Our families are important to all of us, but we make it work sm
Posted By: why not? on 2006-11-10
In Reply to: Who will be working on both Thanksgiving and/or Christmas and why? sm - me
We fit it all in. Family, food, fun, and a litte work. It is not a really big hardship for most MTs.
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Will work to let other MTs with families have day off.
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Eyes are important. Why not make
an appointment? If the cause is just allergies and rubbing, maybe they will give you an Rx for allergy drops if eye itchiness is your main problem. Or you could try using an oral antihistamine and avoid rubbing your eyes and see if they improve. Get some Refresh Liquigel lubricant eye drops by Allergan.
and another thing...I wasn't trying to make myself seem more important sm
I was just saying reliable because I knew this stuff could very well be true - nothing to do with me personally. Get a grip - and I know who you are from your name. Shame on you.
Make sure you have copies of all important papers, addresses for mortgage, insurance, etc.
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If you're asking and the love is long gone, it's time. Make copies of all important papers,
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I don't know how to make the avatar thing work.... :(
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It is a lot of work - my story (I'll try and make it short)
First let me say I'm happy that you have a marriage that you don't feel you need to work at it. Wish I could say the same. Been married 26 years and it has been work on my part this whole time. We knew each other 2 weeks before marrying (yes one of those crazy and spontaneous moments I didn't think ahead as to how it would affect my life), but "for better or worse" I made it 26 years with him. I have had to work at this the whole time. Learn to say I'm sorry when I don't do anything wrong, learn to accept him never saying I'm sorry because "I'm a man and it's hard for us to say we're sorry", work at keeping my mouth shut when he is going off about something, work at juggling work, paying bills, doing laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and doing it all. This has been a lot of work and I wish I could have had someone tell me how much work it was going to be - I would have thought twice. I can't see where any marriage is never work. I've given up a lot and kept my mouth shut, and worked at keeping my feelings to myself on a lot of issues (avoids the two hour arguments because I don't feel the same exact way as he does on certain issues). I've worked at not getting angry at him, and I'm still working at it.
So I am happy for you, but there are us out there that do have to work a lot in our marriages (or at least at keeping our sanity).
make sure you use a "metal" lice comb, not a plastic one as they don't work well. nm
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Make a trip to one of your larger nurseries and work with what's native to your area. Spireas are
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I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
Prayers for both families
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I come from one of those fighting families.
There have been many, but the defining event would have to be at my father's viewing when his own brother started a fight in front of the open casket. If it were a screenplay, it would have to be a comedy, because the reality of it was too painful to endure. Needless to say, I don't deal with my family unless I have to. I've had too many holidays ruined over the years, and when my children were small, I realized that their holidays would be ruined, as well, if I kept returning to these toxic family gatherings. Now we do things on our own, and life is much nicer. We don't have the Norman Rockwell gatherings of 20 or so people, but that's ok. Maybe some day when I'm a grandmother and great-grandmother, our healthy family will have grown to Norman Rockwell size, and then we'll have a family group that wants to spend time with each other. That is so much better than dreading family gatherings!
Suppose most of our families came from there
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Yes, it runs in my families I got it from
my mother. My mother had high blood pressure all her life and never took any medicaments against it. Some people just have high blood pressure and taking medicaments might even do more harm than good. My mother is very healthy and now in her 60s.
I, too, do not take any medicaments, none.
Its so weird, but this is common for these families
with BPD members - when a new person comes along who is actually healthy emotionally, they are always "blamed" for everything. I wish I had more time to share some of this fascinating data, but I have to work...and there are probably those who aren't interested. When you experience these sick games for years, and then actually read the exact same stuff in medical/psychiatric journals, it is just mind blowing! You realize its NOT you and you're not imagining this stuff. Very enlightening. I wish you all the best.
The bikers are the ones protecting the families
because of all these other rude people who decide that a funeral is a place to protest, whatever..They form a human/motorcycle barrier in between the protestors and the ones grieving.
My heart aches for the families
who will shortly be notified that their child/spouse/loved one will not becoming home. Too many senseless killings these days.
I can surely relate! Families can be so --sm
cruel sometimes. I really think that they don't even think about how their actions or lack thereof affect others sometimes, but we sure feel the hurt, don't we? Hugs to you!
Do you know any organizations that help families in need (one-time need) (sm)
these people need help just for one month getting their bills paid - what organizations are there that do this? I know they exist in Florida. I am now in NC and just trying to help these people find out where to go for help. Anyone have any ideas? It would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
How about ideas for siblings and their families? Here's one
I have three siblings, with spouses and children. Not only is it expensive to buy for all of them, but it's hard to know what to get. Last year I went to a craft store and bought cheap baskets on sale. I bought each of them a 2-month subscription to the movies that you get through the mail, NetFlix (can do Blockbuster if you want). I put the gift certificate in the basket along with the big boxes of candy that they sell at the show (.99 cents apiece at Walgreens), a few packets of microwave popcorn, and a 6-pack of their favorite soda. They loved it and everybody enjoyed the movies over the next couple of cold winter months. You can purchase the movie gift certificates on line at their website.
I guess we are one of those boring families, too...sm
We don't fight during the holidays, but then we really don't talk much either. My mom has Alzheimer and my brother just doesn't say much. I try to carry on a conversation, but it is hard to when you are met with silence.
just a liaison between the patient's and families...
and the nursing home, so if they are not addressing your needs, this is an appointed advocate--not employed by the nursing homes--whose job it is to address your concerns.
Brown/Goldman families at odds now
it has been all over the news- Goldman wants the money, Brown family speaking out saying should not get, I think they consider it blood money. Never would have thunk that 1- huh, seemed so buddy-buddy at 1 time and now on the outs.
Definitely think it runs in families. Both parents, 1 sister
and I all have hypertension. I take 4 different meds with another one for p.r.n. use. My is pretty well controlled most of the time. The highest it got was 230/140.
St. Vincent de Paul helps families in any kind of need
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Hope you appreciate them -- the guys' families do care and do help. Hard to believe for some....
I am sure by posting that you care, but some just use and abuse and it's always about the maternal side of the family until they need something again. Congratulations for posting and giving the guy's fanily some credit for a change. We are humans, not just a bank. OMG let the flaming begin!!
Don't be a jerk. Most of us were lucky enough to be born into English speaking families.
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in families of SEAHORSES-males carry/give birth
Fran is right..Tends to run in families. If you are, dont bother with Synthroid..I went to Armour
thyroid and never looked back. I tried Synthroid for over a year and they could never get my thyroid back in..I struggled with cold intolerance, fatigue, dry skin, and the worse..weight gain..like 30 pounds and then a doctor put me on a more "natural" thyroid which was Armour. I got my energy back, lost weight etc..I would never use Synthroid or any other synthetic again. Be aware that a huge number of doctors dont like prescribing Armour but I insist that it's the only thing that works for me and they do prescribe it..Good luck to you..
Thanks. I guess what I am really asking is when do most families stop taking Summer vacation and
start getting ready for school opening.
MOST IMPORTANT!!!!
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It's not really as important to me as it is to you.
Why don't you take your misdirected anger and put it where it belongs instead of being mean and rude to people on the Internet who have done NOTHING to you!!! Now I remember why I stopped coming to MT Stars and that's because of rude people like YOU.
This is very important..
the cat should be an indoor cat ONLY!! It would never survive outside without any claws. I don't understand why people put their cats out anyway...they are just as happy as being indoors as long as there is stimulation and playtime. I let my cat out on my balcony (under supervision) to "blow the stink off him" but he prefers to be in the house looking out the window.
VERY IMPORTANT
It's very important that you teach your daughter that someone who treats her like this is not a true friend. I have taught my daughter to BE NICE TO EVERYBODY, but you DO NOT have to be everybody's best friend. I have told her what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Help her understand that it is disappointing, but the sooner she accepts that's the way this girl is, the happier she will be. Unfortunately my daughter had to learn the same lesson at that age and I have had to reiterate it to her this year in the 7th grade. It's OKAY to not be best friends with this girl, and that friends should not treat friends this way. It's all about boundaries.
Important
I think it is very important to try to get to the root of your son's problem. He may not have a real handle on what is bothering him (or what happens) either, but there should be someone qualified to help with that.
Another thought is to see if those nanny shows are on DVD. It seems they are very smart about handling a lot of the situations with children and families.
Well that is certainly more important
in the long run.
P.S. - very important
Another thing you don't say is how much you really know about this man. If he has bad credit, unpaid child support payments, a criminal record, etc. this could permanently scar your own situation.
If you don't truly know a great deal about this man, spend a few bucks and have a private investigation firm check him out.
I do not have anything more important
To think about than the one person on this board who posts every other blog, arguing back and forth with themselves, like you, pretending to be 100 people, Maybe you should think about that.
Some important questions
Are there people around who can look in on the grandparents and get back with you? If I were unable to get in touch with grandparents, aunts, siblings or the like and had always been able to, I would contact the police to get them to intervene. I would think they could check up just to ease your mind and make sure they are ok. Oh, by the way, you might text or leave message on cousins phones since you are unable to hear from them this is your plan-- It is surprising how putting this out there will get the attention you are wanting. I just recently got some wonderful results from a person not responding to my emails, realtor to be exact- told him what I planned on doing, no need for him to reply, 4th email and that afternoon a phone call and an email. Works wonders!
Why is the lifestyle more important?
He is a me type person. I have a grown daughter just like that. He is only thinking of himself and what he wants. This is the difference in my martial situation- if my husband wanted to move somewhere else I would go with him in a minute, no question. I love my home but I love him more. The statement about the other woman would probably make me feel a little uneasy because I feel if you are saying things like that, how do I know you are not acting on them? I have a cousin spent loads of time hunting, going to all kinds of meetings of things he was involved with, had 2 almost grown sons, left his wife of 30+ years, had met another woman and gave up a paid for 4 bedroom brick home to live with this woman in a trailer… It happens.
It's important to know these things
You'd know if you hadn't had a BM in 5 days or if you hadn't peed in an entire day. (I'm not suggesting people are writing these things down, I'm just sayin'...) Both might signal that something wasn't right. Periods that are not right in frequency definitely can signal things not right with the body. I think it's a great practice and will do so when my 3 start with their periods. I have PCOS, so I'm a little anal about it, but I so wished someone would have taken notice when I was a teen and showing many signs of it.
Freedom first and most important
My husband has only danced with me ONCE during our entire (more than two-decade) marriage and that was under extreme pressure from his buddies (we were out with a group of friends, mostly couples).
I lost my identity for a long time but after YEARS of marriage I am starting to get it back. Baby steps, but little by little...
I am for them. They are an important reminder
Although they are considered a religious symbol, it should not offend atheists to see them on the side of the road. This is America, land of many religions, and how someone wants to honor a loved one that has passed is their business in my opinion. They are free to be atheists and should allow others their freedom as well.
I think it is important to realize that...
the world does not revolve around us. If there is not a huge amount of fighting or abuse of some sort, why should she deprive her children of their father. Often, I think children say what their parents want to hear about the other parent. My 33-year-old brother still does. There are worse things than waking up and going to bed with a person whom you do not love. And - I bet that if she tried, she could still find something she does love about him. I really think that society has made divorce to acceptable. There is just no incentive to stick it out through the tough times that everyone has.
One important question...sm
One of the things you don't mention is what each of you is bringing into the relationship materially. You say "he knows what he wants out of life", and that's disturbingly different from saying "he has achieved (whatever) in life". After all, what he wants out of life might be a cushy situation...or a mother...or lots of other things that really aren't healthy.
If this man is 40 and isn't bringing a substantial material contribution to the relationship in relation to your own contribution, this is a VERY big red flag.
What's he been doing? What has he accomplished? How stable have his jobs been? At 40, a man has accumulated a sufficient record to tell you exactly who he is beyond his words and protestations of love. You must be willing to LOOK at these things very objectively.
Aside from that, I'm afraid that 70-versus-50 will not be such a good fit, and 80-versus-60 will be even worse.
I'm sorry I can't be more optimistic about this, and I really debated whether to post my reservations because I'm not interested in raining on your parade, but there are simply too many examples of such extreme age differences where the older partner, especially when that is the female, has been victimized by shiftless opportunists who talk the game and say all the things the lonely female wants to hear.
Vitamin D is very important
A lack of vitamin D is the cause of ricketts. It doesn't happen that often in the US any more because of all of the fortified foods we get, but if you don't go outside much at all, it can be a real concern. There was a story about a hugely obese man - like 900 pounds obese - who had horrible pain and it turned out to be a lack of vitamin D. THe only way your body can metabolize vitamin D is by exposure to sunlight.
Doctors always want to make sure that women who are older or at risk for osteoporosis take Calcium and Vitamin D. The Vitamin D helps the body metabolize the calcium.
You should probably take a calcium supplement as well, if you aren't already.
Hope your rib pain goes away!
IMPORTANT. READ THIS!!!!
Right now we are in the first stage just like what happened to Mexico. We are in the mitigating phase for pandemic with level 5.
This flu has the Avian (bird), swine (pig), and the human flu; all three combined. This flu can last 160 days and will spike around 87 days. This flu bug is lay around dormant for a total of 30 days. This flu can have 2 stages. The first part of the flu is just like a flu bug that normally people get, but then it can mutate and go into a secondary phase. The host will try to find your lungs and settle in your lungs and cause pneumonia. Once you have pneumonia with this flu, there are no antibiotics to cure you or fight off infection because this is a new strain of flu.
Yes, lots of people die each year of the flu, but they are usually older people with immune system down or children under the age of 2. The reason why not many people die is because we had flu shots or it is an old type of flu and our body is immune to it.
PANDEMIC MEANS: No antibiotics to cure this flu and no vaccines for this new strain of flu hitting the world. Means imminent for the flu to be wide spread.
Right now you are seeing the spike (second stage)of Mexico which is about 87 days later from when the flu started in Mexico which I believe was around February.
In America, you are right now seeing the beginning of the flu. Around 70-90 days, we will spike just like Mexico, but, it COULD be worse. Mexico was the first wave and we will be the second and could be worse than Mexico. The germ bug is getting smarter and it likes to pick on hosts that are approximately ages 10-40 and VERY HEALTHY INDIVIDUALS, not so much the elderly.
Basically the people who have the flu now are lucky, because they ended up getting the milder case and just watch when it spikes. Also the reports you are seeing is CDC is going back days to weeks, meaning, CDC is going back some 14 days and finding individuals who might have had a case of the flu and then do a test and then report and state confirmation of the swine flu or should be known as H1N1 flu. We do not have confirmed cases as of today, but days or weeks ago from the CDC. This germ/bug is multiplying and multiplying just like a wild fire out of control which can produce more new fires.
Basically, in the next few weeks, partically every state will have the flu. What makes me really nervous is that CDC and others felt this level 5 was going to be announced Friday and possibly Thursday, NOT TODAY!!! It must be pretty bad.
One important point..........
They know for a fact that the AIDS virus was spread for the most part to the heterosexual community by gay males who were married to females but were gay and engaging in homosexual behavior outside their marriage. Their wives contracted the disease, may have divorced, been in other relationships themselves, and not knowing they had the virus, passed it on.....
You're starting to get the point I suppose....
Two important things to keep in mind (sm)
First, he was the one who told you, not someone else. If he were trying to "get away with something" I seriously doubt he would even mention it to you.
Second, they were at a public place, and he said he told you "people were staring." You need to ask yourself if he would do something he wasn't supposed to when people were watching. Also, if people were staring it was probably because they were wondering where you were. None of their business.
I say trust DH on this one. Don't blow it out of proportion, and give him the benefit of the doubt. However, I would also keep an eye and an ear out for this woman. Sitting next to your husband one time at a game is one thing, but it shouldn't become a regular thing.
Best of luck to you! Hope this helps!
I know diet and exercise are important as
well as cutting out sugars, bread, etc. I'm doing that and have been for a while. Please keep your comments to yourself. I'm asking a simple question about a "certain named product"- is it that difficult to answer without stating your "opinions" or telling me what supplement you use? I don't remember asking for your recommendations?
Health care is important, but..
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