Oh, I am right behind you! My oldest, my baby girl.......sm
Posted By: Cyndiee on 2009-02-13
In Reply to: Caught between pride and terror - Almost empty nest
just turned 20, she still lives at home and commutes to save money, but she is in college for teaching, I just cannot believe she is out of diapers, let alone out of high school and out of her teen years!! My son, Adam, is graduating this year, turning 18, and while he also will be going to a local college and commuting, and we are very close, along with his girlfriend, he is on his way, too!
That leaves Alex, who is 11, and although he is still a boy, I am already starting to project, because often he stays over a friend's for a sleepover, my son is out with his girl, and my daughter is out with friends or working, back to hubby and me........don't know where time went, but I have such a hard time getting out those baby pictures, seems like yesterday and I remember and want the time back. Doesn't work that way! And yes, all four of us (myself and my siblings) have been extremely close lifelong with my parents, just keep the love and communication open, have lots of get-togethers of you can. I am trying to look forward to being a grandma (although NOT TOO SOON!!). Much love to ya!
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What to buy for new baby girl? :-) sm
I do not have kids and have NO idea what new mothers might find useful. I am looking for an online source, so I can have a box shipped to the new mom, who is a very good friend of mine. She has not registered anywhere and is really one of those people who is fun to buy for because she really does not expect gifts, but I know she could really use some things. I know you gals will have some great ideas! TIA!! 
I LOVED my Baby Alive when I was a little girl! NM
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Congrats to you!! Enjoy that baby girl :-) nm
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My baby girl is 9 months old today!!!!!!
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Your baby girl is a little doll - thanks for sharing. nm
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Little girl found was the Caylee baby
Just in
Yes, a 5 month old baby girl. Makes me wonder, too, if Trim Spa had anything sm
to do with her death. I've always been very leary about taking diet pills for fear of what it does to your heart. Synthetic medications taken over long periods of time cannot be good for you, which is why I stopped taking them after Metabolife almost took my life 5 years ago. I was on it for about a month and drank a Coke with 2 pills and I literally felt like my heart was going to explode - severe, profuse sweating, palpitations, vomiting.
Anyways, just speculation, but she did use it daily, according to an interview I watched. Poor gal. No more pain for her anymore at least.
My baby girl graduated high school today!
I didn't cry a bit. I'm saving that for August when I take her to college. I'm so very proud of her - high honor roll all year. What a fine young woman she's become! Just needed to brag a bit!
It is just like drinking Coors light determines you will have a boy baby and Miller Lite a girl. sm
I have heard that actually; however, it is not true.
I did hear that too much Mountain Dew makes one impotent!
Don't know who dreams this stuff up, but I would have to say it is not true at all. My hubby only drinks Coors Light and we have a boy and a girl, go figure! LOL
Actually, I have 3, and the oldest is
16 years old. It is a constant battle to help him realize that the world does not revolve around him, but I will continue to fight the battle, because he is worth it. It is MY job to teach him to not be selfish. Some kids are by nature more selfish, but basically ALL kids are selfish, and you have to steer them down a different road. You know what? I tell my son no a lot, and I don't fork over money right and left. He's temporarily miffed, but it has never caused him to mistreat me. He is constantly stopping me to hug me and tell me he loves me. Just out of the blue. I am important in his life.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh, and I wish you could have the same kind of love between you and your kids. Bottom line -- it doesn't sound like you have bonded with them and that YOU love THEM no matter what. They would sense that, and reciprocate. I understand being sick of bad behavior, but I don't think I could ever say, as a mom, now it's time for "me, me, me." It's never too late to repair these relationships. I think you should rethink things.
I was serious in my asking if they had a dad in their lives. Dads generally draw the line whereas moms are pushovers. That's not always the case, but two heads are better than one. It is so important to have someone back you up, or take over when you are just plain tired.
Yes, he's my oldest. So this is all new to me. Unfortunately, he doesn't have a very good
relationship with his father. There's a lack of respect there because his father never has held a job or took care of us. So, it's almost as if my son views is father as being on the same level as him - one the kids that mom has to take care of. So my son has always felt he could talk however he wanted to his dad and his father on the flip side has always acted like big kid with my son. I don't think having my son talk to his father would help very much.
I've met the kids my son has become friends with and I've met their parents. The parents all seem to have the same values as I do and the kids are pretty typical boys - no drugs or alcohol. They play football in our backyard after school.
I really do hope it's just a phase, but even if it is just a phase, I'm not sure I'll survive!
My oldest daughter (31 now) came home from...
kindergarten around Christmas time and said, "I'm gonna sing my favorite song we learned today", and proceeded to sing Fleas on the Dog (of course it was Feliz Navidad). Still makes me chuckle today.
My oldest daughter knew when she was 10
Kids talk at school and on the bus, and I'm sure that's how she found out about Santa and the Easter Bunny, etc. Of course now she's 14 and tells me how could someone believe in a huge bunny who comes to your house and leaves candy. LOL. I also have a 5 year old and the older one knows under no circumstances is she to tell her sister anything. She can find out on her own. I think you should just let him know that he shouldn't tell the younger ones just like you were planning.
My oldest daughter had nothing but "boy"
friends throughout high school. Really, guys are a lot nicer than boys most of hte time. She has a couple of good girl friends, but I actually liked the guys hanging around the house. Now that she is in college, all she brings home are her guy friends and they all hang out with her and her boyfriend.
I really would not worry if her friends are guys, at least she has friends she feels comfortable with having hang out at your house.
My oldest son gave me the idea about s/m
the generator. We rent a log splitter every fall and never even thought about it! How smart they can be.
We live on the county line, so we are always the last ones to get shoveled out as far as the roads go, but we seem to lose our electricity quite a bit, 3-4 times a year minimum.
Yes, especially me (oldest) and my middle sister. (sm)
Main difference is she's taller. One time she was visiting me and we went out for lunch. A lady came up to us and asked, 'Are you identical twins or fraternal twins?' She sure was surprised to learn that we weren't twins at all, just regular, run-of-the-mill sisters!
I am not quite there yet as my oldest is only 11 but our school has a rule that you have to be passi
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Of course! Stealing? That's the oldest trick in the book. lol
I guess she figured what does she have to lose if she thought she was dying. :(
My oldest furgirl is dying and I am crying
I have just called the veterinarian's office to see if there was anything they could give me to ease her pain, should she be in any which I do not think is the case. I have had her since she was born at my home so it is almost unbearable today. The vet had told me about a week or so ago that her organs were probably failing due to some lab tests she had. I gave her some water with a syringe and even tried feeding her some this morning as I do not want her to be hungry nor thirsty. She is laying on a blanket and I have a cover on her. Besides my having her put down which is really hurting my heart- she has been with me all these years- is there anything I can give her so she is not having a painful death and I just don’t know about it. Thanks everyone.
Whadda ya mean? Its the world's oldest profession
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I love my boys! One time when my oldest
(fixing to turn 18 and will adamently deny this) was 4 years old, we were up at my parent's house. He was playing wheel of fortune on the computer. He came in and told me he was having trouble figuring out the puzzle. I told him he needed to buy a vowel. After a second, I asked him did he know what a vowel was. He grinned big and said "yes, it's this" and he proceeded to 'bow'!
They do multiply don't they?! Brought back memories when my oldest brother
bought 2 white mice at the pet shop and the guy told him they were both males...about 2-3 weeks later we had a full liter of white mice. Mom made him take the whole cage with mice back to the pet shop (I wonder why? LOL).
my youngest daughter puts her in the lunchbox just to keep her drink cold, but my oldest never does
sick yet. If their school is like my daughters' schools they eat about 3 hours after school starts so I would not think there would be a problem.
That little girl
For those of us who lived through the "British Invasion", or even if you didn't but saw replays of some of the groups singing, you would remember that the teen girls would scream and cry. Cry. Yes. So when I saw that pitiful-looking little girl, I thought she was planted there sort of as a flashback to the British Invasion period. If that was the reason, it did not work out well. They should have had a group of them doing that. As it was, it just made her look like she desperately needs a psychiatrist.
but did you notice how enthralled she was with Sanjaya? that's why I think it is millions of little girls that age voting for him.
Just my thoughts. My other thought is that AI seems to have run its course.
Go girl!
Go get 'em!! You sound like you've got a good plan. I wish you the very best of luck!
Girl, let me tell you...sm
I know...what's up with her snotty attitude lately? And running for senator, puhleeze! She is so ugly to everyone, including Victor...she best watch it or he'll kick her off her high horse...
you go girl!
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You go girl...
Way to go! You are a force to be reckoned with...Congratulations on your victory! Here's to ya... !(I'm in the ATL area also...hey neighbor!)
I'm with you girl...
My DH loves camping...I told him when he buys a luxury RV, then I'll go~~~maybe~~~ I'm more along the lines of a resort in Key West, now that's a vacation....and ABSOLUTELY NO WORKING...
Me too!...This girl does not...
sleep in an RV, tin can trailer or a tent, let alone on the ground! Hotels all the way for me...don't mind hiking, backpacking, etc...just give me a good room at the end of the day!
I could have been that little girl.
My mom had mental health issues, but back in the 1960s, no one talked about such things. Our house was a horrible mess, and I knew it. I had dirty clothes which were usually old hand-me downs from a cousin. It was really awful growing up. Right up until I was about 13 or so, I used to beg my mother to do "normal" things, like let me have friends over. It was always a disaster. I just didn't understand that she wasn't capable of being like other moms. Eventually, I stopped having friends over, learned to do my own laundry, and worked like crazy in our house to clean and cook. It was a small town, and everyone knew that I had taken on the role of woman-of-the-house. My friends' mothers would invite me over to give me a break and let me be a kid. I eventually stopped even trying to have them at my house. It was torture to even try.
What I'm saying is, let your daughter go to the party. As someone mentioned, you can offer to help. It's very likely that the little girl is painfully aware that her home life is different from her friends. It's not her fault that she lives the way she does. If she's anything like I was, more than anything, she needs friends and to have some normalcy in her life.
that little girl...
I feel for you and what you went through. I have a friend (almost 39 years) who was that girl and my mother encouraged our friendship even though I had doubts - peer pressure. Her mother had mental problems as did her step-father but what a great family. I was in situations and at the age of around 9 I knew it was not "normal" - don't get things in the mind..nothing going on in the family that was perverted!! It was just how they lived but they were such a loving family and I am proud to call Neva my friend as she has been for almost 40 years. I thank my mother that she never judged and still does not (I can be a pain in the ass) and found such a wonderful friend that will be my friend until the day I die. So mom's out there..there may be great friendships that will last for life - don't worry so about things unless need be!!!
Thanks! I owe you, girl!
I'm so proud to show off my new boy.
You go girl!
Man do I hate that phrase but guess it says it in this case.
Why do people always assume we have to be indebted to our parents/children for the rest of our lives. As we get older this is the time we are suppose to take care of ourselves, and for once in our lives think about ourselves. We raised our children, watched them grow from children into adults, put them through school, rooted (sp?) for them at their sports games, supported their ups and downs, watched them proudly at their wedding, or supported them if they decided to be with another person and not marry. We did everything for them. Now when we are at the age of retirement and want to take time for ourselves and think about ourselves for a change we are called selfish and are supposed to feel guilty?????? Give me a break! So who is going to take care of us when we need it? Retirement is the age of "me". That's not a selfish wish, it's what happens in life. Yes we are here to support our kids (emotionally - who are no longer kids), and financially if we can if they need it or if we want to slip them a $20 in their pocket from time to time for no reason, but I'm with the above poster. It's my golden years its now time for me! Life is about growing, knowing who we are, learning about ourselves. Society forces us to follow the bandwagon meaning...your born, you go to school, you graduate and get a job, you get married, have kids, watch your kids grow, retire and take time for yourself. Not once have I ever seen anything talking about getting to know oneselves before going and getting married to another. I do not believe we are born in life just to always take care of other people. We've given enough of ourselves to others. It's now time for me.
You go girl!
I agree with you 100%. Sterotypal stuff doesn't fly well with me either. I am 58 and I also listen to loud rock music, dance when I am cleaning, and read Elle and other more youthful magazines (saying that because they don't usually address my age group!). I say if you want to do it, do it! Feel better yet??
Your little girl - sm
I can't blame you about the bill. That was unconscionable to be so petty about the money. They're lucky their dog wasn't put down and they should know it.
About your daughter - I wouldn't dismiss out of hand getting her a dog. Not right away, of course, but after some time has passed. Let me explain.
I saw my sister attacked by a dog when I was five, and although I wasn't hurt myself, I was terrified for years and years of dogs, to the point where I wouldn't take a walk or ride my bike in an unknown neighborhood. It wasn't until after I was an adult and married and my husband talked me into getting a puppy that I lost my fear of dogs. Taking care of a dog from puppyhood can be the "magic cure" for your daughter's fear as she finds out that most dogs are friendly and loveable.
This also worked for our son, who was nine when we got our first puppy. He was so scared that he actually spent the afternoon in the garage rather than come into the house with Sam (who incidentally was a three month old golden retriever!). Now he owns his own dog and is considering going into veterinary medicine.
Good luck to you and your family. And I pray the owners of the dog that attacked your daughter have an "attack" of conscience and do the right thing by your family.
LOL you go girl!
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Girl,
don't go away mad . . .
You GO Girl
Agree 100% with everything you say & stand for. Send me an e-mail & if you have PayPal I will send you some money for your rescue animals (I have 2 myself) right now.
Don't let ANYONE tell you animals are less important to the universe than children; NFW.
You GO, Girl!
I have been thinking about it a lot lately myself. It is very difficult. I've "quit" a couple of times myself, yet here I am, a smoker still.
I have been meaning to ask, are those of you on this board who were discussing group quitting following through? How's it going? Do you keep in touch/support each other through e-mails? Just curious because I haven't seen any discussion about it since the new year began and wishing you all good luck and success, and same for you XanaX!
(Kicking myself for not joining in with you guys!)
You go girl!!!!
Congrats and have fun!!!
WOOHOO...you go girl (OP)...
She was the white girl with the
kind of "punk" look. Dark hair, large red highlight in front.
lol, I definitely don't think the little girl was a *plant*....
but I do agree she may need a psychiatrist! Yikes.
boys or girl
I have 2 of each (yes 4 in all) and I would defitenly say boys right now. My kids are still young so may be my mind will change with age!
I'm no young girl...
I'm a lot older and I think Blake's adorable. To each is own. And by the way, he's as tall as my husband, who by the WA is no creep. LOL.
Way cool; you go girl! : )
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Amen girl!
 We are NOT all hillbillies, either!
Is that the one where the girl goes to the inner city...
to live with her dad after her mom dies and she gets involved with the black student and she auditions for Julliard?
amen, girl!
I'm in Fort Worth - where are you??
I think the 14-year-old girl from
Maryland is just wonderful. Such poise, beauty and a great voice. I also like the cowboy with the rope routine!
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