Not trying to start a pity party, but today is the anniversary of my son's death, just very sad.
Posted By: Kim on 2007-11-29
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My son died 21 years ago today. I just really miss him. I honestly thought the pain would lessen over the years. On a happy note, today is my daughter's 20th birthday, and tomorrow is my son's 18th birthday. When they were little, I was busy taking care of them and planning their birthday party and that seemed to help with the grief and sadness. Now that they are older that has changed. This too shall pass. Thanks for "listening".
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30th Anniversary of Elvis' Death this week
I know some of you weren't even born or were toddlers, but for us older folks, I was just curious where you were when you heard the news that Elvis had died.
I was working in a very small factory pasting crystals in a base for radios (gee - what a job that was!) making $1.85 an hour and that was with shift differential. Anyway, I was working 2nd shift & heard the news just as I pulled into the parking lot. My supervisor cried all night and the plant manager played Elvis albums on the overhead speaker all night.
Just thought it would be interesting to see where everybody was.
Today is my 1st weddding anniversary and my husband didn't spend time with me.?
Today is my 1st wedding anniversary! My husband woke up and went outside and spent all day working on his truck until it was time for him to go work. It has really hurt my feelings. Should I be worried that he may not be satisfied with being married to me?
Pity Party going on here. Head cold, stuffed up ears, cough, whaa! whaa ! whaa!
I have been working 7 hours so far today and have managed to type about 700 lines. Spending more time with hands reaching for kleenex and/or sanitizer. I HATE a cold.
Okay, nuff said I will shut up and suffer in silence.
Have a good one.
Have pity! I'm almost 60, LOL!
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I do pity you...sm
It sucks when you have a parent who has chosen to put other things/people before their children.
I don't want to dissuade you from spending time with him. I mean forgiveness is important. But then again he didn't feel guilty about leaving for his "job" and not coming home to see his family for long periods of time. So you kind of feel like why should I feel guilty when he didn't? It is up to you if you want to see him more than the holidays and b-days.
My dad has chosen another family over his family. I am 31 years old and my parents divorced this year because my dad was running around. Well according to bank statements he is paying not only the woman's bills but is paying her daughter's car note and her son's electric bill, etc. Anything they want they got it. This woman's kids are in their 20s. I have to work to pay my car note and I am his own daughter. Which I realize it isn't his place anyways. But it is the principal. He has NEVER payed anything for me and I mean NOTHING. He has never given me money at all. My mom has helped me when I needed it but not him. But yet he can give them anything. He doesn't know I have seen those bank statements so he doesn't know what I know. It kind of makes it hard to want to be around him when I know what he does for them and has never done for me or my sister.
I kind of know where you are coming from in that I don't specifically care to be around my dad either and sometimes I feel guilty about it. But then again does he feel guilty for what he is doing? Apparently not.
Pity the son's mom as well but not the "boy"
and oh, PS: The "girl" could have closed her legs. Grrr! We are supposed to be "smarter" than that - "NO!"
For those people with school aged children when do vacations start to dwindle and you start getting
ready for school. I usually take a vacation when things slow down at the end of Summer and I am just wondering when in August most people start getting into school things and less vacations are taken.
And I guess you never have a weak moment and wallowed in your own self-pity.
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This was 24 years ago, but on our first anniversary
we went to a really nice Mexican restaurant. We spent our honeymoon in Mexico (Cancun before it was a spring break destination). Most of our bridal party joined us for our anniversary dinner, and we had a really nice time together.
Happy anniversary:)
Happy anniversary:) You do have all day and it could be that he is working on the truck to avoid you since he forgot to get a card or make reservations......if tonight he hasn't done anything-
You two need to work on your communication and expectations. Has he ever been romantic? Ever done anything to celebrate birthdays? He may just not be used to it-that doesn't mean it has to be that way.
Let him know (talk to him not at him) that you like anniversaries to be celebrated. Let him know that you were hurt by his actions and that you want to celebrate this day. Don't forget-you haven't done anything for him yet either-it's not just about him showing you affection or acknowledging the day-it's your responsibility too.
as for the financial problem of him spending the money-that is a separate issue and you two will be a lot better off if you start communicating about your finances and working together on them. Set limits such as any purchase over $XX.XX has to be cleared with each other.
As an active dieter, you officially have my pity! (But you will have a small butt than me).....sm
The salmon cakes sound so yummy, love seafood, I usually make crab cakes, will try the salmon, do you make it essentially the same way? thanks!
How would St. Lucia be for anniversary trip?
I have heard from a few people it is fabulous and worth every penny, but I wonder what anyone out there has heard. I really want a special and very memorable trip because this is our 25th anniversary. Are there any tips anyone can offer? Any insight anyone has would be much appreciated! 
Fist anniversary confusion...sm
Me and my husband's 1st anniversary is coming up on December 15th. I want to do something special, i.e. mini-vacation, fancy dinner at home, dancing, etc. I can't decide on what we should do. Can any of you give me thoughts or ideas or even examples of what you did on your 1st anniversary? Any suggestions helpful and welcome!!! THANKS
We're celebrating an anniversary.
Our 24th wedding anniversary was on January 26. But, we were both sick with a bug that weekend, so let it go by. Now that we're healthy, we're going to go out for dinner and a movie. Pretty low-key, though. We both want to see the movie about Nixon and the Frost interviews. LOL. Not very romantic, but that's what we like. Then, we'll probably stop by the neighborhood pub for some food and a drink or two. We always run into friends or family there, so we'll have fun.
50th wedding anniversary gifts
they are 68 and 66 years old - a very active, healthy couple. . the date is less than a month away - any gift ideas? It is my fiance's sister and brother-in-law and he is not good at giving gifts and asked me to come up with something.
They don't...just celebrating an anniversary date will show...
the math.
In MHO when they start asking its time to start explaining.
My daughter and I started discussing the basics in like second or third grade.
Good luck it was much harder for me with my son.
What do you think of the quality of clothing today. What I looked at shopping today in nice stores
the stuff wasnt even sewn properly. Do you have to look at everything you buy or just hope it lasts a year.
Added fresh chives today. to the egg today.
and a SMIDGE of soy sauce.
son's death
I lost my mom 2 years ago and I'm still grieving her; I can't begin to imagine what it would be like to lose a child. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Umm,,,,,,,,death! nm
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What do you think about the lupus, do you think that had something to do with her death?
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you must be bored to death
as well as the ones that answered this!
death of grandmother
Truly a horrible turn of events for you. Two deaths of loved ones so close together. Lean on the one who tells us to bring our cares to Him. It is believed by many that it would be limiting God to teach that this life is the only time that God can call a person to Himself. Second resurrection may be the answer. Also preaching to souls in prison, think about why they would need to be preached to, if these were evil spirits, not human spirits, what good would it do to preach to them?God is a God of love and your family members are in His hands.
Re suicide, no sane person can take their own life. no matter how "rational" they make it sound. Those who do kill themselves are not responsible for the sin of murder because they are so sick.
Autopsies have to be done very very soon after death.
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Drive your car to death
NEW YORK (CNNMoney.com) -- By keeping your car for 15 years, or 225,000 miles of driving, you could save nearly $31,000, according to Consumer Reports magazine. That's compared to the cost of buying an identical model every five years, which is roughly the rate at which most car owners trade in their vehicles.
In its annual national auto survey, the magazine found 6,769 readers who had logged more than 200,000 miles on their cars. Their cars included a 1990 Lexus LS400 with 332,000 miles and a 1994 Ford Ranger pick-up that had gone 488,000 miles.
Consumer Reports calls the Honda Civic a "Good bet" to make it to 200,000 miles.
Calculating the costs involved in buying a new Honda Civic EX every five years for 15 years - including depreciation, taxes, fees and insurance - the magazine estimated it would cost $20,500 more than it would have cost to simply maintain one car for the same period.
Consumer Reports' "Good bets" for making 200,000 miles: Honda Civic, Honda CR-V, Honda Element, Lexus ES, Lexus LS, Toyota 4Runner, Toyota Highlander, Toyota Land Cruiser, Toyota Prius, Toyota RAV4
Consumer Reports' "Bad bets" for making 200,000 miles: BMW 7-series, Infiniti QX56, Jaguar X-type, V8-powered Mercedes-Benz M-class, Mercedes-Benz SL, Nissan Armada, Nissan Titan, Volkswagen Touareg, V6-powered Volvo XC90.
We were not celebrating her death,
once again, I said we were celebrating the wonderful life she had and the many contributions she made to her family and society as a whole.
grandparent's death
I think you should tell them. My first close loss was my grandfather was when I was 12. It was actually unexpected. I believe they are old enough to understand and they would probably be more disappointed if someone slipped up and said something or they overheard it rather than being told up front. That way they can have some time to process it and hopefully can enjoy the time they have left with their grandfather. Please know you and your family have been lifted in my prayers.
About the death of that child
It was told on the first day of the autopsy the child died from a seizure. Now anyone who works in this field knows it takes longer and more delving into what actually is the cause of a death, especially in a young male like this. You would not have blood work returned in 1 day, no possible drugs in his system analyzed. I read the death certificate signed by mortician and that usually is not how it is done. My thoughts on this are the child suffered from autism and the parents tried to cover up as much as humanly possible as autism is not accepted in the scientology group - they considered anything like this a defect, but the other diagnosis of Kawasaki (spelling?) would have been ok- the only thing about this is the child's symptoms, looks, etc. just did not go along with a syndrome that children of his age have usually outgrown. The child supposedly had 2 attendants, monitors both in his rooms and outside to let others know should he try to leave, etc. I very much question what happened here. I have not heard about Katie- I do know lately in her pictures she has been stressed looking, haggard and worn out. Seems like she is always with Suri and hubby mostly no where around.
PA death penalty
We actually do have the death penalty in PA...it is just not used that often. 
No, had no idea until her death
Didn't know she was sick until we got the call she had died.
No, had no idea until her death
Didn't know she was sick until we got the call she had died.
No, had no idea until her death
Didn't even know she was sick until we got the call she had died.
any death that occurs is to be
disclosed. That's the way it is in my state (NE). Even if someone just died in the house, the seller is to disclose this information. I believe most states have this law, but again, it would be state-specific.
Every death comes in 3s. I grew up with that saying.
It does turn out to be true in a lot of families. So...we have Ed McMahnon (sp), Farrah, and now Michael. If no one died within the next couple days (I think that is also 3), it should be okay.
Dang! I haven't felt this bad since Elvis died.
LOL - guess you are bored to death too then :)
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Well, I love my hubby to death, but his sm
100-pound beloved German Shepherd attacked my 22-pound Cocker Spaniel several years ago and did $500.00 worth of damage including blinding her in one eye (popped the globe right out of the socket), I didn't spare his feelings at all when I said the dog either had to go or be put to sleep. Call me uncaring but the only thing I could think of was "OMG, what if that happened to a child" and that was all it took. We gave the dog to his cousin and it got hit and killed by a car 6 weeks later. I was relieved. I had nightmares the dog would run away and I would find her on my doorstep. I love all animals but my dog injuring a child is my worst nightmare.
Fetal death at 5 months....
....do not remember exactly how long before resumption of periods; however, daughter was born 1 year later so it could not have been long before body returned to normal. (Daughter is now 25 and mother of 2 little boys.)
Death of someone you have a close relationship
even if they are not related by blood.
In 1990, my husband and I decided for the first time since we had been married to spend Thanksgiving with his family instead of with my family (we always did a Sunday Thanksgiving with his family before because my family was so large and his family was smaller).
My father died that Thanksgiving night. It took me 10 years to forgive myself for not being there that day. I have empathy for anyone who suffers a loss around a holiday, but hey, that's just me.
Bud's hub hid his & ended up bleeding to death from
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did you ever wonder if you could literally be bored to death? nm
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Does it really make a difference regarding the death
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A sincere ? on the death penalty
Would you watch someone being executed by lethal injection? What if he murdered your brother? Your child? or anyone else close to you?
I know there is no right or wrong answer to this. I will have to make this decision myself and it's been in my head lately. I may not know my decision until the day of.
Swine flu death in Houston. That's
too close for comfort for me. I'm not far from Houston. It's getting scary now. They're saying it may fizzle out & emerge stronger in the fall like the flu of 1918 did. Yikes!
Is there a death toll yet or guess? I absolutely can't believe this...SM
They should have to pay for pain and suffering because most of us treat our animals like our children. This is not fair.
I'm sorry to all who have lost their pet to this horrible thing that has happened. They should have to pay and pay deeply!!!
Stern had SOMETHING to do with Daniel and Anna's death. That's what I
believe anyway. I also don't think he loved that baby. He loved that baby's MONEY. I think Larry loved Anna and loves his daughter and I think he deserves the money to raise his daughter on, put her through college, etc. Stern got what he deserved. What a creep.
Don't "let" him? There is nothing she can do except worry heself to death.
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It may be because of his early death with the children and my inability
to work due to taking care of them at the time. You are right that is what it states on the website, but I can only go by my particular situation and my benefit amount. The whole process is so confusing and all, but I am only speaking from my experince. Best bet is to call with your situation and find out first hand, because in the beginning they told me I was not even eligible (with 2 small children) and then 2 years later paid a large back sum amount and started my benefits. It's the government and very confusing.
Here is an interesting web site of near death experiences- sm
near-death.com
I agree with this. I drive all my cars to death.
I've been married 23 years, and between the hubby and I, we've had four new cars in all that time, five if you want to count the car he brought into the marriage with him, which was a couple of years old at the time. For me, I had a 1986 Aerostar van which I bought new and drove to death, and now have a 1998 Windstar van with 110,000 miles on it, plus a really cool custom Yakima rack for my kayaks! We do buy all of our cars new, and it's lovely to have long stretches without any car payments, like right now. DH is driving a 2001 Taurus. But he's got lots of miles on that due to long commute to work and traveling to clients. Bought that one with no money down at 0% because my hubby, a CPA, loved the idea of free money. So that was the biggest car loan we ever had, but the loan cost us nothing. The Taurus has about 160,000 on it, and DH is starting to warm to the idea of replacing it. We're considering either a camry hybrid to save on gas, or a nice sturdy Volvo, because statistics show that Volvos average almost 20 years on the road.
Death Penalty Vs. Life in Jail
What do you think is worse?
I would think being locked in a jail cell for life, with the key thrown away is MUCH worse, than ending their life.
Can you imagine sitting in a cold jail cell, no windows, no tv, no books, no paper and pen, just a room, w/ a toilet, a cot, and bare minimum food to keep you alive.
I think that is worse.
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