No, to date one can CHOOSE one's treatment.
Posted By: .- on 2009-05-22
In Reply to: Two reasons... - sm
nobody can force a treatment on you.
The mother has the son's trust, otherwise he would have stayed with the father.
Obviously the father wants to subject the son to this chemo, therefore mother & son ran away.
This boy is going through he** durin this chemo treatment and his mother looks for a less aggressive, accepteable one.
I hope they make it to Mexico...
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Not on a first date-ROFL!! May want to make that ANY date!
Ewwwwwww!
Yes she did, but the treatment she got in
the puppy mill had her literally terrified of people. Ute had to keep her collar and leash on her day and night even when she slep, because the trauma of putting it on a screaming dog that was urinating when you approached her was just too much. This dog was terrified of a human's hands and legs. That tells me a lot. She was not a disciplinary problems, she had no trust. It has taken a very long time, and she is not 100%, but she is well on the way. Ute and Joe are the best. They were determined to give this darling little dog a loving home.
treatment
My husband is diagnosed with these on his nose as well. Don't know where the heck they come from but every once in a while they pop up. They treat him with Keflex every time. My daughter get the sores on her lips and they give her acylovir cream.
Have you tried a hot oil treatment?
That might be a quick help. I'd go to one of those really good salons. I'm impressed with the products they have, not that dryness is my problem.
Equal treatment
I wasn't allowed to get my ears pierced as a girl until I was 12. My mother's reason was that I was too young to take care of them. Since boys mature slower than girls, I think 13 is perfectly reasonable. Also I don't know your son's interests but make sure he understands that some sports will require him to take it out to play.
hiaiball treatment
I have found that a hairball treatment (paste form) works well for this. My short-haired cat doesn't really have hairballs but it helped her to stop vomiting so I assume hair was contributing and maybe it was just not enough to see like our other long haired cats. Any brand works fine. I just buy it at Wal-Mart, K-Mart, whatever. It's only a couple bucks a tube and they love it if you don't force it.
Mother's Day Treatment
I've noticed a lot of women don't teach their kids to honor them on "their" days. It's our job to teach them to gift us. It really is. Just like we need to teach them to wipe their behinds, we need to help them to remember our birthdays, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, whatever is special to us.
If I don't teach my kids to honor my days, I'm teaching them that they're more important, more special than I am. I'm certainly not suggesting extravagance, more like a homemade card or something they make in school, breakfast in bed has been my kids' favorite way to celebrate Mother's Day.
With a 12-year-old you might ask him which "special" days does he enjoy being honored? Then ask which "special" days does he think it appropriate to honor you?
I see no excuse for your husband's treatment of you. I feel like the saying "What we allow we teach" applies here, too. Somehow, from what you said, it sounds like your husband believes you were responsible to keep him on track with his mom for Mother's Day. That shows he at least is aware that he has a responsibility to his mom to honor her on that day.
Not that you asked, but I would suggest that you do nothing and say nothing to him for Father's Day. That might show him how it feels. Or you could take the high road and do as always, and then calmly mention something to the effect of, "Isn't it wonderful to be remembered on your day? Please don't let another of mine go without some of your attention. It felt so bad when you blew me off on Mother's Day that I felt like not honoring you on Father's Day. But of course, I know 2 wrongs don't make a right, do they, honey?"
I hope you get an answer and some treatment nm
nm
I doubt your children are happy with that treatment.
At least we hope so.
breast reconstruction/prophylactic treatment
Yes, insurance and/or medicaid pays for reconstruction of any kind. It's a law. They must. If you do not have insurance or are underinsured Medicaid will kick in. Bill Clinton signed this into law in 2000. This is a federal law, also mandating that all insurance companies pay for reconstruction. Also, if you have breast cancer on one side only, as a friend of mine did, insurance paid for bilateral mastectomies, so yes, to answer your question about prophylactic measures at that stage. I think, though that if you have a strong family history of breast cancer, mom, sisters, grandmother, etc., and you haven't been diagnosed, you might have to check with your insurance company about that, as well to find out if being tested for the gene that detects a predisposition for breast cancer.
I hope that helped a little. If you're worried a little, maybe calling the American Cancer Society could give you a little more info. Their web page gave me tons of information.
I'm so sorry that you had to endure that kind of treatment for a week. sm
Since you can't do anything about the way another person thinks, feels, acts, etc. and the only thing you can do anything about is how you think, feel, act, etc., you should first do something to take care of yourself. Take a bath, listen to your favorite music, read something inspirational, whatever makes you feel better. Have you eaten a good, nutritious meal? Do you need to take a nap or go to bed early tonight? Now remember this, you do not need to figure out what to do about this right now or today or even tomorrow...and not only that, but maybe the thing to do is not to do anything, but even that can wait.
Sleepwear during treatment for breast cancer.
A close friend of mine is going for bilateral mastectomy on January 2nd for grade IIa invasive ductal cell carcinoma. I will be doing some caretaking after she get home and am currently shopping for sleepwear for the hospital and postoperative convalescence.. I was wondering if there is anything I should know about the type of sleepwear that is especially appropriate for postoperative mastectomy/chemotherapy patients? I am planning to get natural fiber only but beyond that, I am wondering about the pros and cons of gowns versus PJs versus front-closure robes. Any tips from BC survivors, family, caregivers, etcetera, out there?
Of course they choose the most vulnerable--sm
women to prey on. If they chose a stronger woman, their controlling ways would not work. My ex did the same thing regarding the counselor. He went to two visits, said the counselor was a quack, and he would not go back. Anything that was ruined or destroyed during his anger fits were my things...never his.
as far as leaving...I had three kids to take care of, and survival was an issue for me too, but it can be done. Please do not just stick around because you fear not being able to take care of yourself and your kids. You are basically doing that now and you would have less stress to deal with. My kids were small too, two in school and one not. I HAD to do it, or I would be dead today. My ex husband never changed his ways...never. He took his own life when he could not control his last wife the way he controlled the others. I would never say this to my kids, as they were devastated when he took his own life, but between you, me, and the fencepost (Lord forgive me), I feel he was a coward. Rather than change his ways to make HIMSELF happy, he chose to end his *suffering*, with no regard to who he left behind to deal with their own suffering. It is hard. It is a big step to leave, but it gets better with time. Trust me on that. I make good money now and take care of ONLY me. My kids are grown and on their own, all with anger issues of their own, and I worry about that. But please, please, don't stay where you are just because you fear not being able to take care of yourself. God provides. Just ask. and that is the truth. good luck to you. If you wish to email me, you can. God Bless you and yours. May he give you strength and peace. You deserve nothing less.
We do have a choice. We can choose to keep our
undies on and not engage in sex or we can choose some form of birth control (albeit it fails from time to time). 
CHOOSE not to take it so personally
The key word here is "elderly" - remember she is the one with the ailment - and she's not THINKING this might hurt Kimmie's feelings. She's frustrated with the problem and the fact that what you got didnot work for her - and she's probably being considerate in paying you.
Have you considered that you may be looking for reasons to be offended?
You can CHOOSE to see this whatever way you want. If you feel real hurt was intended then you deal with that directly: Aunt ___ I felt a bit hurt by your response to ____.
COMMUNICATION is a great thing when we do it - and it always takes at least two.
Good luck! P.S. what was the stuff you got her? I might be able to use it!! :)
Whatever it is you choose to wear...
just make sure it compliments the bridal party's ensemble.
It doesn't necessarily have to be a solid color, but if you choose a dress with floral patterns, make sure it doesn't clash too much with the MOB or the rest of the bridal party.
Go here (but in case it does not show) Smarter.com and search mother of the groom dress. It will give you several online stores. At least you can get an idea of what you might want.
http://www.smarter.com/---se--qq-mother%2Bof%2Bthe%2Bgroom%2Bdress.html
HMR is better - and you can pick and choose
My mother got NutriSystem and most of the meals are unpalatable and I can eat about anything (some were okay). HMR is actually good. Difference is breakfast consists of shakes/cereal.
We have 9 to choose from, not including
xx
P.S. as you are divorced, it is YOU who can choose
with whom of your in-laws your children have contact.
How was your date? :) (nm)
xx
This will date me but
I won 2 dance contents actually, one in high school on a local television program and I won a sweater and around age 18 I won a dance contest at one of the night clubs (yes, that is right) around town and I won for dancing the Peppermint Twist and that is the name of the bottle of liquor I won, the Peppermint Twist and heavens knows who made that! If I were able to dance as much now as then, sure would keep that weight down!
Anyone have an up-to-date
Copy of the book "What To Expect When You're Expecting" that you'd be willing to give away? My DIL is pregnant and I think this would be a great resource of information for her. I'd pay to have you send it to me...Thanks ladies!
I'd never date at my age.
I'm 49. If I got involved now with a man, you're looking at taking care of someone in their old age. I don't think it's worth giving up my freedom...in exchange for what? Cooking, cleaning after someone, having to be responsible to someone. Ugh. Been there once for a long time. No desire to do it again. At this age, men are only looking for someone to take care of them.
I'll stick to hanging out with my kids, grandkids, and with the girls.
I believe we are still free to choose our battles here.
Just because you are an all-or-nothing gal doesn't mean I have to be!
:)
I feel bad for you but did she choose DNR status?
My father died last year and he was a DNR and had a Living Will stating *no heroic measures* - at that point they oinly do *comfort care*.......
Very sorry for your experience!!!!! *gentle hug*
Choose the correct path
You are walking down a road and you encounter a fork in the road and you do not know the correct way to go. There are two men standing at the junction and both know the correct road. One man always lies, and the other man always tells the truth, but you do not know who is the liar and who is the one who tells the truth. You can only ask each man one question, but it must be the same question for both. What is the question that would allow you to get the information necessary to choose the correct path?
You are all so creative! I need help! I will choose the best answer sm
and so I hope you can help us!! My husband and I teach an adult Sunday School class married couples class. We need to come up with a catchy name to put in the bulletins, on-line, on the screen in the sanctuary to let others know about our class. We can't come up with anything! One couple suggested Married Rockstars! How hilarious is that? Of course, my husband and I don't look anything like rock stars. Couples of all ages and personality types come to the class. Can you think of anything?? It's been 2 weeks since we've been trying to come up with something! The ages range from 25-45 or so. Thank you so much!!!!!!!! 
If she wants to choose whether or not a baby results from sex
then she better choose to block that sperm from reaching the egg, because if it does, well then, a baby may very well result from sex. I mean, I understand when it's very, very early, but come on, abortion has really been taken way, way too far, to the point of murder of a full-fledged baby, and some people think, hey, that's okay, it's the mother's decision.
We all have a right to choose how we spend our time (sm)
If that makes you happy then fine. That would not make me happy. I am not "simpering" or helpless. Also not a slave.
I would choose the ISS because the paddling is ineffective.
If all the kids are choosing swatting, obviously, they see it as the lesser punishment. Your daughter is very concerned about school, and you described her as a type A personality. So now here's the opportunity to teach her to put things in perspective.
I think ISS is a more appropriate punishment. She was wasting class time by being late to class. I think 5 tardies is substantial. By age 14, she should be able to get herself to class on time and start building up some self-control when it comes to the chit-chat. So, since she wasted time, she should have to pay time back. That comes at the expense of the class she is so concerned about. A lower grade may indeed be the lesser consequence, but is she going to fail out of school and never get into college and end up homeless on the street because of the lower grade in one class at age 14? No. Certainly not!
As a parent, you need to look at things long-term, because kids can't. You also need to steel yourself for the major melt down she will probably have if you don't permit the swatting. This, I think, is the hardest part of the entire learning experience for most moms. Some moms fall all to pieces in these situations. And don't flame me, but from what I've observed, it seems to happen more with mothers and daughters, especially if there's an element of "everyone-else-is-doing-it".
So look down life's road for your daughter, get your nerve together, and tell her the ISS is the better choice. When she falls to pieces, don't play into it. In the end, it will be worth it. The ISS will be the deterrent that will work for your type A daughter in the future. The paddle can never have that sort of influence over her.
you can choose a realtor who uses/lists
with the MLS service. We've moved a lot and never would use a realtor who didn't.
We had luck too before listing in the LA Times or San Fran papers when we had a place in the country/mid USA..had a party fly out to see it, and paid cash. Appeal to what people are wanting, ie, escape the high crime, the crowded city, live surrounded by nature/georgeous trees...good luck!
Because I choose not too...I am not complaining, just said it would be easier.
nm
Help with play date
About a month ago my I took my 5 yo swimming and invited one of her friends and her mom. The two girls played for a good 2 hours until another one of dd close friends showed up so she started playing with him. Well this upset dd little girl friend and she came to me saying "dd won't play with me. make her play with me. " I called dd over and said that we invited suzie over so introduce her to Joe and you all three play together. This just upset dd and made her mad at suzie. I was not sure what to do but suzie's mom said it was time to go anyway so they left.
Well, just yesterday MIL took me and dd golfing. DD met another friend and together they played. The went across the street to the playground then a friend of the other little girl showed up. Well, the other little girl dropped dd and started playing with her little friend. DD got upset adn said sandy won't play with me. I said well, I image you're feeling what Suzie felt when Joe came to the pool. DD just sat there mad. MIL said Introduce yourself to the other little girl. DD did not want to do that. Then MIL said well lets go play on the slide. DD went and played but she was still upset, she walked up to Sandy and said "I am not playing with you anymore not even at school." Sandy replys, "That is okay, I have a sister to play with." MIL told dd not to talk to Sandyl that she wasn't worth it and out loud too. (Luckily Sandy's parents were not there). I just said Oh MIL. I started talking to Sandy. I asked her if she was ready for school. Sandy and I had a nice little conversation. It kind of broke the tension between them. I am sure all is forgotten by now.
I was just wondering how other parents handle these situations. TIA
only if he is rich.......but really I would not date - sm
a guy more than a few years younger. I did date a few guys younger 2-5 years which I realized later was a big mistake (in my 20s). My DH is about 7 years older and works out well.
Did you date very long?
Since you are afraid to talk to him alone, see if you can get him to see a marriage counselor with you. If this marriage is going to end, the sooner you can move on with your life the better.
Blind Date
Blind date arranged by a mutual acquaintance.
Married less than 6 months after we met. 9 years end of next month.
Blind date. :) nm
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Would you ... date or marry someone ...
Simple questions .......
Would you ever date/marry.....
someone who is less educated than yourself?
someone of a different race?
someone whose parent's are divorced?
someone who has bad credit or alot of bad debt?
someone who is overweight or obese?
someone who affliates or supports a different political party than yourself?
someone who is rude to customer service staff?
someone who talks a longtime on their cell phone when you are eating?
someone who enjoys a different genre of music?
someone who does not enjoy the same leisure activities as yourself?
someone who is a very picky eater or someone who is a vegeterian/vegan and you are not?
someone who prefers to spend leisure time alone or with friends (without you)?
These questions had me testing my own dating/marriage limits...
Jon Bon Jovi or Richie Sambora, I don't know which I'd choose!
GORGEOUS!!!
You choose to stay in this situation. Until you make
x
I guess the difference is people should choose what they want to do (sm)
I do like yard sales but would also like to buy some new things that we need. I think my whole issue is that people should have a choice in what they do and how they do them. No one else should be forcing upon you the way you have to do things. The fact that you enjoy those things is wonderful. If someone was trying to force you to do them even if you didn't want to, that is not so wonderful. For example, I love to cook and I decorate beautiful cakes for all occasions for my family. If I did not enjoy doing those things and someone kept trying to force me to do them, that would be wrong. Do you see the difference?
Don't let him choose. If you do the cooking, you plan the menu!
At my house, my kitchen is not a restaurant. You eat what I make or you fend for yourself. Now of course I know my family's likes and dislikes and I do take requests, but if you're going to turn you nose up at everything I suggest without offering anything up, you get what you get!
maybe should choose a grounding option other than a wedding.
nm
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
I have a standing breakfast date...
every Thursday morning with 3 friends. Weekends are mostly family time. My oldest son always comes home from school on Friday night, so we Netflix. This weekend, we were supposed to play paintball, but it doesn't look like the weather is going to cooperate.
Yoohoo? MT who had date with doc? Pls. share! NM
You can probably make-up a date to see a lawyer
because marriage is based on truth. Just tell him you are done! End of story. If he catches you in a lie, that could spell trouble. JMO. 
Take photos yourself with date stamp
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not a date thing but still embarrassing
while at a small get togther at a friend's house i was trying to sneak up on the host and take a surprise picture of her all evening. I finally tried to seize a moment when she had her back turned to me. Looking into the camera and concentrating I crept up on her quitely...doing soo well until...I forgot she had been loading dishes and walked into and fell onto the open dishwasher door. Everybody laughed so hard. needless to say I didn't get the picture!!!
they have a date list on the IRS website
If you go over to http://www.irs.gov you can check on when you should get your money. They also have a spot somewhere on there where you can check to see how much you should be getting. You should get your check based on the last two numbers of the main social security number, the bigger the number, the later your check will come.
The common date here in Oz is 1 December,
and then everything down on 6 January. I can't imagine not having a tree until Christmas Eve.
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