Opinion needed regarding Eagle Scout Award
Posted By: mb on 2008-01-02
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My nephew is receiving his Eagle Scout Award on Saturday. Are we suppose to give him a gift of some sort? I told my mother that I did not think so since he had a lot of donations from our town. What is your opinion? In case anyone is curious for his project he beautified the VFW Hall in his town by planting a memorial garden. I am always impressed with boys who stick with scouts until the age of 18.
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A gift would be very appropriate. When my son got his Eagle, he was tired of working on it, tired of the committment, but now 7 years later he realizes it was one of the best things he did. Very prestigious, shows committment and integrity. A gift would certainly be a lovely gesture
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(some background info) My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years, been together for 15 years. He has a friend whom he has been friends with since high school. His friend is married and we have become somewhat friends as a couple. I really don't like these people but I have NEVER let them know this. Its really that I don't respect the things that they do, on the other hand they are very nice and would do anything for you so I tolerate them. They have a garage that is full of pictures of naked girls so I don't allow my children in there (my husband doesn't get this but that's another issue altogether) and they are very "sexual" with each other regardless of who is around them (again I don't like my children seeing this). Needless to say unless I can find a babysitter for my kids I don't generally like to go to their house. Well my husband turned 40 last week and this couple wanted to take him out for his birthday. Apparently they started planning this with my husband a few weeks before his actual birthday. My problem is I wasn't invited. I could see if it was just the guys but the fact that the husband and wife were taking my husband out along with another friend (male) and I wasn't invited bothers me. It immediately made me think that they were taking him to a strip club (which I don't like him to go to, again another issue in itself). My husband wasn't going to go but then Friday he decided he was going. I once again asked him who was going and he said the couple and a friend, still not invite for me. I confronted him with it when he got home from work and told him that I wasn't mad at him but very irritated with the fact that I wasn't invited. He replied that maybe his friend didn't think I could get a sitter to go out (which I am very fortunate and I NEVER have any problems getting a sitter) but that he wouldn't go. He didn't say "geez hon, of course your invited, lets get a sitter and both go", nope he just said "i won't go". A week or so before this he went to this friends house for a football game/party, again I wasn't invited, my husbands reply was "well you don't like football", I feel I should have been able to make my own decision as to whether or not I wanted to go whether I like football or not. Then today for the superbowl my husband tells me he is giong to a party at a coworkers house and then he will be home. Then later a friend of his comes to the house and she's gonna go with him oh but no they aren't going to the friend's house they are going to a different friends house, then the pub and then will be home by halftime, too bad I have to work and can't go. I guess at first I thought it was the first friend who wasn't inviting me and now I'm thinking my husband just doesn't want to be around me. What would you do? I have stayed very calm through all this but its really grating on my nerves now and I was hoping to get some opinions. Thanks so much...
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Thanks for your input. I definitely will get him a gift. I will go to the area Scouting stores and see what I can find. I know it is a great accomplishment. He has three older brothers and he is the only one that did scouting. He was never that good in sports so martial arts and scouting was his passion. My daughters were in Girl Scouts until about 7th grade. I think an Eagle Scout Award holds more clout than a Girl Scout Award. My daughters have dated some guys who had gotten Eagle Scout awards and they were so nice and very polite and I came right out and told them how impressive I was that they were 18 and still in scouting even though they took their teasing from others.
My 'Dingbat Award' goes to - (sm)
the family I saw one time in the Sierras while I was driving back from skiing. There are two runaway truck ramps on Westbound I-80, and I saw a family stopped right at the entrance to the ramp, having a picnic lunch on the tailgate of their SUV while the kids played in the pile of gravel. That's a ramp located on a long downgrade, and it gets a LOT of use! I had a CB radio at the time, and boy oh boy... it was crackling with laughing, disbelieving truckers who were saying 'What the h..........?"
Is Scouting or 4H big in your area? Do the newest Eagle
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Helped with son's Eagle project this weekend.
He only has some paperwork and a board of review to get done, and then he'll be an Eagle scout.
I agree that Carrie should not have won this award....but
I don't agree that she has no talent....WHAT?!!? lol
Husband is a die-hard Eagle fan!! I am a Packer fan so it will be against my nature to cheer for Chi
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P.S. congrats to your husband, sounds like a nice award!
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Everybody is making it out like she's the first rock star to have a drug problem and win an award
Beatles, Rolling Stones, Aerosmith, Metallica, Smashing Pumpkins, Eagles, INXS, Fleetwood Mac, Eric Clapton, The Doors, and on and on and on. If we only listened to, or gave awards to, the clean and sober musicians, our musical legends would be a completely different list.
Sounds like a former Boy Scout...what does he
keep in there?
Yes, those and a whole cannister of Boy Scout
caramel popcorn with peanuts. They wouldn't give a refund since it had been opened and maybe 1/8 of the bag was gone. Makes me wonder now if that's why we had the stomach bug... maybe it was salmonella instead.
They found the missing Boy Scout
Girl Scout cookies are here!
I love Girl Scout cookies!
They are $4 a box this year. I always tell the little girls they were 50 cents a box when I sold them and they look at me like, okay, old lady, just buy the cookies.
Girl Scout Cookies
My daughter is a Girl Scout so we bought quite a few boxes. I love the thin mint and could probably eat a whole box myself in one day. They're $3.50 here, but every year I swear the cookies get smaller and smaller.
Help me think of U words for a Cub Scout Game.
I'm running a cub pack meeting tonight and have a guessing game for the boys to keep them busy before the meeting starts. The theme of the meeting is "Magic", and they are putting their hands into holes cut into shoe boxes. Each box is labeled with the letters H-O-C-U-S P-O-C-U-S. Each box contains an item that begins the letter on the box. The boys can't see in the box, They have to guess what's in the box by touching the item. I'm having a hard time thinking of and finding "U" items to put in those two boxes. Can you help?
My daughter's Girl Scout leader
won't let them go door to door to sell. I do let her go to our friends/neighbors on the street, but just to the surrounding friends and no further. It's awful that they can't go door to door anymore, but way too dangerous.
After 11 yrs as a boy scout leader, I've seen all sorts of situations.
And, I've had to deal with my share of 11 yo bullies. (I have one in my troop now who is absolutely driving me up a wall.) I've learned a lot over the years. For one thing, I know that while it's possible to be a very good influence on a child, it's also likely that parents who are having issues can, in just a moment, un-do any positive influence you've had on a child. I've also seen kids come back years later after I thought I had made no headway with them. They've come back to thank me for showing them patience and kindness and a better way to act. And, sadly, I've seen more than a few kids spin off out of control, right to the point of their own death.
Firstly, you have to think of your own child's safety, of course. If you can band with other parents in your neighborhood to provide supervision while this bully is around, that would be a great help. Agree on play areas, who is and is not allowed to be in the play area, be patient and teach the children general rules of good behavior. When the rules are violated, then there are consequences. If the bully cannot behave, especially if he's being dangerous. If you feel that he and the other children in his household are not being properly supervised or cared for at home, then call the authorities.
The other thing I've learned is to be very direct with problem children and parents, and to keep my emotions calm. No shouting, and always have an adult witness nearby. For many years, I would dance around direct language with parents, afraid that I might hurt their feelings. But that always leaves too much room for them to misunderstand what I really wanted. State exactly what you want the other person to know. "I have a problem with your child's behavior. I'm willing to help supervise, but only on these conditions." If the parent becomes argumentative or defensive, walk away and lock your door. Write down what you said and what happened. I don't want to scare you, but if there are questions later, accusations from the parent or child, you won't have to rely on your memory alone.
One can be patient and extend help to people who need it, but you don't have to put up with abuse, either. Use all of your resources -- other neighbors, authorities, your own talents, and do what you can, but be careful.
How to find Girl Scout cookies where you live
http://www.girlscoutcookies.org/
The above link will locate you nearest GS Council. If you call them you can either order your cookies directly from here or contact your local council.
Good Luck and Happy Cookie eating. 
Scout out baked goods in your local gourmet shops, etc. and make
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Boy scout son used to make pepperoni and marshmallow fluff roll-ups for the trail.
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I needed this
I read this today and loved it: If winter comes, can spring be far behind?
Thank you!! That is EXACTLY what I needed to know sm
I have 2 dogs, one who is VERY furry and I was concerned about dog hair cloggage.
Thanks for taking the time with all the great info :-)
Yes, he needed to go.
I don't know how Scott stayed in as long as he did. Nowhere near the talent of the others, although I believe the the two top contestants are Adam and Alison, who are miles above the rest. I think Adam is an amazing talent and should win. He is the only reason I am watching AI this season. Otherwise, it has gotten extremely boring. I never did understand the enthusiasm for Danny Gokey. Good voice, but he does not appeal to me at all.
You may not believe this and probably will not but thought you needed some help the other day
as I was reading the posts. You certainly came across not just as a person who was grieving but with the last post about the person committing suicide, I was thinking this does not sound exactly right. If I felt depressed and/or suicidal and felt like I could not handle things, your emergency room would probably see you and refer you to someone and then you would probably wind up waiting again. I doubt they would do anything specific for you. There are some 800 hot line crisis centers you can call.
Thanks so much to you all. I KNEW I needed help! :-)
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FOOD IS NEEDED!
I volunteer at a food cupboard twice a month. Today I went in to fill requests for families in need, and the shelves of our little interfaith cupboard were nearly empty. It was a struggle to get together some basic items for four families.
This is a problem with food cupboards all over the country. At holiday times, food drives are held and shelves are full. Even during the school year, more donations come in as school and youth groups run food drives to help those in need. But during summer, donations slow to a trickle as people are busy with summertime activities or away on vacation. Food drives are forgotten, but people still need your help.
If you can, please consider donating to your local food cupboard. Anything you can give would be appreciated. Even a couple boxes of cereal or a jar of peanut butter can make a difference!
Thanks again so much..I needed to hear this.
A day doesn't go by that I don't pray for a miracle. As the obvious enabler, I just always feel if I helped her just this one last time, this would be the time she turns it all around and I want to be there for her. Everything positive she does, I praise her, only to be crushed the next minute for it was just a mirage. It wasn't really there. Every night I have gone to bed saying a pray that we can just get through another day, and honestly, some days, I wasn't sure that I wanted to wake up. I just couldn't do it one more minute. When you love someone with everything you have and realize it still is not enough, that right there is the most devastating feeling ever. For every tear she has cried, I've cried thousands. I try to be strong so she thinks I am uncaring. If only she could see or feel what I feel inside. If love could have saved her, she would be. I am going to put it in God's hand because I have nothing left to give. Everyone wonders how and why I have survived and gone through what I have..and honestly, I have no idea. I hate the thought that it has become such a habit that I just expect it. I wait for the calls to come every day, as they will, on the next crisis. I wait for my day to be ruined and that is one of the reasons that I chose to work at home. I was embarrassed when she would call me 15 times at work, even though I told her not to, or she'd show up. Just barge through my office. I've gotten beyond what people think, but I know my friends understand and love me for me. Thanks for listening. Another dark day. Sadly, I have had to pretend to be on vacations so she won't come around trying to manipulate me but then she calls me nonstop on my vacations to send her money. It honestly never stops and I don't think it ever will. Please everyone say a prayer for me...
OMG! Thanks for that. Needed the laugh!!!
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Thank you so much for your kindness. It's just what I needed sm
right now. I've never been one to have the "victim mentality" although I can see how my post probably came off that way. They never gave me a chance from the start so you hit it right on when you called it a tribe mentality. I think a lot of it is jealousy - as my mom points out - I had that a lot growing up because I tend to get along with everyone - not a jealous bone in my body - and I can tend to irritate those who "don't like everyone" or who have sour attitudes.
When the poster said that she found it hard to believe that all 3 hate me for NO REASON I didn't want to respond because they do hate me for no reason. If you were to ask them why they don't like me or want me around their answer is, "just because I don't."
Anyways, your post was very kind and I am thankful for it. God bless you!
Gift help needed....
For my hubby's company Christmas party this year, we need to take a wrapped gift ranging in price of $18 and $22. They are doing the "everyone pick a gift" sorta thing. So, it will need to be for male or female, ranging in ages from 20-60. See my dilemma? I am thinking a gift card wrapped in a huge box. LOL
I would appreciate your suggestions!
Thanks!
No electric needed.
If they sleep together, they dont need electric heat, body heat will be enough. I would build a "cave" of strawbales, toss in some loose straw and there ya go. I wouldnt use blankies as if they get wet, they will freeze. Like lying on an ice cubes Mostly, dogs just need to be out of.the wind. If they dont sleep together, just build 2 caves. Either way, should be snug so body heat will build a pocket of warmth around dog.
sweet....I needed that
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I definitely needed him a few weeks ago.
Definitely HOT. What did you think of the season finale?
Thanks for the site! Just what we needed! (nm)
Why did they say your dog needed a bath?
I just throw my collie mix outside when it rains and maybe take him to the groomer 2 or 3 times a year. If he was rolling around in mud and dead animals, that would be different.
LOL. Thanks. I needed that after the morning I just had. nm
Ok for all us that diagnose others sometimes, help needed here
I have some symptoms here and hoping maybe some of you have heard of before and can give me some "diagnosing." I do it myself quite a bit. Like I told my aunt, after doing this before the telephone was invented, sometimes we hear so much and pick up on things so hopefully someone out there can give me a hand. Here we go and thanks so much:
Pain on my right hand side around my rib cage, it's not a constant pain, I feel it when I take deep breaths.
Pain around abdomen when having a bowel movement
Slight pain in abdomen when walking
Some abdomen pain comes on suddenly while sitting still but not often.
A pain in or around my neck that is noticeable when I burp.
Needed that one for today. Thanks!!! NM.
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BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
What's shocking is that a rule is needed.
Many here have acted like this is normal behavior and should be excused and there are reasons for it, etc. Sure there are.........and there also many, many kids who do it to be obnoxious and so it has become a problem - like so many other things - but these parents continue to excuse their kids.
how many of you needed scholarships for college
tuition for you or a child and didn't qualify - did ya know the illegal immigrants are getting them? That's when I went off!
This will be total and much needed catharsis....
I am almost 54 years old and the permeating thought in my brain is that I am "a monstrosity," something my mother called my sister and I because we were tall. My father is still alive at 86 and says about some "pretty little thing." THAT drives me INSANE because I am not. He asks when I am going to play piano for him, and I laugh, but I think, "Never, because you have always criticized me." Still does. God help us all. That's the thing that has totally messed up my brain. I am a "monstrosity" and will never be a "pretty little thing." There. Now I have said it on the internet.
But, FYI, I am not a tall humongous woman, I am just tall and not a "pretty little thing." There, I typed it and that's almost like saying it out loud.
This thread ROX!
No reality check needed here (sm)
as far as any animal abuser goes. These are not little children--these are TEENAGERS. Dollars to doughnuts they've done this before....They were just caught this time.
You are right, cats are animals and not people. Animals cannot speak for themselves. They cannot call anyone for help. They cannot defend themselves against the ultimate predator--us, but yet we brought them into this world to make our lives richer. It is therefore our responsibilty to ensure their safety.
You are fortunate you can stay naive to such atrocities commited against animals and can shrug it off as just a couple of messed up girls who need a hug. It's just a newspaper clipping to you.
Divine intervention needed.... sm
Neatly stenciled white letters on brown sawhorse by side entrance to local church:
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Bathtub opinions needed please!
Hi ladies! We are building a new house and our contractor needs to know the dimensions of our new tub in the master bath so he can build the platform around it. My husband has now decided it would be easier to just put in one of those stand alone claw foot tubs. I do not like them, but we are selling the house in 2 years and building another one for our permanent home. So I need opinions. Do you like the looks/functionality of these types of tubs or would you prefer a normal soaking tub with a ceramic surround? Don't hold back, I need honest opinions. Thanks!
My kids mostly got clothes, which they really needed sm
My son't (17) fav gift was a 20.00 indoor remote control helicopter. He has had so much fun with it. When my daughter (14) was shopping for a cousin she saw a Doodle Bear and went on and on about how much she loved hers when she was younger. DH got her one (I didn't even know about it) and that was was her fav. gift.
LOL. Thanks, I needed the laugh today...nm
Thank you. That's how I feel also and I just needed to hear it from others.
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