come back and visit you for a day:
You would be proudest to show them: The view from where I'm living.
They would be most shocked by: The attacks on 9/11.
They would be most amazed/intrigued by: The Internet.
They would be most dumbfounded by: The near-collapse of Wall Street, & the imminent collapse of the American automobile industry.
The activity you would most like to do together: Go skiing!
This person was: My dad.
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