OP should get custody of kids if things so bad.
Posted By: Unless she just wants to gripe but not really help on 2007-11-07
In Reply to: You are an enabler - mt65sha
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Brittany just lost custody of kids
Effective this Wednesday, going to KFed, how long??
Try to be close to schools and to things for kids to do, even once she's
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Well...I am always nervous about letting my kids do things like that (sm)
But I usually let them do it. However, it would depend on the parents. I mean if the guy reeks of alcohol - how bad? Do you mean he drinks a beer or two on the weekends or is he a drunk? Will he be driving your son in a car or boat? If so, I would not be comfortable with that. I have said no at times if I am uncomfortable for a reason, but I always have to think it through and see if there is real danger or if I am just being me - a worry wart. I would find out if that dad is going, if he will be driving the car, if he will be driving a boat, etc. and make my decision from that.
Kids and money for school things...sm
Here is it is.... January 30th and since January 1st I've been asked by my 16-year-old for:
$90 for a graphing calculator for the calculus class
$85 for school yearbook (and price goes up 2/1 by $15..she didn't tell me any of this until now)
$30 for hoodie for yearbook club
$15 for drama t-shirt for spring production... which she has exactly 2 lines in and will not be on the stage any other time.
Total: $220.
I bought the calculator as it was necessary and I know she'll use it again in college. I've offered to pay half of the yearbook if she'll raise the other half. For the shirts I've told her to raise the money herself. The drama team is also looking to possibly go to New York for a few days to take in shows in May and gosh only knows what that would cost... if it gets approved.
She doesn't work and says if she gets a part-time job then she can't do the drama production as they practice 3 days a week until 8 p.m. .... well hello she has only 2 lines in it and isn't even in any other scenes.
I told her to get a job or start offering to babysit for money. I'm tired of being nickel-and-dimed to death for fru-fru non-essential expenses.... especially since we just spent $700 on car repairs and $250 for surgery on the dog (abscess on foot - she stepped on something at some point and messed herself up) and medical bills are coming in from my husband's numerous medical tests he had in November. I'm not going to pay for her to go to New York either when that would probably take out entire family vacation money for the summer. Once those numbers come in we'll offer to pay a portion of the cost but that's it.
She also insists she wants to go to college out of state, and her dad and I have also told her she has to figure out how to pay for that because we're not going in debt for that when she can get a free education from the lottery in our state by going to a state school. She doesn't do any volunteer work, play sports or have any special talents that would qualify her for scholarships.
I told her that it's time to grow up and realize there is no money tree in our back yard, and I'm not going to bust my butt working extra jobs to buy these things for her.
Funny things your kids said or did that cracked you up
When my dd was around three I was cleaning and had her playing in her playroom. I turned off the vacuum and she was standing there looking up at me very intently. She says "do you wanna play a game mommy?" I dont know, what kind of game? I ask. She responded oh I dont know maybe some Milton Bradleys or Parker Brothers.
There's lots of things kids can do at home
all summer that are worthwhile and free. Take them to the library once every week or two and get them reading! Where I lived as a kid it was hot all day, so I read all day and played outside in the evening when it was cooler. It doesn't have to be books, either. It can be magazines, comics, or whatever. Just the 'reading' part is the key. I used to read and re-read old comic books, Life magazines, National Geographics, and books on animals and earth sciences. I also think I read Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn multiple times each during the summer.
Kids can put on a neighborhood circus (and make some cash by charging admission). They can put on a pet show. We used to have pet shows, haunted houses, dog shows, cat shows, talent contests, bike races and foot races, too, and hurdles contests.
With some scrap wood, hammers, nails, etc., (if they're not too small) they can build things. We all had tree houses in just about every large tree in the neighborhood. My friend built a go-cart, and I built a wooden wagon. I also collected rocks, and used that wagon to haul home my latest acquisitions from around the neighborhood. (Much to my mother's dismay... she apparently didn't have the 'rock-gene' that my siblings and I all seem to carry!) Starting collections of any type (even if it's not rocks) can be a fun summer pastime.
Making mud pies and cookies was fun, as was collecging pollywogs and watching them magically turn into frogs.
A job such as painting a fence (a-la Tom Sawyer) can be a messy but fun experience for kids. Or, creating a mural.
Art projects are fun, too. How about giving each kid a journal to write their private thoughts and dreams in? Or, an older child can be taught the basics of cooking or sewing, which will come in handy some day when they're older. You could also teach hand-sewing, beading, embroidery, etc., and let kids make themselves a T-shirt or tank top, shorts, etc. that is work of wearable art.
Or, how about starting a veggie garden for the kids to take care of? They could also be involved in cooking and eating what they grow.
Even though it seems useless, the down-time in the summer, spent just doing NOTHING, isn't as bad as it appears, and when kids don't have every minute booked up for planned activities, they learn to explore what's interesting to them, and amuse themselves.
Custody
You can request family court counseling and the children get to talk to the counselor and say who they want to live with and why. An 11 yr. old can definitely choose which parent to live with, and if father is a bad parent, you can also have supervised visitation only, so the child does not have to be alone with him. Talk to your lawyer.
Because he is trying to get 50% custody (sm)
If I don't prove how he is before I leave what if he gets that and they have to be with him alone without me? Did that cross your mind?
A GAL does not have physical custody -
in the best interest of the child - a lawyer who represents the child. The GAL can make recommendations that this or that person be best suited in raising the child, or make a recommendation to a court that evaluations need to be done, etc. MOST GAL's do a splendid job in looking out for the child's best interest, but there are those whose priorities are more in line with being in favor with a particular party (a judge, a person of influence, etc.). I've seen great GALs and not so great GALs. Time will tell what will happen in this case.
Custody-how much say does an 11-year-old have? PLEASE HELP
 My 11-year-old son has recently started tearfully asking me to divorce his dad. I have been borderline on it for a while but was trying to keep the family intact - one reason being that I was afraid of how my husband would treat my son and 8-year-old daughter when I was not here. In discussing the possibilities of divorce, I told my son that his father could possiby try to get 50% custody of him. He said tearfully, "if that happens, I'll just shoot myself." I have never heard anything like that come out of my child's mouth. His dad is overbearing and he truly doesn't ask the kids (or my for that matter) opinion about anything...just does whatever he wants and expects us to just live with it. He is very concerned with what everyone else thinks but in truth doesn't care much about us. I guess my son is finally seeing that. I asked him to talk to his dad about how he feels but he is too afraid and said his dad will just say , "you got that idea from your mother."
I'm scared. I do want to consider filing for divorce, but if my husband gets partial custody the trauma on my children will be devastating! And he has much more financial means to fight me in court than I have.
How much say does an 11-year-old have in court about who they live with? If we went to a family counsellor first would that help at all?
CUSTODY not company LOL
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Remember they are doing split custody, they might - sm
be with daddy right now, either way though you are right. She can get away with it now that they are little and have no clue what she is doing, but if she continues on this way they will catch on eventually.
they have joint custody w/dad being primary...
Please, open your mind - occasionally there ARE extenuating circumstances, you know?!
I have joint custody w/ dad being primary
Am I a deadbeat mom as well?!
This was agreed upon by both dad and I .. Child lives out of state, I get all holidays and summers....
Just because no support is being paid doesnt mean the person is a deadbeat .. every situation is DIFFERENT....
Why does everyone think negative?!
I agree. My mother is a drug addict and lost custody of me
and I went to live with my grandmother so both of them have less than stellar parenting skills. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you let into your life.
I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
Oh, just a few things : )
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my take on things
I went through a similar situation with my (now ex-) husband's family during the ten years we were married.
Your husband is NOT the problem, his parents are. You said that your husband tried (albeit unsuccessfully) to get along with his father. So, it seems to me that he *DID* try as best as he could. But, sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things don't work out. So you do what the song says, "You have to know when to hold up; know when to fold up ..."
Now, it seems to me that his parents are treating your children like "holiday turkeys," ... bring them to be brought to the table once or twice a year, but ignore them the rest of the year. Yes, that's pretty much what it sounds like, and my heart goes out to your children 'cause I know the pain they are suffering ... because of their grandparents.
I also suspect that the ONLY reason your husband's parents went to the event was to "stick it" to your husband, and not because of the grandchildren. When you love someone and are truly proud of them, you do everything you can to be part of their life.
The ONLY people who matter in all of this are your immediate family ... You, your husband, and your children. Do not let his parents tear you all apart. I think you all need to get into therapy (you, your husband, and the children), so you can work through this problem AS A FAMILY UNIT, 'cause you're the only family that truly matters. You're all in pain and all of your feelings need to be counted, by each other.
Take it from someone who lived it.
Try these things...
Have your husband do special things with that kitty such as giving him treats, having a catnip party, playing with interactive toys, talking gently, getting down on the floor with him at his level...Does your hubby have a big booming voice or thud through the house? One of my cats took a LONG time to love my husband because my husband tends to talk loudly and make more noise than I do. Fourteen years later, that cat still perfers me over hubby and still likes the house quiet, but there has been LOTS of improvement over the years. Be patient. All kitties, even when raised together, can have totally different purrsonalities! Good luck to you. :-)
Been there and things will get better.
Your writing my store. I too went to court over 20 times due to custody battle with a dud. After 4 years of being dragged in and out of court, I ended up the what I had before I started $100 a week. I did get sole custody of my son though. I spent probably about $20,000 on lawyers (4 of them). I wrote a credit check for $5000 to hold is escrow because I had to sell my house and was planning on paying it after the sale of my house. Well, the lawyer cashed my check and ended up in jail after he ripped off about $75,000 from clients. I was out $5000.
I also had a warrant out for my arrest becuse my ex took a notice I had to go to court out of my mail box. Being that he was good friends with the neighbors from h&#%, I did get arrested and put in jail for about 4 hours which cost me another $250 for the bail.
Keep your head up. It will get better. I haven't gone to court since 8/05 because both judges, the one in family court and the one in municipal court both told my ex to leave me alone. Everytime I get the mail I'm expecting to get a notice to go to court. Believe it or not, it wasn't so bad being in jail, a cell to myself, and away from the h$&% he put me through.
So here I am, had to sell my house, broke as anything, living in a condo, but my kid is all mine. The ex moved 2 minutes away from me "to keep an eye on me" but what goes around comes around and I'm just waiting for the day he gets what he deserves. My son refuses to go to his house because his girlfriend also took me to court a few times. He is supposed to pick him up on Saturday morning and bring him home Sunday night every weekend. So guess who has to give the kid money for the weekend - me. That comes out of the $100 a week along with lunch money, clothing, food, etc. I literally ended up having a nervous breakdown, 6 days in the looney bin.
Keep your head up, I know exactly what you're going through and somehow it does get better. ');>![](http://forum.mtstars.com/smileys/smirlove2.gif")
Yes, know all the things that cause
and mine is thyroid related and menopausal so have those things linked with that. I am trying- maybe just have not "scrubbed" my head hard enough. Nerves not a problem here but well aware of lots of causes, probably been working on it longer than most.
odd cat things
my cat likes to eat toilet paper, either off the roll or from your hand. She also wags her tail constantly like a dog...with no dog in the house. She also will only eat 1 brand of food and no treats or tuna; she will eat french fries though
could be so many things
go to a doctor. but where I live, the first thing I think is Lyme disease.
Thanks everyone. Gives me some things to think about
Hayseed said, "No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved." That could be part of my problem. We've been eating a lot of pasta, rice and taters because hubby can't have dark greens, which includes salads, green beans, etc. because of gout and on Coumadin for AVR. Don't know what else to make anymore.
We gave up coffee, now, too, because both of us were having stomach problems with it. Two cups a day was our limit. He can survive with it, I can't seem to do that. LOL
Dinosaur said, " I had undiagnosed diabetes and would just "poop" out when my blood sugar was too low (or even too high!)." Diabetes runs in my family and I've been watching my counts for the past 10 years. So far, so good. I don't eat sugary stuff like pies,cakes, candy, soda. Don't like sweets that much.
I was checked for Lyme disease a couple years ago because I had 2 tick bites. That was negative.
The only allergy I have is my home. Ever since we moved to this house, I've had the flu, colds, runny nose, sneezing, coughing, etc.
Guess I'll have to make an appointment with a doctor and try to find out. Usually I'm one of those people who has something wrong that no one can figure it out. When I was 40, I had mono (rare for my age group) and was told I was "borderline Epstein-Barr and Guillame-Barre [sic]."
I was also checked for B12 deficiency (borderline), Anemia (borderline), rheumatoid arthritis, etc. You name it, I had the test over a 2 year period. The answer? Nada. I'm beginning to think all these "borderline" tests are coming back to bite me.
Thanks for your help. I think I will make an appointment to get checked out again.
Some things to think about...
1. Your house payment probably also has your taxes and insurance added in. If paid off, you'll still have to pay these. Mine account for about 1/2 of my total house payment. Plus, 6% is low compared to the other interest rates.
2. Debt to credit ratio: I've had all of my credit cards increase their rates to "default" rates just because my debt was a high percentage of all my credit (no missed payments, no late pays, etc.) This will affect the teaser rates as well.
3. Your 401k is also probably earning some type of interest. Take that "lost" interest from money you've borrowed into account. That will help you better compare the interest rates.
If you feel you have to talk to a debt counselor, there is no shame in that! Just make sure it's a reputable company. As with most things, there are a lot of scams out there. Good Luck!
Try these 2 things perhaps
Some cats need more than one litter pan. I have 2 like that. One started having this problem and the addition of an extra solved it. But even before that, I would take her in to check for UTI. Some cats, particularly kittens, will not cry or behave oddly otherwise when they have a UTI. They will, however, start peeing in noticable places outside the litter pan. She may have also been bullied by a more agressive cat or kitten while in the litter pan. Some get territorial about them. In which case the 2nd one should help. Good luck and hope that helps.
It could be a lot of things, however... (sm)
This is heavy on my mind right now, so I will tell you the first thing that I thought of.
My little 3-year-old girl is being worked up for pheochromocytoma, which I know is very rare but could be a consideration for you. She has paroxysms of profuse sweating that come out of nowhere with pallor. She looks and feels terrible when it happens. She sacks out on the couch or mommy or daddy to wait it out. These episodes are done in about 5-10 minutes and she's fine. I have a documented blood sugar stress reaction (per the pediatrician) during an episode, so something's happening to her. She bounces up like nothing ever happened. We have yet to get her blood pressure during one, though.
If you look up pheochromocytoma, there are usually multiple links or references to other conditions that may fit your symptoms as well. Pheo is pretty rare, and I'd be surprised if my daughter was positive for it because it is, but her symptoms are quite like it.
A simple blood test rules you in or rules you out.
It's an off-the-wall idea of mine, but it may get you looking in the right place if you start your research in that area.
Good luck to you.
2 things
I always bring stuffing. We call it "outdoor" because whomever makes the turkey had already made "indoor" to stuff the bird with. Then I make cinnamon bread. My 2 specialities for the main course. Man, I'm getting hungry!
Have you ever tried the little things
you put in your gloves or socks to keep you warm - I've seen them pretty cheap - and I think they are reusable at least several times- could use them when you are really cold. I keep one of those bed buddys that you warm in the microwave on my lap - my hands get cold and I warm them every so often. you could put one under your heels or the foot not on the foot pedal.
A few things - sm
Absolutely nothing with alcohol in it, candy and cookies included.
No pornographic material or anything that might be considered pornographic by their "host" country.
No glass containers.
Chocolate or anything that could melt is not a good idea either.
Think that is about it.
things not like they used to be
in the old days, the store could have had him do work there to pay for what he took.. things have changed. . it seems like nobody wants to take time with kids (or anybody) any more. . have you heard the saying "it takes a village" . . I will pray for your family and hope everything works out. . I know how much stress you must be under.
Things are different-
the kids have taken over. I think you are not supposed to beat the kids but I be darn if I will raise my kid or a g'child and not have the upper hand- I will not be walked over like lots of people are letting their kids do now. If I did not switch, I would take everything humanly possible away from them with the exception of a necessity, that being a bed or a coat or maybe food. Families have done this to themselves for coddling, pampering, talking to and now what?
When things get that bad
around here, I go on a mini-strike. I wash my own plate and dish and only do my own laundry. Family has to do laundry/dishes when no clean towels or glasses. They shape up after that. For a little while anyway!
Any GI things going around right now. nm
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Two things...
One, she's a cleaning lady, not a housekeeper...
Two, you didn't catch her "red handed", you don't even know 100% for sure that she took your drawers. Red handed is when you catch someone in the act, which in this case you did not...
Things to try - sm
Go get those huge bags of ice they sell at gas stations and fit in as many of those as you can into the freezer and fridge, then DO NOT keep opening them to check on things. I personally would not eat fish that had thawed out...Best of luck to you! 
There are things to be said for being an IC - sm
Yeah, I know there's no PTO, but having complete control over my work schedule - well, there's nothing like it! I've been doing this, with my own schedule for five years now and I wouldn't have it any other way. Yes, I do try to maintain my own regular schedule - otherwise my work bleeds all the way from 8:00 a.m. to 11:00 p.m. I try to get everything done between 8:00 a.m. and suppertime. But that still leaves room for kids' doctor appointments, chaperoning field trips when the kids were younger, or even a little "special one on one time" with my husband while the kids were in school. Then, come vacation or sick days from school I can tailor my schedule to fit without having to ask anyone permission. Love it!
Oh, yes - I do get "Mom, can I just check something quick on the computer?", etc., and have to be firm about the boundaries that I do set because you're right - They never do completely get it!
Several things
Ectopic pregnancies are possible in this situation--the babies can grow on an organ. However, this creates a very high-risk situation. Babies have been carried to term this way.
In this case, though, if she has been 13 years without a period, I would wonder about a tumor, especially if she found out about her pregnancy with a home pregnancy test. HCG (what the home pregnancy test measures) can be produced by tumors, which also may correlate with a growing abdomen, giving one the false idea she is pregnant.
How did she determine she was pregnant with twins?
Things to do
1. Find a trainer.
2. Yelp like a puppy whenever the dog is rough housing as that is what its littermates or pack mates would do.
3. If you yelp and it continues, play ends and they go into their kennel. You control the play and that usually helps teach them what behavior is acceptable. No words because that is giving attention..simply stop playing and put into a kennel for a time out.
My oldest did this biting nonsense when he was little and we got a trainer immediately who let me see so many things on how I was reacting that made him think not only he was boss but that his behavior got him payback with negative or positive attention. I trained with her and even worked with her in her dog business for a while and learned a lotas
There is no reason that a dog should need to be "gotten rid of" if the owner is responsible and takes care of behavior problems in a responsible, caring and teaching way.
No such thing as bad dogs... only bad packleaders/owners.
think I'd think things through...nm
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One of two things
Either your an i d i o t for putting up with it time and time again or your husband is an i d i o t for throwing away perfectly good items! Either way.....
These 10 things definitely ain't right:
1) MTSOs who want people with top-notch skills and experience, but don't want to pay them what that skill is worth.
2) HMO's: So-called *health-maintenance-organizations* --yet they spend every minute and every dime of their far-too-large profits on denying healthcare, meds and procedures to their patients. These organizations have ruined American healthcare, and many American lives. HMO's have been a con-game since their inception.
3) The Bailouts: Giving money to companies who can't cut the mustard, who spent what money they did have rewarding their inept CEOs with huge bonuses. What part of *business* do these people not understand? Their ethics are nothing more than, *I've got mine; too bad for the rest of you.* Then the Big Three show up in DC to beg for a handout, and fly there in private Lear jets. My answer to them would be, *I've got my Toyota; too bad for the rest of you.*
4) Apartment managers that won't allow even a single quiet, well-behaved pet, but will rent to people with continually screaming small children, and out-of-control older children and teens. Give me the pets for neighbors, ANY day.
5) Businesses that give an age-discount to absolutely everything that walks, runs or flies, but not to the middle-aged middle-class, who need it the most. Take the ski-industry: Young children ski for next-to-nothing, and sometimes nothing. There is a Teen Discount. There is a Student Discount for college kids. There's a single, share-able ticket for 2 parents taking turns skiing or staying in the lodge to watch their babies who don't yet ski. There are senior discounts (though the starting age on that keeps going up; I'll probably never be old enough - it's a carrot-on-a-stick, always just out of reach.) There are even corporate (UGH) discounts. But for those in my age group, who barely make ends meet but like to go up once a year for a couple days of bliss, there is NOTHING.
6) Travel-lodging deals that are always based on double or quadruple occupancy. What about singles? NOTHING.
7) TV commercials that are about a million decibels louder than the regular shows. Why can't it all be the same volume? Same with online newscasts. THEIR commercials will blow your eardrums out if you aren't quick enough turning down the volume before they start.
8) Surround-sound: Everything is too loud, already! Why do we need it coming at us from 4 directions? Why do people living in tiny apartments feel they need it? I've lost count of how many fights I've had with neighbors over this issue. Same with movies and music concerts. Why do they feel we need to feel the music in our SPLEENS? I went to Universal Amphitheater last week. (Now named something else). There is actually a sign outside warning that the decibel level inside might damage your hearing! (?!?!?!) Why do they need this? (To avoid lawsuits, obviously). If it's so loud you have to post a warning sign outside the entrance, then DUH.... it's TOO LOUD!
9) Banks that charge you a fee to use their ATM. They're saving millions by hiring fewer live tellers; (I haven't actually been INSIDE a bank in YEARS).... and they want to charge US for using the machines instead of the tellers? Forget it. I won't give those banks my business.
10) The Post Office: Talk about rewarding slow, inept performance! The worse their employees are, the longer they seem to stay there. I'd rather have a root canal than go to a P.O. during the holiday season.
Things that never did seem quite right
Pet rocks
Hummers
Suburban sprawl
7 year car payments
$5 coffees
Please add more!
Things that are better NOW........
Cell Phones: If I'd had one of those as a teenager, I wouldn't have gotten into so much trouble for always forgetting to call my parents and tell them where I was, or that I'd be late. 
ATM Machines: I remember running out of gas on a weekend when the banks were closed back in the 70's, had no credit cards, and would my car would be running on fumes to get home 'cause I couldn't buy gas. 
The Internet: About 12 years ago, I remember asking someone what the Internet was, and why we needed it. Now, I'm 100% hooked on it. Remember the HARD way of doing things in the past? Like buying theater or plane tickets? Looking up directions? Comparing different brands of something you wanted to buy? Selling something you no longer wanted? Looking for a house or an apartment? Getting the latest news? The list is endless.  Long Live The Internet!!!!
Google: Who can live without it? Especially Google Earth & Google Maps? Now I'm armed with driving directions, maps, even photos if needed, of where I'm going. Back in the day when I had to rely on someone's verbal directions, following them and actually getting to your destination was like Russian roulette. 
Digital Cameras: When I think of all the money I spent on film, and then developing said film, and all the film wasted on bad shots in my lifetime, it makes me cringe. I love the freedom and flexibility digital cameras give me to take as many photos as I want, and to experiment with them, as well.
MP3 Players/CD Players: Think of all the fights you've had in the car over which radio station to listen to listen to, and how loud. Then think how they never would've occurred if Mom & Dad could've handed each of us our own music source and headphones. 
Solar Lights: I love solar lights! Garden lights! Floodlights! Christmas lights! You can fill your yard with them, and the power source is FREE!!! 
Hair-straightening and Curling Irons: Remember the 60's, and trying to smooth frizzy or too-curly hair with an IRON on your mom's ironing-board? Or sleeping with HAIR CURLERS? UGH!!! 
You can probably think of a million more great things than I did. Let's hear 'em!
First things first...sm
The first thing you should do is take her to the vet to have her looked at medically as far as eliminating on the bed. So many things could be in play here. Secondly, kittens often try to play rough. Pull your hand away and refuse to let her do it. I also make a loud meow sound at the same time and they will usually let go immediately. The kitty will get the idea before long. I would make every effort to engage this kitten and get her to like you again. Have plenty of toys available, make sure there is a scratching post, buy her some catnip. They are like kids at this age and need positive reinforcement, not you being mad at them. Best wishes.
2 things
Since I only woke up about an hour ago...
1. I woke up (still alive).
2. I fed my cat and she then came over and rubbed her head all over me purring loudly while I rubbed her belly thanking me for her breakfast.
But the day is still new, am sure it will go downhill from here on.
other things to try
"Extended stay" motels. These have a refrigerator, 2-burner range, sink, dishes, pots, etc. They are slightly larger than a motel room. Google "extended stay motels." You can get a great deal on monthly rates, & you don't have to pay hotel tax on anything over 30 days.
Check to see if there is some kind of roommate referral or service where the people are screened. I read an article recently that said matching seniors & younger people is a growing trend, & there are community agencies who will facilitate this.
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