OK, this is going to sound weird, but I'm surprised nobody else suggested it... sm
Posted By: Deb - on 2009-03-12
In Reply to: is it abnormal not to enjoy sex? - frustrated
but the key to a good sex life is to know your own body. I mean *down there.* Without your partner! Get a little vibrator, they even sell them now at supermarkets and drugstores in the aisle where they sell condoms. I think the polite term is personal massager. Also get some lubricant. You can go the whole route with candles, in the bath, read a sexy book, use your imagination. Then once you figure THAT out, you can help direct your partner... show him what you learned. A whole new world will open up for you!
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This may sound a bit weird., but /sm
I read your post and got to thinking about when I lived in a really large house and kept missing the knocks at the front door. I got myself one of those wireless doorbells, and would take the "bell" part from room to room with me when I was expecting a delivery... I wonder if you could take the part that usually screws onto the door frame and put it on a necklace or something for you mother to wear and "ring the doorbell" when she needs help, and then take the "bell" part from room to room. Actually mine was loud enough I didn't need to pick it up and move it unless I was going upstairs. They might even sell them with 2 or more receivers (what I call "bells") so you could hear it ring on whatever floor you are on.
Good luck. I took care of my uncle when he had lung cancer and we rigged up a baby monitor for him, but he was in a 1-story house and I could hear him except at night time, so I can empathize.
Okay, this may sound weird but.....
I have seen this in two different children in the family and they were all middle children. I know some may say there is no such thing as the middle-child syndrome but I say different. My daughter has two friends who were middle children growing up and they both had outbursts and seemed upset all the time, and their parents were constantly upset about them. In seeing this in my family and with friends, I really truly believe there is something to this. My mother is a middle child also and I can see she is perceived differently by her own siblings. She has been treated ugly by her younger sister and older brother. Her own parents (my grandparents) have always treated her differently, even though they would deny they have. I have seen it with my SIL and her daughter, the middle child. Now, on the other hand, the couple of middle children I have not seen it happen in was where the other children, one older and one younger, were opposite sex; she had two brothers. My mother had a sister and brother, my other family members also have sisters and brothers, but the ones with two siblings of the opposite sex than they, seemingly have no problems like this. A close friend had an older son, then a daughter, and then the youngest girl. The middle daughter began this behavior as well very early on. Since my girlfriend was a middle child, she quickly picked up on this and started spending time with this child alone and doing activities completely separate from the other siblings. She did tell me that if she were perfectly honest, she realized the oldest child probably did get more attention and then the second came along, probably not the same amount of attention, and then with the baby, of course, lavishing again because that child was the baby of the home. Being a middle child herself, she was very honest about this and knew what she felt like, so from early on, she spent a lot of time with this child, which may have seemed over doing it to the other siblings, but I have to say, it really changed things for the better for this child. She seemed to just blossom and the negative behavior just stopped. They took pictures of her by herself without other siblings around, movies alone with her, time cooking in the kitchen, just a lot of one-on-one time, and it really changed her for the better. I'm really sorry this is happening but I have to say, I've seen this happening over and over in my family and my friends. There is something to this middle-child thing. I think without even realizing it, parents are behaving differently toward the middle child; I can't put my finger on it but even I know we took tons of pictures of our first and as parents know, we tend to put the next child in everything together with the first, and sometimes their own identify gets lost in the shuffle.....you know?
My girlfriend did have a particular doctor who wrote books on this and she read a lot of the books, which she said made a lot of sense to her. She did not want her middle child to feel the way she did growing up and with the suggestions made, she did try them, and the return was great!! Maybe try this? I know you love this child just as much, but I'm certain the frustration you feel (and it sounds your son feels as well) is coming through. With his age, he just doesn't have the coping skills to know what is bothering him necessarily, so maybe a good book on this would help you.
This may sound a little weird
But I live in a really big city and I would put him in a retirement complex. That is a really good place for people with lots of money who don't feel like cooking for themselves or being alone. I hope you live in a big city too. Good Luck!
Yes, do exactly what kam suggested - more
They do that in our area all the time. Those riders will turn out in force, protect the family with a show of support, and not intrude on their grief. Please give it a try!
to the one who suggested
Hello! I just wanted to thank you so much for your suggestion! We had my daughter's birthday party last weekend and it was a huge success! The girls had no clue. I sent out bogus invites and they all thought it would be at 2:00 Saturday afternoon. It took them all a while to wake up and figure out what was going on when we'd pick them up. They had a blast going to the next house and waking up the next girl. They all went out for breakfast in the PJ's and we came back to our house. I bought boys undershirts and some fabric paint and they had loads of fun decorating them and signing all their names on each shirt.
I couldn't believe how often I heard "THIS IS THE BEST BIRTHDAY PARTY I'VE EVER BEEN TO!!" and "THESE SHIRTS ARE WAAAY BETTER THAN GOODIE BAGS!"
So many parents asked me how I thought up this brilliant party plan and I had to tell them all that I posted on here for suggestions and someone shared the idea with me.. I could not take credit and I just want to thank you!!!!
I want to tell you about what you have suggested
I think your call for a sympathy card is completely out of order. I think offending would be a good word if you sent this. The child has a malady that is correctable. Years ago my mother from nowhere sent a sympathy card to my aunt, her sister. No one had died. My aunt who was a nurse asked a psychiatric physician she knew what it meant, as no one in the family had died. The physician told her she has a death wish for you! I don’t know how true this was, but it happened. I would back off from much of anything right now, let the friend have a little time before pushing in on her.
You were always right, because you suggested this in
your 1st post, point 3).
I wondered only, but now you convinced me.
But she has to make sure to lcck the door between house and garage!
For those who suggested alcohol..sm
alcohol is a stimulant and will have just the opposite effect. Melatonin helps, but I don't like its after effects, and it does have some. I recently came across a native american remedy called Cloud Walking Tea. It is a tea and it works. I sleep peacefully with no after effects.
The ads I read suggested
Mucinex and it has no other ingredients, not cough syrup at all. That was the reason I asked if anyone else had tried and if any success.
No one has ever suggested biofeedback
dont have a clue as how that works. You would think asking up front - does the clinic treat fibromyalgia - surely to God they could get it right and a yes or no would save my time and expense from even going there - I spent a few minutes before working looking for an acupuncture clinic reasonably close- I would try that as one of the posts says above. I can touch my ribs and that is where the pain is and whether he says they cannot be front and back, I surely to goodness know what hurts. Not one person ever suggested the feedback though.
I suggested this on other board, but
reply was lost when message was moved. Are you perhaps allergic to this, or maybe you have an infection that you don't know about and it is reacting with a discharge?
My dermatologist had suggested but
I was disbelieving that it would really work, thought would take a lot longer than what you say. Was your loss extensive and what was it from? Do you still use? I am so hopeful now because feel I have found a kindred soul that has been in the same boat (or still is?). Thanks.
True, yet the lady still could have suggested since it was
the LITTLE GIRL she was dealing with when the mothers back was turned that it was worth more than $2.00. It really sound like the woman took advantage...Again, taking candy from a baby. That's my point. Such a shame.
I am so grateful to the post who suggested
this might have been my big boys problem because it was. At first thought I had gotten something smelly on me, threw away a good sweater but guess I had just had him in my arms and some how PVT and that is what my stepmom taught my brother and me- puke, vomit and throwup. Wasn’t she just great! The assitant at the veterinarian clinic was going to tell me does not happen with felines. Hold on, the doctor standing right there and sure enough, he expressed the glands after having to shave his rear end. That boy weighs 21 and a half pounds so he is a big one, probably cannot get to the areas he needs to clean good. Oh well, today he is at the groomers to cut down on that gosh awful smell he had yesterday. PVT again!
Like cat suggested if you have left over carpet
somewhere that is a possibility. We once cut a piece out of a closet so you never knew it was missing. BTW, Jennie Garth went home. Used to be a big 90210 fan so that was disappointing.
Yeah, I was gonna suggested a 'smackin'...
as the 'or' word, but I'm working on being more, um, understanding I guess is the word I'm looking for. And you know what, it's reeeeely reeeeely hard in cases like these!
Kinda off topic here, but I hate it when a husband is suggested
I never babysitted by own child, I took care of her, by myself at that, but that is another story for another time. Just wanted to share that babysitting thing!!!
And also, most men are not nurturers (sp), we know this as mothers, but yes they can and should participate in child rearing as they helped created this human being.
Guess it got moved. I suggested a large or 2 smaller
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Someone suggested trying spraying Clorox on toes daily
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Truffles, the other day you suggested chewing on coffee beans but
I think I found what I really need today and I had some Cuban coffee at a little shop up the street. I am in total love! The guy wanted to know if I knew what it was before I bought and told him drank some in a smaller cup in Santo Domingo, did not think it would be any stronger and goody for me, just hit the spot. The guy suggested my getting an expresso maker and might just do. I did not get around to chewing on the beans, though.
I was surprised, but I saw it for $1.99
NM
Here's what my son did, and I was surprised
My son has been seeing a particular dermatologist since he was 16. He's 19 now. We've NEVER waited less than 90 minutes past our appointment time to see this doc, and the longest we've waited was 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've never received explanations or even apologies. Well, one day my son missed his appointment and was charged $50. I told him that was on him. As bad as it is that we've waited for the doc in the past, it was my son's responsibility to keep the appointment when scheduled.
So my son did a little research and found out that the practice is owned by our local private hospital. He wrote a check for $50 and wrote a letter to the office manager, copied the doctor, and then copied the practice manager and whoever heads the medical practice management group at the hospital. He gave dates and lengths of waits at previous appointments. He explained that he was willing to pay for his missed appointment, but that he wanted everyone involved in the management of this dermatology practice to know that the consistently excessive waits past appointment times were not acceptable, as his time is valuable to him.
He received a letter from the practice manager who apologized and returned his check to him! We don't know if the wait times have improved at this practice, because my son decided to see another dermatologist who sees her patients on time.
Anyone surprised? Not . . .
Lindsay Lohan in jail again - what a dodo. Can't she afford a driver? I think she's really going down this time.
I am surprised this still goes on,
Who would paddle her. At 14, she is a young lady. Some adults get a sexual defiancy out of administering that and I would never, ever let someone take a hand to my children. It sends the wrong message.
Not surprised
As a former teacher, I can tell you that 98% of kids will tell you that their parents or grandparents are their heroes. Yes, they get enthused about sports stars, movie people, TV people, etc., but kids are not fooled about the important things. As your daughter indicated in her essay, they are most impressed with how we adults treat other people. They especially notice how we treat the people who cannot do anything for us - other people's kids, the obnoxious parents at the sports events,the homeless, those among us who are impaired intellectually or physically, etc.
I am surprised
how much this question has made me reflect on the differences in parenting and some of the similarities, too. My parents never had a problem saying no, which was final, no matter how much our feelings might be hurt. I realize now they probably did not like to hurt our feelings, but things were totally opposite then; they had more morals than money!
Surprised.
I would really hate to think a lack of an organism would be a driving force towards divorce. I love my husband with all my heart and here 10 years later and never had one! I enjoy sex tremendously and have achieved 1 in the past but not with him. While making that blanket statement about a driving force towards divorce, you say the ex left instead of your husband leaving. Maybe he is not the most pleasing guy you think he is. Just my observation.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
What I wonder is was he supplying Anna's son with the drugs as well?
Is anybody really surprised by this? sm
Obviously, the stress clinic came a little too late for this soldier. Having been connected with the military for nearly 50 years, I believe they have never done enough mental health wise for their people. Most soldiers in the military today STILL will not admit they might have stress issues and need help because this all goes in their military record that follows them from one assignment to the next and can prevent them from advancing in their careers. So, what do most of them do when under so much stress they feel they are going to explode? Beat their spouses or commit suicide. My husband was in the Middle East as a contractor for a year. The things he saw on a daily basis were unimaginable to those of us in the good old USA. Mind you, he was there by choice and could have left at any time. Besides dead bodies being loaded onto planes daily, he saw soldiers coming in from the field looking worn down and so depressed they had no emotions at all. Factor in one problem from home or a letter or e-mail that does not arrive when it should and it is no wonder there is not more of this happening. Shame on the military for not taking better care of their people!!! 
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but
this man likes to watch Animal Channel along with me. We have been married for 7 years now and I can truthfully say he never drools, shy, quiet and reserved. More women could use a hubby like mine!
You would be surprised at what people--sm
do and do not wear at these types of functions these days. Personally, I would dress a little bit up, but I have seen people in shorts and khaki pants, as well, not to mention jeans, as well as gowns. Totally up to you. I would say nothing is taboo, as long as you are dressed. been there. Have fun!
You know, I wouldn't be surprised (sm)
if there are A LOT of effects from microwave cooking that we don't know about. It's scary when you think about what you could be doing to yourself EVERYDAY.
I am surprised myself at how low my cholesterol is
and so was my physician. My hubs very much against eating red meat but he knows I love a steak which I eat less of now since we married. When physician remarked about how good level is, he told me tell hubby alright about that steak and just about anything. No worries here but thanks anyway.
You did right. Surprised so many parents ok with
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I am surprised you work if you don't have to - sm
but where would you be I wonder if your wonderful doormat of a husband lost his job. I am from the Philly area and it is pricey depending on where you are, and jobs are not stable now. So unless he has his own business that is doing quite well I would get off my high horse. You could end up like to poor rich folks who lost every penny to that con artist Madoff. My DH and I had $400K saved until the downturn, now it is about $300K. We only have a mortgage too but lots of monthly bills too which add up to about $3500 a month. We do not think we are better than anyone else. I guess you don't eat, or have phone bills, electric bills, college funds, life insurance, health insurance, etc. One of my husband's paychecks easily pays our mortgage too, and it will be paid off in less than 4 years, but you don't see me bragging to everyone how great my life and finances are. We have ups and downs like anyone else, and no I don't "have" to work but if I didn't we would not have more than $200 left over each month, and that is no way to live if you can help it. You'd better hope to *ell that your DH does not lose his job though, or your perfect little world will come crashing down.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
You would be surprised what docs can
get away with in a hospital setting. Been there.
I know! I was surprised it was Jeffrey too....and what about Top Chef?!!? ; )
Hooked on that too!
You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
Well, with his current predicament, I'm not surprised
Is he careless or just stoopid? lol
What surprised? Things happen everywhere
Have televison on as I work and live reports- a noose found on door of a black educator at Columbia College in New York - yes things happen like this elsewhere, not just the south and another high school shooting in Cleveland, Ohio this time. People are saying shocked it happened at both places. College people said the people there are educated. I don’t know if education has to do with racism. I wonder if and when things like this might be a thing of the past.
Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
Was anyone surprised that Howard Stern
has been arrested as being involved in giving Anna Nichole Smith drugs that eventually resulted in her demise? I am surprised it too this long.
I'm surprised your building even allows smoking -(s/m)
indoors. Most DON'T, these days. Not only a potential health (or lawsuit, perhaps?) issue for any non-smoker, asthmatic or not, because of the secondhand smoke, but also the FIRE potential. Seems to me if smoking indoors were banned, their insurance might be a lot less. Maybe that would be something to mention to the LL.
In the meantime, why not look for a single-story unit, such as maybe a duplex? And if that's not available, just be sure the next apt. building is a no-smoking building. Where I live, you aren't even allowed to smoke outside the units, out by the pool, or in the alley. Smokers are required to walk clear out to the curb. Have you checked your lease? What does it say about smoking?
As a nonsmoker, I think you definitely have some rights, here, but you'd have to investigate it a little further. Still, it might be easier to move than to try to force the landlords to change their policy.
I am amazingly surprised by it!! It really does work great (sm)
and I have barely had to clean the shower. I would buy all those in the spray bottles, but let's face it, no one but me is actually going to spray the shower in this house and half the time I forget! I can actually get the kids to press the button on this when they are done in the shower and it gives you a few beeps before it starts off, so they make a game out of it.
We just moved into this house a fever months ago and it is even beginning to remove the crud that I could not get off from the previous owner and it is literally starting to shine - and I am only on the second bottle. This is really one product I can recommend, especially if you hate cleaning the shower as much as I do!
P.S. When the beeps go off, don't watch to see what it does without goggles! :)
I'm hooked on this show. Was surprised it didn't
She was probably surprised that you knew that. After all, we just "type what we hear," right?
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I am surprised at the statement, "every facet"
of her life. Have 2 kids, both grown, glad they are out on their own, not interested in "every facet" because they are grown. I enjoy my time now. I am glad my children know how to live on their own and I surely do not live through them. Sounds like you need more interests in your life if you are going to fall apart when she leaves for college.
He just told her to stop acting surprised when she gets compliments.
It was kind of funny. So when he complimented her performance she smiled very nicely! I don't always agree with Simon, but I did agree with him on that. I don't think the acting surprised thing was an act for her, I think it's just her personality, but by now she should stop being surprised that the judges like her so much! I do too. I hope she wins!
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