OldMT gave great advice
Posted By: My sympathies on 2008-12-15
In Reply to: Strongly recommend crating when not home or able to supervise - OldMT
I went through this with my shepherd. She destroyed my apartment by chewing the furniture, chewing every window sill edge in the house, the rugs, well anything that was available. I would have to remove everything in the morning before work and it was a heck of a way to live. I took her to an animal behaviorist who diagnosed separation anxiety. Shotzi was placed on low dose valium while be retrained. I had to crate her during the day and she became to love her own space. I would leave the door open and she would go in at her own will. I had to become the "pack leader" by reprimanding her softly, never yelling, and above all, no hitting - something I never did. It took a few months but she did learn. She also went to obedience class. The outcome - she calmed down, never chewed anything again and became a pleasure to live with until the day she died. I was so glad I hung in there as I was ready to give her up but just could not do that because I did love her so.
Hang in there and good luck.
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I just gave mine away--but it is a GREAT resource...
Whoever was being so nasty--what does it hurt to know what is going on? I, personally, research everything I can about everything medically happening to me and recently found out that I am among the many pregnant women with kidney stones--I never knew it was a common thing. That, in itself made me feel a little better, although I am not sure why. I think that the book is excellent and it is nice of you to try to obtain it for you DIL. I just wish you had posted this 1.5 weeks ago.
Aw, so sorry for your loss - remember you gave CJ a great coupole of months.
Prayers being said here for God to comfort you now and heal the pain of loss..
Great advice nm
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Great advice.
I actually have told him that when he grows up and he gets a dog and hurts it, I will be the one to call the police because it is against the law.
A friend of mine drove her three boys to the police station just yesterday and took all of them in, they were all acting up and out of control. She is a single mom. She asked them if she could spank her kids and told the officer what they were doing. He said YES! Bring'em on in and we will be glad too allow her to do that, if she needed too. They were quiet she said all the way home!! Maybe a trip to the police station is enough to scare him out of doing it.
Thank you for the advice about taking things away and such. I do believe I will try that for a while and if it doesn't work then to the police station and then on to counseling or something.
Great advice - thanks for sharing!
Great post, I am going to follow your advice
It says everything that should be said. I in no way feel just because family should accept, in that were the case every family member could just stop in and that would be feeding an army. I dislike the bad manners to start with; never should you say you are coming to a dinner not having been invited in the first place. To be truthful, feel like uninviting the others he volunteered to drive here- if not for them he would have never known about the dinner in the first place. They told him at a Thanksgiving dinner they had (we were invited, working though, did not attend) and I really resent their saying anything about in in front of other family members who I did not invite this year. We usually have a group of 10 only here at my home, the same each and every year. Others are out of town. Thanks for the wonderful suggestions! I shall follow through.
Posters here are giving great advice
I would definitely stash the savings before she got her hands on it. AND, I do believe she needs some help. Overspending can be a sign of a chemical imbalance. At the least, she needs budget counseling. You have to think past the moment, to the years ahead when you are both old and could possibly be broke.
We live in a double-wide trailer, older, but it is nice, and we are fixing it up room by room. Our mortgage is smaller than what rent would be. This is a conscious choice for us, knowing that if you choose the big fancy house, the big fancy payment comes with it. If you are already struggling, please stay where you are. I think you knew your answer before you asked us, just wanted affirmation, and all of the posters are wise on their advice. Best of luck to you.
Great advice from Madea on relationships sm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqDU6CPwy6Q
If you have ever been lonely, or in a bad relationship, this is for you!!!
Any avid gardners with advice on growing great cantaloupes? sm
I seem to be able to grow everything but these. It seems something always gets them about 2 weeks before they are ready to harvest. I live in mid AL. What can I do to successfully grow one of these wonderful, yummy things?
Need advice on a good, adjustable chair for typing. Any advice? nm
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I gave my mom some too, and she
said it takes her less than half the time now to clean certain things with them, because you don't have to scrub as much to get it clean.
I would like to use the mop, but I am afraid it won't clean the ceramic tile as good as other mops. Where did you get yours? Do you clean ceramic with it?
Never gave up anything before, but
going to give up soda this year and maybe it will stick afterwards.
I gave up
about a quarter of the way through. It needed some paragraphs.
I liked the baked beans slithering out of the can though. Made me chuckle.
NO - she gave him 20 and he put in 30.
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My EX MIL gave me...
One year I was on weight watchers and doing really well - and for Christmas, my MIL bought me a big box of cookies and a box of chocolates!
Shows you how she felt about me, huh?
I think you do know. He gave you the answer. sm
And you have to take that answer at face value. You've gone away with him for a weekend, so it seems like he's willing to take more than he's willing to give. If you don't want him to "shoplift the pootie", then listen to your security system.
He told you what he's thinking, and either you're ok with that, and you continue on. Or, you're not ok with it, and you have to move on.
What was the best gift you GAVE?
mine was the digital camera to DIL. She is very reserved, but actually started crying, and jumped up and gave me a HUGE, LONG, hard hug! I was shocked!! She had mentioned wanting one last year, but didn't tell us until a week before Christmas, and we already had our shopping done by then. She said we even bought the one she had picked out, and was planning on getting after the holidays, hoping it would be on sale. It is the Kodak one with the printer. I told son later, she took the award for the BEST reaction EVER to a gift!!! He laughed and agreed.
I'd have to say the most DISAPPOINTING reaction was one I expected. It was from SIL. The one I talked about on here, never gives me any feedback, is so exasperating. I had given her a Creative Memories Carry Case, filled with scrapbook making supplies to get started, and three scrapbooks to start with, one with refills. One was a gorgeous victorian one, one was plain navy blue, and the third was a purse sized one, I was thinking to put grandkid pics in. She opened it, and said nothing. I said I hope you like it, I know how creative you are, and how much you love to do crafts, etc., I thought you would create some AWESOME memories for the kids with these! She just said yeah, thanks. *sigh* BIL said he thought it was a great idea. I don't know. It was a letdown to me though, I was REALLY hoping she'd LOVE it!!
Thanks for the support for those who gave it.
I don't feel I need to answer "Jessie" anymore.
How about now I have a bad check they gave me
this morning. I would never try to put into my personal account and draw from that. Went directly to the bank to get $$$$ in hand. You are no longer able to find out if a company has the money to cover an amount by calling but there is a fraud line. I intend to open up another acct - I have an acct there also and really big place. If that check does not clear, then i talk with fraud division about that company. I am still in there swinging. I was told by a furniture salesman that I caused him to lose 3 customers yesterday when I was in there, told him good - my intentions.
I gave my statement sm
just 20 minutes ago and they are going after the owners. An autopsy and toxicology were both requested. The police and the rescue people said there was no reason this should have happened and they will make sure that family never owns another dog. Thank goodness. I feel better now. They are getting much tougher in our area regarding animal abuse, fining and sending people to jail. That poor dog's internal body temperature was 107. Definite heat stroke. Makes me sick.
I say no, my mother-in-law once gave me (sm)
a used salad shooter for Christmas. I opened it and an old recipe she had been using fell out of the box. She also gives away used perfumes and lotions that she decides she doesn't like. I think it's very tacky. Sorry
You said something that immediately gave you away
you said fixin to- I know what that is because I am southern- we are always fixin to do something, right?
Who gave you this info.......
My daughter has several autistic and learning disabled children in her classroom, which is a regular classroom with 4 to 5 added children with learning disabilities. That comment is certainly out of place but where did you get the info from? If another adult, then you should talk with the principal.
I once gave my mother ...sm
one of those long wooden handles with about 3 body scrubbers attached. She used it as a back scratcher and thought it was wonderful. Found it at...almost hate to say it....Wal-mart.
you gave yourself your own answer
You need to move 50 miles and be with your family. I would start packing tonight.
As far as I am concerned, if the cable is off, there is no reason to stay....you are going to be okay!
Were you the one who just gave birth?
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I only gave you the suggestions I had gotten -
You notice I was laughing after the nana r hot and I was pointing my finger no after the 2 Hot that my 12 year old niece suggested.
gave birth later
I was 29 with the first and 38 with the second with no birth defects
Tell him his mother gave it to you! (just kidding) nm
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Mike Gallagher also gave them ...sm
an hour of his radio show if they stayed away from the Amish funerals in Lancaster. Kudos to him. I tuned in for a few minutes, but could not believe the garbage that was coming out of their mouths,
To the 2 posters who gave me info on WW ...
The Points system is the best. I'm joined the online program and keep my points tracker open all day.
Thanks for giving the information you did.
Like you, the strong medicine they gave just does not do
it at all. Oh, he also ordered an injection of cortisone today so who knows? I told him the hard stuff did not work and did not need anything for pain, wanted to find out what was causing my pain and after the trigger points told me definitely my problem. I have gone to a pain clinic close by before and would do that again, returning in 2 weeks to this particular clinic and by then should have started the water aerobics and will ask about the pain clinic. I told hubby tonight the pain there all the time, sometimes excrucating and other times just the all over the body pain like mine is today. Gosh, you would not wish this on your worst enemy, would you? Good luck to you also.
Thank you for those of you who gave valuable info!
I've lived in an apartment my entire adult life and had no idea that a fence would cost that much and all the tools/materials that are involved in building a fence! I got some great info from the majority of the people that responded and truly thank those people :)
I gave up a long time ago........sm
I gave up a long time ago trying to enlighten those not in the teaching profession what goes into this career. Most people who "poo poo", saying the pay is more than adequate, do not have a clue what goes into this profession. True, some teachers in much better communities have it pretty good and they will tell you they are perfectly content with their pay and time off; however, every teacher does not have that wonderful classroom, full of kids that learn and parents that support. Instead, they get the bottom of the barrel so to speak and it's darn hard, the frustration level is much higher, and they feel like they are fighting a losing battle some days, but they push on. They could find another job paying better, but most teachers that stick with it truly care for the kids and want to try to get that lightbulb to go off, somehow.
Called doctor at day 15 - she just gave me (sm)
a higher dose BCP
I gave away tons of paint that I
no longer wanted, someone asking for and told them take all or nothing. They did and it helped me clean out my garage. I saw a trailer someone was giving away -the kind some folks live in. I have been trying to get my hubs to get some free mulch- they have that all the time.
I meant that if a buyer gave him - sm
a downpayment he should have set it aside in an escrow account and held it for closing. If the buyer backs out due to no fault of the seller, then the seller keeps the money and can do with it as they please. No matter what you sell, land or a house, you should always put the prospective buyers deposit into an escrow account even if you are handling the sale yourself without a realtor. That is all I meant.
I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
Yes, always gave our kids an allowance.
They are 19, 18 and 17 now. The eldest has had jobs since he was 16, so we stopped paying an allowance then. Younger two get enough money to cover school lunches for a week, plus about $10 spending money. $10 spending is not a lot to a teenager, so when they started to complain, we taught them to budget, save, and work. They started with allowances and a chore chart around age 5. Back then .50 cents and putting away toys was all it took. We advanced it as age appropriate.
They aren't always perfectly responsible with their money, but they've got the idea and have some good financial habits. Our eldest went to community college for a year and paid his own way. Now that he's transferred to a state university, we're picking up tuition, room and board. He worked all summer, budgeted, and was able to buy his books and a new laptop for school.
I think allowances are good teaching tools.
We gave ours allowances, too, until the babysitting and other
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Dont know as I gave my real name
I had no problem with it as he and his friend were trying to run the scam on the insurance I paid for. Your case??
My parents gave my daughter
and 2 neices tiny diamond studs when they were about this age. I kept them in my bedroom and decided when and where she could wear them. They earrings has screw on backs, so all 3 girls, now teenagers, still have them. If you decide to do this, check on the screw on backs, very hard to lose that way.
I had a sweet little yorkie I gave up ..
I had a sweet little yorkie I gave up with my first hubby. She never did like him, smart dog!! I regret giving her up! I tell current hubby when he complains about my furbabies that he knows where the door is. Not giving up any critters for him!!!
I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
Well, with that info you just gave it does make it different! (sm)
Now I can see his point..before it just seemed trivial...some people do just change their name to "Sunshine" for no obvious reason.
Hey Ga MT - I see that Siemens gave ya'll a MRI anyway!...sm
That's awesome that while your hospital didn't have the most votes submitted, they're still going to donate a MRI when the hospital is rebuilt. That's great news!
I had a Rainbow that my mother gave me when
she moved to a smaller place. I used it until the motor burned out, but like the poster below, they are very cumbersome and not very quick to set up and put away. I have an upright Kirby now and love it. I bought one with the shampooer and all the attachments and it works just as well as the Rainbow. I wouldn't ever think of buying one for myself.
I gave a child up for adoption...
hitchhiked alone cross country twice as a teenager. Oh, and I love Howard Stern, I listen everyday.
He gave it a good try and simply does not like it. ALso, SM
the thought of the bugs and spiders makes my skin crawl, and I am not a young child. I say encourage the other avenues of his interest and don't force him to do something that brings him to tears after he has given it a reasonable amount of time.
My oldest son gave me the idea about s/m
the generator. We rent a log splitter every fall and never even thought about it! How smart they can be.
We live on the county line, so we are always the last ones to get shoveled out as far as the roads go, but we seem to lose our electricity quite a bit, 3-4 times a year minimum.
My copy is long gone but my OB/GYN gave it - sm
to me (free) when I was confirmed pregnant by them as it was my first pregnancy. My copy is long gone. I am surprised her doctor did not give her a copy of it, presuming she has gone in for an exam. Other than that any local book store, Amazon or ebay would be my next step.
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