Obviously you have never been violated as I was.

Posted By: DG on 2006-12-27
In Reply to: The police have enough to take care of besides - GaPeach

I did think about my answer before I posted. If you read it, you would have known that I was stalked by an ex until he was arrested for it. This included all kinds of things left in my mailbox. It will take me along time, it ever, to trust again. I also had my house robbed and the kid who did it had gone through my "things", drawers, cabinets, fridge, etc. God only knows how many times before he was finally arrested. Obviously you have never been robbed or stalked before (lucky for you) but if you had you would feel differently. Guess you never pulled into your driveway to have your house surrounded by police, you door broken, and a neighborhood kid handcuffed in your living room, well I did, so don't judge me.

Like I stated if you give out gifts, you shouldn't expect anything in return, and there is not reason to get depressed over it.

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Why not just take it as a harmless complement for the love of Pete! I get complements all the time from cashiers - I don't immediately think "sexual harrassment". Are you looking to sue this store and make a buck? This is so way out of hand it's almost funny.

Obviously, yes this is just you! These girls have been violated. sm
Let me see.......how many teen CHOOSE to have sex with 40 year olds. I am not really meaning by choice but what is ACCEPTED in their culture/religion. None. I live in the dam bible belt and hate it. I am not religious. I am realistic and this whole case scenario was not even realistic. The State of Texas by returning those children made a HUGE mistake. A cult is a cult is a cult but we should protect the children from these types of situation.

For as many times as he violated s/m

your trust, I don't see a problem with it. Not to mention, you were right with your hunch that he was back to another addictive activity.

I believe that one of the other posters is correct, you need to get into alanon or some support group and concentrate on yourself. He needs to be in treatment and I would make that a requirement if you are to stay with him. He is not a bad person, he just has a problem. A big one, but it is only up to you on how much you can take.

I have a friend that installed Spyware on their computer to check on her husband. He also has a problem with drinking, gambling and internet porn. She has the spyware set up to catch certain phrases such as sex, gamble, poker, vicodin (has a prescription drug problem too) and the program sends her an email (to whatever account she specifies) and then she will go and check to see exactly where he has been. She keeps an eye on things this way and once she sees him visiting somewhere often, she knows he is falling off again. Just an idea... He doesn't use anyone elses computer and does not know that she is doing it, which is deceptive, but they made agreements in counseling that she would be checking up on him until he can prove he is being honest, never mentioning how she would be checking up on him.

Best of luck to you.