Oh God no, you are not being a baby or a failure, and no woman should forget about being assaulted..
Posted By: Cyndiee on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: does every woman experience being hit by her spouse at some point? sm - anonmt
by her own spouse. Remember the marriage vows, to love and to cherish? You cannot fully love someone if you do not respect them as a person, and you cannot respect someone you strike and assault, no woman should tolerate violence of any kind, even once. You yourself say that there were many other issues, and I truly feel that a new life with a new start is a wonderful and necessary thing for you. I have been married almost 29 years, I cannot even tolerate verbal abuse and my husband knows it, mutual respect has to come first in any relationship. God bless you, keep praying for wisdom and strength, and see this as a learning and strengthening experience.
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Assaulted? Put her hands on her? Such a big
laugh for tonight. This is the reason why kids are like they are now. Unbelievable. You said it all really.
you are NOT a failure
The marriage may be, but not you. It broke my heart to see that. Your life will get better. Getting hit is something no one should accept and it sounds like you are suffering in so many other ways. Move on.
I don't know, this post down below has me thinking. What are your thoughts, woman to woman. sm
If your spouse came to you and said he was having an affair, would you be more upset if it was with a male or female? For me, definitely a female! If it were male then I would think that it had absolutely nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. I would be devastated if he were with another woman. Another poster below said she would be more upset if he were found with a male. What about you?
My experience with kidney failure
Several years ago we lost a white shepherd to kidney failure. She was only 4. She spent about a week on IV fluids and seemed to come around some but was still weak when we brought her home. As soon as she starting eating again, even the special Eukanuba kidney diet, she went into failure again. We had to take her back in 2 days to have her put down. I was an absolutely hearbreaking experience to see her suffer. I feel for all of the owners dealing with it now.
The cause of her kidney failure was never really determined. The first question the vet asked me though was what kind of food I used. I had 2 other dogs at the time and they were fine, so probably wasn't the food. He did come to the conclusion that it was a "high tech rat poison" because they had another German Shepherd with the same problem. It was a police dog and had been intentionally poisoned. That dog made it through though.
My thoughts are with you and your kitty.
I swear I am going to have heart failure sm
if one more person walks into my office and scares the bejesus out of me. I'm so intent on concentrating on this doc and they walk in and say "hey mom" and I just totally jump out of my chair. They they say, "Sorry, didn't mean to scare you." My hubby has a bad habit of doing that when I am reading, too. I read every night for about an hour at bedtime with the nightstand light on. I'm totally involved in the book and I can't see him when he comes through the door because of the light and all of a sudden, he just appears like a ghost and I nearly fall out of bed because of fright. Of course he says, "Sorry, didn't mean to scare you." GRRR. 
liver, kidney and heart failure...
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003104.htm
ANY relationship based on lies is doomed to failure
Can't have wait time if you have a child in shunt failure
My daughter has shunted hydrocephalus. She's gone from a normal-acting child with no symptoms whatsoever, to having seizures, lethargy, and respirations of 9 with no warning whatsoever. She needed a medflight (because we were out of town on the way to the zoo), immediate CT scan and immediate surgery. I am terrified of universal healthcare and the wait times it would bring.
A time of 5 years should not have caused kidney failure.
This is too short a time.
Did she have heart problems also?
I know people who drag along for 30 years until they finally succumb to organ failure.
Hydrationis what is needed here. Kidney failure is being prevented.
Cost is high but well worth it. One can also get IV drip with lactated ringers and do it yourself. Fluid is seeped into area between shoulder blades to be absorbed by puppy's body. One of mine needed a blood transfusion, both needed IV antibiotics. Five days in house is typical.
I lost a male cat to renal failure that started out -(sm)-
as a blocked urinary tract. First his behavior changed, but it was just slight, so I barely noticed. He also began drinking more water, and going to his litter box frequently, but just peeing a little at a time. Then I had to leave town and my petsitter called the next day and said he was sleeping in his litter box. I was too dumb to know what that meant, and told her it was probably the heat spell we were having at the time, and to leave a fan on for him. Next morning she called from the emergeny vet's office. She had come and found him collapsed unconscious (probably from unimaginable pain) on the floor. They got him in the nick of time. He was completely blocked and would have died within the hour. As it was, although he seemed fine for the next month, the toxins from the backed-up urinary tract destroyed his kidneys, and he had to be put down at only age 4.
Male cats are more prone to urninary crystals and blockage than females, and Persians are especially prone to this, because they have teeny tiny little ureters. If your cat is long-haired, could he have Persian in him?
Regardless, I feel responsible for losing my cat because I didn't know about the symptoms. It sounds like he's trying to tell you something, so a vet checkup and maybe some blood or urine tests. Better safe than sorry. Oh, and one more thing: DON'T ever let a vet prescribe the pain killer/anti-inflammatory drug, Metacam (meloxicam) for a cat. (Especially the off-label use of the liquid version, which is for dogs only.) It can cause renal failure in cats. My current cat was given just one 0.5 mL oral dose of Metacam in the vet's office, and became violently ill for 2 days. Thank goodness I didn't give her what she was sent home on! THEN I looked it up online and OMG -- there are hundreds of people out there who have lost cats to Metacam.
Friend in kidney failure, on dialysis now, said she could not understand "them" (ESLs)
I got a call last night from a friend who goes back over 40 years. She was in the hospital in kidney failure on dialysis. I was shocked. I knew she had diabetes and high blood pressure but had spoken with her the other day and she mentioned no problems then. I asked her had she been taken her medications like she should have and she said well, maybe not really like I should have and then she told me she really could not understand her physicians, they were foreign and she did not know maybe just how bad off she really was. I am furious. I wish I had known the whole story. I asked "why did you not change doctors?" and her reply was, oh, I just didn’t. She is calm, submissive and I am the opposite, in your face and give me some answers. I have smoke blowing from my ears! This is an older woman in her 60s who now waits for a kidney who is not on the top of the list because of her other ailments. She does not know the process of getting a kidney but I know what the outlook is for her. How many more people do you think are out there who might not get the kind of medical help they need because of them not being able to understand these foreign doctors? Furious for me is an understatement.
woman to woman talk sm
This has nothing to do with being a christian, it has more to do with group dynamics. I have to deal with it all the time with 6 women in an in-law situation. They are narrow-minded Bible-thumping bigots.I happen to be of another "denomination" and I do attend every function of theirs, weddings, funerals, all of it, receive their communion. I have had my parents die, lost my younger sister and many things happen where they could have reciprocated, yet they will not "step foot" in my church. So where is all their faith, they certainly are not practicing the do unto others. I can relate, it is a horrible way to live. Thank God, I had psychology courses and know about group dynamics, I am in the middle of a herd mentality. I could go on forever, they even have "interventions" when someone in their family wants to marry or date someone not from their denomination. They are awful. I know your pain! It's not your imagination, they hide behind their cohesive "numbers game," one speaks and all the others agree in unison. No one has a chance against this mob. It's tough to be your own person, lots of tears. And guys think it's all in our heads - NOT! Hang in, perhaps you'll have a Divine Intervention somehow.
Kangaroo. cat woman or wonder woman?
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don't forget
 Rotel and chips - always at must at our gettogethers! Also the mini quiches are always a hit from Sam's.
Tell her to forget it.
It isn't her wedding. Plain and simple. Stick to what your son really wants not what he may be pressured in to.
Don't forget though
that while you can get outside help, a restraining order will not necessarily save you if the guy won't abide by it. I don't know anything about this woman or this case, but I'm just sayin.
Don't forget the pig (sm)
You can dress him all up in leather and boots as your "assistant".
How Could I Forget !?!
I also love Piglet from Winnie the Pooh, and Dorie from Finding Nemo. My friends laughed like crazy when we first saw that movie, because I totally AM Dorie.
thanks..trying to forget it lol
i might give it a try. I just wish I didn't have to pay shipping!
I tried the Physicians Formula version of bare minerals and thought it brought out the lines in my face too much so I swore off those powder-type foundations. I have heard a lot of good things about bare minerals so I guess I should try it!
and don't forget...sm
the melted Crisco, about a tablespoon or so melted in the cast iron skillet, then poured into the cornmeal mixture...mmm good!
don't forget...sm
to go to the bottom and click on Table of Contents....There's tons of nostalgic info that'll throw you into the way-back machine.  Cat
forget it!
I am certain that the pic post was not supposed to be just the HTML code. Sorry for all of the mess I guess it is too early for me to figure out 
We Will Never Forget
This was created by a 15-year-old named Lizzy Palmer. It's really something.
http://www.youtube.com/v/ervaMPt4Ha0&autoplay=1
Oh, how could I forget...
Ellen! I love Ellen. Don't get to catch her most days because I'm getting ready for dinner but she makes me laugh and I love her show.
Don't forget 60 is the new 40!!
Happy Birthday!!
Your welcome! Don't forget to
check the theater website for coupons or a frequent visitor card. He probably wouldn't fill one out himself but you could fill it out and include it in with the gift card. Usually you can get free drinks, etc. and it will really stretch the gift card.
We did a "movie pack" for my brother-in-law and sister-in-law last year. I found a plastic popcorn bucket at the $1 store and wal-mart had candy in the boxes (like at the movies) for a $1. Turned out to be a very cute gift if I do say so myself. We through the giftcard in there instead of buying a $3 card to go along with the giftcard.
Don't forget................ sm
peas and cornbread, beans and cornbread, fried squash. Man..... Now I'm hungry!
And don't forget to
cancel any credit cards with your name on them... My ex-husband maxed mine out before I realized it.
don't forget QT!
nm
Just one question. Do you ever forget anything and
have to go back and get it? I do.
I will NEVER forget what I got for my 16th...
My mother wrapped a box, and inside was a telephone. I was a little confused, as this was WELL before the days of cell phones. It was my own phone line for my room. Now in the day and age of kids having cell phones, that isn't probably a wonderful idea, but it's certainly cheaper than a cell phone, you have more control over it, she can't lose it... And if your DD doesn't have a cell phone of her own, it's still a pretty durn cool present.
But what do I know? I haven't been cool since about 1989...
Don't forget the next generation
will be at it sooner than you'd think, LOL.
I go out and forget to lock
the door when I come back in, have left the keys in the lock. I hate it when husband sees that.
Forget being delicate & just say sometimes you have sex during the day,
hs
don't forget manatees
Oh God how could I forget when my husband and I first met sm
I was invited to the in-laws for Thanksgiving. I was SOO in love with my husband back then and wanted to impress his family so much! A few weeks before Thanksgiving I had found this yeast roll recipe TO DIE FOR! I would roll the bread, let it rise, bake them, and they would rise about 5 times it's size with a delicious, light, fluffy flavor. So, I told my soon-to-be mother-in-law I would do the rolls (to feed 25+ people).
Well, I prepared the night before but we had had a bad frost and the house was COLD! I woke up the next morning and the bread had risen just a little bit, but I thought I'd bring them anyway and bake them there. All 60 or so pieces! I got to their house (good thing they had a double oven) and began baking the rolls thinking they would rise with the heat from the oven. They never did! They ended up being as heavy as a hockey puck (I swear), gooey, chewy, and just plain bad. The only person that ate them was my soon-to-be father-in-law (whom I adore to this day!). This was in a pretty small town so the only thing open was the Git-N-Go gas station. I knew they didn't carry any bread.
Can you imagine how mortified I was???? The one thing I was asked to bring and BOMBED it. So, we all went without bread that year. Needless to say, they've never asked me to bring the rolls ever again. Come to think of it, they haven't asked me to bring anything since! I swear! haha
That is such a bad thing to forget, would you not say?
Then you kill yourself? I have a variety of medications for different ailments, things for sleep, things for pain- I don’t buy forgetting. I would buy if you are trying to dope up, that I would buy but oops,,, took too many, checking out time. If you cannot keep up with the dosages of medss, they have these separated plastic thingys you put your pills in day by day. No excuses really - except doping it up and ooops...
don't forget about your rebate too!
I think it's $600 per adult and $300 per child - if you're within the income limits. Most people are because it's designed for the middle class workers. To promote us to spend more. I think most of us already have it spent and are waiting for it to pay off the bills.
I'm with you - we always pay off the credit card or a large expense, like furniture. We do those 1-year financing deals. My husband said no more of those. We'd like to use our refund for vacation.
and lets not forget
 Beauty is as beauty does.
For me, it's because I usually forget the list!
I'm a person who has to write reminders to remember my reminders.
I say forgive, of course, but forget, NO WAY......sm
To be a true friend and truly care for someone, you first have to respect them and honor their dignity....how can care for anyone, friend, lover, or whatever, if you cannot be TRUTHFUL? How can you say you respect someone whiile blatantly lying to them? As a Christian and hopefully good person, I belive we always have to forgive, but to forget as if nothing had happened, that is impossible, I would think. She betrayed you by lying, not by seeing your ex, that is HER problem if she wants a second-hand loser, but friendship is a sacred bond, I am sure you can forge some newer, better friendships, can you ever feel any confidence in this woman again? Just my firm opinion, I had this done to me many years ago when very young, and although we tried, the friendship was never the same, for obvious reasons. God bless in your decision!
I can forgive, but how to forget?
a few weeks back my youngest son was injured. My mother came by to bring him some ice cream. For some reason something i said or did made my mother angry. I did not know this at the time. My husband and I went to lunch with said child, my mother and grandmother the next day. I noticed they were acting rather stiff and one time hubby, child and I went to the bathroom. When I walked back to the table M and G promptly stopped talking. Confused, the next day I called and asked the grandmother if I had done something wrong. Out of the blue she stated that she didn't think i should not let one child do something without the other (speaking about a birthday party they were BOTH invited to) I laughed and told her they had both been invited, that the child invited all of his friends and their brothers and I would never dream of self inviting my child to a party!!! Anyway I called my mother and told her the same thing. They both still sounded rather stiff. Well along came Thanksgiving. My MIL came over to our house so we didn't go to my grandma's house. My sister in law then told me all the things that were said about me...that I treat my oldest like crap, my youngest is a spoiled brat, etc. and that my grandma was actually CRYING because she believes my oldest is treated so badly. I honestly have NO CLUE where they got all of this!! I was flabbergasted!!! I just wrote them both off and just never really wanted to talk to them. No confrontation, nothing. I didn't even return their calls.
So today my grandma stops by unannounced and begs me to forgive her and that she wants to see my boys some time during christmas. SHe won't talk about the incident, what sparked it or even what the heck my mom thinks is so bad about how i have treated my oldest. I'm at a loss. On one hand I really want to get together with her. She is just going on something that someone else told her about me. On the other hand I feel like my every move will be judged if I am around her with my kids. I told her I forgive her and I honestly do, but i'm not sure how to get past this. I'm having a Christmas lunch Saturday with my brother. Should I invite her or just say to heck with it and not see her?
Don't forget Bluebirds!!!!
I went through to the first levels of cadettes but nothing after that.
Just forget it. This is the Gab Board, isn't it?
I have seen stupider questions asked on this board.
What's wrong with asking Americans if they like Europeans and which European nationals they like most?
What's wrong with you people!
Or maybe you react like this because the majority never met a European and have never been outside of the US, never traveled in an airplane.
Geeeez!!
What you said proves that he should forget about
looking for a 22-year-old. His is wife is a 56-year-old beauty.
Don't forget that Kate has also
been accused of cheating with her bodyguard. At least Jon is man enough to acknowledge that he made mistakes in their marriage which is something Kate did not do until last night with her fake tears. She also cheated on the boyfriend before Jon.
I quit watching the show after she insisted that she never had any help with the kids, prepared all meals, rarely took vacations as it was not in their budget and could not afford to and overall, very frugal. It came out that she had nannies, a personal chef, all vacations were paid for, cosmetic work paid for, 75,000 an episode, 3,000 speaking fee - seems she lies about a lot of things so why not cheating?
The way she made a fool of Jon was an outrage with her constant yelling and demaning way.
Should they divorce, I hope Jon gets full custody. Those kids are nothing but a meal ticket to her. She has exploited them from day one. I also heard that she put down another famly that had sextuplets - guess she is getting nervous but that family said they would never put their children in front of the camera.
I think the kids would have a stable life with Jon.
and let's not forget - in THIS country your kids will
I understand what you are saying, BUT if you knew you would forget sm
important dates (and I'm not the only friend she does this to), then don't you think you would get a system going where you could be reminded about important things and dates? They have palm pilots, notebooks, pesonal alarm clocks, etc., to help you in remembering dates. But it's not only that, it's specific conversations we have together that, the next time we talk, she doesn't even remember.
I'm sorry, but if you truly tried you could remember. I am terrible with names. I teach a class part-time and so when I meet someone I have to write their names down since I am a visual learner. Again, I'm trying and fixing what I know needs to be fixed.
She is in her 30s. She just needs to slow down, take inventory, and cut things out of her life so she can remember the things she needs to remember. And I've told her this before. I'm just through. That's it for me.
yeah, and don't forget to mention--sm
that it is HUMID there 99% of the time, even in the winter. If you like to sweat, it is great! There is also the possibility of hurricanes, depending on how close you are to the coast, but even inland can get the effects of them. Just some of the cons. thought I would throw them in. I lived in SE Virginia, clost to NC border...hated it! Beautiful country!! but lousy weather! Glad I am back in WI.
Don't forget to ahead of time...sm
Figure out what you want to sell things for, and check ebay to see what items you have are currently selling there, and don't sell for less than that at a yard sale.
For example, recently I sold a used PDA for $20 + $10 shipping on eBay that my attempts to sell at a yardsale only had offers of $5. It had all of the original packaging, books, cables, etc and retails currently for $100.
I also sold a sump pump on eBay for $25 + $15 shipping that originally cost $80. At our yardsale I had guys bickering at wanting to pay even $15 for it.
Bottom line: Know the market and have fun, but don't be a sucker! :o)
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