Oh sorry. I thought he was a lawyer and the other two guys' father was judge. sm
Posted By: LMT on 2008-02-05
In Reply to: he's a judge - nm
My bad, but either way daddy can get him out of it.
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geez. glad you guys are not MY judge and jury...sm
I will leave that to God to decide as to who is right and who is wrong. after 12 years, I would suggest moving on. It is over and done with. IF he did it, he will pay his dues. IF he did not do it, as he says, he will be redeemed. Case closed.
my father thought his MIL was
On the night I was born, my dad and his MIL sat in the same room together all evening while my mother was asleep in the next room. My dad said she stared at him all night long over her magazine to watch him squirm. By the way he was 20 at the time and she was 38.
To this day they have the same squirmy relationship.
It doesn't mean anything.
What about my father's cousin's kid? I thought he
so, how would you feel if the guys thought that about
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If father thought child support was not being spent
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huh? Judge Judy's been a FAMILY COURT judge...
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What's your lawyer doing
If you're separated, why aren't you and the kids in the family residence, or why isn't your ex forking over child support and alimony so you can afford your own place?
Check with welfare, Medicaid and children's services in your town to see what programs you're eligible for.
If its untenable to reside with your parents, go to a shelter until you resolve the money issues and then get your own place.
Save yourself. Light a fire under that lawyer and be more pro-active. Take charge, it you can't do it for yourself, find the strength to do it for your kid's future.
Might need to consider another lawyer
My BIL turned down for disability before, got another lawyer and it made all the difference in the world and he got his disability after being turned down before a judge. Is this lawyer strictly in the disability field or could you perhaps get a second opinion. It would not hurt to try.
I'm not a lawyer yet but...
If that bill really was first incurred in 1987 (!!!!!) there is no way on earth that it should be collectable from ANYBODY, let alone the minor child at the time!
That said, most states have a statute of limitations. Most states (you never said which state you're in, so I can't look up that state's regulations) start counting a statute of limitations from when the most recent payment was made on the account. So if your parents stopped making payments on the bill in 1999, then in a state with a 6-year statute of limitations (SOL), then legally the hospital or any secondary debt collectors cannot take legal action to collect the debt after 2005.
Now....
Not being able to take legal action to collect the debt does NOT mean that they can't try to weasel it out of you through guilt or intimidation. But they don't have a legal leg to stand on to enforce anything once the SOL has run out.
So...
They never should have gone after YOU no matter what.
And they never should have even had it in their records from 6 years after your parents last made a payment on it.
Like somebody else said - tell them to pound sand! LOL!
The lawyer and the money
Well, it seems kinda funny that shortly after her court case was settled her son died. Then, she had the committment ceremony with the sleazy lawyer. Now, a few months later she dies? Wonder who her beneficiary is. It could shed some light on the events surrounding her and her son's deaths. I wouldn't say it's all about the money, but it does seem suspicious. I still wouldn't be surprised if it winds up just being a drug overdose though.
Doctor says to lawyer
We were born on the same year, month, day, and minute. We were born in the same hospital, hospital room and we have the same 2 parents. We are not twins and we have no brothers. Explain this.
Which one? The lawyer or radio DJ..nm
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I'd get a lawyer ASAP and have those
before he spends it all on the other woman or hides it offshore. No way would I let my half go with him and that other woman. I know this may sound a little harsh, but your mom needs to wake up and do something now before it's too late.
She told her lawyer...sm
That he wouldn't get out because he said he didn't have to until the divorce was final and she can't make him leave until then which is next week. The lawyer can and will make him get out. Her lawyer is very crude and ruthless. She hates to go through all of that though. She wants him to peacefully leave. When the divorce is final she could call the sheriff's dept. and they could make him leave but she really said this would hurt her so to have to do that. It is hard enough without all that.
Mama has told him go live with the other woman. I don't think the other woman wants him there. See she is just using him because daddy has it bad for her and she uses it to her advantage to get anything she wants from him. To tell you the extent, he had around $70,000 cash in the bank less than a year ago and it is gone. My mama has seen the other woman's mame signed where she goes to his bank and everything and is allowed to get cash out. So she is just using my daddy for money and he knows this but he has it so bad for her he lets her do it. He is now broke and has no more money or not much anyway. This woman has broke him but it is his own fault for letting her. He should be smarter than that. She doesn't want him living with her I don't think or he would. I don't know. But my mom says if you hadn't gave her all your money you would have money to find a place to live. She says not her problem. Which is true.
Talk to a lawyer first - sm
I had the exact situation listed here above, house in DH name, family 4 hours away, no money, etc. In my state, VA, it is a equiable distribution state, meaning they divide it fairly, it is not an automatic 50/50 they take in each persons contributions, etc. So in my case the house would have been 40% mine as he put down the 20% on the house from the sale of his house. Our debt would have probably held where it was about 55% mine versus 45% his, or actually I might have ended up with more as my name was listed as a user on one of his accounts and I did deceive him. In my case, I was hoping he would leave, go live with his brother in MD or rent the apt. next door (neighbor has a vacant apt. over garage, tenant just died), but he would not have done it willingly. Even now after we have worked through everything, he said the other day if I screwed it up again he was taking the kids to his parents, leaving me, and would burn the house down so I got nothing. Sweet. (then again he'd be in jail and I would have the kids and the insurance money if there was any--doubtful since it would be arson). Like I said it has not been all roses but it is going well for the most part. In my case I am glad it was not the end of my marriage though I thought it would be; I talked to a lawyer in anticipation , $160 for 45 mintues, but well worth it.
Yes, get a divorce lawyer - sm
I talked to one before I confessed to my DH about the debt he knew nothing about ($88K) figuring my marriage would be over. In the event of a divorce I would have walked away with no debt, no home, but enough leftover to either buy a house with a good downpayment, or rent and be able to afford it for quite a while. I know my DH would have tried to get the kids too but I don't think he would have "won" despite my deception about the debt. I do everything for my kids, he does nothing except make dinner a couple times a week and takes them to the movies or skating every 3-4 weeks, that is it. I never got so low as to open cards in his name, and I am thankful I never sunk to that level though it did cross my mind once or twice I knew it was horribly wrong. I suspect he just filled out them in your name, maybe even on line, and then transfered his debt to yours, possibly putting himself as a user on the account, but even w/o doing that he could still transfer his debt to "your card", I know, I would transfer debt off my husband's cards onto mine so his credit would stay pristine, and so he would not find out. I would inform the companies that you did not open the accounts, have a fraud investigation started. As for telling him about the debt, since you are already heading for divorce, I would not tell him a thing, let the lawyers figure it out. They will do a list of assets and debts and figure it all out in the settlement. He can find out then. Run a credit report on yourself and find out how many cards he opened up in your name, and call each one, or better yet talk to a lawyer first and see what they have to say on the matter. I know my mess was/is bad but very thankful my DH ended up to be forgiving enough or just too lazy to go thru another divorce (I am his 2nd wife), and/or did not want to put the kids thru that. But the sooner you get the ball rolling and start taking care of things the better you will feel, I know, I feel so much better now. You kids will be happier too. Do not stay for the kids or keeping a stable home, etc. If you are miserable, then they are too and it is a horrible example for them. In my case a miracle happened and things are better than they have been in a long time, but it sounds like your case is terminal. I wish you the best of luck.
She needs to talk to a lawyer before doing - sm
anything. Before I confessed to my DH about our debt back in Oct./Nov., cannot even remember when now, I talked to a lawyer as I wanted to know what my rights were and where I would stand in the event of a divorce. She was quite clear about not taking the kids out of the state. Once your friend has a custody agreement in place then maybe, obviously the lawyer and courthouse clerk could best advise her on that, but there are a lot of things that need to be done prior to that or he can call the cops, etc. He sounds like a primo A-hole. She needs to move fast before they lose their house though.
CPS does tell if lawyer gets involved. have had every detail given to me before sm
when they were called in me for my kids riding their bikes in the neighborhood streets like every kid in the neighborhood did. we hired lawyer, refused the one on one investigation at school with the kids, and had the "meeting" at the laywers office. never allowed them in our home, but our lawyer got every detail of the report, which was passed onto us. we had the date, the name of the person who called, their address, everything.
You can probably make-up a date to see a lawyer
because marriage is based on truth. Just tell him you are done! End of story. If he catches you in a lie, that could spell trouble. JMO. 
Time for a call to a lawyer.
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Take this to a lawyer. Fight for him. This cannot be legal.
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I did talk to a lawyer too before I dropped - sm
the bomb on my DH as I wanted to know where I stood. I live in a state where they do an equitable disbursement of the marital goods, assets, etc. I would have a 40% stake in the house, entitled to about $100K in his 401K (1/2 of its growth since we married), 1/2 of assets we purchased together. Though a judge would deem what it fair, either way I would walk away debt-free though I would not have a home if we sold everything. He told me in one of his pissy moments that if we lose the house (which there is no danger of) he is moving in with his parents with the kids and I am on my own. What he does not realize that no judge would give him custody (has depression , threatened suicide, etc) and the kids would want to be with me. He has a temper too that gets the better of him too much and he is an alcoholic as well. So if a judge gave him custody I would be totally shocked. I am relatively healthy though overweight by 70 pounds, drink a glass of wine 5 days a week maybe (that is it--he drinks 9-12 beers a day --every day--- though he has cut down to 9 since the 13th for which I am happy for though I'd rather he quit altogether---But good thing to find out where you would stand in a divorce and what you would need to do in terms of custody if push came to shove.
probably call a lawyer dont you think?
Maybe she could see a counselor herself and see if they could help her to make the decision or at least scoot her in the right direction about what she needs to do or who to talk to.
That's too bad of a situation... wish her the best
Go talk to a lawyer pronto - sm
I did this before I confessed to my DH about our debt issues back in October as our house is in his name only as is the mortgage, and wanted to know where I stood with my "share" of our assets. If it was bought after you married, as ours was, then it is maritial property. The division is not 50/50 unless you both contributed equally to the downpayment, in my case he used the money from the sale of our (his) former house that he had before we married. So my share would be something like 40%. Our two cars are in both our names, except our boat and utility trailer, those are his which is just fine with me. I also have no money, but he (we) has a very nice 401K (still by some miracle), of which I would be entitled 50% of the earnings in the time period of our marriage. But basically regardless of whose name is on what it is maritial property as long as you lived in it together and you contributed to the household in some way whether it is paying all the bills, or some, or staying home to take care of the kids, it is a contribution. They figure out all the percentages, etc. I would not leave the home though, he will say you left the marriage, etc. Call around, see if you can get a free consult or a discounted consult. I think I paid $160 for my 45 minute phone call but I felt much better for doing so. Luckily I did not end up needing the lawyer, but I was ready to do so if necessary. Good Luck.
,,,use your support system, and find a lawyer who
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I'd tell him to save HIS money for a divorce lawyer sm
He seems kind of rude to me. No way my hubby would dictate to me like that. He knows I would show him the door
Machine of my choice - divorce lawyer
I couldn't live like that. Besides the awful stench and the health hazards, I wouldn't stand for his lack of respect for me.
Call lawyer! Nobody here is atty. Consultation will
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Good point, I will be contacting a lawyer - sm
to get their input, though I wil probably do the filing solo so I save money, only about $300 if I do it myself. Just need to get info and follow the rules.
Good luck but I doubt you will find a lawyer sm
First of all, I am glad that your sister knows the truth and is not dying. Unfortunately I know from experience what it is like for a loved one to be given a misdiagnosis death sentence. My father-in-law went in the hospital almost 2 years ago with trouble swallowing and ended up getting referred to an ENT that sent him over to a neurologist. He did an EMG/NCS on his tongue, said he had ALS, and to prepare within 6 months to make a decision on being on a ventilator or being DNR. He had to quit working early & be fed through a PEG for over a year, during which time I took him to a different neurologist, a specialist in motor neuron diseases, who said that EMGs performed on the tongue are unreliable and that he had no evidence of ALS at all. Basically what had happened is that his vocal cord was not working properly, and the ENT said it was paralyzed, which is was not. Because the first neurologist just assumed the ENT was correct, he made the diagnosis. I tried calling a few lawyers for the pain and suffering aspect, but unless you want to try through civil court, there is no malpractice involved because there was no permanent physical damage done. They're lucky he didn't follow through with the suicidal thoughts he was having when he was first told all of this bullcr@p.
There is not but one judge. NM
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not OP.....but......Judge Not
he's a judge
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To judge or not to judge
Sometimes I think it is REALLY difficult to go through life without being judgemental.
Judge Judy Says...
Just from what I've seen, if it is in your possession, then you assume due care and protection of the property. You are responsible. Doesn't matter if hubby was too tired to unload. I'd stil make a police report stating it was stolen from their home to document details. then I'd take them to small claims court. Sounds like if the situation were reversed, your sister would already have a lawyer!
judge not lest ye be judged I always say.....nm
Here we go again. Judge not, I'm not judging. I am following
that is how I can say what a store should and shouldn't sell!
judge not lest ye be judged..........
the judge....an embarrassment to many
I live in Florida and I am so ashamed of this judge on this case - the circus that HE seems to want with the media for his measley 15 minutes of fame. It is very unfortunate because he makes all people of his culture/religion look REALLY bad. I'm totally ashamed of him........
they tried to get rid of this judge in 2004...
Judge Seidlin Takes Center Stage In Smith Trial
(CBS) FORT LAUDERDALE, Fla. He's known to be the no-nonsense judge sorting out the claims for Anna Nicole Smith's body, but Judge Larry Seidlin has left many wondering about him and his courtroom antics.
For the past two weeks, the international media has watched the Broward County judge's handling of the dispute over Anna Nicole's body.
"It's a piece of paper that's purported to be a will, that causes me to lose more hair than I have already lost," said Seidlin on Tuesday, as he looked at paperwork provided by Howard K. Stern's legal team.
Comments such as this one have some in the legal community questioning how the judge handled this case. Seidlin has more than 20 years of experience as a judge.
Some of the expressions he used when handling the case left him apologizing, such as when he referred to Anna Nicole's body last week as "my baby." He later apologized for that comment and has since taken a more serious stance when talking about the body.
"We want to give respect and peace to Ms. Smith's body," he said this week.
Nonetheless, this is not the first time that Seidlin's behavior has been questioned. In 2004, a poll of the bar association showed that 20 percent of lawyers didn't think he was qualified for the job, putting him at the bottom of the list of judges in the county.
Seidlin, a native New Yorker, paid for his way through law school by driving a taxi and was appointed in 1989 as a circuit judge. In 1978 he was elected as a county judge, making him one of the youngest judges to be elected, at age 28.
© 2007 CBS Broadcasting, Inc.
.http://wcbstv.com/entertainment/entertainment_story_053160754.html
Okay, now what was up with the judge *crying*
I have never in my life seen or heard of a judge breaking down and crying like that. It just got more bizarre by the minute. I seriosly think he has some sort of mental disorder. WOW!
What about going on one of the judge shows?
I heard they pay the plantiff on the spot :)
I like the judge shows too, --sm
'specially Judge Judy. I like it when she starts telling people they are i*d*i*o*t*s, and the like. I really don't know why some of those people would even WANT to go on there and be subjected to her wrath! Talk about an anger personality! wheee.
Maybe you should not judge other people!!!
for 17 years. So, please do not judge me without knowing me.
Need advice/please don't judge me
First of all...I want to say what happened was not intentional and in fact I am quite ashamed. I do not condone extramarital affairs in any way. I have been cheated on and I know what it does to a family.
I met this man via the internet last year while searching for information regarding my brother and his death in the VN war. I ended up getting in contact with a handful of my brother's platoon commrades and went through the grieving process of finding out about their ambush, how many were killed, who was injured, etc.
One of the men in particular I bonded with and I did not set out to do this. It started out as casual chats about my brother and ended up going into everything under the sun. I had no idea he was married. He talked about his ex-wife a few times and their past issues, but no mention of a current wife.
We chat primarily by email and some on the phone. He would have me call him at his office. I did call him at home once, but he was waiting for my call. I started to feel a lot for him, I think like a close brother at first as I was looking to fill the shoes of my deceased brother maybe..I don't know. I did the Google thing on him and of course I found him. He is rather important in his community and profession and has been in the media. I googled his number and found it was under a woman's name. The next time I called him I jokingly asked..."So how's your wife?" and he replied..."What about my wife?" My heart sunk. I would ask about her and he would only respond with "She's a good woman." Within about a week's time he asked me to stop emailing him at home and that I could email his office email or call him there. He said his wife was giving him funny looks about the emails. None of the emails were naughty or anything like that...actually casual, etc. I just felt like our friendship had to be a secret or something.
Getting to the point...we have not met in person, but I am so in love with him. He treats me wonderfully, cares about me, makes me very happy and I have not felt this way about anyone in a very long time. I am a single mom. I was not looking to fall for him but I have. He is 20 years my senior but that does not matter to me. He has said had we met 10 years ago he would have snatched me up. I believe his marriage is rocky, as he stated there had been some tension, but he never goes into detail and I don't push him. We continue to talk every week for lengthy periods of time...yes he is at work and does work, but I cannot reveal his employment. He has spoken of meeting in the future and that is that. He knows how I feel about him and he does not say that he loves me, but I am sure he cares about me to the extent that he can and still be faithful.
The problem is that our friendship will end as soon as he retires in early 2008, as I will have no way of communicating with him anymore. I can email him at home as long as it is VN-related. He has become such an important part of my life that I think about him all of the time and pray that some day he will be single so that he can be with me. I am content with just a friendship because we are long-distance. What I am devastated about is that the "light of my life" will be gone once he has retired. I have told him this and he responds by saying, "you are strong...you will make it." The problem is that I don't think I am strong enough. I really need his friendship. I cannot explain to you without going on and on about what our conversations are like, but we laugh all the time and share common interests and there are some really eerie coincidences. I believe my brother brought him into my life for a reason. Since he has been in my life, it has been the best year ever and I have evolved into a better person.
What do I do to keep our friendship? What do I do to keep contact with him? I truly do not think I will be able to get along without him. He is a strength to me like I have never had. I am so depressed because I do not want to lose him. I know I seem crazy and immoral, but really I am not. I am really confused. I let down my guard with him. I have no regrets other than I wish he were single.
Help me..don't judge me..anyone else go through something like this and if so how did you survive it? I respect your opinions. Thank you.
Link to a pic, judge for yourself...sm
Danny Zuko kissing a guy...who has been identified as "Jett's nanny," by the way.
http://popsugar.com/26542
It's so easy to judge...
people when you think you have all the answers. Isn't it? What happens when one hits rock bottom? I'm too old to stroll out and "just get another job". I feel totally worthless and alone. I am at the point of considering suicide.
At what point did I judge or condemn? Because
is a sin means that I have judged people? No, you have misinterpreted what I have posted. If any Believer comes to God and asks for forgiveness of his or her sins, those sins will be washed away. Read my posts again. I never judged anyone. I know that only God can judge. But, I can choose not to shop at stores that support homosexuality as I believe and follow what the Bible says, which is homosexuality as being sinful.
Laughing? That judge is a moron.
Glad you found his humor to be comical.
The judge may be a goof buttttt
In the end Anna nicole will be buried with her son and be able to be close to her baby girl
Have been approached by 3 of the judge shows before but
you and the other have to consent to both appear. Judge Judy, Joe Brown and Judge Mathis have all contacted me. It is a win-win situation for the people because the shows pay if you win so the defendant (as in my case) if losing would win because if found in my judgement, the judge show would pay. This was a previous case, not this particular 1. Each show has runners that go to the court houses and pull the different cases, that is how they get their clients.
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