Okay, losing my mind. I now see it! Thanks for the help. nm
Posted By: trose on 2007-07-10
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Parenting advice needed! I am losing my mind with my 14yo son. SM
He is so smart. I got his first grade card a couple of weeks ago, 2 Fs (Science and Computer Lit) and a D+ in English. The rest of his grades were acceptable. The problem isn't that he doesn't understand the subject matter in these classes, but that he simply doesn't do the work, doesn't turn in homework assignments, NOTHING!
I started having trouble with him last year and he barely passed the 7th grade. Now, here it is the beginning of a new school year and he's doing the exact same thing. He's grounded, of course, but that doesn't seem to make a difference to him. Last night his English teacher called to tell me he hasn't turned in any assignments since the beginning of the new quarter, that he simply sits there at his desk doing nothing while the rest of the class works. She said he seems to be easily distracted.
When I talk to him about school, he gives me attitude. Last night after I hung up with the English teacher, I was very angry, and proceeded to ground him longer and took away his IPod. He had the audacity to say "mom, you're really making me mad (only he didn't say "making me mad"). I took step toward him because I was about ready to slap his disrespectiful mouth and he said "you better not lay a hand on me." He threatened me! So I basically took a deep breath and said "son you do not want to take me on." And then I proceeded to tell him that he would be staying after school with his English teacher until further notice and that I will be picking him up every day after school to make sure he brings home all his books and homework.
I don't know what else to do. I have asked his teachers to keep me informed via email cause I'm always at my computer during the day. His Science teacher just emailed me and said he didn't turn in his assignment today. After all that last night and he STILL didn't turn in his assignment!
I tried to be understanding because he's at a new school in a new town, but socially he's happier than I've seen him in a long time. He has made a bunch of new friends, he's planning on going out for the basketball team. At first I tried to blame his attitude problems on the move and the new school, but he was doing the exact same thing last year at his old school. His dad and I have separated and maybe that has something to do with it, but life has been less stressful without his dad here, even my son has said so.
Please give me some advice. I've thought about talking to the school counseling, going to family counseling, having my son see a therapist. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I'm failing as a parent here and I don't know what to do.
Thanks for letting me spill my guts.
little by little in this country - losing ....nm
I think I'm losing my memory
I know as we get older we all joke about it because it seems to be true for a lot of us. But, do you ever worry that it could be something more serious? For the last 10 years, I've noticed that I can't remember numbers any more like phone numbers. I used to be very sharp and have a good memory but now I rely on notes. It sux!
I am always losing my hair.
All year round. A lot comes out in the shower and when drying my hair. My bathroom floor is covered. I have very thick hair. I never thought to ask my doctor about it. May be I should. I do not see any bald spots yet, but I will continue to watch. I just turned 50. I hope it does not get worse.
Losing a child
I think when people say this they are talking about children who have lived, a viable child. Your baby could not at 11 weeks have survived outside the womb. My question to you- would you much rather it have been born say with a myraid of birth defects and struggling to breathe, constant medical care, not able to walk by itself, needing constant medical/home attention just so it could have been born? I know it would be even more difficult for me to have that happen than nature taking its course as in demise in the womb.
I posted above about losing my mom sm
I remember walking with a couple of friends and complaining about my mom (while she was still alive) and one of the women said to me "I lost my mom and I would give anything to have another day with her". It was several years later before I lost my mom, but oh how those words play in my mind. I will hear the country song "Just one more day" and I have to turn off the radio. I miss her teribly and I personally think that is the way it should be. Just keep all of the wonderful memories. "hugs again"
Losing friends
When I lost my first one (my cat BB) I tried to keep him hanging on as long as possible but when I talked to him about it he let me know he wanted me to let him go and I held him when I took him to the vet and he purred the whole time. He knew he didn't have to suffer any more. The really hard stuff only lasts for 3 days, then you feel better every day. It's lots easier after you get the ashes back, you feel like they're home. On my hearth I have 4 late cats, 1 late husband, 1 late brother-in-law and my late mother. I never really feel like they're gone. I feel for you, hang in there.
I'm sorry you're losing him too. (sm)
Maybe he and Sasha will play together over the bridge. So far she is eating well and keeping her weight on, so perhaps we have a little more time. She's so precious.
have same problem after almost losing my
only 2 year old to renal failure. Had to find ways to give high calorie and stimulate appetite. From the vet get one called AD by Science Diet. Mine likes it mixed with a little warm water to pablum consistency. High in vitamins, protein, fat and vets give it to very sick cats - like TraumaCal in humans.
I guess you know because it is not your fingers you are losing, NM
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Is she losing weight or having frequent
urination? I know from a friend of mine that these are some symptoms. Also, my friend had blurred vision to the point she was afraid to drive. She went to an ophthalmologist for whom she used to work. He suspected diabetes and checked her sugar. It was over 600 in the office. She has seen been an insulin dependent diabetic. She was losing weight rapidly. You are just being a good daughter. Keep an eye on things for her.
Losing your sex drive with menopause is
part of the natural progression of our biology.
the world isn't losing freedom of speech...
Just the Christians! Talk about anything except God, Jesus, Church, etc., and we're gonna pay and pay dearly for it, I am afraid! 
Focus on getting healthy, not on losing weight
I don't know your height, but was 5Ǝ" and 175 when I started trying to get fit. I lost inches first before losing weight. It took 4-5 months to lose 25 lbs, going from a size 16 to 12. Once I got there, I was more fit than 93% of all women my age. I was doing mountain hikes that put my teenagers to shame.
A few years later, I had some GI problems and started losing inches and a bit of weight, but not much weight. I lost the muscle as I had already burned off the fat. I dropped only 5 lbs, but went from size 12 to a size 8. I was anorectic. I'm back up again. ugh.
Just wanted you to know that if you think about getting fit, you may be more successful than if your goal is to lose weight. A lot of people give up because they don't lose the weight they expect of themselves. Your body will tell you where you should be. If you lose too much weight, you'll stay sick. If you are fit and stay fit, you'll feel it in any muscle and bone of your body. Good luck! Sounds like your off to a good start.
so sorry, losing a pet rips a part of my heart out
and having to make the decision rips an even bigger part. So very sorry. Take some solace in the happiness he had with you.
Agree with losing tail. An old cat just tends to walk around, not much jumping or
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Read the papers, duh! People are losing their homes
for getting into this stuff.
Goes to show, you aren't that smart. Money in bank getting interest only. Come on lady, what planet do you live on? You are full of it. You are depending on the two most unstable things in the world right now. Talk about planning.
Crickets, airports (not planes), spiders, losing my kids...
My chiropractor said his plastic surgeon friends are losing their practices.
At least here in C.FL, plastic surgery is tanking!
I'm sorry. It's rough losing a pet. I lost my dog, Tate a couple years back. SM
He was a sheltie and he used to lay under my desk when I worked and I would rub him with my foot and he was a great foot warmer in the winter! I used to say, he wasn't my dog, I was his person. He got sick and then his liver failed and I had to have him put to sleep because he was suffering. I cried for weeks! I still haven't gotten another dog. My kids have been begging me and they've almost wore me down, but for a long time after Taters died, I just couldn't bring myself to even think about another dog. I compromised and got the kitty last summer. I've never had a cat before, so I didn't know if I'd like a cat or not. I've always been a dog lover, but I've been quite taken with my little cat. He's ornery little guy and I love to play cat and mouse with him.
Listen to me just gush! Sorry about that.
If you don't mind me asking, did you take the
mega-B vitamin pill every day or just when you felt the symptoms? My former OB/GYN basically dismissed me as "it is part of life", but she did suggest vitamin B, but I don't remember if it was every day or not.... Thanks for listening.... By the way, I think my Mom had PMS too but never sought attention. I find out later on down the line not too long ago that she also suffered from severe anxiety. She had high blood pressure as well, which I do not have. But I think of all the times as a child how she would be so moody, ya' know.... LOL.... makes more sense now.
would you mind
what you think I could do to make it better for her... I'm not referring to the party.... just in general. It weighs on me. Thank you.
Sorry you had to deal with that growing up. That had to be incredibly hard.
I can do about anything I put my mind to...
The waterfall idea I had was obviously to make my own, but creating out of pottery, or a like substance and having it fired. However, I've no experience and tho I am keenly interested, I am afraid it would be quite time consuming. I would like to propose before Christmas.
I was always of the mind that
Happy Holidays encompassed everything from Thanksgiving through January. It was just a more efficient way of noting good tidings. It is certainly easier than saying, "Happy Thanksgiving and merry/joyous religious and/or cultural holiday and/observance of your choice and Happy New Year.
Well first keep in mind that everything changes....(sm)
Nothing stays the same. I remember at one point in my life feeling like I was at the lowest point possible... like no one in the world cared. I remember sitting in my room thinking it would be better if I just died. Then my sister called and told me that she was thinking about killing herself. I talked to her for an hour about all the people who would be hurt and devastated if she did. All the things she had to live for and how you never know what the future holds. By the time I finished talking to her I felt so much better. About six months later, my life was going great and I was so much happier, I thought back to the moment when I had sat in my room wishing to die and I realized that we have to always understand that a moment is just that...a fleeting moment. Nothing stays the same. You never ever know how things are going to go. You do have people who love you and count on you...your daughter and your granddaughter...it was a good decision you made not to exchange gifts with your daughter when you are in debt. Christmas is not about getting gifts anyway...it is about giving and loving others...and you did just that by sacrificing your own gifts to be sure your granddaughter had a good Christmas!! You should feel really good about that. Also, you said you have avoided people...reach out and reconnect with your old friends..you say you didn't even get a card...did they get one from you? Did you call them? Go to a debt counselling service and get help with your credit card issue. Keep looking for better jobs and hang onto your less than great ones in the meantime. Just from your post I can see you have much to be thankful for. You are obviously intelligent from the way you type, you have family members, you have 2 jobs (many people have none), you have friends whose opinion you valued at one time enough to avoid them over being ashamed. Everyone has something at some point in their life that they are not happy about or proud of...everyone comes into hard times at some point in their life. Reach out!!! Take some steps to improve your life. It is all so within your reach!
Do you mind if I ask
how your kids like your b/f and if they are comfortable around him. I have so much anxiety about that and that is one of reasons I choose not to date. How did you bring your b/f into their lives?
What if it is on her mind?
I think about ice cream all the time! Although, I suppose it is a problem. :)
Don't mind really
You know..It's funny. I really don't mind doing it. I kinda like the social aspect of it and being able to feel like I'm doing something other than just production work. But, I really would like to get some compensation for it as well. How should I go about it? My boss and I get along VERY well and we see eye to eye on most things, but I've just never been very good at asking for things.javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
I did not say he was in his right mind- sm
it is never right, just saying maybe childbirth, etc. made him be *tupid- who knows, who cares at this point. No need for you to be a total witch about it. I had not read all the posting when I posted, what is your excuse? I am more concerned about her current children. If he is a pedophile she needs to see if he had done anything with her/their own kids.
Only in your mind (nm)
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Mind your own
I doubt that getting the stick is so heinous, or the child wouldn't have chosen it. What the child did was deliberately deceptive, which is really one of the worst offenses. When a child believes he is so clever he can outwit the parent, there is trouble brewing.
Like others have said, DHS is not the best solution and once you get them involved, you can't un-ring that bell. If you see the child with marks on him or limping from injuries, that's different. As it is, stay out of it.
A J Cowling and OJ come to mind........
Oh yeah I did watch it - and still felt *inundated* - it became prime time TV.....it preempted many TV shows.....
And as far as you not thinking he did the deed - you're entitled to your opinion - just as we all are. I believe he did it and it's as simple as that, TO ME. To me, he HAS the legs - legs that were/ are known for running!!
Have a great Sunday...........
I think she should mind her own business - NM
NM
the first thing that comes to my mind
detatched retina.
not saying thats whats wrong but had 2 sister-in-laws who both had detatched retina and symptoms were floaters. get to an eye doctor asap to get it checked out. if it is the sooner its treated the better--- which is the case no matter what the cause is
I google whatever ? comes to mind...sm
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
http://www.bloomington.in.us/~lgthscac/santeria.htm
http://www.religioustolerance.org/santeri.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santeria
I actually dont mind others using....
a cell phone if I am in a store as long as it is not to argue with family etc. My son has one and sometimes he will use it in a store to call me and ask me something regarding an item I asked to grab for me while there etc. I have also heard husbands talking to their partners asking questions regarding food shopping while in an isle. That doesnt seem to bother me at all..
How do you quiet your mind
My mind just always races and I can't sleep. I am not good at meditating, can't take meds or herbal supplements because of health issues. any suggestions?
Big DollHouse comes to mind!...
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I gotta get out, How'd i get in this slammer
This cooler, this big dollhouse!
Alright, ladies, welcome to the "Big Dollhouse!" For those of you new to the Baltimore Women's House of Detention, think of me as a mother... one who eats her young!
Locked up with all these lowlife women
And horizontal stripes ain't exactly slimmin'.
Is there anybody here who can dry clean my blouse?
It's the maid's day off In the big dollhouse
Lady justice, Where have you gone?
Îîí, wilbur, check, I think i left the iron on!
Did you see corny laughing? I could murder that louse!
Honey, that'll getcha life In the big dollhouse
Big house!... Locked up here in the pen
Big house!... No phone! No food! No men!
I need a conjugal visit from my loving spouse
Honey, just drop the soap in The Big Dollhouse
Yoo hoo, my stomach's a little sour
I haven't had food in over an hour
You just had a pizza, six burgers, a mouse!
There's no food left in the big dollhouse
Hey, I have got to complain
Mira, mami, don't i know you from 1st and main?
Eek, call my attorneys Lipshitz and Strauss
I gotta get sprung from the big dollhouse
Big house! No fair! No food! No fun!
Big house! And our fight had just begun
'Cause it's freedom's flame I'd like to douse
So we must break out of this Big Dollhouse
Penny, i can't take all this waiting
I've lost my man plus, my hair's deflating!
Well Tracy, I hate to grumble or grouse
But it's your fault that we're in this big dollhouse!!
Hey, cool it, ladies no need to shout
And don't ya got an old man to bail you out?
Ha! Her daddy's a pervert, a loser, a souse!
Well, it's just us girls in the big dollhouse
Big house! God, i'm too young to fry!
Big house! I'm busting out! Girl, so am i!
Lady justice, hear my plea 'Cause the big dollhouse
The big dollhouse ain't big enough for me!
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Brings to mind
Michael Jackson's little court room dramatics- hobbling into court in his PJs acting like he was at deaths door.
Do they really think the judge is gonna go "ohhh, poor thing, I can't send them to jail if they don't feel well!" Gimme a break!
Paris's "medical condition" is obviously not so severe that it kept her from going out and getting drunk and driving.
And please, I had a friend who had full blown AIDS and was still required to serve most of his sentence.
That's a weight off your mind!
Glad it was just a contact allergy to something avoidable.
I can't touch roses myself.
Okay, I don't mind paying
to make sure everything is in order! Thanks for all the advice!
Would you mind sharing?
My mom used to always keep a copy of The Pill Book which had pics of medications as well as info about them. When my son and my niece were little, they would play doctor (REAL doctor, not the other kind! LOL) and use The Pill Book to prescribe things for each other.
with peace of mind 24/7 nm
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Mind Freak
Chris Angel....illusionist extraordinaire right now on A&E (whatever channel that is in your area)....The 21st century Houdini....Any comments? 
Mind if I ask who you're going with
we need to make some changes (going wireless as we now have three computers and only two are wired to the modem right now) and are considering getting a cell phone again (haven't had one for years, but had Sprint about eight years ago and felt that the clarity was better with their service than the experiences we've had talking to people who use some of the other services today). We have BellSouth, now AT&T, for phone/DSL and also had our Direct TV service set up through one of their special offers a couple of years ago. I haven't had time lately to take a look at available options for combining and saving, transitioning to wireless, etc., so I hope you don't mind if I pick your brain a litte bit. Oh, we do have a security system, but it is not currently being monitored and one of our puppies chewed first the carpet and then the SS wiring, so now just a trouble light there and will have to call someone out to repair the wiring. I have wondered about Walton EMC for that, but the computer issues and possibly dropping the LAN line for a cell are what's really got me thinking about this.
I sure would appreciate any insight you could offer. Thanks, and have a peachy day!
never mind, i figured it out nm
nm
Mind my business?
You rude ( I cant say on here what I would like so I will leave it to your imagination). If I was minding her business don't you think I would be calling her or going over there. No I am not. I AM minding my own business. I am well aware that a person can do what they like with a gift or card they get. But what a rude person to just put a card in a drawer that someone went to the trouble of sending. It doesn't change the fact it is rude. Don't tell me to mind my own business. You are probably one of those people who has no friends so of course you wouldn't have in insightful info on any experiences with friends. Therefore don't answer my posts. Concern for a friend does not make me clingy. Yes we talked all the time on the phone and emailed a lot. Why wouldn't I be concerned when that stopped? I have a life. I have a job, a husband, a son, and many pets. I have plenty to occupy my time. But I am not the type of person to not show concern.
Do you mind if I ask your age..I understand
xx
This crossed my mind too (sm)
It could be anything along these lines...maybe as simple as a strip club or maybe much worse. But yes, don't panic or let him know you are suspicious or you will have a much harder time catching him if anything is going on.
Clearly to blame for what? In your mind. nm
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To ease your mind
I told my internist I had a problem with my thyroid, knew what it was because of the obvious symptoms- however when the test results came back they called endocrinologist and I got in almost immediately. You see, the difference is a physician's office calling as opposed to you or me. I have learned that little trick and have asked other offices to call for me because they can get a person seen earlier. I did not have a nodule but I have hypothyroidism and treated with medication alone. Hey, we must have seen the same person - I was told the endocrinologist did not have a good bedside manner- just means he was not talkative or personable- would not let that bother me either.
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