Oh, so we must be old if we rather give a gift than money? SM
Posted By: MissouriMT on 2007-07-25
In Reply to: I guess you're one of those that brings gifts? - sm
I happen to agree with Annie! It's not my problem if the bride and groom over spent for their wedding. I didn't ask them to spend a dime. I didn't ask them to invite me. So why should I feel compelled to give a huge monetary gift to help them with the cost? Besides this particular bride and groom are not shy about bragging about how "blessed" they are. I happen to think it's tacky that they would have such a huge, traditional affair for their SECOND marriage! They've invited 200+ guests. I had no idea there would be a bridal shower until I got an invitation to that in the mail the other day! They are merging to complete households -- what could they possibly need? Each owns their own home with all the furnishings.
I'm not very happy with this whole wedding affair anyway. My daughter is the flower girl, my son is an usher, and I'm in charge of the guest book (whatever that means!). I've had to buy myself a dress and my son a new suit. The bride is furnishing my daughter's dress, but I've had to buy the shoes and have been instructed that she needs to have her done up at the beauty shop the day of the wedding at my cost!
And now I have to think about a bridal shower! Ugh! If I ever get married again, I am going to spare my family friends this circus and get married in my backyard! It'll be a kegger with all the BBQ you can eat. Just come as you are and bring a covered dish! 
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Gift Cards or Money...sm
I gave up trying to please everyone with personal gifts. They were never good enough or what the person wanted. so now I give either cash or gift cards. Even with the gift cards, however, I received complaints. They did not like where the gift cards were from, etc so now I basically just give money. That way they spend it on what they want. You can't really get many complaints from just money and they cannot return it. good luck to you.
Do we continue to give a gift? Help!
In DH's family you give to the godchild and godparent at Christmas. My DH's godchild is in her 20s, loves the labels, and does not respond to questions of what she would like for Christmas. The past three years we have not received a thank you for any gift. We were not able to attend the family celebration for the past two years but there this year. Did not receive a thank you after opening the gift or as she was leaving the house. Spoke to MIL later and said I was done with buying her any gifts as nothing is appreciated or even given the courtesy of a thank you. MIL insisted we still buy a gift, even a small gift under $10. I don't agree. Am I being harsh? I don't just buy anything - I take the time to shop and consider who I'm buying a gift for. Any advice?
Do you think a) they will give me my money or
b) I will have to take furniture out of their store? I bought some furniture, has been over a year ago and never got it, got the runaround, they never returned my money with my asking for the return after several months of no show. I filed a lawsuit, they would not answer, did not show up in court when told to and bottom line now the courts found they do owe me and if they don’t pay me by the 15th of this month (over $700.00) then I get to go with an officer of the court, take a big truck and load up more than what I think is enough to cover what they owe me in the first place. Do you think this is absolutely crazy for a big store to ignore they owe me and do they not care about how it will look if there is a police at their door as we cart off furniture? I would, of course, go on what I would hope to be an extremely busy day for them, say a Saturday. Needless to say when all this is over I will be calling the Better Business Bureau and word of mouth also so that no one else will be caught in their business dealings.
I would not give her the money
I don't give out money anymore because I am still making the payments on what I have co-signed.
It doesn't sound like she has anywhere else to turn to, I would talk to her more about why that is.
I used to give money to people like you
standing on the corner, but feel a lot better helping out the fur-covered animals. You are such a loser!
All guys do not want to give that much money away
My husband if buying something and it should turn out sour, say milk or the like, would go way across town in order to get a refund. My husband's money does not make him and he does not have to flash in order to feel his importance. Would you consider your husband a "hero" if he paid a female employee $500.00? Think about that statement.
How much money would you give towards this field trip....sm
16-year-old comes in from school today and says the drama teacher has invited the 3rd and 4th year drama classes to go to New York in March for a week to see shows and tour the city. Supposedly the cost would be around $700, including airfare from Atlanta, lodging, meals, tickets to shows, etc. I asked what fundraisers were going to be held and she had no idea if any would be. Personally I don't see how they can do the trip to include meals, travel, hotels, shows, etc. for just $700 a person and am presuming that's going to be around the amount that would be proposed to the students to pay after fundraisers are done.
My daughter asked how much I'd contribute to the cause.
She doesn't work and doesn't drive (scared to learn so we don't push it - don't want her to drive if she doesn't want to).
She is a good student.
I told her first off that she would also need to get a job because we're not going to pay all of this ourselves and take away the money from the family vacation for next year (we do a family budget of $1000 for vacations and that's for 4 of us).
We're not rich but do put "x" amount of money into the savings account each month as we want to move to a different area in a couple of years.
So.... how much do you think we should require her to raise herself and how much should we pay? I was thinking that maybe to contribute $200 would be plenty generous and let her get a part-time job after school/weekends to raise the rest + spending money. Do you think I'm being a cheapskate for that or do you think it's a fair amount?
So you just continue to give money to grown folks
because they are too lazy to work? You could do 1 of 2 things- take the children or call the family and children services if they are not being cared for. I would never continue to support people who did not want to help their self.
I used to give my grandparents gift certificates to the local grocery store, sm
they would use them to buy special things like shrimp or other things that might cost a bit more that they wouldn't normaly buy for themselves. My parents are that age and I have given them restaurant gift certificates or if they have family out of town, prepaid phone cards, because I know some folks that age don't like paying for long distance calls.
How much money rasied for Katrina, how much money for the diasters due to the tidal waves and what?
Every single one of them have had some smoke around it with the money not getting to where it was supposed to go. I did not contribute, I hardly watched, was not caught up again as I have seen things like this before. They should give a all you can give benefit for Darfur where people are being massacared each and every day. Genocide going on there each and every day. I have not seen any benefits to help them out yet.
A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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But her money is her money to spend as she pleases -
I don't understand how you can think it is wrong for her to spend whatever she wants to on whatever she buys. It is their personal money they spend. It is not like they are saying give me those shoes and add it to the taxpayer's bill.
And in all actuality, they are saying spend, spend, spend to get the economy going.
I am sorry, I am jealous that some people still have plenty of money to spend and I don't, but I don't expect those people to quit spending just because I had to.
You do not give them food, you give
the children food but if they did not have the food to eat, probably would call family and children services. I do NOT give away money to anyone.
What's your best gift
Dh totally outdid himself this year by getting me a Kodak Easy Share digital camera and printing dock, and a new cordless phone with answering machine so he can leave me messages when he needs to.
Well, we know you were definitely given one gift....
stupidity.
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re: gift
I don't think there would be anything wrong with giving them a nice gift! So what if they're distantly related to you! You enjoyed their company and you could write that in whatever card you send with the gift. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to bless someone with a gift because they touched your heart!
God bless!
Gift
What a wonderful, thoughtful gift. It will mean so much to them.
Lilly
Yes it's a gift tax...
And in our state, its 39% tax. Unfair, plain and simple...
I know these get old, but have gift ?
My stepdad's mother is in a small nursing home. I have called and spoken with the owner about getting some gifts for the residents who maybe don't have family. Those gifts I can figure out, but I wanted to get the owner of this facility a small gift. She is an absolute angel with these people, most of whom have Alzheimer's. I don't know anything else about her really and I wanted to stay away from gift cards only because I am absolutely broke! Any ideas for something small to show my appreciation?
Gift From the Sea by....
Anne Morrow Lindbergh... Cat
You have a gift. Perhaps someone with
a similar gift as yours could refer you to someone. It's not an easy road. My daughters both have gifts and I have sought and received help for both of them from those with similar, more advanced gifts.
Good luck.
If Somebody Gives You a Gift?
How do you react when somebody gives you a gift that is not to your taste? It could be something for the home that doesn't fit in, a perfume that smells like dead roses, or a food item that came out of their kitchen that you know you would never eat because you know how they don't clean the kitchen. I try to be gracious and thank them for thinking of me, but sometimes it's really hard to say "Ewww...what were you thinking?". I have one friend in particular that never, ever fails to give me something that I will either donate to Goodwill or re-gift to one of the relatives that I know would just love it.
best gift
I was unemployed and so poor and my neighbor went up to the mountains and cut down two chrismas trees and gave me one. Years later, I dragged one down to the Salvation Army to give anonymously to a name I got off a wishing tree to a man who asked for a Christmas tree.
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to just get her a gift card to the mall in your area at the service desk, and she could use it at any of the stores there in the mall.
If you want to get a gift, gift, do you know any of her interests?
Gift Card
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Gift Certificate
On the page where you enter your credit card information...look towards the bottom of this page...you'll see-Enter new gift cards, gift certificates or promotional claim codes. This is where you enter your code.
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What was the best gift you GAVE?
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What a great gift!
I used to get a free massage once a month when I worked at my chiropractor's office. Now it's like twice a year, if that and I really miss it.
I always leave my underwear on under the sheet and like everyone else said, the therapist should keep everything covered except the part being worked on. The parafin treatment is nice also, especially for tired hands and feet.
ENJOY YOURSELF!!!
need gift idea
Our sons had a special needs teacher in 6th-8th grades and she was wonderful, so when my oldest graduated to high school, I had a dozen roses sent to her with a note written by my son thanking her for giving him the confidence he needed in school, to learn how to read at a better rate, and let him know how smart he was. He went on to high school, construction technology and made the honor roll. She certainly made a difference in his life and our life as parents and she gave him the confidence to believe in himself. A talking picture frame is a wonderful idea with a message from your child to the teacher. I wish they had those years ago.
gift idea
You could do a scavenger hunt. Orientaltrading.com has some good reasonble priced gifts.
I made these for a friends child's birthday to give to her friends in a gift bag. Typed it up on cute colorful paper and put items in a ziplog bag.
Friendship Survival Kit
A toothpick - to help you "pick" out the good qualities in others and yourself
Lifesaver candy - to remind you of the many times others needed your help and you theirs
Hugs & Kisses - for when you need a hug
A puzzle piece - without you, your friends aren't complete
button - to remind you to sometimes "button your lip"
bandaid - for hurt feelings, yours or someone else's
cotton ball - cushioned support of fiends for the rough road ahead
Marbles - to replace the ones you've lost
Candle - for you to share your light
Tissues - to wipe the tears of joy and sadness
penny - so you'll never be broke
Mounds bar - for the "mounds" of love and support between friends
Gold thread - to remind you that friendship is the golden thread that ties together the hearts of everyone
rubberband - try to be flexible
eraser - to remind you that everyday you can start with a clean slate
Jewel - because you are as valuable as any precious stone!
And why was it appropriate for a Christmas gift? lol
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b'day gift
I'll tell you what, I'd hate to go empty-handed too, and I know the BEST b-day gifts I have ever have involve mud packs, facials, massages, etc. Especially if she is a working mom, or just working, she will love you for it!!!
Thank you! Now, Gift ideas?
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Gift certificates
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Funny gift
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You cannot put conditions on a gift. If you do, it
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Gift basket sm
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Gift Ideas
You can check out my web site www.marykay.com/kabrown7117.
Need gift ideas
My 20 yo daughter is spending a month in France for college studies and we need gift ideas for her host family, preferably something "American". Any ideas?
Gift idea
How about a coffee-table book with scenic pictures of America? There are some wonderful books with beautiful pictures of America's National Parks like the ones by Ansel Adams.
Gift ideas
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Check out www.Vermontteddybear.com -- GREAT website and they will personalize a bear for you if you wish, plus could be something that is handed down in the family etc.
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