OK, first lose the WalMart shoes. Kids are brutal. sm
Posted By: just me on 2007-04-20
In Reply to: Teen fashion emergency! :) SM - Chickadee
Being completely honest, you definitely need to not buy the shoes at Walmart. Kids are very, very cruel about that. You can sometimes get away with a couple pairs of pants from walmart, like the carpenter-type pants, etc., and maybe a T-shirt or 2. My son is only 10, but he's already really picky about what he will or won't wear.
Try shopping at JCPenney, BonTon, the Gap, Kohls, Macy's. Their clothes can be a bit pricey sometimes but just watch for sales now and start slowly collecting stuff. They have awesome sales, especially president's day, Memorial day weekend, thanksgiving (black friday), and awesome labor day sales which are usually just in time for back to school.
As far as the haircut, I would take him to a salon and let them offer some suggestions on what is popular and what would work good for your son's hair type and face shape. Maybe even try one of the hair places in the mall because they usually have younger, more modern people there. Good luck! Hope it all goes well!
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Your mother is going to have to be brutal if she wants this woman
Does your mother have a chain on her door? If not, install one and keep the door chained at all times. If this woman comes knocking, tell your mother to open the door as much as the chain will allow and tell the woman she is not welcome any more.
Check with the phone company and see what would be involved with blocking her phone number so the phone won't even ring when she calls. I know it can be done, but I haven't ever had to do it, so I don't know what it entails. Even if there is a small charge, it would be worth it.
This woman has some serious problems. I hope her children force her to go to the doctor for a physical checkup and also to a psychiatrist for evaluation and/or testing. She may be lucid and appear to "have all her faculties" but she definitely has some fairly severe psychological problems.
Shoes! Love shoes. Thin soles work best.
Don't be mad, but foot size might have something to do with it. I'm a 7 1/2 shoe size, and I suspect a foot much bigger than that might be a bit wide to easily hit the right pedal every time. Remove the shoe and your foot is narrower and you can feel the controls and not hit the wrong one. Just a guess because I've heard guys have the worst time with the pedal.
Older folks sometimes lose it before they really lose it sm
It sounds like she having some issues with money and thought processes. Four potatoes and three sweet potatoes? She has lost touch with reality. I don't mean this in an unkind way. I think she didn't stop the think or plan the budget around this. Perhaps she has lost the ability to properly plan on some level. This makes no sense.
In my family, food at gramma's was always abundant. The woman always thought we were foot soldiers readying for a cold march across two states. The place she got miserly was with almost everything else. She'd have everyone over for a huge supper and have 2 rolls of TP in the house, one nearly gone, and there would be 10 of us. She stopped buying laundry detergent because it was "too expensive" and started using shavings of naphtha soap. She started saving little soap slivers and making "new" bars of soap with them. She stopped buying shampoo unless it was in the markdowns at the grocery store. She started using a baggie for her vacuum cleaner bag. You get the picture here.
The interesting thing is that truly, that gramma never fully lost it. We considered this idiosyncratic and went on. She kept the rest of her faculties, but had these odd ways of "saving money." My other gramma who never did any of these things did, in fact, suffer from profound dementia the last 10 years of her life. Of course, that set of grandparents had the issue the other way. Toilet paper: Bought in bulk 6 cases at a time. Find a salad dressing you like, buy a couple of cases. You never did want to tell them you liked a certain food, paper product or soap something because if you did, along would come a few cases of it!
We all do something when we get older. Help her out so she isn't embarrassed by this!
Earth Shoes....heel lowered in Earth Shoes
Believe it or not, but I take Walmart brand Onion and Garlic and mix it with a jar of Walmart brand
Mixing the two sauces togeter gives it the right amount of garlic and veggies. Our family is Italian on both sides, but we all agree for a quick jar sauce instead of homemade, this does the trick! YUM
Yes, I lose
money if I don’t work so very simple for me. I just have good work ethics.
I'm sorry. It is so sad when we lose a pet.
xx
I'm trying to lose too sm
I've tried all diets, have been successful, but once i stop doing the diet, then i gain back. Atkins, WW, Jenny Craig. Last year I did Nutrisystem, but food got expensive. Now I'm just trying to eat healthy. I can tell you that Nutrisystem food had fiber and protein in it. It's tough. I'm an emotional eater. I would love to be a part of a losing weight forum. there is a website www. weightlossbuddy.com. It's free and you can find other people that live close to you and support each other. I'd like to lose about 20 or 25. Hey monitor, didn't there used to be a diet board? If not, that'd be a good board to have.
thanks
use it or lose it
They can keep you alive a very long time these days. I would try to die with my boots on. Have you walked through a nursing home lately? Just keep shuffling along and do not stop until you keel over, or you could have a manny nurse changing your Depends.
well, i try to eat right. i need to lose some weight sm
so i do buy whole wheat stuff, bread, wraps, spaghetti. i buy low fat/fat free lunchmeats, 2% cheese. i don't buy cupcakes and cookies (or else i'd eat them!) i don't drink much milk, not that i don't like it, just don't drink it much. i drink more water than anything. i'll have about one diet dr. pepper a day. i love food, it's just trying to stay on a healthy track. my problem is i don't get enough exercise. i have a 5 y/o and an 8 y/o that keep me busy. but i do like to exercise.
But how did she lose all that weight?
She was really heavy and saw her lately in my weekly rags and so thin now.
Oh yes people will tell you you need to lose
weight. My own father was a good example of that. He tried to cut me down and made nasty remarks about my weight. Never mind the fact I saw pictures of his mother who was extremely obese. I guess he forgot about her weight. Anyone who is overweight knows that- does not have to be told- there are mirrors everywhere.
Trying to lose weight
Has anyone tried Hoodia and does it work?
Well, I DID lose 10 lbs. this summer without even trying-
That's about the only good thing that's come of all this. The rest sucks.
Sometimes you won't lose much 1 week but BAM sm
you lose a bunch the next week; sometimes it is water-weight related, other times related to your period or hormones. Some weeks I didn't lose anything, only to have a 4 lb loss the next time! Just be sure to start being active (even if it is only walking to the end of your block) and drink your water!
With depression you lose either way -- sm
depression pretty much kills sex drive, but so do antidepressants. Still, I prefer to be on the meds.
You're gonna lose your man if you don't at least
Men may act macho, but they have feeling, too and like to feel attractive and loved.
has anyone done nutrisystem to lose weight sm.....
and was able to keep the weight off after you stopped eating their food? i'm tired of being stuck at the same weight. i was thinking of joining weight watchers. i've done that before and lost, but i had a 6 mos old baby dragging him along. now he's 5 and i'm ready to try again. but just wondered if anyone had success with nutrisystem. thanks
I lose focus after a few hours : (
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you will not lose weight without exercise.
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Maybe didnt lose it. It just went south.
fasd
If he is otherwise healthy, I'd lose the tail.
He'll have to adjust how he balances but otherwise I think he'd be fine.
Me too, it is so very hard to lose a pet. What a beauty.
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I'm trying to lose weight through the WW program
I started during the summer and kind of fell off of it. I'm trying to lose between 30-40 pounds. My daughter became a vegetarian about 4 months ago and she already lost 23 pounds. I like my meat so I won't go that route, but I'm trying to exercise a little bit every day and eat healthier. Good luck to you and everyone else trying to lose.
so sorry, it sure hurts when you lose your babies.. nm
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I really lose a lot of respect for the candidates
that talk back to the judges. I know that Simon can be very mean, but it is not like these kids don't know this. I think the singers should bite their tongue and just try to take the comments and try to improve their singing next week.
Not a good way to lose weight
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Not sure what your question is? But my 401K did lose value sm
and it bothers me very much; I lost maybe 25K so it could have been worse. It forced me to diversify and take a closer look at bonds vs stocks, and other investments. Of course I would like to have more than 50K as liquidity and emergency funds, but at one time I was more than 20K in debt. This is a huge improvement in my life and a total change in mindset. It truly has created peace in my heart, to have control over what I spend and not be a tool of the consumer society that says "You are not happy unless you have the biggest, newest, brightest" thinga-mabob that we are selling this week / year / month.
You don't need to buy stuff for self-esteem. Being self sufficient lets me sleep at night.
People who type loose when they mean lose. (nm)
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I'm hungry! I want to eat! I'm trying to lose weight and I've been
doing pretty well, but now I'm getting at that poing where I just want to eat anything and everything. Any ideas on what I can do to curb my voracious appetite?
yeah well it's only wasting money when you lose
a deal when you could win millions. I can give up a few cups of coffee or something else rather than my lottery tickets!!
We did lose some money, but not a huge amount
We have three different ones that we've been keeping an eye on.
Lose weight and learn to socialize. I
xx
new baby is making me lose my sanity
I just need a place to let out my stress. I just had my first baby May 5, and she is just beautiful. But I am about to lose my mind. I have chosen to breastfeed her, and everything takes so much longer than I thought it would. Thankfully she has switched to a "normal" day and night schedule so I can catch a few precious hours of sleep at night in between feedings.
Did anyone else find motherhood as hard as I think it is? I don't hate it or anything but it sort of makes me not want to have any more kids if just one is this stressful. Oh, and I have already returned to my IC job (part time) so that adds to my day. I also have become extremely bipolar in my moods. Yes, it is probably postpartum depression. I am happy one minute and bursting into tears over nothing the next. Did anyone take antidepressants for postpartum depression and how did that work out? I have never had depression issues until now, so I don't have any experience with that. Any kind words or insight would be helpful. Thanks.
You'll lose weight & firm up doing ANYthing that you aren't currently doing
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Does anyone else notice when you work too many days in a row you lose your focus or something. nm
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Unless you stay on it forever, you will regain any weight you lose.
People I used to work with went on that diet once. Weight loss varied (nobody lost a lot, just a couple of pounds) and nobody kept it off.
my neck was my motivator to lose weight this year
I had already had a tummy tuck with lip and did not want to go through surgery again so I got down to 104 and finally lost the double chin. Yes I said 104 but i am also 4' 11"
A dentist who does breast exams should lose his licence. Besides...
I categorily refuse manual breast exams. If I want to check fir cancer, I go for a mommogram.
shoes
I wore silver shoes with a purple bridesmaid dress. We also had silver/grey shaws to go with. This was in November.
In your shoes
Your story sounds exactly like mine. However, mine told me that if I did not lose weight he was going to leave me. He had an affair and blamed it on the fact that I was overweight. He said, "If you were not so fat, I wouldn't have gone there." Whatever!
Don't let him win - just MHO - same shoes here (sm)
I'm sorry for you - I know how it feels. People like that are best ignored, but would not want my kids exposed. My stepdad is just like that.
Put yourself in her shoes SM
If you had gone through a whole pregnancy and hoped for the "perfect" baby and things weren't perfect? The clubbed feet are correctible, yes, but seeing as she asked you not to say anything to anyone she is obviously having trouble coming to terms with the problem. She is a new mom, there is a problem she obviously is troubled about, hormones all over the place. I think backing WAY off is in order here. Respect her wishes and let her call you when she is ready. Being a new mother is overwhelming no matter how many times you've done it and she needs time.
at least ur not in my shoes
I would love for my husband to make advances towards me like that!!! I'm the one having to hug him and beg him. I agree with a below poster...don't push him away...enjoy what you've got. at least he wants to touch you.
Wish I was in your shoes.
I would do it in a heartbeat. Don't be afraid. Like another poster said, you can always move back. I now have a husband and kids and my family lives about 8 hours away. I miss my niece and nephew dearly but see them as often as I can. I stayed a month when each was born and then traveled every other weekend for several years. They are getting to be school age now so they know me well and I send things often. It has just become too expensive to travel that much.
I would just keep in mind with your BIL being in the military they may not be where they are longterm so that could pose a sticky situation if you get involved with someone special. Might want to talk to your sister. I know mine knows me better than anyone and always has great advice.
I have been in your shoes (sm)
I was in an abusive marriage and had children. I stayed way too long out of fear, I should have left years before I did. Just make sure you have tried everything to make your marriage work before leaving or you may have regrets. If it is something you feel you must do, you will be fine. It's not easy, but you'll make it. You'll have to work more and do without sometimes but you also should get child support to help.
My mom was in your shoes
Married Bob, our step-dad. He came on to all three of her daughters, sometimes right in front of her. She made excuses for him and downplayed what he did. She was blinded by his money. And of course he denied whatever, pretending it was all in friendliness.
He fooled around with my little sister, I had her move in with me and threatened to call the law. Mom cried and begged - oh, what will happen to the rest of the family? How will they live without Bob's money? Oh, the poor man is threatening to kill himself vs go to jail. Please, keep my mouth shut. He's sorry and won't do it again. Oh, and little sister was probably asking for it and to blame as well (yes, mom would rather blame her own child than precious Bob)!!!!
He went on to seduce a cousin, then her young daughter, and mom even caught him red handed molesting his own DOG!!!!! She stayed with him though, for the sake of his money and supposedly her family, although by then, most of us would not set foot in their house. My brother, who was growing up under his influence, also now has a thing for underage girls that are his relatives. Nice, eh?
He spent them into the poor house, and by the time he died, all his money was gone. My sisters and I refuse to even be buried in the same graveyard as that creep. Mom dug him up and moved him to his own family plot about 10 years later, but the damage is done to her relationships with her daughters.
So if you want to end up like my mom, deny, shift the blame, and believe him. Sacrifice your whole family and stand by your man. You'll get what mom got - shame and blame and many years alone to play should've/could've/would've.
Been in your shoes
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I know exactly how you feel, because my son was addicted to drugs with meth and binge drinking being his poisons of choice. Of course, he'd take anything--and I do mean anything--if he thought he could get a buzz from it. Every time I heard an ambulance wail in the distance, I'd wonder if today was going to be the day he overdoses to the point of being unsaveable. Every time somebody knocked at the door or if a police car would slow down in front of the house, I'd wonder if today was the day I was going to get notified that he finally died from his addictions. My heart bleeds for you...it really does. I know the heavy heart you have, and I know all about the soul-searching about what could I have done to prevent or maybe I even caused it.
Well, nothing you did caused it, and you definitely can't control its outcome since he is an adult, and he makes the decisions as to what he wants to do or not do with his life. I know that's hard to accept, because I went over and over in my mind with the "what ifs."
The best you can do right now is to not enable his habit. That means not giving money for rent (my son spent all his rent money on meth and booze and marijuana and other noxious chemicles), not bailing him out of jail, not giving money for groceries or even giving him groceries for that matter. That was hard for me. However, if he needed a meal, he was always free to come to the house >sober< and not under the influence of drugs and enjoy a meal. I think he came only once.
I lost track of him for 8 years or so, and then I learned he was living behind a dumpster in Boston during the coldest spell of the last century. I managed to get him out of that environment, and he did okay for a while. He had to go back to Massachusetts to serve a 60-day jail term, but he did that and cleaned up.
He was doing okay for a while and then he ran with "the crowd" and ended up back on meth and other drugs. He was again hooked, and this time it was a 4-year hiatus into that misery for him. I put him out of the house about 4 years ago, and the last time I saw him, I burst out crying because my baby was down to skin and bones, and he definitely looked like he was dying. So, for the past few years, I've been dreading the wail of sirens and knocks at the doors.
Well, about 3 days ago, I get a call out of the blue, and it was my son, wanting to come over. I was suspicious, of course. (In my mind, I thought about what else he was going to steal, etc.)
When I saw him for the first time in 2 years a few days ago,I truly did not recognize him. He had put on 65 pounds (not fat either), looks reasonably healthy, and he has "the sparkle" back in his eyes. Before, they were soul-less black orbs. Now, they shine. I found out that he has been drug-free and alcohol-free for almost 2 years now but that he was hesitant to make contact because Narcotics Anon. suggests only coming back and apologizing when able to make full restitution money-wise. Well, he didn't have the money, but he did apologize.
So, I really do know how you feel and all the pain, sorrow, and worrying you are going through and just how much greater those feelings will get for you. It will be a whole lot more intense as time goes on.
You need to get somebody to talk to for yourself. I tried the local Narcs Anon and a few of the other addiction groups as well as a couple of private counseling sessions.
Remember this: You didn't cause it, and you can't control it. Just don't enable him with money or gifts (he'll just trade or pawn whatever you give him for drugs...my son did.
If you need somebody to talk to about this, feel free to email me. I feel for you. I won't lie. It's going to get really, really rough...but no matter what he says/does, you didn't cause it.
Kathleen
If I were in your shoes - sm
First of all, take a deep breath. I would definitely ask him about it. I would also INSIST that he go to a marriage counselor with you. It does not sound as if you did it when it first happened, but you need to go. You have lots of unresolved feelings and rightfully so. I would tell him your marriage hinges on what action he takes. If he refuses, go alone. It seems like he is still holding on in some way to the memories and keeping in contact with her. Your marriage can recover from this with time, counseling, and 100% honesty from him. He needs to become an open book to you. It is not the end of the world, though it might seem like it now. My heart goes out to you. Best wishes.
How much is too much for shoes?
My husband always tries to get me to buy name brand shoes from an overpriced shoe store.... which I have to put insoles in anyway for my plantar problem!!!! Last time I bought shoes I went to Walmart and bought them for 20 and then put my insoles in them and it was fine. I saw these shoes made for walking by Sketchers and went online to look at them and they turned out to be $175!!! I was like WOAH!!! I actually like Sketchers, but good god I cant believe how much some shoes cost..... SO THE QUESTION IS HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR SHOES??? HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR YOUR KIDS SHOES???
Pay for shoes
I'm one who can wear shoes from Payless so I usually get shoes for $20, sometimes less if they're on sale. I have a friend who once said to me, I bought 2 pairs of shoes and spent $100 and she was excited about that. I laughted and told her I could have gotten at least 5 pairs or shoes, maybe more for that price. I try to get the kids shoes at Payless also, at least the youngest.
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