Okay gal..........get some self esteem!!!!

• ok, i have to admit, i lied in one of my posts down there - suprmommy3
  • Are you actually talking about someone else? sm - Really?
    • Someone here got her mad and she feels the need to get - creative. Not funny.
  • so hubby's a dork, but you/he love/care for your 3 children. - NM
  • maybe you took him b/c you knew - no one else wanted you. nm
    • i could have had his brother - nm - suprmommy3
      • your post reminds me of the Jim Carey movie - Liar, Liar! LOL!! --- nm
  • Okay gal..........get some self esteem!!!! - nm

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Dear Butter and Clutter,

I was married to "your" husband for 12 years.  To paraphrase you "he had a good job (lawyer) and was sometimes nice."  But mostly he wasn't.  He had good qualities too, mostly he had a good job and liked me and found me very attractive in the beginning. 

As the years went by things got worse.  Nothing I could do was good enough.  And I tried everything.  Therapy, cooking, cleaning, weight loss, you name it, I did it.  He was mean, sullen and critical.  He was also angry and violent toward others and drank to excess.  I even stayed with him after I found myself in the hospital in another state diagnosed with a tumor the size of a grapefruit and a 50/50 chance of dying within 3 weeks, and he didn't even come to be with me when I had emergency surgery.

One day I caught him with his secretary.  It felt like a slap in the face.  When I asked him why, he said she looked like I did 10 years ago (at that time).  That was my wake-up call.  I had thought about leaving him for years and was afraid to.  I didn't make much money having just started my own little MT business.  I had cashed all my stocks and 401K to put him through law school. I had no money at all.

But I left.  What I realized was that this wasn't about him.  It was about me and what had become of me over those 12 years.  I was beaten down, my self-esteem and self-respect were gone.  I had allowed myself to be belittled and emotionally and mentally abused into thinking I was underserving of love and respect.  That I wasn't good enough.

I am now with a man who loves me unconditionally.  He's been by my side through breast cancer, financial despair and even gaining a few pounds!  He's a truckdriver, not a lawyer, and I thank God everyday that I know I deserve to be loved and treated this way.

You do too.