Obviously, he is stressed out, but what's he doing to find work?
Posted By: NM on 2008-09-29
In Reply to: Unemployed husband driving me crazy sm - ma
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Anyone here get stressed out with MT work and have IBS. nm
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If you could find more work, would
you be able to put in longer days, or are you working long days already? Lots of us MTs, myself included, are having to 2 jobs to make ends meet nowadays. I don't know the ages of your kids if it is feasible or not to work more hours, but you should consider that before bankruptcy. Your husband could be a Mr. Mom if he is not working and make it easier for you to make that extra $400 a month. You should be able to do that in a couple extra hours a day. Good luck. 
So sorry did not work but google around I am sure you will find it##
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Find a dentist advertised as gentle that will put him under for work being done. They're out
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Stressed.....
I don't know how I can live without him, but he's horrible & mean. We have 3 sons, one of them older. I just can't imagine what a separation would do to them. He's an alcoholic jerk that can't seem to find happiness in anything. Advice? or resources?
When I'm stressed out, I like to
get a pedicure. It's very relaxing and costs about $20 (in my area). It's worth every penny. Not only do I have someone waiting on me and rubbing my feet (the stone rubs are the best), but I also have an hour to myself with no hubby, no kids, no pets, no work. If that's not something you can get away to do, try taking a long walk. I like walking through town during the day and looking at everyone's houses. Most people aren't home during the day, so they don't see you looking!
I know life can be stressful, I've definitely had my share in 2007. I took Effexor for about 4 years up until this December and let me say that I would never recommend taking an antidepressant. Getting off was a royal B*****! There are some medications that your doctor can prescribe that are not *addicting*, but make sure you do your research first. Had I known then what I found out later, no way would I have taken that drug. It wasn't worth it.
Now that I have been able to get off Effexor, I know that life is stressful. That's just the way it is. It's not me, it's the circumstances we're in. I hope things go well for you. Remember, spring is just around the corner. Take time to stop and smell the roses!!!
I think that if he is stressed out
he won't have any benefits and won't learn a thing.
I get stressed a lot sm
I have two small children and one will just absolutely not listen sometimes and that really stresses me out. I try to take it easy and not let it worry me too much though.
I hate being so stressed out
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Me too. I used to be stressed out because of a mean boss.
My car hasn't had any shop time in almost 3 years. I also can no longer afford contribute to my 401K (as if it mattered anymore). I get the rent paid, but at the expense of eating extremely poorly. (Why is the cheap food always the stuff that's bd for you?) So now my cholesterol is through the roof. I can't afford to take a day off, and if I did, can't afford to go anywhere. A trip to the supermarket is an exercise in how well my antidepressants are working, because nothing is more depressing than not being able to afford most of what's in the store. I pray that my pets stay well, because who can afford vet bills? If my car breaks down someday, I'll be a permanent pedestrian. I HATE being poor, and I've come to detest the MTSO's, AHDI, and the whole MT field.
this man sounds stressed out . . . he needs help quickly. nm
nm
Blessed, Stressed, and Need More Rest
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Anyone else ever seem to get GI problems when stressed out with these jobs. My abdominal area
actually feels sore or irritated.
I completely understand. I dont feel stressed but there must be something bothering us I think.
I guess we always dont exactly know what stresses us because it could be just a lot of things together that arent really terrible but just little stressors of every day life.
Find a lawyer, find out where you would stand - sm
in the event of a divorce/separation, regarding custody, house, etc. Custody was my main concern as well since I lied on numerous occasions about the finances. Where I am I was told that would not factor in to the custody at all. I can prove that I am my kids caregiver 90% of the time, I ferry they around everywhere, help with homework, get ready for school, meet at busstop, etc. I could also point out my husband is an alcoholic, self treats his depression with alcohol instead of getting proper medical treatment, has threatend to kill himself (or me) numerous times (though he always says he was joking and did not mean it.....that is his standard answer to everything, or that he never said that). Now I do love him enough to deal with all that because deep down inside my DH is full of it, luckily for me, he has never followed through on anything he says he is going to do. But I thought my confession would be the straw that broke it all and send him over the edge. He still is angry with me, I am sure he will be for a long time, but is keeping it together pretty well, though he has said the stress was going to kill him, now he know how I felt I guess. I am sorry your husband is such a smuck. I feel like a dog sometimes with the sex demands, have to do it the night before he goes out of town....he will be traveling a lot for work for the next 3-4 months, which I am more than glad about, much calmer here then, though it gets tiring for me but as he is not really helping much right now it really won't be much of a change. As for yours going on 5 day weekends.....have you considered having him followed, sounds like there may be some infidelity afoot, and if so that would strengthen your case in the event of a divorce and custody I would think. Sounds a bit fishy going out until 1 a.m. and his frequent trips. My DH fishes too, but he goes 2 miles from here with one of our male neighbors, they shoot the breeze and he gets to unwind some which I encourage. Very rare weekends with a buddy of his, I am talking once every 2 years, which again is fine with me. Start keeping track of all you do, when he is home, where he supposedly goes, with whom, etc. He cannot show he will be a responsible dad if he is never there or never interacts with his own kids. My DH would probably suggest I take our older daughter and he the younger, spliting them up, he has the same perception, the oldest is mine, the youngest is his. Our younger daughter is much easier to deal with, our older daughter drives him nuts and she is only 10. My younger one (8) knows something has been going one though, and worries we will divorce, which she does not want. She is very perceptive for her years. I hope that if you do go the divorce route, which would actually probably be best in your situation, that it all works out for you and you get your fair share of assets, etc. Make sure before you do anything like that you have all your ducks in a row, so talk to divorce lawyer. I talked to one for 45 minutes, cost me $160 but was worth it to set my mind at ease. Good luck.
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
Please let us know if you find it...nm
Insert smiley face with crossed fingers here.
How do I find out
where this person has his banking account? I cannot believe a person would just snub their nose at a court action. Had it been the other way around, I am sure I would probably be under the jail as we speak!!
i find that
exercising daily helps and stretching REALLY REALLY helps. sometimes my entire back feels as if i have been beat with a baseball bat. it is hard for anyone to understand unless they have the same condition. also, not eating sugar helps me, especially my joints. i take ibuprofen when i cannot stand it any more and then i take 600 to 800 mg every 3 hours for a couple days. that eases the pain. i do not take any other pain medication.
good luck to you and may you have more and more pain-free days.
cannot find this
Can you possibly e-mail with the info, I cannot access it as given for some reason. Thanks
What will they do when they find out
I would like to think he could find something
nm
Only way to find out if he is just not that into you.
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Just find somebody else, have
the work done, and then send her the pictures of how beautiful it all turned out.
Be sure to tell her you paid a little more with this company, but it was worth it because they were so professional and quick with their service, but she was no "nice" and took such an "interest" in your welfare that you wanted to show her how nicely the project turned out. :oD
When you find out how to
make $$$$ being a beach bum, please let me know!!!!
Can't find that either!
Someone tell me, too. They said it is above where we post.. not seeing it. Sorry. . I'm havin' a bad one!
Hopefully that find the guy but at least..
they found that little girl and got her out of there.
If possible, see if you can find where she's going - sm
outside. Maybe she prefers that material to what's in the litter box. If she prefers dirt, you might try using that in the litter box to see if she'll start using it again. Then if she does, over time you could very gradually add litter to the dirt until it's 100% litter again. You might also try gradually adding kitty litter to the dirt outside where she's going as well, to help speed the transition along. Might not work but then again, who knows? It just might.
The other thing is, it takes a LOT to get the cat-urine smell out of the rug. Cats can smell much more keenly than we can, and it has to be 100% removed. Not easy. Don't use any household cleaners with ammonia in them, that'll just attract her. After thorough scrubbing, you might try something like "Nature's Miracle" to remove the rest of the odor. You could also try putting a small, inexpensive area-rug over that area, just to be SURE she can't smell it. Or even something like that indoor-outdoor fake grass stuff used for wiping your feet on...or anything else a cat might not want to walk on.
If your kitty's an indoor/outdoor kitty, maybe installing a small cat-door might help solve the problem?
One of mine (indoor-only) is the Queen of litterbox avoidance. Never used the rug, but is attracted to linoleum. I started out her rehab by caging her & "crate-training" her like a puppy, and also purchased Dr. Elsey's "Cat-Attract" litter, which is pricey but helped quite a bit.
She finally started using her litter boxes (she has THREE...), but is still inexplicably drawn to linoleum. Luckily there's not much of it in this apt., so I took temptation out of her reach by putting up pet-gates in front of the bathroom (real fun to trip over in the middle of the night, but heck - it works!), and also blocking off the kitchen (where I, as a non-cook, rarely go, anyway.)
The most important thing is to get creative, and to not give up.
This is the only pic I could find
of me in a dress, for comparison. Of course this was 21 years ago, and my hair was different in this picture, but I still think it shows the difference I'm talking about.
If you find any, let me know
I'm 25 and make more money than average college students. I just applied two places for a student loan and was denied. My credit isn't great (some medical bills on there that were past due but have now been paid), but it's not horrible either. My mother's credit is currently worse than mine, so having her cosign would do me no good. I really think companies are making it more difficult to get these loans (as I got one last year when my credit was worse and I made less money). So, I'm stuck trying to work as much as possible to pay for books and tuition myself. No fun. I wish you the best of luck, I know it's tough. I know when I was younger I couldn't get grants because my parents made too much money. Now that they don't include my parents in the calculation, they say I make too much money.
Sorry I don't have great advice! All I can say is research scholarships and apply for them like crazy!!
he may find his own way out, but
just in case you ever run across a poisonous snake and manage to cut his head off, do not reach toward it. There is a "heat sink" reflex and the darn thing can still bite you.
Trying to find someone...
When I first started MTing earlier this year I had corresponded with an MT named Deb out of Florida. We became friends but she had to deal with some personal stuff and in the interim we lost touch. I'm just wondering if anyone knows who I'm talking about? I'm really concerned and would like to know she is okay!
first find out what you
25 years ago is a long time. I would be very clear about what I wanted before I mentioned it. If you want to apologize to your sisters that is one thing, but if you want him to that is another.....
I also find myself
I think boys just have enormous skulls that are still growing and their jaws and necks are turning into men's jaws and necks also. Just make sure he is wearing his retainer! The wisdom teeth will soon be causeing more trouble!
Not that I can find - however,
you can have your comcast e-mail forwarded to yahoo so you can get a notification.
I cannot believe that they could not find them
especailly as your nephew was in jail! There are records! Or through their passports.
You, as you got so much money, could have employed a private investigator, do it now!
Please let me know when you find something
I got a new Kittie and she has been a terror, into everything. I tried all the different things listed, the black pepper, the orange peels, crinkled up aluminum foil, squirting with water, you name it I tried it to keep this kittie off counters, tables, just from taking over my home. I finally bought the mats that give off slight electrical shock and put a couple of those out. She will not step on those after the first time but she has learned how to skirt around those. My beautiful dining room table now is covered with brown paper and the 2 sided tape so if she decides to jump up there then she sticks, so far nothing there though. Let me know when you find the right thing because I need it also.
I'd definitely find a way to ask
I'd say something about how he looked familiar and ask his surname. You're both adults and whatever may have happened between your father and other women is all water that has long gone under the bridge. He might be just as interested in finding out about his father as you are to find out who he is.
I find it best to take a 15-20 minute nap....sm
when I find myself super-sleepy during the day. It's just enough to perk me back up and works better than caffeine or cold water.
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Just go to their website at www.melaleuca.com to find out about it. They are really great products and you can make a lot of money. Just let me know if you are interested
Checked them out, could not find
the higher price which I had to use, only the lower priced gas and then not at the Atlanta station I use which is south out of the city proper.
Best to try to find a different alternative
Maybe your husband could cut a board the size of your door frame, and wrap it in sissle rope, it needs to be at the height of the cat, so he can fully extend his body if that is his habit or what ever habit he has, maybe he only does it low, but you should know, or maybe a carpeted piece of board, I know you can find a solution, and just be so thankful it is not your furniture that cannot be repaired, thanks so much for not considering declawing, I commend you for not taking that route, I hope I could be of help, all for the animals!!!! Sincerely!
First I think you need to find out more ...(see inside)
about exactly what the purpose of this class is. Maybe it's kids they feel might need a little extra help to be ready to advance into 3rd grade. Or maybe it's just the opposite, maybe an advanced class for kids who have already learned most of the 2nd grade stuff, to keep them busy until August or September, when they advance into the third grade. I would contact the school to see exactly what the purpose of this class is, and why you daughter was chosen for it. Then you will know how to handle it. Good luck.
yes. find a doc that will *listen* to you--sm
(good luck in that regard), but sounds like it could be a thyroid condition or maybe fibromyalgia, or like *hayseed* said, some type of autoimmune thing. good luck to you!
Trying to find classmates. Has anyone tried. .. sm
finding classmates through the advertised sites like Find a Classmate or Reunion.com, etc? I figure these are only successful if someone has registered on the site and doubt many of these classmates have registered. I don't know married names on lots of these people and don't know what state they now live in so I need one that tracks down from maiden name, school, home town, year of birth, etc. Any suggestions or ideas would be greatly appreciated!
Cool! How do you find those? sm
I've never seen any links like that...that I was aware of.
My husband always claimed since he had seen my first 2 C-sections as well as watched 1 on TV that he could've delivered our third child at home. LOL!
Particular sprinkler - where to find.
On Gardening By the Yard, I have seen Paul discuss sprinklers, and he holds one up that looks funny, but I'd like to get one. The base is about the size of a lunch plate, and up from that come tubes, maybe 20? for water that are 5-6 inches long, and you can bend them in any direction to point individually in any direction you want. No more water ending up in the street or driveway. But I can't it, even when I go to the show website.
Anybody know where to find one or what it's called?
If you find something that works, let me know!! sm
I suffer from allergy/sinus problems all year round. Last night my face was throbbing with pressure and pain. Not fun. My doc gave me Wellbid-D for it, which helps some. And I use saline spray occasionally, too, especially when it's windy or dusty. I probably should use it more. To make things even more complicated, Oklahoma (where I live) passed a law that everything containing pseudephedrine has to be kept inside the pharmacy and bought directly from the pharmacist. It has cut down meth labs here in Oklahoma something like 75%, which is terrific, but it makes life difficult for us sinus/allergy sufferers.....
MT4eight, what did you find out
about the puppy? I am hoping for the best but did not see an up to date post from you. Please let us know. There are a lot of animal lovers on this
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