Not too often, but we live about
Posted By: annabanana on 2008-08-31
In Reply to: How often do you see your niece/nephews - on average?
45 minutes away from one set of nieces and nephew and about an hour and a half away from the other set. I don't think they would ever come just to stay with me, though. They are actually spending the night with their cousins, my kids. I'm just not that fun. 
The set that is 45 minutes away stays over about 3 times a year, the other set only 1 or 2 times a year.
If yours want to be at your house frequently, make sure they know that they are responsible for their own messes and hold them to it. It is the least they can do if you are feeding them.
My biggest problem with overnights is that one niece won't go to bed. I have actually, at this point, banned her from spending the night anymore. Maybe I'll come around some day, but not any time soon. She wreaks havoc on the rhythm of our house and it takes my daughter a couple of days to recover.
I think it is really nice that they want to be with you.
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I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
Where do you live?? I live in Atlanta
and have been to the symphony here and definitely no hats- you can never go wrong with black dress/slacks. I like to dress a little more for this but the rules are definitely not prim and proper here.
I come from the old school, but live and let live - sm
Well, I tried "cohabitating" with a boyfriend when I was 22. We dated for a year, and 3 weeks after we moved in together, he went back to his ex-wife. Never again. I've been married 18 years now to the same guy. Guess I lucked out.
I don't think it's right to do in a biblical sense (even felt that way when I moved in with a guy but my young hormones took over my common sense) but it's sad more people aren't married, they choose to just live together without a great commitment. Then again, as my atty (he lives at the end of our street so I see him often when walking the dogs) always says, his father told him it should be $5,000 for a marriage license and free to get divorced.
As far as the children are concerned, well, I think you should be married before you have children but again, live and let live. I just don't like seeing children have to grow up without the other parent if it can be helped.
The NFL network recently interviewed a former NFL player, Warren Sapp. He was asked why we have so many jerks in the NFL like Terrell Owens, Adam Pacman Jones, etc. He said they all shared a common factor - no father or father figure in their lives growing up. He said to look at players who are humble and don't cause trouble - they are the product of a 2 parent household. It's sad to me because it's commonplace now, not the exception to rule, which I think it should be. I graduated high school in 1985 and even back then, a girl in school who got pregnant got sent away "to live with her aunt for a little while". It was a shame to be pregnant and unmarried but it's a sign of the times.
I sometimes wish I could have grown up in the 50s instead of 70s. :-)
You have? Where do you live??? lol
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that would be everywhere, not just where I live. nm
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don't know where U live but where I live the 80+ y/o.
I know plenty of 80+ y/o people where I live (and I'm 25 years behind them...kinda sorta)....who are MORE active than many I know much younger. I see them going to the airports to jaunt around Paris/Spain, or just several times a year flying cross country to spend holidays with families, etc, etc. So if you see 80+ as *old* or *very old* - think again. It's an individual basis kind of thing, in my mind - OH AND BY THE WAY, none of the people I speak of have had plastic surgery of any kind and look FABULOUS!.........GOD BLESS 'EM!!!! Good genes - genetics - 
I you live in the
Pittsburgh area I know where you can find someone. Elsewhere..no clue. It is an avenue worth pursuing though.
How can you live with him?!
Honestly, you say you can't live without him, but yet he is mean and horrible! And think of what this is doing to your kids while you stay! The effects of living with an alcoholic may not be so apparent on the outside of your children, but believe my they are hurting! Been there, done that!
Advice: Get out now for you and the sake of your kids. My father was an alcoholic and still is to this day. After 15 years of marriage to him, my mother finally left and took us kids. Best thing she could have done for herself and for us! It was rough at first, but looking back I am glad she did it. She proved to me she was a strong woman and what a great example that you did not have to put up with the abuse from another person. My brother and I to this day have minimal communication with him. Well, at least I do. My brother has written him off!
Resources: A good lawyer and counseling for you and your kids.
I wish you all the best!
Not sure where you live........but
You're wrong. In this state, the teachers are not that well compensated, just the administration. THey do pay out of pocket for resources that they have put in for and supposed to have available that is determined by the school system, but supplies have not come in and they have to go out with their own money and order this stuff. They don't get answers from adminstration but still have to make sure they have the supplies ordered by the school system to teach the kids. The amount of work they do here is from 7 in the morning until 5 in the afternoon....no, they cannot leave when they want to. Most work all summer, either tutoring or summer school, or find summer jobs elsewhere just to make ends meet. I suppose it depends on the state one lives in, but here no teacher is retiring with 80K a year pension.
Others ought to live by this
My mother told us sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you. To try getting back at something so minute is the reason today why people are in such a rage. Another thing she told me- consider the source. Enough said.
I also live in AL - try these -
Caladiums and hostas would do really well for leaf color. Bleeding heart is so pretty as well! Happy planting! :-)
Who'd want to live there? Yuk.
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Do you live so far out in the
sticks you don’t have people called BABYSITTERS? Glad you had such a good time.
I live in MID TN too.
Has been a mess with the heat and humidity!!!!
I don't see it here where I live
Unless it's being hidden, all my friends have been married for years with no cheating issues. I don't know of any divorced couples in my circle of friends and/or acquaintenances. My parents have been married close to 50 years and I've been married for 16, no cheating here. Not saying it doesn't happen, because I certaily know that it does, but it's just not that way here.(Again, maybe it's hidden or maybe I do live in that bubble).
Can she come live with me
I'd love it if someone else did my laundry. To me she's just being a grandmother, but then again, I'm not there and can't see everything she does. I'd be happy she was so involved and that your daughter has a grandmother. So many of my daughter's friends don't.
Where do you live?
Hayseed where do you live? I'm in St. George Utah and it is the desert here but it is starting to cool down finally! Been over 110 all summer!
Where are you?
No, where I live we have them here
it is a cross between a bear and a deer- so it is a beer. And to think, I don’t even drink. That is a HAHA for today.
I live in
North Georgia and I have a huge medical center all around me with loads of physicians.
Ha, yes, I live in the
middle of nowhere in North Texas! I don't even know our population, but it's small! Maybe a more than 400, though, but not much! I have only been to 2 WOF also. I can't pick a favorite either and they are akk good. I didn't go this year, but when I went last year, I got to take my 80-year-old mom with me. We had a great time together-have really never done anything togather like that my whole life. It was great. Me, my mom, my best friend and her mom all went with our church. I'm actually off this weekend! Have a good day.
You must live near me
Because that is going around in my area.
Live in FL too
I miss the snow, change in seasons, bugs that don't attack when you step outside! When it even gets a little cool here, I am in Heaven. Tonight the temps will dip into the 40s. I am originally from Chicago, grew up in Maryland, but have been in FL for almost 20 years now, and I still yearn for the North, although I have two children there and two down here. I also cannot afford to go to Disneyland in Orlando because they recently raised the prices again, but have done that once, among other things. I think it is great you have such a wonderful house with a pool. The humidity here in the summer months is horrible!! You just wilt when you walk outside. Those people I know from up North envy where I live, but trust me it's not all it is advertised to be. Just would love some snowballs for Christmas:)
I am with you! I live in Fla and see it a lot.
Bugs me every time.
So they all 4 live there?
Why then do you only refer to *her*? It's both the husband's and the wife's responsibility to pay the bills...are you on his back also?
Where do you live?
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I know what you mean. I live in
Louisville and the 2 weeks before Derby is nothing but parties. If you don't live in an area with things like that going on for more than a day you don't understand. Don't get to do as much as I used to.
Hi, I live here -- sm
Are you moving to the beach? I have been here for 20+ years, be glad to share any information I might have to make your transition easier. You can email me if you would like.. welcome to the sunny seashore that is Myrtle Beach!!
I don't live very far from this.
It has been watched for some time. We are just happy it did not turn out to be another Waco.
Some of the resturant owners are surprised that most of them did not know what steakfingers are. lol. They grew their own food.
You must live near me - nm
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WHAT where do you live!?
let's trade LOL
If you could live anywhere...where would it be?
Some day I hope to move to Hawaii. I figure I won't have to travel a lot of see family cause everyone will want to come stay with me! One day I just want to pick up and go...sell most off my belongings and just start over.
Always thought Las Vegas would be a fun place to live, but I think it would get tiring and old after a while.
I live in MI ... 13,000?!
Where in Michigan did you find a house for 13,000? Is it a mobile home?
I don't think the cost of living is especially great here ether (in comparison to the wages earned).
Curious what part of Michigan and what type of house.?
Live in WI
I live in northern WI and it is only my husband and I in the household. I think we spend about 75 a week. We used to spend less living in south-central WI, but found groceries are more expensive up here.....
I try to use coupons whenever possible. I definitely get more bang for my buck...
Where do you live?
Some companies sell their products regionally and they're not available everywhere. In SE Michigan we have Dearborn Hams and they're really good.
live and let live
It is better to be free when you are young, but what kind of freedom do you mean? Do you want to go to your kid's graduation when you are in your 60's? Your sister will have her freedom in her 40s, and you will be the one with the 4-month-old? Where is the freedom in that?
I don't think there is anything wrong with any choice you make. It is not making a choice that is wrong.
And you do not have to live with
someone you do not love, you want out of the marriage, your children are not fond of their father (poster's words)to be secure.
Live in GA too and
I live in S. MS and there is definitely ....sm
a bad flu bug going around here and sometimes it turns into pneumonia in the elderly or very young. I luckily haven't had it. It sounds pretty vicious.
exactly. I would rather live next to sm
something like that as long as it is neat and clean than any HOA property.
My son made the mistake (his own admission) of building in a HOA controlled neighborhood. He will tell you that there are some peopel who have nothing better to do than nitpick every little thing that goes on and they make up the rules as they go along. In turn you pay HOA dues. In his case, they don't spend the HOA dues like they should and the things that are promised don't get done anyway!
I will take a neat and clean neighborhood where everybody is different than a "cookie cutter" neighborhood any day of the week!
He is your dad. Let him live with you. sm
He comes ahead of a selfish husband.
I live in WV and....sm
They definitely can tell you whatever rules they want, just as easily as they can say no pets, no painting the walls, etc. I've lived in apartments most of my life and most have asked for nonsmokers, and I've lived in apartments in California and West Virginia. It really depends on the owners and their own personal rules.
To the OP, I think if you have a health reason, I don't think you can do anything about the landlord promising another apartment only to not deliver. Is the landlord the owner of the apartments, or just a "manager" and someone else owns? Maybe another 2 bedroom wasn't available? Either way, your health is compromised, and I would definitely look elsewhere. Unless the landlord provided something in writing about getting you another 2 bedroom apartment, I don't think you really have anything there, sadly. I hate that you've had to go through that. Living in apartments most of my life, I've had great landlords, and I've had crappy ones...and I understand your being upset that the landlord stated they would get you another 2 bedroom only to recant. I hope you find something soon and start breathing better! :)
Well, where I live sm
we have a he who dresses like a she. It isn't the tacky green tinged wig. It isn't the men's pants with a blouse and heels, it isn't the poorly done makeup that gets you. It is the dingy bra hanging half out and the rim of gym socks that gets you!
The sad part of this is that the guy is married and has young children, just about school age. He runs around town like this, we all know who he is with his shadows...eye AND 5 o'clock, his tacky attempt at feminine couture, his bow-legged walk and all. It has to be difficult for his kids. He will tell them to call him mom when he is dressed like woman and dad when he isn't. It is past dysfunctional for them.
None of us know whether to laugh or cry.
You live near something...
I didn't mean one of those two in particular--just an idea of the type of job that just about anyone can do.
oh god, I could not live with that. I mean would they
be alone with each other? I know you said they went out, but did they sleep together? Those questions in my mind would make me crazy and probably depressed!!! She shouldn't have to live with it. Love is suppose to be something forever between 2 people and NOT 3!!! Love is give and take. There should only be 2 special females in a man's life.... his wife (if he is married that is) and his mother... and then if he has any daughters... and so on!!!!
What era would you like to live in
Do you ever feel like you were displaced in time. Most of the time I think "whose sick joke was this to have me born in the 60s and living my life in this era". I have always felt I was born too late.
I would love to have lived in the 50's and been in high school during that time. Now that was an excellent era.
Am I the only one who feels "displaced".
We live in Houston and
I searched at www.har.com for the house we ended up buying.
When we were looking to move to Florida though, which didn't work out, I put the city and state name in Google and searched by what came up first and just went down the list. Assuming you don't live in Houston, does the city/state have a site they list homes in that people more often use? Other than that, see what comes up first when searching for homes on google in your area. Just a thought. This was our first house, so I'm not really experienced in all that, but thought I would offer you my opinion by what I did.
Good luck selling! :)
I don't live where we have blizzards either, but if my
47-year-old husband misplaced his coat and needed another one, you can bet your sweet patoot I would get him another one. It's called love. You may have never even had so much as a flat tire before, but it could happen any day, any time. None of us can predict such things as that. It has nothing to do with being prepared and having your AAA membership paid.
I live in New Jersey
About 25 miles from NYC. Can you fly into Newark? it would be easier to get to Jersey City from there. Where in Long Island are you flying to? A lot of transportation around but not sure where in Long Island you are flying to. JFK and LaGuardia are the only other major airports I know about.
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