Nothing, live at the top of a reallly big hill
Posted By: No treater on 2007-10-30
In Reply to: What is everyone giving out to trick-or-treaters? Beside the standard candy? nm - trose
and the kids don’t climb this hill. I am glad because then I don’t have to run every 5 minutes or so to the door. Have done my share in the past.
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What's reallly bothering you....
Obviously you two aren't clicking...and you're not getting what you want from him is the reason his touch disgust you. I've been married for a long time...even went through that, and yes, I did make myself change my way of thinking because we did have children and unless there is abuse, divorce isn't always the best thing for the children, usually that is said by those who went through with a divorce and need to justify it somehow. I've had friends whose parents divorced...they are grown now and wish their parents were still together and some of their moms and dads actually spend a LOT of time together because they have grown wiser with aging. Friends who are divorced realized the grass is NOT greener on the other side all the time and some of the same problems crop up. I have 2 friends who actually spend a lot of time talking to their ex-spouse, using the kids as an excuse to constantly communicate. One of them is remarried but has found he misses his first wife terribly...whatever he thought he was getting with the new one isnt' there.
No one said when you got married it would be peaches and cream all the time and sometime you just downright can't stand the guy. And he can't stand you sometimes either. Trust me when I say I do know the feeling but tell him what you want. A guy's way of telling you he loves you is with the touchy feely stuff...physical is their way, emotional is ours. It does take time but you will notice as the years go by, chances are he will see what you're saying. Nobody ever said marriage would be great all the time but I realized it's how I react is what makes a difference with my guy. If he does this and that, I'll reconsider. It's a compromise and always will be. When you push him away, he feels hurt...he is hurting too because like it or not, that's the way most guys want to show you they love you and he doesn't know what else to do. Does he tell you he loves you? Does he say the words? That makes a LOT of difference. If not, tell him you feel better when he actually SAYS the words, not just acts out. Keep telling him. They are single minded humans and can't think past the end of their @@@@....well, you know. Please hang in there and see what you can do to change his behavior....you'll be surprised. I had to change how I reacted to him, even though it shouldn't necessarily have been me to do all the work, but he'll come around.
No, reallly didn’t
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In my neighborhood which is a reallly nice one, I
would not even open the door to someone dressed as a police. In fact living in Atlanta before had a person dressed as police to come to my home (after 2000) and asked to use my phone. I had storm doors on and had double dead bolt doors and I told him give me the # and I would be glad to call for him and give message. Here, 2 ladies came to my door about 2 weeks ago, cold and wanted to know if they could come in. I shook my head no. I could see them thru a window pane on my door. I do not, ever, open the door to anyone unless they are known to me. Very dangerous wherever you live and telling them your husband isn't home, OMG. Do you not have a phone to hello, call the police if he were to show up again?
over the hill
You can't take it with you!
We get our used cars from a broker who goes to car auctions. They are lease or rental returns and you can be very picky about what you want with how many miles, etc. Used cars are becoming scarce in this economy though, so I really would not wait. The broker comes to my city to get the cars, but I do have to drive about 150 miles to his dealership to buy the car. A good broker is worth the drive.
Good luck!
Faith Hill
I was pleased to see a genuine reaction. When they smile and clap for the other person, we all know it's phony - each of them thinks they will win.
As far as Carrie Underwood winning the award, I agree with Faith - WHAT???? She isn't in the same league with the other nominees and had no business being nominated. Just because someone dreams of some thing doesn't mean they deserve to have it. Being the most popular, which is what American Idol is all about, does not mean you have a shred of talent. The song leaders in my local church have more talent than Carrie Underwood.
Over the Hill Party sm
You can have a big bash with old friends from school, stating no gifts, and just have refreshments and put on a favorite football game.You could have a team theme. There are plenty of "over the hill" items around. A few friends or just the family, you can buy napkins, plates, etc., at a party store. Depends on his personality, Spencer Gifts is great for small stuff, but be careful, some of it is adults only. If money is tight, you could do a "Dollar Store Only" gift party which would apply to him. My husband has a terrific sense of humor, so it was easy. He likes to cook, so I bought him a paper chef's hat at a party store and a big frying pan and some oven mitts. I asked others just to bring funny over-the-hill cards only, no gifts. There are tons of possibilities, it depends on his personality. I happen to have one that loves funny gifts and feels embarrased if anyone gives him money or gifts. If he isn't that type, then something more sedate would be in order. The main thing - have fun! If your transcription money is just rolling in - a big TV to watch the game or his favorite show. (That's a joke.)
May be a mole's hill to you but
I hate for my daughter, who by the way suffers from a life-threatening disease, to spend Christmas day alone. Except for a half brother, I am the only family she has. I don't know how it is done in your family, but most of mine usually like to spend that day with family. Thanks anyway for the concern you show.
Anybody see the Faith Hill freak-out on...
I didn't see the show, but saw the video on, what is it, utube or youtube? Anyhow, I googled it and the video came up...can't tell if it's for real or not! If it is, she's a sore loser! 
I think Faith Hill is over-rated
I never did get the big buzz about her. If she weren't married to Tim no one would have ever heard of her. She's an opportunist and looks like a gawky dodo bird. I'm glad she finally got busted for being the insincere phony she truly is.
Right now the Fugees/Lauren Hill :)
I love her version of Killing me Softly. If you haven't heard it, check it out. :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYl2pztQjdM
Oh I love Lauren Hill!
First tune I heard of her's, Everything is Everything, it brought out the soul sista in me! Her voice is awesome!
I can just picture that hill in my mind. LOL! I think
I am going to try that this year. Great idea.
Ted Kennedy back on Capitol Hill
returning to work 6 months after his brain cancer diagnosis. He looks and sounds great. Good to see him back. He has his wife and dogs with him too.
No problem cashing out. We're "over the hill"
All we have to do is pay taxes on what we take out. We did find a car we would love to own but it's $6000 for a 2003 with less than 100,000 miles on the engine. We probably can't get a car loan but they want $1600 down which would be no problem right now, but we have no idea when he would be going back to work, if he does, depending on highway construction jobs.
We're kinda in a darn if we don't and darned if we do situation. I don't want to take any money from my IRA but there''s not much left after the fiasco that happened. I lost mucho dollars as did he. We will never be able to retire on what's left now.
We're at the age now where we don't pay penalties on any distribution of our IRA so it wouldn't hurt us that bad. We would also pay the taxes on the 20% distribution necessary.
Has anyone tried hose "we can get you a car for less" deals? I thik they are a rip off, but not quite sure. I didn't really get into those sites.
Faith Hill's only talent is hitchin' her proverbial wagon
She has no more talent than Carrie does. As a matter of fact, Carrie's better and didn't need to marry a big name to break into show business.
Haley and I think she sang If My Heart Had Wings by Faith Hill. She is okay but -sm-
Sabrina deserved to stay. I don't think Antonella should have made it to the top 24. I think the producers had to know about her background and put her on to give the show more attention (not that it needed any). I agree with the poster from the other day that only two of the winners deserved to win, Carrie and Kelly although I have not purchased anything of Taylors. I have purchased cds by Clay, Kimberly Locke and Josh Gracin and they are all excellent. I even purchased a short cd by Carmen Rasmussen that wasn't too bad. Rubin and Fantasia were not my type of singers. I am sure they have a lot of fans to get where they are but they were not my favorites and I would probably not buy any of their music.
I did the macarena with a stuffed animal sliding down a hill, because I'm NOT crazy!
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Global warming - faction, fiction, political, mountain or mole hill
Trying to get a handle on whether people have bought into the global warming thing.
Do you believe it whole-heartedly 100% Gore-ly, or do you believe the scientist who have been studying global warming/cooling.
Also, do you believe a lot of it is politically-oriented.
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
Where do you live?? I live in Atlanta
and have been to the symphony here and definitely no hats- you can never go wrong with black dress/slacks. I like to dress a little more for this but the rules are definitely not prim and proper here.
I come from the old school, but live and let live - sm
Well, I tried "cohabitating" with a boyfriend when I was 22. We dated for a year, and 3 weeks after we moved in together, he went back to his ex-wife. Never again. I've been married 18 years now to the same guy. Guess I lucked out.
I don't think it's right to do in a biblical sense (even felt that way when I moved in with a guy but my young hormones took over my common sense) but it's sad more people aren't married, they choose to just live together without a great commitment. Then again, as my atty (he lives at the end of our street so I see him often when walking the dogs) always says, his father told him it should be $5,000 for a marriage license and free to get divorced.
As far as the children are concerned, well, I think you should be married before you have children but again, live and let live. I just don't like seeing children have to grow up without the other parent if it can be helped.
The NFL network recently interviewed a former NFL player, Warren Sapp. He was asked why we have so many jerks in the NFL like Terrell Owens, Adam Pacman Jones, etc. He said they all shared a common factor - no father or father figure in their lives growing up. He said to look at players who are humble and don't cause trouble - they are the product of a 2 parent household. It's sad to me because it's commonplace now, not the exception to rule, which I think it should be. I graduated high school in 1985 and even back then, a girl in school who got pregnant got sent away "to live with her aunt for a little while". It was a shame to be pregnant and unmarried but it's a sign of the times.
I sometimes wish I could have grown up in the 50s instead of 70s. :-)
You have? Where do you live??? lol
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that would be everywhere, not just where I live. nm
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don't know where U live but where I live the 80+ y/o.
I know plenty of 80+ y/o people where I live (and I'm 25 years behind them...kinda sorta)....who are MORE active than many I know much younger. I see them going to the airports to jaunt around Paris/Spain, or just several times a year flying cross country to spend holidays with families, etc, etc. So if you see 80+ as *old* or *very old* - think again. It's an individual basis kind of thing, in my mind - OH AND BY THE WAY, none of the people I speak of have had plastic surgery of any kind and look FABULOUS!.........GOD BLESS 'EM!!!! Good genes - genetics - 
I you live in the
Pittsburgh area I know where you can find someone. Elsewhere..no clue. It is an avenue worth pursuing though.
How can you live with him?!
Honestly, you say you can't live without him, but yet he is mean and horrible! And think of what this is doing to your kids while you stay! The effects of living with an alcoholic may not be so apparent on the outside of your children, but believe my they are hurting! Been there, done that!
Advice: Get out now for you and the sake of your kids. My father was an alcoholic and still is to this day. After 15 years of marriage to him, my mother finally left and took us kids. Best thing she could have done for herself and for us! It was rough at first, but looking back I am glad she did it. She proved to me she was a strong woman and what a great example that you did not have to put up with the abuse from another person. My brother and I to this day have minimal communication with him. Well, at least I do. My brother has written him off!
Resources: A good lawyer and counseling for you and your kids.
I wish you all the best!
Not sure where you live........but
You're wrong. In this state, the teachers are not that well compensated, just the administration. THey do pay out of pocket for resources that they have put in for and supposed to have available that is determined by the school system, but supplies have not come in and they have to go out with their own money and order this stuff. They don't get answers from adminstration but still have to make sure they have the supplies ordered by the school system to teach the kids. The amount of work they do here is from 7 in the morning until 5 in the afternoon....no, they cannot leave when they want to. Most work all summer, either tutoring or summer school, or find summer jobs elsewhere just to make ends meet. I suppose it depends on the state one lives in, but here no teacher is retiring with 80K a year pension.
Others ought to live by this
My mother told us sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you. To try getting back at something so minute is the reason today why people are in such a rage. Another thing she told me- consider the source. Enough said.
I also live in AL - try these -
Caladiums and hostas would do really well for leaf color. Bleeding heart is so pretty as well! Happy planting! :-)
Who'd want to live there? Yuk.
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Do you live so far out in the
sticks you don’t have people called BABYSITTERS? Glad you had such a good time.
I live in MID TN too.
Has been a mess with the heat and humidity!!!!
I don't see it here where I live
Unless it's being hidden, all my friends have been married for years with no cheating issues. I don't know of any divorced couples in my circle of friends and/or acquaintenances. My parents have been married close to 50 years and I've been married for 16, no cheating here. Not saying it doesn't happen, because I certaily know that it does, but it's just not that way here.(Again, maybe it's hidden or maybe I do live in that bubble).
Can she come live with me
I'd love it if someone else did my laundry. To me she's just being a grandmother, but then again, I'm not there and can't see everything she does. I'd be happy she was so involved and that your daughter has a grandmother. So many of my daughter's friends don't.
Where do you live?
Hayseed where do you live? I'm in St. George Utah and it is the desert here but it is starting to cool down finally! Been over 110 all summer!
Where are you?
No, where I live we have them here
it is a cross between a bear and a deer- so it is a beer. And to think, I don’t even drink. That is a HAHA for today.
I live in
North Georgia and I have a huge medical center all around me with loads of physicians.
Ha, yes, I live in the
middle of nowhere in North Texas! I don't even know our population, but it's small! Maybe a more than 400, though, but not much! I have only been to 2 WOF also. I can't pick a favorite either and they are akk good. I didn't go this year, but when I went last year, I got to take my 80-year-old mom with me. We had a great time together-have really never done anything togather like that my whole life. It was great. Me, my mom, my best friend and her mom all went with our church. I'm actually off this weekend! Have a good day.
You must live near me
Because that is going around in my area.
Live in FL too
I miss the snow, change in seasons, bugs that don't attack when you step outside! When it even gets a little cool here, I am in Heaven. Tonight the temps will dip into the 40s. I am originally from Chicago, grew up in Maryland, but have been in FL for almost 20 years now, and I still yearn for the North, although I have two children there and two down here. I also cannot afford to go to Disneyland in Orlando because they recently raised the prices again, but have done that once, among other things. I think it is great you have such a wonderful house with a pool. The humidity here in the summer months is horrible!! You just wilt when you walk outside. Those people I know from up North envy where I live, but trust me it's not all it is advertised to be. Just would love some snowballs for Christmas:)
I am with you! I live in Fla and see it a lot.
Bugs me every time.
So they all 4 live there?
Why then do you only refer to *her*? It's both the husband's and the wife's responsibility to pay the bills...are you on his back also?
Where do you live?
NM
I know what you mean. I live in
Louisville and the 2 weeks before Derby is nothing but parties. If you don't live in an area with things like that going on for more than a day you don't understand. Don't get to do as much as I used to.
Hi, I live here -- sm
Are you moving to the beach? I have been here for 20+ years, be glad to share any information I might have to make your transition easier. You can email me if you would like.. welcome to the sunny seashore that is Myrtle Beach!!
I don't live very far from this.
It has been watched for some time. We are just happy it did not turn out to be another Waco.
Some of the resturant owners are surprised that most of them did not know what steakfingers are. lol. They grew their own food.
You must live near me - nm
nm
WHAT where do you live!?
let's trade LOL
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