Not really an estrangement, yet

Posted By: Mother talking here on 2009-05-19
In Reply to: If you love your daughter and she loves - .-

I purposefully have tried to stay away from issues in her life. She got married, I showed up for the wedding, never involved because she did all herself and basically I knew my input not really wanted. When she divorced, no bashing of her or her husband. That was them, not me. I do not treat her as a friend because if not my daughter, definitely would not be a friend. I have backed off as her mother, really and stay to myself most of the time. She asked me to take her with me last weekend to visit a relative, not me but her idea. I told her the time I was leaving, a 4 hour trip and I only had Saturday, had to come back Sunday. She said she hates my car, not comfortable for her and then her breakfast was rushed. Not knowing I wanted to go ahead and leave on time not noticing that she had not finished her grits and that night mentioned she was upset about that, talked about how she needed to teach me to play cards, she loves and I don�t and never have and don�t intend to learn now. Even if I learned to play, my furkids are not interested in playing cards with me. She told me she does not like being around old people and I advised her, the person we were visiting was in assisted living, nothing but old folks there. I asked her to smile and say yes just to get along for 1 day, that was supposed to be my mother's day gift and she could not even do that. She thinks I should be involved with electronics. I don�t care about them. I do good to spend time on this computer every day. If I look the wrong way, even away from her she is asking me if I am upset. No, she should have taken the time and found out a little more about her mother. I make other people laugh and people seem to be drawn to me, all except her.

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What would you do if your grown child told you - Mother talking here
- I am that way with my mother, I am - dm
  - I am not judging, if I were then I - Mother talking here
- PLEASE READ - Another Opinion
- I would find out exactly what she meant. sm - NC MT
  - You gotta understand, I have been seriously - Mother talking here
    - I think you both need to grow up! sm - NC MT
      - Spoiled, yes, I see nothing wrong with that - Mother talking here
        but that is not you daughters fault sm - NC MT
        I am not understanding of what you are saying - Mother talking here
        you keep saying how you underwent sm - NC-MT
        You took what I said out of context - Mother talking here
    - If you love your daughter and she loves - .-
      - Not really an estrangement, yet - Mother talking here
        Reading your comment I am answering, - .-
- d) none of the above sm - flybye
- I was the daughter, mom was the eggshells - Been there, done that
  - Ok, I have read your answer - Mother talking here
    - Response - Been There, Done That
      - You know what, I really, really - Mother talking here
    - I also had an "walking on eggshells" mother - An Iowan
      - Make that A instead of AN in the title (nm) - An Iowan
        Why? 'An' is right and 'A' is wrong....nm - .-
        The apology was referencing the title, not the author (nm) - Grammarian
        Yes, sure you are correct, I didn't catch the 'An walking'..nm - .-
        Mine was a typo of sorts - An Iowan
        Thank you! That's what I meant. nm - An Iowan

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