Not sure how to take your comments at this point but (sm)
Posted By: MTmom on 2009-04-13
In Reply to: let me save you some money - divorce
I don't think I am amazing in any way. I think I had no other choice than to leave and I will probably live the rest of my life on a wing and a prayer.
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I second those comments!
It is like parents with the loudest, rudest kids think the entire world should put up with them. The parents seem tuned out. How nice for them! The rest of us have to be subjected to their screaming, whining, running around tables, kicking the back of the booth, and even pulling of our hair. If you dare say anything the parents look at you as if you are the devil himself. Bring on the animals any day of the week!
Thanks everyone for your comments (sm)
I am taking your suggestions to heart...he has a way of making me feel like everything is always my fault..I am going to call an abuse hotline as well as AA and just talk to them and see what they think. Thanks again so much.
In appropriate comments from
Taking a poll here...how many say something to their MIL if inappropriate comments are made and how many just let it role off their back no matter how hurtful the comments are? and I don't mean the first time a comment is made, I'm talking about repeated, obvious, and sometimes in front of other people putting you on the spot. and I'm talking about a MIL that lives close and cannot be avoided.
Thank you everyone for your comments sm
It helps a lot to be reminded that I am doing the right thing. I think my tendency is to just want to fix everything but this time I can't.
Looking for inappropriate comments? I don't think so! (sm)
Okay......and thanks for your input. I am the OP and I just want for you to know that I think that your comment was a little on the ignorant side. "I am not soooo appalled." I was a little shocked that he cared so much to go out of his way to make sure I found the right size bra. (He walked away from his job to come over to the checkout counter that I was at and felt the need to ask that, even though I was being checked out by a female clerk that was fully capable of making sure that I found what I needed?) Even the female clerk looked at him and said "What are you talking about?" I told her about the bra I returned to his service desk an hour earlier and she said "He is weird. That is none of his business!"
For the record, I receive male attention frequently and I am not easily offended or overly prudish when comments are made to me. This on the other hand was a bit strange.
My intentions were to ask others if they would consider this question to be inappropriate or not if they had been asked the same question under the same circumstances. I am not playing 'poor victim' here as I consider this a minor incident (yet still inappropriate).
In my opinion, it sounds to me like you don't get many comments offered to you and perhaps you would welcome them if you did? (That's what I get from your comment anyways!)
Exactly, Hayseed. Just look at the comments
on here. I feel sorry for her. People go through things like this all the time in life and do some of the things she has done, but they don't have to read about it in the paper the next morning. I think she needs some help and her family really needs to step in. I read an article that the guy she was seeing last said she would curl into a ball after they had s** and would say, why can't they just leave me alone. It's really sad. I don't think she is a bad person, but that she needs help. She's obviously crying out for help and is going through a lot right now. Everyone on here that has been divorced, just imagine everything about your divorce being front page...it's already painful enough without all that. People are cut throat.
You got me!! Even with the comments below, I didnt get it.
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Thanks all for the nice comments. Yes
Hayseed, he is a boxer. His name is Dempsey. He is the only thing keeping me sane lately LOL.
smart comments
Me, too. Makes me want to jump in and blast them back! No reason for it.
HA HA HA - loved your comments
Perfect...lmao here....I'm going to cut you off, I hope you believe that. HA HA HA....too funny. I can tell you've got a great sense of humor and also a wonderful outlook on life.
Think I was too harsh in my comments to you sm
I apologize, I am very raw right now from undeserved treatment by DIL so when I saw your posting title, it bothered me. I love my grandkids so much that I would welcome a list of "rules" if one were presented to me. It's too bad she uses the Bible, I have had this done to me more than once by those who misunderstand the good book and use it as a weapon. I certainly would have a heart-to-heart with her, don't lose your temper, and let it be known that interpretation of the Bible is a very private affair and she should never mention demons, bring a Bible to your home, etc., etc. Give her the option of playing by your rules and an option of her only playing children's games, watching a movie, etc., and keeping her opinions to herself. Give her supervised visiting priviliges and then you're off the hook if she doesn't accept. If she persists, then she truly is in need of psychological help which is not up to you to provide. Give her the choice and if she chooses to keep it up, then you'll have no recourse, little kids don't need this. At least you tried, it's her choice to not adhere to your rules, unfortunately, she's missing out on a lot, I wish she could see how lucky she is to be "talked to" and given options. Good luck with it. Hate the sin and not the sinner. I once had to lay down the law with my sister and the Bible. I have made it clear that I won't tolerate Bible talk, she can come any time but the conversation has to be light, not inappropriate, not religious and no politics. It has worked pretty well, once in awhile she has a slip and has to be reminded but we are talking - no religion, no end-of-the world,no Jesus talk, it takes reinforcing every once in awhile. Good luck with it all, it's stressful.
I didn't see your comments before sm
but it is a subject that has been driving me nuts for several years. I am trying to figure out what happened to decency!
i have already addressed this. they blow those comments off
this was a TEACHER.
I guess I could have stated my comments
a little more detail. Both MIL and DIL like to cook. We always have a wonderful Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner. I guess I was just raised in a family that we had family traveling in to visit, we would do just a little extra. BTW, we actucally have a joint Pizza Hut and KFC restaurant. We call it the Cluck and Hut. That is why I suggested KFC. Doesn't matter now, I got butchered at the beauty shop last night and have been crying ever since. I am not leaving the house for at least 2 weeks.
Where are the nasty comments. just some very strong
opinions that happen to not agree with your opinion. I thought we were all just discussing. So what if someone doesn't agree with my opinion, that's fine. We are all entitled to our opinion and we just have to agree to disagree. Please don't take this so personally. I don't think any of it was aimed at you. 
He has made a lot of comments about my weight (sm)
so I have been to self-conscious to be with him. But if he is using my undies doesn't that mean he wants me? Or not? I'm confused.
Any comments from DWTS fans?
I missed a bit of yesterday's Dancing with the Stars finale show, but looks like Helio and Julianne overall had the strongest performance.
What happened to Mel and Maks' freestyle? They were like kinda deflated or something.
IMO, Marie and Jonathan usually come up with pleasant surprises, but last night's freestyle was a real puzzler - I am not sure why Jonathan would agree to choreograph such a cutesy (yawn) routine when the competition is so fast and fierce. Marie was a bit too vocal with the judges...after all, they are the "experts."
I can't even deal with these comments. Thx for your concern.
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I'm giving up negative comments
I'm going to let only positive comments pass my lips, otherwise I will stay quiet. Believe me, the Lord knows what a sacrifice this will be for me.
Her web site asks for comments so
I left her some, none probably she would have liked, but what I and others just like me are thinking. I said, no job, no income, 6 other kids, no real housing of your own, food stamps, why bring 8 more into this world. What were you thinking?
I like Navy. I have had nice comments when I wear it. nm
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I'm originally from NJ, and I've endured a lot of comments.
If one more person asks me, "Which exit?" I might run him/her over!
And yes, when I was growing up, it was indeed the Garden State. I grew up running through tomato fields and along corn rows. It was wonderful!
question about rude comments regarding child with dyslexia. sm
my 11-yo DD was spending the night with her friend. she has dyslexia and has ever since diagnosed in 2nd grade. she struggles quite a bit in school. this year she didn't pass the 5th grade because she didn't pass her TAKS test in math (state required to be promoted). i picked her up today from the friend's house and she says so and so's dad told her she was "lazy" because she didn't pass the TAKS test. of course, his daughter is a straight A student without help and is an only child. i am furious at this!! am i wrong to feel furious and how to i address to him that he needs to be cautious as to how he words things and says things to little kids with disabilities? it is enough that they get ridicled and belittled by their fellow students, much less their parents!! i know this will only be the beginning of what she will have to endure as school starts back. i wanted to march right over there and give him a piece of my mind immediately, but thought i would calm down first and see what great ideas you bright ladies have to share so i don't regret blowing off my steam in the wrong way. HELP! never had a child held back before so i know it will be a challenge to get through this for her. 
I read all the comments and I agree with the poster who wrote
'One has to teach people how to treat you' and one has to tell people what is imoportant to oneself.
It is inexcusable not to call or meet one's mother for mother's day and Christmas, etc.....
Anyone that has a GE washer top load that has any comments on GE versus Whirlpool top load. nm
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and yer point? - many MTs are 55+...in the USA....
However, to the Jean Stapleton responder, Jean isn't Jewish *lol*
E-Bay will never help at this point. Way too
soon. Most sellers do not write and let you know its shipped - the old days, perhaps, but not now. E-Bay and Paypal both use 10 days out, I believe, as the earliest you should start to fret at all - its only up to the seller to ship immediately and/or let the buyer know. I've been dealing with E-Bay since its inception, and we are also Power Sellers - unless the seller has a lot of negatives, I would just chill. If they did have negatives, you should not have dealt with them. I am assuming the seller didn't have negatives, and just is not going to be rushed. Its really lost the personal touch of the old days, and you are nothing more than an invisible entity buying something thru the mail. Not the way we do business, but the way most business is done now on E-Bay. Good luck!
And your point would be??
Any drug company whether Merck or another making the drug would, duh, naturally make a profit. I think that is why pharmaceutical companies are in the business or am I missing something here?
I think his point was that
for things like STD's or perhaps a vaccine for boys to keep them from giving girls STD's in the first place, MAYBE keep them from getting prostate cancer. He just wondered if the drug companies are working as hard on these things for young boys or if, once again, they are putting the burden on females.
She's got a point though!
You cannot hold a job down and have a child on one knee. You need both hands to type. Time and time again, these posters get on here and ask how to do it? I don't think Minnie is too way off track here. I mean, you have to set boundaries. You can't expect to coddle a toddler or infant all day and type at the same time. She'll have to make some changes if she's not getting the support from her hubby. Not everyone has family to fall back on for babysitting needs, but the OP sounds like she'd be better off getting a job on-site and taking her children to daycare as they may receive better treatment. Sounds like a lot of hostility in that household, which cannot be very good for the children. Some changes need to be made and quick before it escalates into something worse. It is not fair to the children.
I think you do have a point, but sm
the same goes for married people. When I got married my coworkers wanted to know when we planned to start a "family". So once we started the "family" they wanted to know if we planned on having an only child or having more children? It never ends. Some people are, well. "nosey". They like to know everyone's business. It gives them something to fill the voids in their lives I would guess. I wouldn't worry to much about mixing with this crowd too much. Sometimes I wonder if being single isn't more "hip" now than it was in the past. Have fun and enjoy. Life is too short!
my point exactly--sm
by the way this person keeps pushing this stuff about koreans teaching anti-americanism, it makes you think that this was the reason this kid did this, which is just not the case. I'm glad to know there are others that feel the way I do!
my point exactly! nm
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You have to look at it from their point of
If you loan out money/credit and someone promises to pay, and this happens with several borrowers, you cannot afford to give much in the way of leniency.
They are in the business to make money.
I feel for you. Unfortunately, too many people live check to check or beyond their means and it only takes 1 foul up to do this to them.
Your best bet is to work hard to put yourself into a place where you don't have to worry about it.
My point exactly!
It is the craziest thing- I will never understand it. Do they not realize that they are not only encouraging people to declare bankruptcy but in a sense actually rewarding them for it?!?
But you know, I think it comes back to what I was saying earlier- they just write it all off so they really don't care if the money comes from you or not. They always get their money one way or another. Grrrrrr!!!
What is your point? nm
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yep, my point exactly (OP)
Teaching them in life they will always be rewarded for something...NOT! I think an award should genuinely be earned and I'm sorry if all the kids don't get one...they just need to work harder and earn it...
That's my point (sm)
If it's backwoodsy, so what? This is the gab board. People chat. You don't think asking if somebody's young and calling her dearie is being the grammar police or a little hateful first thing in the morning? She *was* referring to a childhood event, and yeah, children itch their itches sometimes where I'm from.
Odd turns of phrase are still to be found in all parts of the country and on a board like this are going to turn up in "casual conversation." Some of us still have our "work vocabulary" and our "casual vocabulary," and they're not always the same.
Did you have to point it out to her? - LOL
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Cat gets his point across
A cat has needs and he won't be denied. See link.
you have a point....
I was just under the assumption that they didn't have children together and thought the "what ifs" might be getting to her. But if she does have children with him, hopefully he is the kind of father who will include his children in all aspects of his life and not try to hide them from his "new" family. It is just a really tough situation when kids are involved. It is so sad in my own circumstance. But I totally see this side of things now.
YES I HAVE, and that was exactly my point. sm
I KNEW what i was talking about. HE had no clue, SHE had no clue, I was being REALISTIC. She didn't want to accept that maybe just maybe he had gotten himself into something more than he could handle. Did ANYBODY read her original post??????
I have it. Your point?
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You do have a point
I really do not want to work outside of the home now and there just aren't many options where I live anyway but maybe I can find something with a little more responsibility and use other skills I have like leadership, etc. I actually got spark there inside when I thought about it. Thanks!
Point taken....
however, you can be retired and taking care of yourself and still not think of your kids as burdens. They are grown with lives of their own. That is great, but when you get annoyed by their phone call to the point where you consider having the answering machine pick up and maybe even disconnecting the phone.......that is just extreme. She really needs to stand back and count her blessings and enjoy her retirement as well as her kids.
What point...that they don't have to put up
with insults and lies from people like you.
You contracticted yourself so many times...i used to post good about the moderators then later say this is the first and last post I'll ever do...ya ya, troll elsewhere.
Mod, just want to point out it is not me with the
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Exactly my point !
I'm sick of the negativity about this job - if you don't like it,don't come here to p*ss and moan, go somewhere else.
Exactly my point
If you don't like it, you don't have to come here and read it either!
You aren't going to change the way the hundreds of posters are here...you'd be better off changing what you do rather than complaining about others.
Looks like you are just asking for an argument, I won't be providing it any further.
Point
Who pi__ed in your Wheaties this morning? Geez. Someone was just venting, something we all have been doing. There is a difference between moaning and actually fearing the loss of a job and the loss of income we have all experienced with ASR.
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