Nope, thank God! Happily married for 24+ and haven't had to bail kids out...yet..:) nm
Posted By: Life is Good on 2007-06-14
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Actually I am happily married
I have experienced this though with my in-laws. Grandmother divorcing grandfather as a matter of fact. She said she did not want my husband, nor I, nor my children talking to him simply because she was tired of him. She now calls him herself. But with such loss in our family grandparent-wise, I just did not think it was fair to the children to cut off yet another superb figure in their life. So, whatever their problem was belonged to them, not Pop-Pop and my children. It is just so often that children suffer in this manner. Family members just yanked from their lives because the parents have a hang-up. It just sounds like more of a jealousy issue on the mother's part in this case. Maybe she has a hard time accepting the fact that her ex has these girlfriends and her only pawn are the children. It happens over and over again. I am not a product of divorce, but my husband is and believe me it is no lie that children suffer even into adulthood for that matter. I just think that we as women need to be above this type of nonsense. Unless there are founded facts that the girlfriend is abusive in some manner, then why shouldn't she be allowed to call? Oh well, mute subject, I guess. I just feel bad for the children. Have a nice day!
Oh, thanks but happily married - but usually I
do not see a guy who makes my head turn such as the case when I was there. I don’t touch but darn, sure did look!!!
Happily married
We've been married just short of 17 year and have two daughters. We were engaged after 3 months. He's a great husband and father and he helps with all the housework including laundry and always has a project in the works. He doesn't like to sit still for a second. Granted there are a few things I might change (LOL), but not many.
Happily married for over 20 years.
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Happily married. Will stay together. I tell DH I cant
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For those of you happily married, where did you meet your spouse? sm
Just a curious question. I am single and I am thinking if I stay in church, that might be the best place to meet a good man these days when one finally comes around. It really gets me that some people meet their spouses in a bar and then wonder how they married an alcoholic, lol! 
Nope, haven't. Maybe I'll get it for the hubs for Xmas as it's
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Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
my kids had a safe haven to come sm
home to and they knew it and still know it. They have come back twice when times were tough and we didn't charge them a dime until they got on their feet in a couple months. I just think is an injustice to not charge them at all and let them go and do as they please when working and not going to school. You don't get to blow your money as you please as an adult, why should they if they are not in school?
I'm married and don't have kids, so
I'm sure people are very curious as to why I don't have kids. And yet, very few people are bold enough to ask me since they don't know if I've been unable or what the problem is. Maybe they feel free to ask why you aren't married because getting married seems to be going out of style or something, and they really want to know why married people are the minority now.
My kids have their own places - one is married, one is not...sm
but they both still have a key to our house. There have been several occasions when that has come in handy for me and them as well. I think it all depends on what works best for you and your son.
To all you married moms with kids and hubby at home,
do you ever dream about living by yourself? Not just with no kids, but with no hubby either? I love my family, but when I feel overwhelmed, when life gets too stressful, I can't help but think how peaceful that kind of life would be, with just myself to take care of. Of course I know in my heart that if I was by myself I would be bored and lonely, but right now it sounds really good! It has been one of those days...
Going to be 29 years in May, married as kids(!), it depends on what shifts we are working/overtime,
All in all, three kids later, it is "whenever," sometimes frequent, sometimes just being able to snuggle and be lone together is what we need!
I would probably bail
there is nothing worse than trying to talk about old times with a friend and having to stop and explain what you are talking about to new boyfriend. I don't understand why new beau would want to go anyway. What guy wants to hang out with two women and kids? Certainly, not my husband. He would be running for the hills!
if so, definitely DO NOT bail him out.
i agree. Jail would be a time he might get clean of the drugs, may get the medical help if needed, and may reflect on his life enough to redirect himself. If you bail him out, you are an enabler. p.s. smart people get sucked into drugs too, not just complete dummies. If it were me, I'd have to tell him, "I know you are doing drugs, and you have to get yourself straightened out or you will lose your family too." There are crisis centers, numbers to call, if you (he) wants help. My heart goes out to you, but it must be tough love here.
I don't want to bail them out of their mistake!
ARMs are stupid. If you think about it for 2 seconds you'd know that. Too many people wanted to be Jones's and took the attitude that they'd figure it out in a few years, or sell the house for a profit. Nobody was forced to choose an ARM nor were they forced to buy three times the house they could afford. Now those of us who did not over extend ourselves are supposed to pay for all these "bad investments". What a CROCK!
My mom is 8 hours away - but they happily stay with her (sm)
When I go visit my family, my kids stay with my mother while I go and visit other friends, etc. The difference might be that they have cousins there to play with and my mother jokes and plays with them and is affectionate. In-laws are not that way. No kids around my in-laws. I really don't know exactly why they think it is so horrible. I have asked them. They just say that they are bored, grandma is strict, she won't make any adaptations to things she cooks and makes them eat whatever she makes, she takes them to all-adult functions and makes them sit through things. They also have a farm and sometimes make the kids work very hard digging potatoes or whatever they are doing at the time.
A Lottery winner so we can be happily unemployed.
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Happily divorced 11 years..and still single!
Use your head first. You don't have to settle for the least worst of the two...there are other fish in the sea. :-) I found my standards were WAY too low when I married my ex-hubby. Now they are high and I'm not going to settle for less than I deserve.
I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now. 
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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nope....LOL
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Nope.
1. Huck.
2. Mr. Peabody.
3. Molly
4. Zeke
5. Bubba
6. Smokey
7. Moustache
8. Jodeci
9. Diak
10. Victor/Victoria
11. Fred.
12. Spike
13. Mickey.
14. Chora.
15. Lucy/Lucifer
16. Lily.
17. Casey.
18. Toby
19. Mailman
20. Mewmew.
21. Babe.
22. Tom
23. Tully
24. Fuzzy wuzzy
25. Alfalfa.
26. Thumper.
27. Tiger.
28. Dodger.
This includes cats, dogs, birds, turtles, horses, rabbits.
Nope.
I mean grants. Found a local one. Thanks!
nope
No, just saw my regular doctor a long time back who prescribed one of the ergotamine drugs and I had a bad reaction to it, got extremely cold hands and feet and nearly passed out and thought I was going to die. I could neither lie down nor sit up and got breathless and didn't know if it was serious enough to rush for medical help. Luckily it passed after about an hour, and I never tried it again. The worst part is trying to sleep all through the night for 3 nights with the pain which keeps waking me up. I am not sure if I should visit an ENT doctor or a neurologist or both, seeing how I get two types of headaches every month, one on each side. Am seriously thinking of stopping at least the hair color use so the sinusitis will subside, but the migraine?
nope. not in the least. sm
I have opened my umbrella in the house quite a bit and nothing bad ever happens. I had a black cat too for 13 years and she passed on, but she was a good companion. Life is life and these things are not going to bring you bad luck, good luck, or anything else for that matter. life is too short.
Nope.
I can't imagine not having my siblings and wanted my kids to have the same.
Nope, not just you
It's getting flat out ridiculous. So sad, I've loved Y&R for as long as I can remember. 
Nope - NC!
It's a hot weekend, may as well shop when not working, LOL.
Nope really can't
But, I maybe able to get away with not having to put dd in daycare so that would $250 a month I would not have to worry about. I don't really know but if I can pay less on family insurance that might be a plus.
There was a job opening at a manufacturing warehouse to work in the collections department for $11.50 an hour. I passed that up because it would have been a little bit of a paycut...... but then again, maybe not because for family health insurance I would not have to pay a dime, company covers all. That would be $145 a month that would not be going out. Plus they get retirement, company stock.
I live in a small town. Our hospital is going to VR. They have not said anything about cutting back on employees yet but if they do, I am sure they will keep the better producers..I just thought this was an opportunity to bow out gracefully. I am feeling better than I did yesterday when I first posted.
NOPE. That's what THEIR med. ins. is for! - sm
And if the kid had a recently-operated-on finger, why wasn't it bandaged/casted, etc. At least that would've alerted you and others who know the child that she needed to take it easy.
Nope
Did none of what you listed...mostly just asked around, mentioned the name, and bam...info abounds! Sorta like Google ya know, but in a more personal fashion...
nope
As Dorothy said at the end of Wizard of Oz, "Next time I go looking for my heart's desire I won't look any further than my own backyard."
Nope...not twice...sm
Adultery is just the ultimate betrayal. I mean I know some people make mistakes but that is very painful. Forgiving once would be hard enough but twice no. And besides seems to me it is like saying ok go ahead and cheat on me and I will just forgive you later.
Nope, not me
I'm just little ol me. I've worked for the same company for 3 years and love my job so I wouldn't be able to give any information (useful or not useful) to anyone. Also for new MT questions...I leave that for the QA or more experienced MTs to answer.
I do try to stay positive. In fact one time my SIL told me that my attitude on life is way too positive and wondered if I ever get mad. :-)
Nope
Look at this way, if the patient is terminal and the meds "might" help, you could spend the time you have left chasing the dream of a cure. I would rather spend the time with my family rather than chasing something that "might" help me.
nope, i don't buy it.
I am only 5Ƈ" and could conceivably fall in, but i could also get out, unless someone was sitting on the lid...
Um, nope, I'm not saying that.
That would be a New Age thing, or Kaballah, or some other politically correct type of spirituality. Christians might say the Holy Spirit lives in someone who is saved, but that's not the same thing AT ALL.
Nope...nm
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Nope, already there
Does no good to worry- just think what the other alternative is. I really enjoy these "golden years." Just think, this year after reaching 66, my property taxes come down from over 2500.00 to 800.00- I am able to work and still get social security which makes my income twice of what it is before drawing, i get reduced prices in stores, movies, theater and the like, restaurants. I have only 2 slight medical problems, both controlled with medication once a day, basically money situation so much better than when raising a family, do what I like when I like. A wonderful time for me.
Nope...sm
My husband doesn't hit me and never has. That just isn't his nature. It infuriates him for a man to hit a woman. I couldn't take someone hitting me when they got ticked off at me.
NOPE
The boy is 13 and he could probably make his own mind whether or not he wants this. What if he said for his own beliefs that he doesn't want it. What makes the courts decide in a persons personal health decision anyway. I WOULD get my patient chemo. IN FACT they already went 1 dose of it themselves. Government stay out away from out families!!!
Nope, not even in traffic.
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No hot dogs either! Nope.
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Nope ~ used to have a cat named Sam...
now have 2 cats, Lucky and Tripp, and a shetland sheepdog, Casey, which was on my list of baby names, but DH didn't like it.
haha.. nope. they don't but they may
during teenage years! LOL. TOO FUNNY!
Nope - missed that.
Sorry.
Nope. It is not your business to tell them.
Nope - Upstate NY nm
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Nope, not in the midwest
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nope - I don't agree.............sm
if a person wants it bad enough, they'll make it work out on their own - the OP is not alone - maybe she just needs to know she is not alone and that others are or have been in similar situations.
I'd like to see the OP change her life though.......eventually...it's in her best interests and those of her children.
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