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Calling ME a religous nutcase?  I'm not even religous!  Hence why I think these sickos need to be prosecuted for what they are doing under the guise of religion.

And why on earth would I want Harry Potter banned?  I love those movies! 

Let me see if I got this straight - You're married, the guy you've been seeing is married and has a girlfriend in addition to you.  Woe is your husband and his wife!

you have the 8 o'clock bean available.  I thought you said you did but maybe you were talking about in the past.  If you do, be sure and buy whole bean and grind it, then you won't have to worry about fillers you were wondering about.  If you don't have a grinder, it has been my experience (and my mother's - and we are coffee snobs) that Folgers 100% Columbian has the richest, truest coffee flavor.  Unfortunately I can't drink it because it is high in acid and bothers my stomach but that's another story...

Maybe the filters are the answer.  Another thing to consider is your coffee cup.  I bought a nifty plastic Starbucks mug on clearance.  It has a nonslip handle which I thought would be great for me in the morning.  However, I have noticed that coffee tastes much better in a regular ceramic mug.  I save the plastic mug for hot chocolate.  Good luck on your quest. 

ok, when do you start talking about sex with your kids??  my 9 y/o son has asked me a few times where do babies come from.  right now i tell him God.  i think my 10 y/o nephew told him some things about sex (but this was when they were younger).  i think my SIL told her son about sex when he was 7.  i think that is too young.  what's your input?  thanks.

It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT.  The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS.  It probably will not matter what you change about you to him.  If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.

Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't.  Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.

And your child is being hurt by these outbursts.  She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time.  In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.

You all need help, even the child.  Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help.  Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right.  Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate.  Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...

going on myself, so it's a bit difficult to describe it in any clear way.

I know very little about diabetes, but my vision is definitely deteriorating.  I had wondered why the nurse specifically asked me if I was a diabetic.  I also know that I have a great chance of developing diabetes once my pancreas is completely destroyed.  All I know is the last set of labs I had were very good.  I see my doctor again on July 22, and I will definitely mention this to him.

I took Wellbutrin almost 10 years ago to try to help quit smoking.  It gave me tremors of the hands so badly that I couldn't type.  So I stopped taking it.  I'm on a mess of medicines (most of them, gratefully, provided by the manufacturers' patient assistance programs.)  A couple months ago, I started Abilify, didn't seem to have any problems.

As far as the problem with staggering, mine came out of the blue, as well.  I was somehow thinking they might be related, but after your comment about diabetes, I'm going to do more research on diabetes because it's a disease that I know absolutely nothing about.

Thanks so much for your post and your input.  I'm feeling like "Columbo" trying to figure out a mystery, and I appreciate any input I can get. 

Hope you have a great weekend. 

me for a long time because I thought the larger ones might be hairies.  The more I read the more I realized that hairies are significantly larger.  The hairy we had yesterday was even bigger than a red-bellied with a very long, sturdy beak.  There is really no confusing them up close.  From a distance it is more difficult. 

I have at least 3 red-breasted nuthatches this year.  I just looked out and there were 2 on the tree eating suet and one on the wire watching the other two.  They are so cute. 

With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him.  I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces.  The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?

Second child, same experience.  She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs.  I had already put my regular clothes back on as well.  My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.

I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases.  With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.

posted a month or so ago having sent an e-mail to your husband's family regarding your husband's brother who is in jail and the father's apparent favortism?   Just curious if this is the same family we are talking about.  I remember that husband was bipolar and alcoholic.

I don't know the legalities of the situation but you might have to go through the garbage of calling the police, the dramatics and the ER one last and final time.  But then be done with it.  He's not choosing to get better and you can't make him.  Change the locks. 

Be strong.  Hugs to you.   

After I had a surgery 2 years ago, I gained an incredible amount of weight - not water.  Last May I started going to the pool and doing water aerobics every single day for 2 months and changed to a low-fat diet.  I did not lose weight, but I was replacing fat with muscle, which is the first step with the amount of weight I was dealing with.  Then I started getting one URI and sinus infection/ear infection after another.  All that exercise kicked my GI tract into hyperdrive.  Now I have IBS and colitis.  I can't exercise because I have to battle real and exhausting pain for the next 2 hours.  I have pain every single day.  I no longer have hunger pains as normal people do, so I really do have problems knowing when it is appropriate for me to eat.  I've been with 2 different GI's during this time, failed 5 or 6 different medicines, and still can't lose weight, diet or exercise.  My pay has been cut in half.  I had to quit my second job and only work part time now instead of full time - all because I wanted to get healthy and in shape again.

The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues. 

The calling card is yours if you want, but I didn't receive a reply address; the "From" field was blank for some reason.  If you could resend, that would be great! 

You could use all kinds of psychological terms like "codependent" and "enabling" but the fact is, she is a mooch and you are a sucker.

Harsh, I know, because you were trying to be nice and help someone. But there are some people you just can't be "nice" to. They will walk all over you. Obviously, she is one of those people.

If you're angry at anyone, you should be angry at yourself for taking so long to figure this out.

But that would be a waste of time. Chalk it up to experience and move on. Cut your ties with this person as much as possible, and if on occasion you have to see her for whatever reason, practice saying "No. No. NO."