Please don't think I don't yell.
Posted By: trose on 2008-01-18
In Reply to: Difference between us and the situation you described... - sickofit
MY DH is not a yeller and he has helped my calm that down a bit, I really just meant the name calling and the really cruel things that can be said.
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Yes, it scares the yell out of me. sm
When it first came on, I didn't want to watch it because the subject matter really frightened me. My family got me started on it, though, saying what a great show it is. It sure does make me think about what could happen if something like that were to occur, being under martial law and all of that.
Do you yell at your kids/spouse?
I grew up in a family of non-yellers. Even when he was drunk, my dad didn't yell. I've raised my voice to DH twice in our entire 34 years together, and one of those times was excused because I was pregnant, hot and miserable. I've never raised my voice to my kids.
Several of my friends are big-time yellers. It makes me cringe when I hear it. I guess cause I'm not used to it.
12-year-old son says I yell at him all the time (sm)
The thing is, I don't. I am recently separated for about 2 months now and my children are happy about moving, as their dad was not pleasant for any of us to live with. But my almost 12 year old son unfortunately seems to have thought it was going to be an opportunity to get away with whatever he wants. He begs me to let him miss school for no reason, and even when I explain to him the reasons why he can't, he wants to debate and argue until I have to firmly tell him no. Then Friday I had given the kids a little money to get something for Easter and I only had an hour, had agreed to take them to one store and if they didn't find anything to take them to another store this week. My son kept begging me to take him to two other stores...even though I explained to him repeatedly that I did not have time. He also started begging me to let him by rated M X-Box games and I told him no, that just because we moved doesn't mean he is old enough for those games. So he started crying on Friday. My 9 year old daughter is acting more mature than he is.
He was about to get out of the car to go into school this morning and he said, "you have been yelling at me all the time, you used to not do that!" My daughter said, "but that was just one time, what are you talking about? It's not all the time." and he again teared up and said that I do yell at him all the time. I think he is upset every time I tell him no. He tries to debate with me and argue his point but if it is no, I just say, "I'm sorry but I can't do that" or I have told him at times that he is not being reasonable. What is going on?
My husband told me I sound like a you know what when I yell. . sm
He said he just couldn't stand to hear me yell at the kids anymore. It was annoying him. I'm sure it was. All he wanted to do when he came home from work was sit in front of the tv and relax. Me yelling at the kids to do every little thing was really cramping his style. I stopped yelling at them because it really didn't help them listen anyway. If I had to tell them something more than once, I would turn to my husband and say "Jeff, it's your turn." Then he would yell at them! I can't believe how well it is working!
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