No problem cashing out. We're "over the hill"
Posted By: Backwards typist on 2009-01-10
In Reply to: I would not cash it out. If he wants it so -sm -
All we have to do is pay taxes on what we take out. We did find a car we would love to own but it's $6000 for a 2003 with less than 100,000 miles on the engine. We probably can't get a car loan but they want $1600 down which would be no problem right now, but we have no idea when he would be going back to work, if he does, depending on highway construction jobs.
We're kinda in a darn if we don't and darned if we do situation. I don't want to take any money from my IRA but there''s not much left after the fiasco that happened. I lost mucho dollars as did he. We will never be able to retire on what's left now.
We're at the age now where we don't pay penalties on any distribution of our IRA so it wouldn't hurt us that bad. We would also pay the taxes on the 20% distribution necessary.
Has anyone tried hose "we can get you a car for less" deals? I thik they are a rip off, but not quite sure. I didn't really get into those sites.
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Either "Over It" or "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" according to
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You reply was the reason I am cashing
the check because I have seen where an innocent deposits a check, check no good and then fees are hooked onto your account. I have heard of that happening.
over the hill
You can't take it with you!
We get our used cars from a broker who goes to car auctions. They are lease or rental returns and you can be very picky about what you want with how many miles, etc. Used cars are becoming scarce in this economy though, so I really would not wait. The broker comes to my city to get the cars, but I do have to drive about 150 miles to his dealership to buy the car. A good broker is worth the drive.
Good luck!
Faith Hill
I was pleased to see a genuine reaction. When they smile and clap for the other person, we all know it's phony - each of them thinks they will win.
As far as Carrie Underwood winning the award, I agree with Faith - WHAT???? She isn't in the same league with the other nominees and had no business being nominated. Just because someone dreams of some thing doesn't mean they deserve to have it. Being the most popular, which is what American Idol is all about, does not mean you have a shred of talent. The song leaders in my local church have more talent than Carrie Underwood.
Over the Hill Party sm
You can have a big bash with old friends from school, stating no gifts, and just have refreshments and put on a favorite football game.You could have a team theme. There are plenty of "over the hill" items around. A few friends or just the family, you can buy napkins, plates, etc., at a party store. Depends on his personality, Spencer Gifts is great for small stuff, but be careful, some of it is adults only. If money is tight, you could do a "Dollar Store Only" gift party which would apply to him. My husband has a terrific sense of humor, so it was easy. He likes to cook, so I bought him a paper chef's hat at a party store and a big frying pan and some oven mitts. I asked others just to bring funny over-the-hill cards only, no gifts. There are tons of possibilities, it depends on his personality. I happen to have one that loves funny gifts and feels embarrased if anyone gives him money or gifts. If he isn't that type, then something more sedate would be in order. The main thing - have fun! If your transcription money is just rolling in - a big TV to watch the game or his favorite show. (That's a joke.)
May be a mole's hill to you but
I hate for my daughter, who by the way suffers from a life-threatening disease, to spend Christmas day alone. Except for a half brother, I am the only family she has. I don't know how it is done in your family, but most of mine usually like to spend that day with family. Thanks anyway for the concern you show.
Anybody see the Faith Hill freak-out on...
I didn't see the show, but saw the video on, what is it, utube or youtube? Anyhow, I googled it and the video came up...can't tell if it's for real or not! If it is, she's a sore loser! 
I think Faith Hill is over-rated
I never did get the big buzz about her. If she weren't married to Tim no one would have ever heard of her. She's an opportunist and looks like a gawky dodo bird. I'm glad she finally got busted for being the insincere phony she truly is.
Right now the Fugees/Lauren Hill :)
I love her version of Killing me Softly. If you haven't heard it, check it out. :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYl2pztQjdM
Oh I love Lauren Hill!
First tune I heard of her's, Everything is Everything, it brought out the soul sista in me! Her voice is awesome!
Nothing, live at the top of a reallly big hill
and the kids don’t climb this hill. I am glad because then I don’t have to run every 5 minutes or so to the door. Have done my share in the past.
I can just picture that hill in my mind. LOL! I think
I am going to try that this year. Great idea.
Ted Kennedy back on Capitol Hill
returning to work 6 months after his brain cancer diagnosis. He looks and sounds great. Good to see him back. He has his wife and dogs with him too.
Faith Hill's only talent is hitchin' her proverbial wagon
She has no more talent than Carrie does. As a matter of fact, Carrie's better and didn't need to marry a big name to break into show business.
Haley and I think she sang If My Heart Had Wings by Faith Hill. She is okay but -sm-
Sabrina deserved to stay. I don't think Antonella should have made it to the top 24. I think the producers had to know about her background and put her on to give the show more attention (not that it needed any). I agree with the poster from the other day that only two of the winners deserved to win, Carrie and Kelly although I have not purchased anything of Taylors. I have purchased cds by Clay, Kimberly Locke and Josh Gracin and they are all excellent. I even purchased a short cd by Carmen Rasmussen that wasn't too bad. Rubin and Fantasia were not my type of singers. I am sure they have a lot of fans to get where they are but they were not my favorites and I would probably not buy any of their music.
I did the macarena with a stuffed animal sliding down a hill, because I'm NOT crazy!
xx
Global warming - faction, fiction, political, mountain or mole hill
Trying to get a handle on whether people have bought into the global warming thing.
Do you believe it whole-heartedly 100% Gore-ly, or do you believe the scientist who have been studying global warming/cooling.
Also, do you believe a lot of it is politically-oriented.
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
you're welcome. nm
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I see what you're saying...but
heaven forbid, they break up and one of them dies, wouldn't you want the same thing. If she were to die, wouldn't she want her husband to have the same choice she is wanting??? I guess I'm just concerned with pushing this on the husband and he doesn't want to do it. I hope it all works out though. This is a hard decision to make.
You're welcome!
I hope you can come up with something, I've "been there and done that".
Should be you're not, not your not
and actually in the minority as I do work a full 8 hour day, no chasing after kids, walking the dogs, doing housework so you got it exactly right, in the minority as opposed to a lot I read about on here.
Aww, sorry you're going through that...sm
My husband can get into moods also, but I honestly won't allow him to talk to me like that. In every relationship I've ever been in, I wouldn't allow it. In the beginning when I was pregnant with our second child, I wrote him a long letter telling him I needed more help and would not accept anything less. I was so stressed out with working at home and taking care of a 2-year-old and being pregnant. That was it! Ever since then, I swear he does more than me! If he talks to me in a certain way, I demand an apology and I get it, not always right then, but a little later. He knows I won't take it. We've been together for 15 years now, and that is a big thing in keeping us strong. He doesn't take my crap, either:-) He's still my best friend so it's worth it to make it work. Stand up to him and make him respect you! I say that with much care.
Because you're mom, LOL.
Moms just know these things.
We're all in this together ...
I think. It's always reassuring for me to know that other people are dealing with the same stuff I am.
She was furious when she found out I had gone through her purse, but too bad. You live in my house, you live by my rules, sweetheart.
Another thing that gets me is where she was getting the stinkin' things anyway. She works in a restaurant where her coworkers smoke but I hope they would know better to get them for a minor. As far as I know, she hasn't started up again.
you're welcome--sm
a lot of physicians are almost insistent on someone taking the synthroid, and it makes me wonder how much stock they have purchased with the manufacturer. They always try to say we don't need the T3 that is included in the Armour, but I know I feel a whole lot better with taking it. I didn't even know I had a thyroid problem until I went to a doc with flu like symptoms and wanting to sleep 14 hours a day. I saw a doc from India in an urgent care clinic, who I had never seen before. I was hardly in the door yet and he said *how long have you had that goiter?* I was stunned. I had seen so many doc's in between and none of them ever picked up on this. I was on synthroid for five years, and never really felt much difference. I read up on thyroid problems from all sorts of web sites and decided to try the armour. Unfortunately my doc at that time would not prescribe it for me. HE did not believe it in. *hmmmm*. I had to go to an endocrinologist, as well, and still had to BEG to try it. He reluctantly gave it to me and it took a while to get it up to the level that would even out my TSH levels, but I am now at 120 mg and seem to be holding. I do feel better, but as I said earlier, I still battle with weight loss/gain. but every body is different. stick to your guns, get what you want, and check back in three months or so and let me know how you are feeling/doing. email me if you wish.
If that's what they're doing ...
it's fine with me. I thought it was interesting, but different that we suddenly focused on 2 characters I didn't remember. But there they were in scenes from the past that I did remember, LOL.
No, we're not out there saying come on
But by nature cats do roam. We have a big field in our back yard and he only goes out early in the morning and goes through the brush. He comes up on them when they fly up and he will jump straight up after them. I have gotten many away from him simply because the first thing he does is bring them to the back door, but when he meows to be let in, they fly away. My husband and I certainly aren't thrilled about it, especially during the springtime, but cats do go after birds and the big old hawks flying around our house could easily scoop up our tiny little female kitty, and I suppose that would make it even?
You're right
Trying to leave while he is there, especially in the middle of an argument, is a gesture, not a serious attempt at leaving. All it does is make him angry and more vigilant.
And you're right that even the best organization can't guarantee complete safety. But they can offer shelter, advice, compassion, and some safety. It's better than trying to do it on your own.
I'm sorry if you have been in this situation before. No one should have to go through that. But unfortunately, many, many women do, every day.
Maybe you're right about his
tummy hurting. You can give dogs Pepcid; ask if you can give something like that to your cat to try.
Are you aware of any weird low-cal foods your cats like? Like cooked vegetables? If so, maybe that would help. Or offer grass to chew in the house.
I'd go to one of those holistic places and see if they have suggestions. They might even have aromatherapy for cats, HA!
I agree it's hard to correct a cat's bratty behavior. Next time consider a dog, LOL.
Tell us what they're about, or if there's another
author you could compare them too. Are they romances, mysteries, stories about moms or what?
you're welcome............sm
there's a lot to them to explain and I will supply one of 1000s of links...but to me it's like a person is damned if they do, damned if they don't living with one of these types....
here's the link :)
http://www.ptypes.com/passive-aggpd.html
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're so not alone on this one!
I've been going through some extreme stress of late...I actually asked for a "mental health day" yesterday and was refused...and I don't ask for nuthin' unless I really need something. I was going to take that time to go for a hike in the woods--that always clears my head and relaxes me.
But right now I'm waiting on a delivery of firewood soon...I find that taking an hour or so to stack it or chop it works for me, but that's just because I'm a psycho. ;-)
I hope you find some relief soon--I totally know where you're coming from!
Can't really help, but you're not alone!
Unfortunately with mine I pretty much always ended up in the hospital on IV medication after days of vomiting. I got them every month with my cycle, so eventually the doctor put me on the Depo shot so I wouldn't have my cycle and that pretty much stopped the headaches. However, I just stopped taking the shot for other medical reasons and I definitely fear those headaches! I'm so sorry you have to deal with them!
You're welcome
Neither of my parents was alcoholic but our family was MAJORLY dysfunctional. So I can definitely relate. And I have a son who is 20 years old. Seems just yesterday he was in middle school....sigh.
OMG, I think you're right
Just call me stupid. LOL. I looked up GE Owens Illinois, and I think that did pop up, but I thought he said "in" and not "and". Thank you so much.
you're welcome *S*
For the entire month of Ramadan, the folks of the Muslim/Islamic faith fast all day (but go to work and all the stuff they normally do but cannot ingest anything during daylight hours) and then eat/party all night....
Maybe not what you're looking for, but
I just went upstairs for more coffee and one of my cats was playing soccer with a dead cricket on the kitchen floor. He seemed quite content , but I still had to throw it away.
I wish my cats were more sociable. My young male, Tripp, will come downstairs a couple of times a day, sniff everything and go back upstairs. I hardly see my female, Lucky, at all during the day. Not that I want them knocking stuff off my desk while I'm trying to work, but there must be a happy medium somewhere.
Ya know you're right....
time with your kids is the best thing no matter what you eat!
I think you're right
Hopefully the school will do something, or else the ex will decide to homeschool if he's really fanatic about this. I do plan on calling the school on Monday and see if they will discuss this with me.
You're welcome! (nm)
"nm" means no message...but since you are here,
What kind of makeup do ghosts wear?
Mas-SCARE-a
I've been working too long.
Cause you're there and cause they can!
I know exactly what you're going through!
I think I was in as much pain if not more when my child's heart was broken. I think it is very sweet your son is sharing this with you and all you can really do is offer comfort and understanding. Lots of kind words such as "this will get better" and "if it's meant to be, it will be". Obviously the situation you describe has gone on since the beginning of time (well ok not quite) but it is very common when one goes off to college. So sorry you both are going through this :(
You're right (sm)
You're right and I do tell them how lucky they are and tell them she loves them and remind them that she won't be around forever. I am thankful for her...not trying to get rid of her...just trying to decide whether to force my kids to spend the night or not.
You're Welcome - NM
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