Not offended, just thinking with some sense
Posted By: Trouble ahead on 2007-10-10
In Reply to: Why does this woman offend you so? - sm
She is emotional because of what has happened. Legally, you cannot obtain someone elses records - I told her to contact lawyer because this is not a good thing to tell. It is not legal period. She can try to protect but you cannot take the laws into your own hands, well you can but then you might be put in jail. I am just telling her the facts like they are. She can insist on him having testing but again she CANNOT make him do it. Not her call.
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Offended others
My intent was not to offend others - that is why I worked as a wet nurse - so that those who could not breast feed their babies received the immunity and benefits of breastfeeding. I realize that it is not something that every woman can do and I never said that it was for everyone because it is not.
I would be so offended if I were you
I am a really big animal lover and probably would have turned him in for the kicking of an animal, husband or not, just would not be done around me. Secondly, running the risk of catching a disease by the tick thing, I would not live in the same home knowing this. His actions would just gross me out. Whether others killed birds or not, I would not be there, innocent animals all around that this man is hurting! Sounds really like a disgusting life style and I would never want to be a part of that. You are not wrong in your feelings. Do you have children that you cannot leave or just don’t want to leave. I doubt he will change his ways but you could tell him either clean up or you are out of there, might work.
I would tell her that I was offended and was buying elsewhere (sm)
I have learned over the years to stop wishing in hindsight that I had said what I should say to begin with. She is being rude and thinking you will pay her asking price just to prove to her that you can afford it. She is banking on you being offended and trying to prove to her that you can indeed afford it. That is a sales tactic I have seen used before - don't bite the bait!
I agree--not offended here at all.
I think that's what this board is for...a safe haven to talk about things. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't worry about what you witnessed at all. Seen it, heard it, even lended a hand a few times! We have been through the discord and will probably be through it again. It's always something. Hang in there and please try not to worry. Stuff like this happens...a lot. It's just that not a lot of people like to talk about it for fear of it being verboten is all. ;-)
no i wasn't offended :) sm
i feel like to each their own. my kids didn't sleep with me when they were babies. they slept in their own rooms and actually they fell asleep on their own very well. my second boy would sometimes spit up big time while sleeping, so i kept him close to me anytime he was sleeping, in his bassinet (gosh don't know how to spell that!!).
i see my hubby and his family and although they all love each other, there is no communication whatsoever in his family and they aren't near as close as i am with my mom and dad. i want my boys to grow up knowing they can talk to me about anything and that i'm always here for them. my hubby is the type that keeps EVERYTHING to himself. i'm not like that! i blame his family for not having open communication, and my hubby suffers from anxiety to a certain extent. his family situation is a whole nother chapter!
thanks for your input! 
that's okay im not easily offended
and im EASILY amused.
#7 is very funny
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
lol, nope not offended at all. Not sure what that means actually.
But, yes, you would think, right? But nope! Actually I have been going to the up-scale and very expensive salons where they have spas and serve you lattes and finger sandwiches by choice hoping I will get good results and they are the ones I have the most problems with!
If you read my other post, where I mentioned the bleach products and what I said about the expensive versus the cheaper products, you'd see what I mean.
But thanks!
nor was I offended. Sorry for your troubles in the marriage. sm
Maybe he just needed some "relief" if the two of you are not getting along so well in the bedroom, so to speak, if you catch my drift.
No! Not offended in the least and as a matter of fact, sm
I never even noticed the imperfections of my daughter's feet. Interesting though is the fact I never realized for the last 20 years that the second toe is longer. Isn't that the sign of a leader? Well, she definitely fits THAT profile :-)
As for the bunions... well, let's just say it's a good thing I work at home...
first of all, I agree you have a reason to be offended
but on the other hand, she may really have been trying to have (what she thought) was an open and genuine conversation with you.
I went through a period after my divorce where I really questioned why guys who slept around were considered studs while gals who did the same were considered *luts. I asked a lot of questions from a lot of people. Doesn't mean I slept around a lot, but I was curious about the thinking behind the idea of how things could be so different when the only difference was gender.
All I'm trying to say is that perhaps in her disjointed way, she was trying to genuinely institage a thoughtful discussion about racial inequality, even though she failed not to offend, but in her own mind thought she was unoffensive. Some people really do ask questions because of genuine curiosity that has been dormant in their own minds even if they do come across as offensive. Just MHO. Doesn't excuse her rudeness by all means, but just a thought to toss about.
It is not my fault others get offended at my opinions
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I have often wodered this too. I would also not be offended hear of someones
I have also wondered why those who do not believe in Christ (athiests and the like) celebrate Christmas.
Am so offended by the loading him up so he is more manageable for me comment (sm)
I would NEVER do that. How dare you make that assumption? How rude of you!!
No, probably not to someone with a sense of
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A sociopath in every sense of
the word. I don't know how he can live with himself. Doesn't he have any remorse or guilt?
it actually makes no sense
to sell a sound, healthy horse at auction for a fraction of the price that can be sold outright. If the horse is too slow to race ont the track they can and are used in other disciplines. Its hard to believe that practice is widespread. When a horse finds its way to auction there are other underlying reasons..
Okay, that does make more sense.
Thank you.
That would certainly make the most sense,
I don't like her, but this makes sense to me.
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My sense of decorum.
Believe it or not, I used to be very civilized. No potty mouth, no lewd or lascivious behavior, and no leaving the bathroom door open when someone was in there for any reason whatsoever. Now my day isn't complete unless I get this sweet nothing whispered into my ear:
"Hey Kath, pull my finger."
I will try to talk sense to the ex
Tomorrow's my day off, and I will see if the ex is receptive to reason. We have real problems communicating about most any issue, his general attitude is "don't you dare try to tell ME what to do, biatch!". It is the policy of his household to have all calls put on speakerphone and let anybody in his household at the time I call horn in on what I wish could be private phone conversations with my son. I have repeatedly complained to the court about this practice, the court has ordered him to keep the speaker phone off when I call, but he ignores it, and even if I go to the trouble of recording/submitting every conversation to the court, they aren't going to do anything about it.
He is deeply involved with people (who I knew very well back when) that are paranoid hypochondriacs who have abused antibiotics to the point that no antibiotics work for them any more. Since he mentioned their name when he barged into the last phone conversation, I am assuming they have his ear and have influenced him into this overreaction. Since I disagree with his actions he is likely to become hostile and tell me to shove off, but I guess I'll try and see if there's any hope of making him see reason. I suppose it'll all be about timing - if there's a houseful of ne'er do wells shouting comments when I call tomorrow, I'll know whether to try or not.
Common sense
I remember in 9th grade, back in the 1970s, we had to give a speech for English in front of the whole class. Mine was on first aid. I demonstrated several pretend procedures on a volunteer. Then my volunteer was suffering from a snake bite, so I was demonstrating the technique that was in vogue at the time, where a knife was used to cute the puncture wounds and so the poison could be sucked out. I pulled out my demonstration knife and my teacher suddenly came on camera to examine my knife. Not being a dummy, I had made a cardboard knife, colored the handle part black, and covered the blade in tin foil. In the back side I had taped a fine-tipped red pen. It looked real on camera as long as you held it the right way. That teacher didn't like me, and he spent a good 30 seconds examining the weapon, during my taped presentation, before he was satisfied he could not get me in trouble for it.
No, I was no dummy.
thanks. that makes more sense anyway
just like it's redundant to have prayer request and Christianity.
Ya know, that makes no sense to me
There are bosses and I expect them to make more than me, my gosh, if not then I would have tried to be high on the totem pole- I care nothing about running a business, done that before, am just as happy as I want to be with the salary I make and concerns me not that people like Trump and others make more- they work a lot harder than I do or have in the past.
That makes sense (nm)
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Does not make sense to me
That is really very strange. Have they been trying for awhile? MAYBE...is it possible that she had been to the doctor, and he heard results over the phone before she did? Maybe HE has not told HER yet that she is expecting? Stranger things have happened, I guess. I agree it is very strange behavior. I sure hope all works out well and it is not what you are thinking, that he's hurt you on purpose.
What he needs is some parents with some sense (sm)
I feel sorry for you as his neighbor and sorry for him that his parents have raised him to be this way. They shouldn't talk to him that way. If the people who are supposed to love you more than anyone on Earth treat you like that, then how would you possibly learn to treat other people with decency and respect? If anything actually needs to happen, it is that DSS needs to be called and told how the parents talk to their child. He doesn't need military school...he needs to be treated like a human being, then maybe he can act like one...if it is not too late. You should report this to DSS. I am usually the last one who would say that because I think children are almost better off with their parents, messy house or whatever, but in this case, this child needs help.
this does not make any sense to me
I am not getting this at all. If my son gained 100 pounds and my husband made him do chores all day, I would think that my husband was trying to be a father to my overweight son. When my husband fixes the car, he comes in the house, grabs my butt and wants to make out. If I went and told anybody else that he did these things he would be MORTIFIED!
Maybe that is abuse and maybe it is not. The point is that the original poster thinks it is abusive. She feels like she is living with someone she is afraid of.
Consulting other people that know her husband may not be the safest way for her to handle it. It doesn't matter what other people think. I stand by what I posted before. Leave or don't leave, but I would not try to get a consensus.
now you are making sense! sm
I am not being mean, just trying to get you to think! Now you will have to call a domestic abuse person in your state or an attorney and ask what you have to do. BUT if you truly are scared, you can go to a "safe house" tell them your story and I guarantee they will help you. Explain what you have said that you thought you hd waited too long. Also tell them what the cop told you years before. They hve heard it all. I am just trying to get you to leave before its too late. Sometimes it takes a rough push but you CAN do it and do well. Don't ever get it in your head there are no options. There are always options nad always hope as long as there is breath and life!
Use some common sense
Just as women have things they are uncomfortable with, weight, breasts, etc...men don't want an ugly uncircumsized penis, so get over it and do your boy a favor. Not to mention all the health reasons. Sheesh! My son or husband hardly remember the little skin at the top of their penis being taken off. Give me a break!
makes sense to me (sm)
I think I'm going to check around with some other dentists. Thanks for confirming my thoughts that they are overcharging. They seem to have a problem filing insurance in a timely manner as well and I've had issues with them over that in the past.
well that makes a little more sense
if she was selling the songs to other people. $1.9 million is a little steep just for downloading for personal use.
I agree. It only makes sense to me.....
Only in America do we spend all this money to figure out who to release a dead body to. Let's see.....a mother who hasn't had anything to do with her daughter for 20 years or.....an attorney who was living off the deceased for five years.....Lay her body at rest with her son. Figure out who the father is of the baby and let it be. One thing though, the judge is so comical, it's almost like watching a comedy movie. When he said "loose as a goose" yesterday, I thought I would die laughing so hard!!!
ok he sounds like he has a sense of humor..LOL.
and now I want to tell you there is an organization called messies.com (I think) - I heard about it five years ago and there is also messies anonymous which is alot like the 12-step program that I heard about.
You can Google the issue - *companies that help messy people get organized*
That's my only suggestion because maybe he's NOT a passive- aggressive and I merely assumed that (?) - If I did, I'm sorry, didn't mean to offend....however, I am not convinced as yet that I did make an error.
I'm not going to judge you. I've been there in the sense that sm
I had to be the other woman telling the other man to "get over me, I'm married." I would say you definitely sparked an interest in his life and it's probably been "fun" for him to know that he still "has what it takes." ALL men want to be someone's hero and you were/are his cheerleader - if he's been married for any length of time and he's getting to intimate in conversation with you then I can guarantee that she's probably no longer his cheerleader. Men need that. I know exactly what happened between you two as it happens every single day.
Sometimes the men (and women) who meet other people (whether at work, on line, etc) will go even further than this man has gone and will meet up with you, sleep with you and try to carry on a relationship with you for as long as they can get away with it. It is wrong and dangerous. I believe you do have very strong feelings for him.
The reality is this: He is married. Happily? Who knows. It's still wrong. You must, and I repeat, must pick up your dignity, look at your beautiful face in the mirror and say, "There is an available man out there who would love to love me! Lord, help me find him. I deserve it!" And you do. We all do.
Morally, ethically, anyway you look at this, it is wrong. Even if he were to leave his wife for you, you would be considered an adulter in the eyes of God for stealing another man's wife. You are NOT AN ADULTERER. You are a beautiful woman who deserves her own man.
Good luck to you. Do the right thing. As painful as it will be, you will be blessed if you let him go. He can't be had right now.
I know - sick sense of humor but...
Movie I laughed out loud to most recently was Hostel. Way creepy movie/plot but still just couldn't stop myself when that girl's eyeball was bouncing off her cheek.
Definitely - Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Road to Wellsville, O Brother, Shrek
Your post makes the most sense in that
I had a little girl and when she first started taking, having heard my first name, she tried to call me the same. I would say, "to others I am so and so but to you I am mamma." Then when she called me by the first name I would ignore and then when Mamma I would acknowledge and answer. I told him exactly what you said. No he has not had a sex change but says hated his real name all his life, since his childhood and therefore the change. I told him he should have sent his own flowers, also but the deed was already done. I do not find it silly to want to be known by your name, though. I personally had to tell my father before when he would not acknowledge my remarrying (sending checks, etc. in the first name) that he would have to put new name on my mail or whatever. He also tried to do the same with me basically. Finally came around, though.
Does this sentence make sense?
I'm trying to write a letter. what i want to say is that more time is needed in the basic classes at school and special classes such as (music, art) should not take priority or cut into the core classes.
This is my sentence
There is lack of adequate class time is the core classes such as math, language arts, and science. Specials are great to have but specials do not dominate academia.
Does that make sense to anyone but me?
You made perfect sense -- it only went to him
Unless you put her name on the CC of the new email or hit reply to all, it only went to him. Whew - you can breathe easy again!
at least you've still got a sense of humor
Good luck. 
And I would hope adults have more sense than that,
99 out of 100 is unbelievable to me. I find his statement ridiculous for people who are considered grown.
Most common sense folks on here would know that
some get all riled up when you start talking about moochers! Now, this lady is a plain out and out moocher. She now has 14 mooching babies, of course, through no fault of their own but their mother's greedy selfish ignorance.
I tried to have a rational discussion about moochers on welfare ther other day and for the life of me couldn't get one poster to get her mind wrapped around the fact that there are truly JUST moochers out there, who do not work, do not contribute to societ; they just take,take, take, and do nothing productive. She thought I knew nothing and that welfare was ONLY for those TRULY in need. This is exactly what I was talking about. I see it every day in my community, the baby making factories who refuse to work, sit on their butts, and have more babies, all paid for by the taxpayer. This is a perfect example.....same situation only she had 8 at one time instead of one by one until she finally got to 14.
Maybe the poster will get a picture of what moochers I was talking about and stop acting as if she were being targeted.
Since this lady is on disability, all her 14 children will also receive a monthly disability check. Now, multiply that times ALL the illegal babies here with all their illegal parents also getting assistance and you wonder why this country is going down the tubes and why California is going belly up?
Yep, dont have the sense as my mother used to say
as God gave a goose. You, of course, must be kidding. I am just trying to make a point of all these people who are shivering in their boots about going to Mexico that traveling in the US can be just as bad. I live in a very good upscale neighborhood, starting out this morning say the police with blue lights going in the neighborhood, got back and found out a neighborhood bank robbed. Got email stating please turn on alarms, lock doors. I am just amazed at people who are paranoid about traveling when things go on right under your nose in your own backyard.
yeah, but EVERYONE has a sense of humor. NM
light up, might feel good again.
yeah, but EVERYONE has a sense of humor. NM
light up, might feel good again.
No wonder you have no real sense of value; everything's HANDED to you.
What a classless snob you are. I always giggle at your type...Can't wait til hubby dumps you for a chica half your age (with half your attitude) and you have no choice but to manage on your own. We'll see just how far down your nose you look at others then, especially with this *gasp* dreaded RENTERS next door to you.
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Doesn't make much sense since this is the gab board???? NM
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I'm not sure if that makes sense or just your wording doesn't.....
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Men do tend to die younger, so it makes sense
to find a younger one. Mine is 4 years older, and he is aging faster because he hasn't taken care of himself. High school and college sports can take a heavy toll on a man.
True but they were estranged and it makes sense - sm
that AN would want to be with her child; not with the Smith family in TX because her mother (who she reportedly hated) wanted her in her home town (probably for appearance sake and one last jab to get her way with her own daughter, which is pretty pathetic). The mom has said that years ago she had said she wanted to be buried near MM in CA, so if that is the case why push to bury her in TX? (if she was really interested in doing what her daughter wished?) Kind of contradicts everything don't ya think? They say she is going to try to get her exumed and taken back to TX for reburial, which again I think is a horrible thing to do. Let her body be. I find it hard to believe the mom would be visiting the grave that often in TX. I really believe she is just doing it for (1) the publicity, (2) the appearance of doing what she believes others think a "mom" would do, (3) just to be one last thorn in her daughter's side. Because of all her grandstanding they could not even have an open casket since the body had decayed so much in all the legal wrangling crap. Total morons, all of them.
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