PS: *Gut feelings* are usually correct in my case! -nm
Posted By: Flibertygibbit on 2007-07-13
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Feelings
are neither right or wrong, they just are, but I don't just feel that way, I believe it.
This was not a small child. This was a teenager. Think back to when you were one. Now, think back to what you were taught as a child. Can you honestly see yourself actually hanging yourself to death because someone insulted you on an internet site? I say there was a lot more wrong there than is public knowledge and the persons who would best (or should best) know that would be parents. I am not cold and unfeeling. I care. I do believe that suicide is a permanent soluion to a temporary problem and I brought up my children to believe that too. I also believe I have a right to my opinion and, unfortunately, have personal experience with this problem having had a relative's child in the family commit suicide as a teenager. I still believe that the parents need to train children from childhood on up about this and many other topics that seem to be left out of child rearing these days including manners, appropriateness, religion, drugs, sexuality, and work ethic. We all need to put more into our children and families at home. This includes extended family.
Sorry you have such a closed mind about my opinion and hope I have not hurt your tender feelings with my front-on approach.
I am really, really sorry because I know your feelings
I recently lost my beloved pet of 18 years but I have also lost animals to parvo in the past, really sad. I so feel for you and hope your heart will mend before long. We just love these little ones so much and does not take long for them to have us wrapped around their little paws. Sorry in your loss.
Why is okay for you to have your feelings but
I'm the one who started the Tolerance thread.
If I don't want to like or condone or support immorality, I don't have to. It is my choice, my right.
If you want to sit there and be happy about it or accept it or whatever, fine for you.
And it's not fine for the schools or government or any other group to determine what I or my children are allowed to think is acceptable or not. That is MY choice and MY right.
Very normal feelings.......sm
I went through the same feelings with both my children, my daughter being the oldest. She had to take a drivers course at our local high school during the summer, then she got her permit. She drove with that for a few months before getting her license. But that first time she went with a girlfriend just down the street to a local burger joint made me crazy. I knew she would go slow and be very cautious, but that feeilng was still there, bordering on panic. She's 23 now. My son came next....he had to take the same course. He's was a little more pushy about the license, but didn't make a big deal out of it. But, unfortunately, within the month after getting them his dad said he could go to his girlfriend's.. it was rainy and I was not happy. She lives on a dead end street which is good, cause a dog ran out in front of him, he dodged it, and ran over the neighbor's utility box and tore up their beautiful grass. He was scared to death. Well, that got fixed and I guarantee he went slower after that. He's 20 now and as I notice a lot of guys do, he drives faster than his sister, but not as fast as his girlfriend, thank goodness!! He drives her car cause he tells her she goes too fast, won't use blinkers, no signals, makes me nuts. But they are grown and made it through those early testing times, and so will yours. By the time my son got his license, my state had graduated license, so he could only drive between certain daytime hours, and not past 7 at night for a few months. Check your state laws...a lot of them have these now.
I understand your feelings, too. SM
Our school district lost 4 kids last year (2005-2006 school year) to car accidents (2 in one accident), and it's not a big district, as well as a young father of 3, who was killed by a drunk driver. But my daughter turned 16 last November and she went for her permit and got her license over the summer. As much as I would like to put all three of my kids up on a shelf so nothing ever happens to them, I know I can't. I pray for them daily and hope their father and I have set good examples for them as far as being behind the wheel.
My daughter also drives a very distinct looking car and her older brother also drove it, so everyone in the area knows who's car it is and the kids know I WILL hear about if they do something dumb.
Mixed feelings
I had extremely harsh and unforgiving feelings toward ANY sexual misconduct/abuse situation.
Then, one of the young boys in my family was found guilty of such.
It has split and torn my entire family apart.
The agony of loving this young man and despising his act is killing the soul. His parents are especially suffering.
Before I was in this situation, I simply felt we should put them all to death. Now, I'm not sure what to believe.
I do believe he should pay his consequences and I am relieved that the court has to do this terrible job. They can be objective. It is harder when you know the individual.
I want him to suffer the consequences of his actions. I want him to rightfully bear the conviction, the shame, the social retribution for it.
At the same time, I want him saved, rehabilitated, redeemed.
He is mortified of how he will be treated for the rest of his life. I remind him that one reaps what they sow.
I have great sympathy for him, for his victims (this was sexual misconduct, not rape), for all of us in this situation.
I'm not sure why I'm even posting this other than remind everyone: The persons who commit these acts are someone's child, too, regardless of age. Someone loves them, too.
I understand your feelings sm
but I say definitely go and enjoy. My husband and I have left our children (now 14 and 16) many times over the years since about the ages of 5 and 7. We could only go on short trips like 2 to 3 nights but I think it really helped them to learn a little independance. The first time my daughter went away to camp she was 11 and it was for 2 weeks. On the second night she broke her collarbone and begged us not to come and get her. Kids don't suffer near as much separation anxiety as parents do.
You know my feelings also, but you get blasted
when you feel like this, on this board you do. Mine are grown also. I think lots on this board maybe with young babies, children and the like and have not reached the point to where it is not as coochie-cho as it was when little. Not a happy ever after type thing. One child self-reliant but into their own little self and the other 1 had to close the bank on that one. No more hearing from that 1, not even a call on Mothers Day. Have not talked to them in over 2 years now and live in the same town. Oh, loved them as babies though. Didn’t last a lifetime.
Yes, I understand your feelings
My Mom died in 1981, my dad in 1984. I was in my early 30s, not married, no kids, all my other siblings had their own families. I lived with my parents for about 8 years longer than any of the rest of them.
For about 15 years, I missed them so much it physically hurt. I still miss them, but I've moved along enough in the grieving process that now I am more balanced about it. I still miss them deeply, esp. on holidays which were always celebrated by the entire family together but not since Mom died.
The emotional scar tissue gets thicker but grief is a life long process and anyone who says otherwise is not being honest. There will always be a void.
mixed feelings
I have mixed feelings on this subject. I think a lot of it has to do with the owners but maybe there is something about the breed too - not sure. But yesterday a friend of ours had to shoot his neighbor's pit bull. . The dog was known to be mean and is usually kept inside but it was out and came after our friend's 2y/o grandchild. He got the child inside and when he looked out, the dog was going after another neighbor's child. He got his gun and shot it. . However, I will say, the owner of the pit bull is a known drug dealer and not a very nice person, so that could be why the dog was so aggressive.
Mine comes from the job and my feelings at the end of the day. sm
I have done transcription and/or typing of one type or another for years it seems. So the MT is what I do for a living (and the way my brain feels) and the "worn out" is the way I feel after doing my job all day and then my 2nd job on top of that.
I understand your feelings
My in-laws won't even do what your family is doing. They insist that everyone should get a gift. Well not even that but they say to just "cut back" which means what exactly???? I don't know. I didn't grow up with big Christmas presents and all that...family and dinner was emphasized. It makes me wish xmas was just another day. We can't afford it this year but when trying to talk to anyone about it they act like we have no head.
If you want to participate, I would do the flat $25 in a gift card for dinner or groceries and leave it at that. How can they get upset when you stick to the agreement. If they don't like your choice, that's too bad. Maybe they shouldn't participate next year if they have such high standards.
Feelings may be temporary sm
We work in a very stressful profession. Just think about it for awhile. I stuck my marriage out and am glad I did now. Sometimes you have to talk directly to the person, tell him how you feel and ask for his cooperation. Truth be told, I don't see any "perfect" marriages. Leave the religion out of it and look at the marriage, the consequences, and where you will be in 10 years from now. Don't exchange one situation for a worse one. Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side, but people lie a lot! Think hard before you do something you may regret. I'm glad I stayed.
Had my feelings hurt, how to handle?
About a week ago my elderly aunt called and told me she was having problem with her scalp, asked what did I think she should do, dermatologist she asked. Told her I would be happy to check on an ole timey medicine to apply to scalp, used for daughter before and worked. Distributor no longer made but phamacist suggested something else. I took to her and did not want money for it and told her so. Today I get the cost of the medicine back and then she goes on to say what a terrible smell, stung when she first put it on (says so on the directions which I am sure she read), awful smell, could not go out anywhere, had to wash her hair, just terrible putrid smell. Now, except for a doctors visit every one in awhile, she does not go out and that is not every week. I did this out of kindness and now I feel hurt, not only about her returning the money but most of all how she went on and on and on about how she could not use. She is not senile, has plenty of sense, although elderly still drives and no kind of problems except I think she was kinda rude to me. Any ideas? Should I say something, let it go, not involve myself any more??
I agree with your feelings, except the PETA
part. That is a very strange organization whose actual weird agenda they keep out of sight. I am for protecting animals, but not PETA. They would have people release their pets into the wild and let nature take its course. But they don't advertise that side of their beliefs. You would have to look into the origins of the organization.
The part about you hoping never have same feelings about your son
I would have never thought in a million years I would ever be alienated from my son but am and it has been at least 3-4 years since I saw or talked with him. He tried and I say tried, to say things that he should have never said against me. I wish him the best but I would never stand by and hear what came out of his mouth to come out again. I cut any and all ties with him and his family.
Honestly, it would hurt my feelings...
I've always had a key to my parents' house and if they asked for it back, it would hurt my feelings. It's kinda like saying you're not welcome here. Every time my parents move, they have extra keys made for me and my siblings, and it makes me feel like the door is always open. I live less than a mile away from them, but I make sure to always call before I come over. You might want to explain why you took the key from your son and make sure he didn't take it the wrong way and that he's still welcome to come back just to make sure he's okay with it.
I don't let people hurt my feelings any more sm
Was told years ago by a very good psychiatrist that we can control this ourselves - it is all about expectations. We let them hurt us - you had a higher expectation of her and when she did not deliver - she hurt you - so lower your expectation - realize she is weird (!!) that it was rather insulting - but don't let it hurt your feelings - and move on!! Kind of confusing I know - but it works
I agree with your feelings and opinions.
I LIKE MIKE, too. Wish he had a "snowball's chance".
Honestly I have mixed feelings on this.
On one hand...I feel it is your body, you can do what you wish. Who should say what you do with your body. Providing it is willing, agreeing, consenting adults, that should be their choice.
On the other hand...I think some, if not many, who get into prostitution, it is a bad life...they have low self esteem, no respect for themselves...and they are at their lowest and do not know what to do or where to turn. Many times they are so involved with drugs and alcohol, they can not think clearly.
But at the same time...the ones who are "low", are going to do what they can to make money....whether it is prostitution, selling drugs, stealing....illegal or not, they will do it if they are that desperate.
Heck, there are women and men out there selling thier bodies, making good money...or at least money...why not make it legal so you can tax them!
You sound like you share my feelings for
all these wondeful creatures. Please know I said Monster in the most loving way!!! We laugh at her constantly when she manipulates and tells us what she wants! She is bound to get it, too. If we give her something and she doesn't want it at the moment she will throw it out of her beak onto the floor and then sit with her head turned with one eye staring at it. She sings because I sing to her a lot and that is just adorable. She actually puts the vibration in her voice! You are so right on about the emotions of animals. They have needs and wants, and need to be loved and have companionship. I think many times over about her future. I wish I knew you and could work with you in caring for birds. I think they so very special. Keep up what you are doing. You are really making a difference.
she is just expressing her feelings, do NOT BASH HER FOR THAT..
YOU HAVE SOME NERVE !!!!
But you are more concerned about her feelings than the life of your cats
Sounds like you care more for her dog and her feelings than your cats. Sorry if your feelings are hurt for people getting upset with you but that is a lot less than what your cats felt. There is no suggestion you can give her as it is apparent that she will not take them. Plain and simple -- it will not stop and if you get more cats you are asking for it. So either accept the situation as it and beware that it may next be you or your child or your dog or do something about and that is getting rid of the dog or keeping it in a fenced situation.
Because it seems as though you are more concerned about her feelings than the life of an animal
Since you no longer have any cats there should be no problem until they attack a member of your family and then we can go through all of this again. Why are her dogs more important than your cats -- because she treats them like children -- come on get realistic. Not only were your cats providing a service for your family they were older and had been there longer and deserve better treatment and loyality than what you are giving them. Again, since you no longer have cats and do not expect to get any more why do you need any solutions until these dogs do it to someone elses animals that will take action against them or your SIL. And putting them in a 8 x 12 foot run is not that bad -- lots better then letting then "run at large". Again I am just going by what your attitude --not much concern about the death of two cats but really concerned about hurting someone's feelings. Good luck.
FEELINGS. . . SOOOO sick of that stupid thing! NM
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Effexor caused strange buzzing feelings in my head when trying to stop it nm
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You are correct...
except for one thing: It was never a war. It was and is an illegal invasion and occupation of a sovereign nation. Since the invasion was illegal (based on lies) Mr. Bush is guilty of war crimes. Hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqi's are dead - on Saddaam's worse day he never massacred like this...
And our news media WILL NOT tell you the truth on any day, but the numbers of US soldiers horribly wounded is astounding - all because of the many war profiteers - including mainstream media.
Everything you said is correct
The muslims are demanding foot baths in the airports so they can wash their feet. I think they might have gotten them somewhere, but not 100% sure. They are also the ones that threw the fit last Christmas about the Christmas decorations in an airport and none for whatever holiday they celebrate. AND THE CHRISTMAS DECORATIONS WERE TAKEN DOWN!! Now, I'm sorry, but something stinks here. I know this probably doesn't belong on this board and might be deleted, so I apologize in advance to the moderator, but I am so sick of the symbols of Christianity being shoved into a closet somewhere, especially at Christmas. I do not sent out holiday cards and I do not put up a holiday tree and my kids don't have winter break. I put Christmas in front of all of those words because that is the reason for the seaon, in my house at least!
Okay, stepping off my soapbox, bowing in apology to the moderator, and going about my business. Have a great day!
Oh, and to the OP, sorry you had to take YOUR decorations down, too. I just don't get it sometimes.
You are correct in a way sm
There is definitely something wrong with her, that's why we have to help her, that's all I'm saying. It's been out of her hands for a long time and she has had so many young people follow her that she needs to straighten up and "fly right" as my Mom used to say, so that the younger ones who adored her can learn that there is hope in recovery let's just pray she recovers. Your decision to not do this is totally correct for what you believe in. My take is a little different, I want her to straighten out and become a spokesperson for those who have become addicted and try to show remorse and accountability, which is going to be almost impossible but at least she could try. If she dies from her bad behavior, she will be a "saint" to those who still believe in her rise to stardom. (i.e., Anna Nichol, Marilyn, etc.).and extreme behavior. The young are vulnerable. Those of us who have walked our talk know better. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I'm hoping for a turnaround, that's all. Expect a miracle! Her children would benefit much more from their Mom in recovery becoming a power of example than dying drunk or stoned. Some speak from their own childhood experiences. I'm thinking of her little ones now more than her. I guess I've heard too much in my life (or is that hurt)? IMHO
You are all correct and thanks...
Causing it I believe is my own guilt that I am not doing everything 100%, job 110%, kids 110%, house, etc. And yes, I am forgetting about myself.
I don't want to quit my job at all, I remember that I love it. I just need to balance really my mind and time better so I take the stress off myself.
And you are correct. I did pamper myself already a bit today. Went to a local store having a sale and got a pair of shoes. Maybe go get a manicure tomorrow. I also took a major step and joined Gold's gym where I can finally get out of the house anytime I want and go on the bikes and I signed up for tanning hoping that the sunlight will cheer me. My little boy went and is excited about the Wii and rock climbing wall he can play on there when I am working out. So, doing these things today and tomorrow will make me better for my job, and my family. And for me! At least I hope I am doing the right thing. Of course, I have to type more now that I just spent money on shoes and the gym, but maybe those phermones from working out will kick in as well. Anybody else have suggestions would be dearly appreciated. And thanks for your kindness.:)
correct
I had it so bad I could not sit at all for about four months without being in agony. I enrolled in a yoga class at the YMCA. It took several months, but it finally healed and I know the exercises to do when it flares up.
Correct.
Leave them open when you pay them off so it shows you have available credit.
I know a couple who wanted to buy a house. They paid off all their credit cards and closed the accounts thinking they would have a great credit score. Guess what? Nobody would give them a mortgage because they had NO credit at all. In this situation, you're da**ed if you do and da**ed if you don't.
Correct me if I am wrong
but I believe worms are hermaphrodites so the "males" would be able to get pregnant....
Now the correct sentence for her would
have been 30 years.
What is wrong with our system??
Yes, beliefs would be correct. Why would you sm
live your life like that - not being positive or certain about anything? I, for one, believe in God deeply and I take Him at His word and if He makes a promise I hold Him to it and He's yet to forsaken me. Unless you've been there I guess you can't understand what I mean.
I know things can happen. I've been through some extremely difficult times in my life (losing a child), but I do say words like refuse and I AM, or I WILL and then I do them. I don't leave my life up to chance. I don't say I hope to do this or that. If I want something bad enough I go after it and usually don't quit until I get it. Yes, it's in my beliefs. It's my core. It's who I am. I am very positive, despite the many setbacks I've had in life.
I wonder if that is a correct diagnosis
Her symptoms sound more like what a couple of people I know experienced with cardiac arrhythmia. I don't know the exact diagnosis, but one of them was treated with ablation and is doing well, and the other had a pacemaker and defibrillator implanted and is doing well. These women were both in their 30s when they started experiencing symptoms.
I was a military wife for a long time - there are some good doctors in the military but they can be few and far between. I hope your friend will ask to be referred to a non-military cardiologist.
You are precious. You are correct. I'm with you 100%, Jan. nm
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Being politically correct...
I don't want to cause any problems, commotions, arguments, or what have you - I just want opinions/advice on the following:
We are a small office of 6. Every year, we decorate for Christmas - put up a small tree, hang some ornaments from the ceiling tiles, wrapping paper on the door. This year, the newest member of the team is JV. Though he does not talk about it, push the subject, etc, he has very politely and quietly sent me emails regarding that he doesn't celebrate birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. SO, the question is... how do we decorate the office without offending anyone?
politically correct
I have been friends with a family who are JW. They never minded the holiday thing for everyone else, just quietly lived their own beliefs. My friend even brought my boys candy just before Christmas, stating it was not a Christmas present, just a little something. I wouldn't do anything different than you have always done. Don't put him in the gift exchange, but do include him in the food part. For ex., quietly take him some cake, cookies, whaterver, leaving out the mention of the occasion. They are really quite adaptic (is that a word?) to our ways. Forget politically correct. Follow your heart and basic common decency/courtesy. You won't find other religions asking you if they can do something. Knew a radiologist who always wore the Jewish think on his head to work - we learned a lot about the Jewish faith from him. Wasn't offended, thought it was pretty cool at the time.
You are abolutely correct
Sometimes it takes knocking me across the head more than once to wake me up. I am taking your advice. I've changed the channel from all the news garbage to the Food Network Channel - Love the show Drive-ins, diners, and dives - except that it makes me hungry :-) and BBC always has good programming. Better than the garbage on the other channels. Makes me think of that line from the movie ET "I am in complete control" :-) Thanks
Yes! You are correct & 1 day at a time :-) Thank you for the
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Both pronunciations are correct.....
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you are absolutely correct..
What organized religions see as divine revelation and holy books, most deists see as interpretations made by other humans, rather than as authoritative sources.
Yep - you're correct...sm
on the irs.gov website, it states if you owe taxes, child support that it will hold the balance from the rebate. For instance, we owe 1,500.00 and paid 100.00 with the first installment so with the stimulus, we'll get a whopping 100.00! :( Funny how they leave some things out of this "wonderful news"
you are correct - I never thought of it that way
Sometimes it takes a knock against the side of the head to face reality they have rights too. I just wish they'd be a little more courteous (like wait til after 8 am on the noise and after 8 pm keep the noise down. In Germany they did have a law tht you could not mow your lawn on Sundays or after 6 pm. It worked well for everyone.
Thank you for that. You are absolutely correct. I saw him SM
in an interview and he cried when they asked him what he misses most. He said he missed the ability to play the piano more than anything. Some years back they said that Estelle Getty had the same condition.
and don't correct my spelling...
I see my errors. LOL
Ewwwwww is correct,
If PETA thinks that Americans are going to start eating, drinking problems made from breast milk? They are dummber than they seem.
They say that do this taking the cows milk takes away from the baby (or what is meant for the baby), then isn't it the same that breast milk would take away from the baby.
If they were ever to consider this I think they would lose lots of business.
Correct about one thing
One can still be saved and not have to attend church but church should be a place where we can go to be with those who follow Christ and if we do it right, be there for one another in Christ.
I don't believe a person is sinful just because they don't attend a church but I know it would uplift them to belong to a good church and be a part of a church community. So many times people feel lonely and isolated and a good church family would be there for them.
I guess this one is correct, but
I hate it when people say, "on either side," meaning on both sides. I could see saying, "on each side," but either just doesn't make sense to me in this context.
The other poster is correct....
I think it was on What Not To Wear or one of those shows where I heard if you have that problem it is because the cup size is not big enough for you. With that size naturally I wouldn't think you would need a "push up" because those have a lot of extra padding to give the push. Maybe go to a store in the mall and talk to them. Surely they will have a suggestion for your size and style interest. Doesn't mean you have to buy it there, just get the idea and then go to Target or someplace and buy what you want a little less expensive.
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