No outside contact & children and women taught
Posted By: outside world is dangerous and scary, to be feared on 2008-04-17
In Reply to: About polygamist compound - the polygamy doesn't - bother me-forced marriages do (sm)
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Contact your local battered women's shelter
Go out of the house to do it, call from a pay phone, not your cell phone or anywhere that it would leave a trace. They will be able to help you get out of there safely. It is dangerous to try to do this on your own, especially if your husband will come looking for you. You need the help of people who are experienced with this kind of situation and can offer you a safe haven while you are figuring out your next move.
Call them TODAY. Don't wait any longer. Just tell your husband you need to go to the grocery store (and be sure you come home with some groceries). Call them from a pay phone. If you don't know the name of your local battered women's shelter, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and they can guide you. There is a link below to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Good luck. Please keep us updated on your situation.
Much harder with women with children who work
outside the home. This is a piece of cake compared to mothers who not only have to get their children ready for school and/or nursery and then get them there. I have done both, much easier this way.
Abusive to women, animals - thank goodness there are no children involved. (sm)
get her out of that situation before any more harm comes about.
Youngest daughter once dated a guy and we discovered she was afraid to not be ready on time, to wear something he didn't like, etc. Soon we found out there were bruises on her upper arms and near her breasts. Needless to say, we marched her to the courthouse, got an ex parte. He broke into our house after that when he thought she was home alone, we pressed charges and had that young man paying court costs for quite some time in addition to going to anger management classes.
We were lucky, we got her out before it was too late. He had her emotionally beat down to the point she couldn't stand up on her own. Heaven help those without a support system.
I was always taught the same sm
It is the thought that counts but I just could not justify that last Christmas.
My MIL (who I get along with great) collects a particular item (she has well over 100) and gives me and my SIL one every Christmas. At Thanksgiving I politely told her I just didn't have the room for anymore. I also told my SIL that if given the chance please tell her mother I don't want another one. She just laughed and said I don't think that is what she is going to get you. Even SIL agrees her mother's collection is way out of hand.
When I opened my gift from her it was of course this particular item I did not want. Her exact words were "I know you said you didn't want or need another one but I thought this one would be useful." I did thank her but I assure you it was not the most sincere thank you.
I think this year for Christmas I will give her a bottle of wine and say "I know you don't drink, but I do and this way when I visit I can have a glass." LOL!
I was taught
I was taught that a woman can be assertive, but it is rude to be aggressive. Guess shoes have different rules LOL
That's what we were always taught
We were told growing up that the use of foul language just showed how limited someone's vocabulary was. And I will say that most of the people I know well do NOT use the F word on a casual basis. For that matter, most of the people I know do not curse at all on the average day.
I always think it's bizarre that movies use so much gratuitous cursing, considering that is not how most people talk. At least that's what I thought.
And you were not taught manners
growing up - so rude.....Your post sounds like the wedding gift receipt I got which was also rude - the couple already had a thank you printed out- I took the time to get them 1 - they should have the decency to write a quick note- to have printed was not the way I was brought up.
So sorry I was taught as a child if given something
I should say thank you and accept, but then my mother taught me manners. If you do not like a gift you receive you can a) return or b) pass it on to someone who will. I give what I want to and if you don’t like, then do 1 of the above. Mind your manners. When I give something, I do not ask a person what they want and my gift comes because I want to give, not have to.
I was taught to be gracious
Regardless of the gift, you must always be gracious. They didn't need to give you anything at all and I was taught it was the thought that counts. What you do with it afterwards is up to you, but I have a few hideous gifts hanging around yet that I don't part with because of who gave them to me. A particularly creepy clown music box given to my kids comes to mind. It was given to them by an old lady who lived next door to us and I guess she thought it was nice. My kids are grown now but they said that thing always gave them the willies! LOL!
That's how I taught my kids.
Why would you call them anything different? I raised my children as to be intelligent human beings and never, ever used "baby talk" with them.
If you call them the right name from the beginning, the kids don't develop that "embarrassment" about using the right terms later on.
some parents need to be taught to....
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I just think this younger generation just needs to be taught! sm
I am a woman in my 30s. Got married almost 10 years ago. I lived up north for a long time and married a man from the "true" south. Okay. Here I go - and I may get flamed for this, but here I go...When I lived in NY, I NEVER saw a thank-you note or even saw anyone in my family write one. Never. So, I was never "taught" that you write thank-you notes due to my upbringing.
I think it is a cultural thing. Maybe it's even a socioeconmic thing. Yes, we were very poor growing up in NY. Both my parents made around 26,000 combined with 3 children.
Fast-forward. I move down here, meet this amazing guy with a large family - most have money - lots of it - we have a huge wedding - I receive more gifts than I could even count - met people at my wedding I've never seen before in my life - the southern generosity has been overwhelming, and still is. We go on our long honeymoon and when I get home, my MIL calls and says to me, "Mrs. so and so (from the wedding shower), still hasn't received your thank-you note. Maybe you just forgot to send hers out. In any case, just thought I'd let you know! EMBARASSING! So, I pulled out my thank-you cards that came with my wedding invites and began writing thank you notes. That is where the LOVE of writing thank-you notes and just-writing-to-say-hello notes began. I LOVE doing it now. Love it. My family up north and around the country are amazed.
Here again, I was TAUGHT by my new mother-in-law, so to speak, and she did it in a very tactful manner.
Writing notes is just an amazing ministry and I love to do it. I get them printed off and personalized now with either my initial or my full name. You can get them on ebay, they will print 20 of them for you with corresponding envelopes for around 10 bucks.
Anyways, this was my experience.
My grandpappy from Arkansas taught
me to make cornbread, not sweet, heat cast iron skillet with grease (to which corn meal has been sprinkled) til it smokes then pour in the batter, let the oil ooze up on top. It turns out crunchy crust. So good!! He used to eat it cold crumbled into a glass of buttermilk!
Spanking just taught my child it was okay to hit.
We never spanked our kid until he was around 2.5. Then dad got fed up with his behavior one day and spanked him. We also tried swatting him on the hand when he did something bad. Now my son has decided that hitting is what we do when we are mad and now hits me whenever he is upset. He never did this until he started receiving spankings. I really don't think spanking/switching is the answer and just sends the wrong message to the kids. But that is just my opinion and I realize everyone is entitled to raise their kids as they see fit.
I've been taught 'Herb' is the name, and
Jesus himself taught us not to judge others - let he who is without sin (sm)
cast the first stone. None of us has any right to say anything about how anyone else is living. We need to take care of the log in our own eye.... remember?
As an MT you have to be flexible and inventive, that's was I was taught!..nm
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I was taught to "always ignore the ignorant."
Unfortunately, I've run into people like that before, and I just ignore the comment, make nice chit-chat for a few minutes and "see you later alligator." At least, I demonstrated what my values are and did not degrade myself to their level. The main word here is "ignorant." There are so many people out there that are ignorant of their own manners, ignorant of other people's feelings, just tactless mules.
Grandpa from Tennessee taught me to cook it
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Also, abstinence is taught regularly - kids'
We were always taught abstinence when I was in school. It was practically shoved down our throats, and I would estimate that only about 10% of the student population actually abstained. That is great for them, and they should be proud, but you can't leave the other 90% in the dark about safe sex, because they will be having it, and isn't better if they know all about the possible consequences of their actions and how to be as safe as possible? That's just my view of it. Safety first!
Of course I would want to be equally valued. Why can't that be taught at home? nm
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I find it very offensive that is how you taught your daughter to vote
if my other post is deleted, just thought id add some more.
Not only is it ridiculous that you told your daughter to vote that way, it is ignorant and racist and REALLY SAD
but you just admitted what this election came down to RACE
NOT POLICIES, NOT WHO IS THE BEST FOR THE JOB.
RACE. Exactly what President Elect didn't want it to be about.
how sad are you telling your mixed baby to vote more black than white, when Obama himself is black and white.
sickening and you should be ashamed, how can you live with yourself knowing that you didn't back your vote on intelligence but skin color instead? you just took us back 40 years and admitted it.
there are PLENTY of black republicans, Condeelza Rice, JC Watts, Michael Steele ETC ETC
and this guy my favorite
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV1mRvxAyHM
AND
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxhYampIl7A&feature=related
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Emeril Legasse taught me about hard-boiled eggs
Emeril says to put the eggs in the pot with the cold water, and wait for it to boil, when it's a rolling boil, shut off the stove, and cover the pot for 13 minutes - and voila!! Perfect hard-boiled eggs!!
*S*
How do you feel about toddlers being taught to call their private parts
a v*gina and a peni$ ? Just wondering
Contact
the attorney general in your area. You should not be responsible for these charges. You are a victim - not the bad guy. Find a new phone company if this one will not work with you to resolve this. Good luck!
I would contact them...
and talk it over. Banks and finance companies will say that the worst thing to do (in most cases) is file bankrupcy right away without talking it over with them first because they do want thier money. The majority of places will try to work with you. Been in those shoes. I consolidated mine, took me a little longer to pay it off but it was easier to pay 1 amount than all 3 and not cringe each time the phone rang. Had one card that said. Okay pay this amount for 3 months with no late fees (virtually nothing)and then pick up from there. I will live to regret that I'm sure but it helped me out at the time. Sometimes you can call and ask to skip a payment. They tack it on the end and charge you but if it helps it helps. You will sometimes find that if you ask a loan company for a "consolidation loan" they will say they don't do those. Instead give the amount for payoff of total bills or darn near it and try to go from there. I think the best thing is to explain your situation to them and ask for options or ideas or at least try to.
Maybe you should contact your vet
and ask if anything unusual happened (not that they would tell you a horror story if it did), but maybe something small happened to trigger it that they would recall.
Aside from that they might have come across this type of thing and know of some ways to sooth the puppy.
Your son doesn't have anything on him that a dog might smell and freak out about, does he?
This will sound corny, but maybe your son could think of something really sad and lie on the floor crying. Maybe the puppy would see his vulnerablility and empathize with him and lose fear.
Probably not but maybe they'd contact them to be on the show! ; )
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I would say either try a contact person where the
contact may be someone in the Social Services for your state. Maybe even the Division of Child Welfare. I would look in the phonebook under government agencies. I bet a social worker may be able to help or guide you in the right direction. I knew someone who had a child with cerebral palsy that took the insurance offered from the employer, but was able to get Medicaid for the child as a supplement for things the primary did not cover. I am not sure if this is state-by-state though. Hope this helps. Good luck to you and your daughter as her children do need health insurance.
Maybe you should contact the company...
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I would contact you doctor.
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Definitely contact your doctor sm
You didn't mention where on your back the mole was, but particularly if it was on your upper back near your neck, I would be concerned about the swollen and tender lymph nodes.
Regardless, you need to talk to your doctor. The lymph nodes could even be a completely separate issue, but it is definitely a sign that there is a problem.
Good luck!
it's better for us not to have contact with people like that
stay away from her, don't comment much to family members about it, eventually they'll get used to the way things are now.
Contact your local ACO....
Call your local animal control officer, or if you don't know the contact info for them, the police should. It's their job to calmly address the situation. It's not fair to you to listen to this poor animal all day long. I would also mention that you fear for not only the animals safety, but also your own. I'm sure it is on record anyway from the prior incident but wouldn't hurt to bring it up again. I would definitely not approach the people one-on-one, especially given their past behavior.
I'm sorry you're going through this. 
I would contact a hospice...
My grandmother just passed away, and for her last week she was at a local hospice. They were so wonderful and caring there and really helped us all deal with her dying. Even if your mom doesn't go to hospice care (which I highly recommend when she is very close), I would call a hospice and ask them for recommendations for grief counseling. I can't say enough about how wonderful they were, and they really helped my mother deal with the loss of her mother. They also provided morphine so we could rest assured she was not in pain once she wasn't able to communicate any longer. I am sorry that you are losing your mother. I am sure it is difficult at any age.
I would contact everyone on the IEP team (sm)
and let them know you are not being informed as you should be. Also, if they cannot handle it at your school, then he could be transferred to another school (at his current school's expense; they would also have to provide transporation). You do have a lot of rights here, and this is federally mandated, not state. Good luck.
Maybe try limiting contact to
just phone calls. That will let her know that you are cooling off the visitation with her but not make you look ungrateful. If she brings up never seeing the children, I would let her know politely that you thought she didn't care to have them visit since they always seem to "act up" at her house. If DH wants to see her DH, then let him visit him alone. Is there a close neighbor or friend that could keep your girls while you visit your aunt once in a while? I take it she lives nearby if your boss has contact with her. If she asks why you didn't bring the children, again - say that you thought it would be better for her if you didn't bring them anymore since their behavior doesn't meet her standards. She should get the hint pretty quickly.
I definitely agree with you that she should not be pushing her discipline methods on you. You are the parent and only you and DH should have any say in how you choose to discipline your children and whether or not they even need it. I will say from experience that the previous generation seems to think we don't know how to handle our kids. I think a lot of that has to do with the state this country is in, but I don't believe it falls directly on our shoulders. Afterall, our kids weren't even born when things started to go downhill. Maybe it's all the hairbrushes and flyswatters that are causing some of these problems.
It is already from a safe contact
I can open all mail, but where pics should be (and were before hotmail changed the look) are just boxes. It isn't just from one contact, but from all my contacts that I used to receive pics from. Now what? I sent an email to the contact site, but they have not answered me yet.
Contact Ebay again.
It may just be delayed shipping with all the holiday rush. I haven't shipped anything this year but in the past the post office has told me they don't guarantee the same as normal.
sort of still keep in contact, but
They didn't go to HS with me. One I've known since probably 1978 when I was 8 and she was 6 and we were visiting here on vacation, then my family moved here and she and I have been BF since 1985...only keep in touch by email and occasional phone calls.
My other one I've known since 1995 and we're in touch by email too.
Our lives are just too complicated and too far apart by distance to really see eachother, but we can catch up instantly with eachother even if it has been a while
If you live in HOA, can you not contact
the president of the association. You do not have to give your name, just tell them the address or name of the offenders and the association should take care of this for you. I also am in association and the rules here are no animals are suppose to run loose in the neighborhood. If I see an animal loose, I figure probably is lost.
Can you contact someone for advice?...sm
It's a potato uprising, I tell you. Seriously, sorry you got hurt. Can you talk to a pharmacist? How about a nurse help line, maybe through a hospital or insurance company? I hope you heal soon.
You need to contact the supreme Court
Florida tried to make sacrificing animals illegal but were overturned by the Supreme Court in 1993 for interfering with religious practices.
Use of emergency contact info
You know how when you go to the dentist office, enroll your child in day care, fill out a job application, everyone wants contact information "in case of emergency." Maybe I'm different from everyone else, but I consider an emergency as defined by my falling to the floor clutching my chest while my lips turn blue and I can't talk, or falling down 5 flights of steps, or being hit by a car...you get the idea.
I no longer have a good relationship with my mother (75) because she is getting senile. I can't trust that anything she knows about me won't make the gossip curcuit as the truth or something totally different, plus she wants to die on her own property without anyone else another and be found days later by some unknown stranger who notices her body out in the yard...so I don't visit, either. Last time I visited, her whole face was black and blue because she had passed out and fallen face down on a concrete pad where she stayed until the next day when she was finally able to stand up and go inside, then hide from the world for almost a month...I happened to visit her within a week of it happening. I don't want to be the one who finds her dead on another visit.
The reason this is important is because of a legal situation that I am in totally unrelated to her and I have a gag order on me...and she can't talk to me without taking "no" for an answer when she quizzes me about it, which she will do every single time we talk. So, I've just had to say, have a nice life, love you, let instructions to my sister to call me if anyone needs me.
Now it comes back to those old applications I filled out. My phone number changed and my dentist used my mother's "emergency" contact information to try to reach me, going into great detail the nature of why they were calling. It was just my 6 months cleaning, but I didn't even schedule it because I was moving and changing jobs and couldn't predict if I could keep an appointment 6 months in the future. So my mother calls my ex-husband, my ex-mother-in-law, trying to reach me for this "emergency". My ex-hubby called me.
This is so embarrasing to me. If someone dies, let my sister call me. I don't know what to do or how else to get across to her that she doesn't have the right to interfere in my affairs. The dentist office made the first wrong, and her trying to "save" me was the next one. I'm almost 50 years old and I think I can take care of myself, thank you very much. I let the dentist office have it with both barrels. That was abuse of a reason to call my mother as an "emergency" and they have taken her info out of their system. I have even had to change physicians because my mother and I had the same primary care, and all my visits were relayed to her by the staff..."oh, your daughter looked so good when she was here last week!", which prompts a phone call to my ex-hubby. ARRRGH!! Violation of HIPAA!
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? I'm almost at the point of having a lawyer draft a letter to her. I'm past the point of feeling bad about hurting her feelings as she shows no consideration for mine.
If you are serious contact the seller/bank- sm
and make an offer. How low they will go depends on how long they have been trying to sell, what they have invested in it. IF the previous owners owed a lot on it, the bank will probably still want fair market value. Years ago I thought about buy the house next door to my parents (about 3500 sq ft with a huge 2 car garage and an old pool that either needed to be filled in or total destroyed and redone), I went through it with the relator. The house was about 30 years old then, the previous owners and their 6 kids had basically destroyed it, burned/scratched up hardwood floors, broken doors, windows, etc. the kitchen was original from 1964 as were the bathrooms, etc. It needed lots of work, a new roof, you name it, it needed it. The bank would not take less than $200K-- I was not willing to spend that kind of money on a house that needed at least $100K worth of work on it. They eventually got some sucker to pay it though; and boy did they spend some cash on it. Looks great now and work about $400K at least, but they probably spent that much to fix it and buy it. --- one note of caution when you buy a forecloser though, I believe previous owner has a year to reclaim the property-- if they show up with back payments in hand, etc. they can take the house back from you, improvements and all and you do not get a penny back. So be subtle in your home improvements or wait a year to do anything major.
contact Anderson Cooper at CNN...nm
Have had no contact with sister for 5 years
5 years free of hysterical calls at all hours that go on for hours, crazy accusations, death threats, trying to turn other relatives against me, her demanding praise for the tiniest things and putting me down every chance she gets, cops at my door if she gets a scratch on her car because "I must have done it because I'm stalking her".
Nope, don't miss her at all.
You contact first the seller on ebay
and then ebay directly if it is not resolved.
Do you wear contact lenses? sm
I had giant cell papilloma on the inside of my lid once from my lens. Not painful, occasionally itchy, but really not bothersome. Doc told me to stop wearing the lenses a few weeks, maybe gave me drops (happened a long time ago), and the condition resolved.
Hope you heal soon, whatever it is.
You should contact animal control
Leaving a dog tied up like that and barking incessantly is abuse for one thing. Surely there is some kind of animal control or even the police you could report to?
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