Not everyone experiences problems with
Posted By: sm on 2009-04-27
In Reply to: welcome to - perimenopause
menopause, perimenopause, etc. My mother and I never had hot flashes, never any medications for problems, stopped with the periods and that was that. Oh, my older aunt and another sister of hers never on anything for hormonal disturbances, anxiety, etc.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
I'm sorry you had bad experiences
And I'm even sorrier that your children have not had fathers who are caring and active in their lives.
But, as I said in my previous post, I had observed the way my husband treated animals - very caring, lots of patience and tolerance. I think the way that people treat animals is a great indicator of what kind of person they really are.
You're right, children can put a great strain on a marriage, especially if there are already problems with the relationship. My husband and I separated when our son was about 16 months old, but we got back together a few months later - primarily for the sake of our son, but over the years we have worked out our marital problems as well.
Perhaps I painted too much of a rosy picture. But the fact is, my husband is a good father, and I have always loved that about him, even when he and I weren't getting along. And having a child has kept us together through some pretty rough times.
My experiences sm
1st time: 8 lbs 6 oz Labor was about 16 hours, had a shot of Stadol that wore off well before I delivered. Pushed for about 20-25 minutes, had the baby, had an episiotomy.
2nd time: 7 lbs (he was a month early) Got to the hospital in false labor, so the doctor broke my water and induced me, don't even ask! The nurse pushed my husband to sign for the epidural. Apparently my moaning, which was not loud, was too much for her to take. It didn't take properly. Pushed once, had the baby and tore.
3rd time: 9 lbs 6 oz. Labor was about 8 hours. No drugs, no cutting, no tearing, pushed once and had the whole baby. Walked out of the delivery room on my own two feet.
4th time: 8 lbs 4 oz. No drugs, but a long, tiring labor. Pushed once and had the baby. No stitches.
5th time: 8 lbs 15 oz. Had a nothing labor at first, but then went from 3 to 10 in about 20 minutes, deep pain. They put the epidural in at the start of that brief pain, but never ran it because I was 10 before they could give me even a test dose. All it did for me was give me a headache later on. Oh, only pushed once.
6th time: 8 lbs 12 ounces. No pain meds, but had to have a Pitocin induction. It was not worse than any of the others and I slept through most of it. Took probably 8 hours in total, only felt it for 3 hours. I pushed once, had the entire baby and walked out of the delivery room about 45 minutes later.
One thing I can tell you is that you are never prepared for the pain. One time you can do it with nothing and the next time you can't. It is up to you in the end. Epidurals DO inhibit the ability to push and that part usually takes longer...tearing up your tissues and making your organs fall more quickly.
I can tell you other things too. The kids who came without pain drugs were absolutely bloodless deliveries, but the first two where I did have drugs were bloody affairs and they were born covered in my blood. The first two I used Lamaze, but the others I went to Bradley natural childbirth and was very prepared for handling the pain without drugs and I did well. I felt better much more quickly with drug free deliveries and my energy seemed not to be so low after having a baby as with the first two.
You might look into watching "The Business of Being Born" a documentary by Ricki Lake. I know it is available on Netflix for streaming right now. Most of what she covered I knew from my research many, many years ago now (my kids are in their 20s now). I was informed then and it amazes me how the medical profession is still manipulating a normal process into a medical emergency, which it rarely is. My kids grew, but the medical profession has not, not in regards to childbirth.
Have any of you had these experiences around Christmas?
I'm not kidding as I tell you all about these happenings.
My husband's mother died Christmas Eve in 1980. 14 years ago we moved into our "new" house and the scent of patcholli permated the house for weeks (his mother's favorite scent). Four years ago, we were having a family shindig in our garage and talking about his mother when the lights went out. Nobody was near the light switch and when I went over, the switch was in the off position.
In 2000, my mother died (how I miss her), but in January. Anyway, all day, the bell she used to ring for me to come help her rang off and on for hours. I kept running out to the living room to see if it was on TV. It wasn't.
My plastic jug of Tide also fell off the shelf iin the laundry room about 2 hours after this. There was no one around but me when this happened and I was busy working. (My laundry room is right outside my computer room).
Tonight, my husband went to take his meds as we were sitting at the kitchen table after eating. His one medicine disappeared. We searched high and low for it around the table and where he keeps his meds to no avail. So I told him to take his other meds and sooner or later his Toprol would show up. If not, we would get another Rx tomorrow. Well, when he went to the sink for his water, there on the counter was his Toprol. I'm talking 15 feet away from the table we were sitting at. Neither of us got up from the table.
Do you think our mothers are back for Christmas again? I would love to have them around for Christmas. I'm not afraid if it is them, and I'm still not afraid if it is not them and I would love to acknowledge that I know it's them, but how would I do that? (Am I strange?).
I just had to share these strange events with everyone. Please don't flame me if you don't believe, but I do. Thank you for listening.
Abilify experiences sm
Need to lose some belly fat, can't exercise that much due to back pain. Anyone tried Abilify with good results? I know it's expensive but would be worth it, as it would probably take strain off my back, that's the main intent here.
Your experiences with simvastatin?
My doc wants me to take simvastatin for sligthtly high cholesterol. Sounded okay to me, til I went online and read lots of horror stories about it, up to and including the "statin shuffle" people describe. I DONT want to take something that is going to affect my neurological system adversely!
Do any of you take it? What are your experiences? Good or bad? What side-effects did it give you?
Yes I am sad to say I share the same experiences.
I am also 37 and post tubal x6 years. I am in the perimenopause state already. I don't know what is worse...
Anyway, I had a scare like that about 4 months ago. I really hate that. I have a friend here in town who is in about the same boat, only she discovered that she really is pregnant and fortunately she will carry a normal pregnancy. She is NOT too happy about it though. I must say I can understand. Her kids, like mine, are all teenagers now and almost out of high school. Now she gets to start all over again.
Oh yes. I'd be happy to tell you my experiences.
Do you have any specific questions or just want generalities?
I love mine; they're the best teeth I've ever had. The first quadrant I had done was lower left jaw. It was expensive, and a lengthy process. A staged procedure, with many months healing time between stages. I've had them for a long time 15 years or longer. Fortunately, the guy who pioneered the field has his office practically in my back yard, so I felt very fortunate in that regard. His waiting room always had people who had "flown in" for their appt's. Sheesh, I couldn't have afforded that. Neither could I on the MT wages of today. But in the 80s I was a tiny little MTSO and making enough for a few luxuries.
Good luck! I don't think you would regret the decision.
My dentist's name is Carl E. Misch (world famous), and the second set I had done by Dr. Stacey Vlachos, who was trained by and in partnership with Dr. Misch for many, many years. Dr. Misch is in Birmingham MI. Dr. Vlachos has since moved to Florida and is semi-retired.
Sorry if this sounds disjointed or is filled with typos. I'm tired now, and it's time to shut my baby blues.
We had good experiences at Banfield. nm
z
Here is an interesting web site of near death experiences- sm
near-death.com
That's so fascinating to me. I love reading about ND experiences.
nm
I've had bad experiences with them, but I disagree with the laws...
We used to have a rottie (died last year) and they have the same stigma attached to them. We were actually denied homeowners insurance with many different companies because we owned a rottie. The funny thing is, he was the biggest sweet dog you ever met, a giant teddy bear. Our chocolate lab was 100 times more likely to be aggressive/hurt someone, but of course they don't care about chocolate labs.
That said, I've only known a few pits and they were pretty mean, but I blame that on the owners in those cases because they pretty much wanted a mean, protective dog. Because of my experiencw ith my rottie though, I don't agree with laws or rules against certain breeds of dogs because I think they are BS. Dogs should be judged on an individual basis ONLY.
my so nice this morning aren't we. everyone is entitled to their own opinion and experiences. w
maybe she is more educated in her certain situation where her kids went. it doesn't mean every school out there is the same way. there are variety of schools just like there are humans. doesn't mean she can't "share" her experiences. i happen to know for a fact that all the pregnant and/or troubled teens go to the private school in my town, even juve kiddos. it is more about educating yourself and taking the time to look into the schools and what is there even if that means sitting in class all day to figure it out. i am sure some are great and some are horrible.
|
