One major suggestion
Posted By: Busy MT'ing on 2006-10-16
In Reply to: Stealing child: How to break the habit??? sm - Concerned mom
I would not be consulting juvenile authorities for a 6-year-old's behavior issues.
At this age, she needs to be seen by a child psychologist or psychiatrist who can diagnose the issue and outline a treatment plan.
This is not an unusual problem. She is a child and a conscious is something that is instilled by caretakers...it is not an automatic self development.
Please seek care for her behaviorally - not in the courts at this age.
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This major lawsuit had to do with--sm
the insurance company (SF) stating that they would cover and *wind damage* done by hurricane Katrina, but not flooding, as they had no flooding insurance on their policies, but the lawsuit contended that the flooding was still due to hurricane Katrina and should be covered. they won that case, but there is still some hassle over it because a judge did not like the way the wording read concerning some people who filed claims, but did not sue the insurance company. In my opinion, these insurance companies take peoples monies for years and do who knows what with it, and then when something major happens and people need help, they find all kinds of loopholes to not do anything. That is what insurance policies are FOR! but as far as bleach on a rug...no, if I were the insurance company involved in that, I would not pay either. jmo.
Definitely make major changes...
First, I would quit transcribing.
I would establish a foundation to pay for surgery for children and adults with maxillofacial deformities.
My second foundation would help older women - over age 40 - who want to go back to school or want to get some training for a different career.
My third foundation would help working class families send their kids to college.
I would buy a nice house (not a mansion) on a very large piece of land, where I could not hear my neighbors' noise. That house would have a huge library filled with my own books and another room would be a fitness center with a treadmill and some strength training machines. Oh, and I would like to buy a Schwinn bicycle.
When we had a major ice storm last
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It depends what your major was, just like anything
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I would have had a different college major - sm
and been smart about saving money then and not getting into debt....and not picking the loser guys I dated until I met my husband at age 29. ---though had things been different I'd probably be married to someone else and have two totally different kids which are the 2 things I would not want to change--
Look at his name-"Science Major".
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I never work on major holidays...
because I work for a small company that closes for all major holidays. I've been with them for almost 2 years now and they are definitely one of the best! They even send me a Christmas gift every year! I would never sign up to work for a company that was open on holidays, as I have no desire to work on holidays.
just had a major lawsuit ruling
but these are mainly people down in the coastal areas whose homes were completely leveled or not habitable. Insurance companies should be ashamed of themselves...some of these folks have been paying the same company for 40 to 50 years and when they need them, they get screwed. I hope the homeowners actually get the monies so they can get what should have been theirs in the first place.
We lived further inland, so the winds were strong enough to blow off a roof, or blow rain under a roof, or turn trees over on houses and crush them, but not level a home....but every time a wind comes up or it rains heavy, everyone holds their breath because trees now have weak roots and are easily toppled over, even 2 years later.
Thanks - that is a major factor in my decision (sm)
My children. I feel like I am choosing between my happiness and theirs and of course they should win. They are happy now, but if they had to have visitation with their dad - who is definitely a control freak - I worry about their happiness. But is it better for them to visit him than to live with him. And wouldn't I be showing them that you don't have to live like that by leaving??? it's so hard!
My daughter was about to have major surgery
2 years ago and the surgeon always made me feel like we were keeping him from something more important. After waiting in the waiting for at least an hour at every appointment, it was discouraging to have him rush in and out in 10 minutes, considering the procedure she was going to have. Anyway, at our last appointment before the surgery, we had a PA who actually spent time with us, explaining the surgery in detail and answering all our questions. I was thrilled.
I have also had my share of not great PAs, but this guy wasn't one of them.
Well, if I get a major inheritance, I'll be there
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Got to vent. I just found out that a major supermarket
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I'm in complete agreement. If major problem, everyone
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My son is a PreMed major and loves this show also....sm
He is hoping to get in Medical School there at Hopkins. Great reality show for the HealthCare Professional.
I was an animal science major in college and...
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Jackson-Hewitt and all the major firms use
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I worked for a hospital where the major baseball team
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The earlobe plays a major role in foreplay
Abuse of food stamps/welfare is a MAJOR
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Bringing Lost discussion up to top of board (major spoiler alert)
Okay, all you "Lost" fanatics, what are your theories now, and how have they changed? Who or what is Jacob? How did the "original inhabitants" of the island get there? They are mostly Caucasians with American accents, with a few exceptions. They don't look like the usual types of people who are native inhabitants of Polynesian islands - if, indeed, that is where the island is.
Why were Jack and Juliet keeping secrets from the rest of the group? If they had been honest and up front from the beginning about Juliet, maybe they could have all figured out a way to foil Ben's plans without bloodshed.
And will the island heal Locke? Obviously he is of major importance - I don't think Ben heard Jacob at all, and he was jealous and afraid when he realized Locke heard him. That's why he shot him. Ben is turning out to be an even bigger weasel than before.
And what exactly was the Dharma Initiative studying? Does Ben really know? After all, he was only a "work man" like his father.
For every answer, there are a dozen new questions - at least! 
I used to do plainclothes security work for a major upscale dept store - sm
Summer was my best time to arrest the teenage girls. They did not seem to take it seriously until the police showed up to take them downtown. I did have a few concerned mothers come by the store to speak with me. Just a lot of temptation out there...I would say to be very suspicious of clothing and such that seems to appear without having the money to pay for it.
another suggestion
Is that you could have her front teeth removed. It doesn't make any difference to their ability to eat most foods, and they can learn to eat without them, and be just fine. You can read more about it here: http://www.rabbit.org/journal/2-6/tusks.html
I have a suggestion.
Explain to DH that he needs to go and get a second job so that you can take of the children. It sounds as though he does not really want to help with the children, so maybe he should work the second job, and you just work one job, which will free you up to take care of your children. Your post makes me want to cry. I feel so sorry for your children. You have to find a way to take care of those children and not work that second job.
I have an even better suggestion
you are asking for support when it should not come from strangers but from your immediate family but having said that, why in the world do you not see about someone to keep the children so you can work? Your DH is not helping and apparently you need the second income. Just imaged you worked at Burger Kings and keep a daycare/baby sitter/family member to see after the kids. No wonder job looked at unprofessional these days, holding the baby in 1 arm and typing with the second.
My suggestion is...sm
Make sure it is a name the child can live with her entire life. I know the trend is to make up names or take established names and twist their spellings so they are unrecognizable, but I think it's a dumb trend and the kids suffer when they have to go through their whole lives either pronouncing or spelling their names. I often wonder where the parents' heads are.  JMHO.
Oh, and I love the name Kate.
Thanks, I appreciate the suggestion
The rug is already on its way....
If he were younger, or if it were only the one leg, I would try the puppy booties. But both his back legs are weakened from the patellar luxation, even though he had surgery for it. They are quite unsteady at times. Add the right shoulder chronic dislocation and it is really difficult for him to get up and down.
Thanks for the suggestion, though. I hope maybe it will help someone else.
Another suggestion
If you left out a very small amount of dry food at night (measured to make sure it is part of his daily total), would he eat all of it immediately or snack on it through the night? Maybe extra low calorie dry food?
My suggestion is
dont have kids friends over?
Here's my suggestion:
If the bride is very refined and proper, what the heck is she doing having a bridal shower for marriage #2 AND she's in her 50's? Tacky. VERY tacky.
I'd forgo the bra, get some good bubble gum that you can snap, put on some FM-heels, hit Frederick's of Hollywood and bring the most shocking gift(s) your budget allows - something to knock the knickers off her and those giving the shower.
Damn, I hate bridal showers. No, it's not my hormones. I'm like this every day, at least when it comes to something like this. Making people blow a weekend day to shower the middle-aged+ repeat bride with gifts.
By the way, Emily Post is dead and when she gets wind of this, I bet she'll be back.
Thank you for that suggestion sm
She just started a job (I know she is only 14) at my father's grocery store. This was totally her choice. She only works 2 evenings a week and will stop when school stops. I definitely think that is a possibility. Last night was her first time without a trainer. We keep a close eye on her for the next few days and see how it goes. Thanks to all.
My suggestion
My suggestion would be to try to find someone that you can talk to about this, a professional. I dealt with an alcoholic mother growing up who also liked to threaten suicide and guilt me into things - it's the nature of the addiction. Going to counseling myself and attending Al-Anon meetings were the best things I ever did for myself. I still was able to keep somewhat of a relationship with my mother, but the counselor taught me how to detach from her self-destructive behavior and made me realize that I should NOT feel guilty. In order to be of any assistance to your daughter, you need to help yourself first. There are people out there who can help you deal with these issues. I wish you the best.
((((hugs))))
Just a suggestion - sm
What if YOU offered to take the dog?
Dogs are wonderful companions to everyone, especially those suffering with depression.
That way, you know the dog is properly cared for and you have a companion to help you with your depression too.
Maybe they have just taken on more than they can handle with three dogs.
I agree with you that the neighbor is absolutely inconsiderate but they might be open to you adopting their poor pooch.
a suggestion --
For that age group and if they are interested in reading labels, etc. - visit a book store and find a few recipe books for kids - there are MANY on the market - and have them help plan a menu or give suggestions of what they think sounds good. Of course Mom has final say and budgeting factors in etc., but let them know you are not providing a buffet and that if they are going to be that picky they have to be responsible for their choices and make some decisions/choices instead of just whining about what they don't like - also that they must compromise with other family members' tastes. Let them help prepare meals (surprising what they'll eat if they are able to brag about "helping cook it" at the table!) and be more involved in their choices instead of just complaining - may be complaining just for the sake of driving mom nuts! and yes, I have 4 kids myself - I know how they can be :-)
This is best suggestion yet. Dog is just going to
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Another suggestion - sm
Sorry you are having this trouble but this may be worth asking about.
When you meet with your probation officer, ask about your son doing a few hours of supervised community service instead of the $100 fine.
A little labor may be what he needs to remind him not to do this in the future.
I have always told my kids they have one candybar in life (one time to get into trouble.) Once that's gone, its gone and they are on their own.
My son got a ticket for minor in possession when he was 16 and I made him pay the fines, pay for the classes he had to take, and any other costs that were incurred. Tough lesson for him but too bad.
He sure thought more than twice about losing all of his summer working money for one little mistake.
Good luck to you!
Okay, this is my suggestion...
I would let her take the swats, but ONLY this time. Maybe if she has ISS hanging over her head, that will deter her from being late again. That's what punishment is, right?
If she's okay with the corporal punishment, let her go for it. It's not like it's going to scar her for life. A bad grade could possibly have more of an ill effect, which is why you tell her NEXT time she gets the ISS.
Just my opinion.
just a suggestion...
I know that psoriasis and eczema are different things, but since Elocon works for your psoriasis and for my eczema, maybe what also works for my eczema will work for your psoriasis. Try Curel lotion original formula. It is the only lotion I can use. All others inflame my eczema.
just a suggestion
If it was my husband I would just say to him that seeing as he spends the majority of his time there and he obviously prefers to be with his friend than his wife and kids he should look at moving in with this guy. I would tell him I love him very much but I didn't marry him to be "second rate". It doesn't matter if he just wants to be with his friend. You are his wife. He should want to be with you more. There is always the weekend for his friend (and I mean only one day). So if it was me I would tell him that the deal is that he spends his evenings and off time and one whole weekend day with his wife and kids and he can see his friend on the other weekend day. Otherwise pack your bags and adioski. That might just wake him up.
suggestion
never tried it myself but have heard that you can role out gumdrops flat and then cut them. maybe you could find yellow ones and cut them into strips? also, regular frosting out of a can will work if you put yellow food coloring in it and have 5 days to let it air dry. just put it in a ziploc bag, cut off a small corner and pipe it out on wax paper.
possible suggestion for you
While communication is key, try out this website, www.flylady.net. This is a website that offers free advice on loving yourself, and how you can manage all the hectic spheres of your life. You can't control his reactions to what's going on, but you can control how you deal with his reactions. They have a few philosophies that everyone can relate to. The two important ones, in my view, are "you can do anything for 15 minutes" and "you are not behind, jump in where you are". It's not about beating yourself up because you're not perfect (that word is forbidden) - it's loving yourself for who you are and small things add up to the whole. Good luck.
just a suggestion
You could try to look online for a Legal Aid website for your state for specifics and (if necessary) an attorney that may help him (or advise him of his rights) for little or no cost.
Here's my suggestion ...
I would plan a lovely dinner and maybe a band for dancing entertainment. Get married privately beforehand and show up at the dinner to celebrate with family and friends.
A suggestion..
I would go back to the ophthalmologist to have ocular myasthenia ruled out, since you mentioned this has been going on for quite awhile. There are a lot of simple possibilities, but you may need to have it treated.
suggestion
As weird as it sounds, try Crazy Glue - this was suggested to my husband (a cabinetmaker) by his own doctor years ago - and he swears by it.
Good luck!
I have a suggestion for you
This mother who bred all this litter has a web site set up to get contributions. If you have such a bleeding heart, go there and give to her insanity. I hope the law steps in and sees this for what it is worth, a con job. Single mother, no income, living on welfare, cannot even take care of the first 6 she dropped. She needs to be spayed. Put your money where your mouth is. I am sure she would appreciate. Very few dum..folks out there wanting to contribute to such a side show.
suggestion sm
You could send him a card indicating you made a donation in his wife's name to St. Jude Hospital for Children or their church and then do it, send a check with a note explaining, giving her name and his address, etc. They will send a nice card. Older people love this, it is quite an honor to have their loved one remembered this way as he probably has all he needs right now.
Suggestion for you
I know a lot of you will think I am crazy for this but please believe me, it works!
My daughter is a high level gymnast (10) with a full scholarship next year for college in gymnastics. Despite being very good, obviously, she has a lot of mental issues with what she does that sometimes cause her to simply not allow herself go and the anxiety really affects her. The pure love for the sport is what keeps her going as most kids that get to this point just quit. We had tried all the herbal medicines, sports psychologists and on and on but it was still bad. Finally, I saw something about hypnosis and it has truly been a miracle. The hypnotist was able to delve into why she has these anxieties which stem from when she was about 8 years old and use positive reinforcement to quiet that part of her brain. The change in her has been dramatic. Her gymnastics is better than it has ever been. I would suggest you look into it for your son. The hypnotist can find out why or what caused this to be a problem and work through it. I know a lot of people will think this is nuts but many athletes use this form of therapy as I have come to find out. Just recently the 2009 Olympic gold medal pole vaulter also used hypnosis for him to overcome his fear of the pole vault and the results speak for themselves. Good luck and feel free to email with questions.
Just a suggestion
I realize your intentions are good, and you sound like you have a heart of gold! I just wanted to mention that I do not usually respond to e-mails that come in from this site, mainly because I never did set up an e-mail address specifically for logging on here, and the other two addresses I have easily identify me to others I work with or have worked with. I have been able to identify at least three people on this site as folks I've worked with at on-line companies, so never met face-to-face. I think there are a lot of folks on here who just don't want themselves identified, and that may be the reason for no response. It could also be that they had not checked their e-mail at the time you posted this. Gosh, if they were not able to pay the rent/house note or whatever, I imagine things are pretty tough and who knows what else may have happened after they posted here last.
Again, I know you just wanted to help, but the tone of this e-mail does not really reflect that kindness, especially when someone is already downtrodden.
Here's my suggestion
Just ignore them. I've learned in my many years on this planet people like that are not worth the effort.
People who are snobs will not be reformed. I've got a few in my family. One we just stopped talking to altogether, another, my aunt raised me like I was her own daughter and I love her but she's a snob and everyone in town knows it.
So the best thing is to just ignore them. You wish them well, but by having less and less contact with them it won't bother you so much. I always feel bad for my aunt that she is like that because nobody, and I mean NOBODY in her family is like that (she married into money), but they all know what she's like and they ignore her too.
So, ignore her and think of how much better you are not to be a snob like that. I just always think to myself, boy are they going to have a heck of a time explaining themselves to "the higher powers" once they cross over.
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