No experience at all with this, just what I saw on a Dr. Phil one time -
Posted By: mlt on 2007-07-31
In Reply to: Very silly question - I know but have to ask (sm) - Butter and clutter
He said when you can walk away knowing you have turned over every stone you could and feel that nothing else can be done and you have no regrets whatsoever, you are ready for a divorce.
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Nausea is a horrible thing to experience! 3 weeks is a long time to feel this way....
Anesthesia can take a little while to wear off, each person is different in the way that it affects them initially and afterward, however 3 weeks is quite a long time to feel this way. The nausea could be caused by a series of things...general side effect of medication/allergic reaction, maybe even an underlying infection of some sort. I would not hesitate to contact the primary care physician, the surgeon, or any physician on call. It would be in the best interest of your mother to seek medical attention as quickly as possible. Also, consider any medications that she is taking for pain or even just her regular meds- sometimes this type of reaction can be caused by a combination of medications. Just a thought.
I hope that she gets feeling better really soon. Nausea is horrible, especially when you have it 9 months through an entire pregnancy! :)
Please keep us posted!
No experience with the program but definitely experience with the symptoms! nm
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I like her far better than Phil.....nm
What would Dr. Phil say?
We teach people how to treat us, so stop telling people to treat you like a doormat. I know this can be very hard to change, but I did it myself a few years ago with my own situation. People were not happy at first, but guess what? They got over it and now I am treated the way I deserve. Life is too short for this stuff! Best of luck to you.
I think it is Dr. Phil who says
that use of sarcasm and lack of respect for ones spouse is the biggest risk factor for divorce.
It sounds like your husband thinks he is a lot smarter and busier than you are, so he's saying you are taking up too much of his time or take too long to say things that he already knows or aren't of any importance.
So he is definitely not your friend and he won't even pretend to respect you. He yells in anger. Your children are witnessing all of this.
(He'd fit right in at Dr. Phil's Man Camp).
Talk to your pastor or other counselor at church and ask them what to do. You need counseling to repair your self-esteem, and he definitely needs Christian counseling, because he is not treating you the way the Bible tells a man to treat his wife.
Punxatawney (?sp) Phil
didn't see his shadow - spring is just around the corner!    
I would think Dr. Phil & Oprah would have
covered these topics. They might even have that sort of information on their websites. Your mother might believe them over these men. Or undoubtedly Reader's Digest. If one of my parents were acting like this I'd seriously think they were getting something like Alzheimers, losing their good judgement.
I don't get to watch Dr. Phil much, but I did --sm
happen to see the same show you are talking about. It was VERY eye opening. I felt so bad for the woman who was involved with this scammer. It is much the same as women who get *involved* with men in prison. All these men want is money and they do not care who they get it from.
Even if the mom has no money, he does not care. His *anger* is just a ploy to make her feel guilty. I can guarantee that he has no son, he is not who he says he is, and he is probably in the middle east somewhere, as I do believe the man on Dr. Phil was in the middle east and tried to pass off his accent as from somewhere else. Please don't be too hard on your mom. She is vulnerable and *love smit*, but she needs to know the truth. Perhaps contact the Dr. Phil show and they may send a tape of that show, or he may have some personal advice for her. Good luck.
Any Dr. Phil fans out there?
He came to our town several weeks ago to help kick of the Toys for Tots campaign. Some of that will be featured on his show today.
You need Dr. Phil, not a bunch of MTs.
Your husband has big problems.
Have you been on Dr. Phil? I swear I saw this on his show.
Stand up for yourself. Stop caterting to this man. Give him a dose of his own medicine. Do for only you and your children, and I mean, cooking, cleaning, etc. And if your family likes him, so what, they dont have to live with him.
anybody looking forward to todays Dr. Phil???
cant wait, mine comes on in 1 hour...central time..
Dr. Phil would say to lock the door.
If they knock, you ask if their hair is on fire. If it's not, then you tell them it can wait.
He's actually talking about interruptions of something else, but I thought of his advice anyway.
Not the OP, but I can't stand Oprah or Dr. Phil and
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Dr. Phil had a segment on this yesterday sm
He had a segment how wrong it is to do this to your children. It was his first show he ever did. He said the mom is doing so much better since his show. He is bringing back some of his most favorite shows.
Dr. Phil DID cover this very topic a few months ago...
and there was a guy who supposedly went to Africa and needed all this money to eat, get out of prison, get home to see this woman he was chatting with and told he loved so much. She fell for the whole thing until Dr. Phil exposed the whole story on his show and had other women there who had also fallen for this guy and sent him money. I don't know if you can get a DVD of the show or not, but it might be worth it to try.
votefortheworst.com now is encouraging votes for Phil.
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Eek, can't stand Phil and his googly eyes.
Phil Spector murder trial. Anyone
been watching that on Court TV? Don't you think Phil Spector, with his "new hair do", looks like Pee Wee Herman???? LOL.
They have been off for the past 2 days due to one of the defense lawyers having to go to the hospital. Kind of interesting to watch trials on T.V.
Don't care for Phil or Oprah, never watch them. nm
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Phil Spector did an album many moons ago with SM
the Ronettes, Shirelles and others, in that great Phil Spector way, which is my favorite. All good songs, Frosty the Snowman, Winter Wonderland. Makes me feel happy.
Yes, I know Phil is nuts, but the album (cd) is great.
If it were me, I would go to Dr. Phil Mcgraw web site and email him. See what he would suggest.
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Agree with you, and what's up with Phil Stacey's eye brows? Creepy! nm
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No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
Do any of you experience this???
Do any of you transcriptionists experience severe pedal edema with foot pain? My left foot is quite swollen, has been for quite some time, but I recently developed rather severe pain in my left foot, tender to touch, and painful to walk. Ideas what the pain might be from, and do any of you experience this? I'm sure the edema is from sitting, but the pain??
Anybody have experience with
smokless tobacco, snuff and what the effects are? My son is 18, will be 19 in 3 months. I found out over this past summer he was using this and I was not very happy about it. Does it get you high or something? He has a glassy-eyed look after he uses this product. I have gone on line to read about it, but it only states it puts nicotine into your system.
He said he would stop while he was away at college. He has been home since last Friday and this morning I just found out he is still using it and lying to me. He has been a runner all throughout high school and very athletic. I am very saddened by this development in his life.
Yes, he is an adult but not of age to buy this or even alcohol. That also was an issue over the summer and do not want to think about that today as I will really have a melt down. Any thoughts or advise would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
A very sad Mom today.
No experience
But thank God they found it early. Keep up your spirits and vitamins, keep your body as healthy as you can, eat the right foods and stay physically and mentally strong, cancer is no longer a death sentence remember that...
My experience..........sm
We lived in south Florida when our son was born, and at 6 weeks we traveled 16 hours to see our family. Our daughter was 3-1/2. We just took our time....I stopped to breastfeed him, took walks at rest areas, and still made good time. Mine tended to drop off to sleep as soon as the car began moving, so that made it easier. Our daughter would get car sick and had to sit in the front seat to avoid this, so my husband or I always got the backseat anyway. As long as you don't push yourself, it could actually do you good to get away and enjoy yourselves.
I had the same experience (SM)
I have no cellulite anymore either. I went from 235.5 to 112 pounds. I do have a little loose skin on my belly and thighs, but it looks like I had 3 big kids (which I did-my 10 pounder was my biggest). I'm 27, so my skin is a little forgiving still, but the cellulite is gone.
I also had my fair amount of cellulite. It can go away.
Very very little experience
I think the boss must be paying the MT very low and expecting me to pick up the slack and basically retype a lot of it. I'm not happy.
This latest person... she worked a little in a doc's office. No real specialty. She is making terrible errors. It's dangerous. What's worse... the boss can't fix the errors. I really have to do it all. The boss is not all that experienced. Only in the sense of being a business person.
It has been my experience...
that dealing with foreign people (NOT ALL...but some) is extremely difficult. Our favorite Chinese restaurant for example, call in to place an order and after every selection, she says "that all???" Uh no...more ordering..."that all???" My husband said something to her once about it, like asking her to stop doing that, and she said "we very, very busy, hurry up with your order...no time to think about it....what you want?" UHHH......
I can tell you that from my experience sm
it is possible. My experience may be different from most others, but I have seen it happen and end happily. My father divorced my mother when I was 11. I wasn't happy about the divorce (what child would be) but even as a young adult I saw it was for the best. A year later he married my step-mother and they will celebrate 29 years in Sept. They are still incredibly happy. There were many hard times (my older brother and I went to live with them 6 weeks after they married and she had a 5yr old son from her first marriage)and times when I think they almost wanted to just give up, but they didn't and I for one am happy they are still together.
Here's some of my own experience . . .
Your comment about his reading your mind after 10 years caught my attention. I've been married for 23 years, and have known my husband for 27.
Also, I'm the youngest of 7 and the only girl in my family. I have three sons, and I'm an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop. I've lived all my life in a circle of males. Don't ever expect them to read your mind. I know there are plenty of men who are sensitive and can anticipate the feelings of others. In a very wide generalization, well... most men aren't that good at it. They actually appreciate it when you clearly state what you want.
My other words of wisdom about relationships with men... the silent treatment is useless. Don't bother. It's just a respite from arguing for most of them. Speak up. Try to stay calm when you do. (This is MY problem! I'm very passionate when I argue!)
I'm sorry you had such a bad time. Maybe it's time to sit down and have a good talk together about things. Better yet, maybe some counseling would help. In the heat of an argument, alls sorts of things are said. Maybe we mean them when we say them, but later, in calmer moments with hindsight, we wish they were unsaid. Establish goals with your husband, and then move forward together. Get help doing this, if you need it.
My experience
I was allowed to do whatever I wanted when I went to college (I'm only 25 so we're not talking THAT long ago ) as long as I got good grades (my mom was helping pay for college). However, I also had a full time job and went to school full time, had my own car financed by myself, and had my own apartment that I paid for. BIG difference. If my mother had been financing my car with the title in her name, I would understand her wanting to have control over what I did with it. Would I have liked it at 18, no, but I feel that it is the right way to do things. If he wrecks in that car - guess who foots the bill, as I'm sure you know. However, I would ask, does he now or did he ever want to work to pay for a car, etc. and you told him no? If so, I could see how he would get angry. I was allowed to work even in high school as long as my grades were good. And I was allowed to go out with friends as long as I went to work and the grades were good. It taught me how to be responsible come college time.
My experience - sm
First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. A lot of people who have never been through this kind of a loss early in the pregnancy do not realize how hard it really is to work through. I had my miscarriage at 7 weeks and got my period 6 weeks after that. I pray that this time goes easy for you physically and that the next pregnancy is healthy and full term..
Sue-Ellen
In my experience - sm
My family doc is one of the old fashioned types, in that when you see him you see HIM, not a PA or a substitute. He also knows what I do for a living and respects my judgment and takes whatever I say into consideration.
On the other hand, we've been trying to get a diagnosis for my daughter's stomach problems and I have yet to find a doctor who puts any credence into my input. Most just sidestep or just pooh-pooh anything I say.
So, you see, there are both. Your aunt, unfortunately, probably has either not had a doc who listens or (most likely, given her age) is still in the "doctors are gods, don't question them" mindset. Don't let it affect your relationship with her, by any means!
Good luck with your ribs. Nothing worse than an undiagnosed syndrome that you can't treat!
Sorry that was your experience, BUT -
I LOVE that store. I shop there all the time. They have an excellent selection of merchandise, great prices, and I can always find what I need and more each time I shop. I always pay cash, so I cannot address your issues with their credit card. I have also never returned anything to one of their stores, so I have no idea how their in-store customer service is.
I have had the same experience. Every so often I
will wake up paralyzed like that and swear I can feel someone sitting on the edge of the bed. Really creepy.
Any experience with
A long story short; my checking acct was garnished by a bottomfeeder law office/collector for a 10-year-old debt a few months ago. I had to pay them some money to have it released and am making monthly payments. My question is, since I cannot afford the monthly payments they insist I make, as long as I am making some payment, can they garnish my acct again? If anyone knows, I'd appreciate your info!
My experience......
For at least the past 10 years, about a week before my period, I get a very stuffy nose, nearly cannot breath at night unless through the mouth, which then gives me a very dry sore throat. A doc I worked for in Florida said this is not unheard of considering we retain fluid before our periods, some more than others, and with the very stuffy nose I would get a migraine-like headache and ache in my shoulder joints and neck. This would go away almost immediately the day I woiuld start my period. He believes it has something to do with swollen mucous membranes because of inflammation in the body (fluid retention, hormone changes, etc.) which makes sense to me. My ears will even feel stuffy at times. He suggested I try Aleve or plain old aspirin for anti-inflammatory benefit and for me, it did help. It kept the swelling down, which helped everything else. Couldn't believe the difference this made for me.
I know the misery you feel to some degree. Hope this will help you as well.
Anyone have experience with this? sm
I am suffering with perimenopause symptoms here, mostly with insomnia at certain times of the month now, which is really dragging me down. I found a web site called "Women to Women" which sounds like a very good program. Can anyone tell me if they have tried their program and what their experience was? Thanks so much!
my experience
As I stated above, I was in the Army for quite a few years. I had soldiers under me who would have issues now and then. I knew the routes to go and the ropes so to speak of how to get them what they needed. I am sorry but you are not totally correct. Working on an Army base as a civilian is most assuredly not the same thing as being in the Army.
My experience.......
Vista requires a lot of memory (RAM)to run, so I wouldn't have anything less than 4 GB of ram, in order to make sure it doesn't freeze up all the time, which is a big complaint.
My daughter has a new Dell with Vista, 4 gb ram, and says it works great, really fast.
Otherwise, you can order online and get a computer with XP on it, with an upgrade to Vista later. Newegg.com, Tigerdirect.com, Dell..... all these have XP on their computers/laptops.
my experience...
I have a new Dell with Vista and my old computer with XP sitting side by side. I really do not see much difference, except of course my new computer is way faster.
All the accounts I work on support Vista also and I've not had a problem.
Sorry you had this experience with a pit...sm
But I don't believe it is a breed thing. I believe you were unfortunate to have happened to get a pitbull who did this. If your dog hadn't been raised with the cat I would say well that is just a dog being a dog but to be raised together and get along that is weird. But there are other dogs who are capable of attacking. I had a stray mix breed medium size dog. It didn't have any pit in it. I saw it kill a cat in my mother's yard. Brutally killed it. But it wasn't a mean dog to us. It also would try to attack our bealge pups. So I know other dogs are capable of killing animals. The pitbull can do more damage though than most dogs. But I have seen pictures of lab attacks on owners, Dalmation attacks on a child, many others. Any dog can do this. Personally I have a neighbor who had a little chihuahua and it was there little doll. They adored this little dog. Well someone who lives a mile to a mile and a half down the road has a Dalmation. It climbed the fence in its yard and went a mile or more down the road where the little chihuahua was outside peeing and mauled it to death with its owners watching. I mean they said the dalmation just attacked when it seen the little dog no provacation. So I know what other dogs can do too. But most won't. I hope you never have this problem again with any of your dogs. You had a most unfortunate incident with your pitbull and I believe this has rightfully left a bad taste in your mouth for the breed. But try to think of it like this. There are good people and bad people. There are good dogs and bad dogs. We have serial killers and rapists but we also have good people out there. Dogs are not different. Don't look down on the whole breed because of one bad experience. There are so many kind pits out there who have never hurt a living thing. Really.
Not everyone's experience will be the same as yours. sm
Not every teenager who smokes pot ends up like your son. I am sorry you had to go through so much, but as far the OP's son I think you are totally overreacting. When you consider how many teenagers try pot or smoke pot, your son is definitely the exception to the rule.
She's not being a doormat, she did speak to him, and he deserves the benefit of the doubt since there is no evidence of him being high. Teenagers are not perfect, and if they are trying to "clean up their act" they need trust and encouragement.
I have no experience but my DH has. He is 50 and
and just got out of them about 2 years ago. He looks fabulous! The only trouble he had was at first, his mouth was sore for several days, liquid/smooth diet, but after that everything went great. His were on for about 2.5 years and we could see the change after only 3 or 4 months. He is fastidious about his teeth (really always has been) always wears his retainer at night (a very small one inside the mouth at night only). Make sure you wear the retainer after they are off (assuming they give you one). You will be so happy with your results and the time will fly by. My DH was the ortho's oldest patient he had ever had!
use your own experience
to discuss the issues in specific but not personal terms -- unless it just seems that you should take it further for their benefit. Unfortunately i think some kids take it as license to do as they want. i would never lie, but reveal your own experience on a need-to-know basis, in my opinion.
My experience....sm
is that you're the patient and the doctor should respect your requests/observations. Try cutting back to a month between visits and if you're not feeling any worse then you'll know that it's a good increment for you. You could then start trying to wean back to 6-8 weeks and figure out what is the "magic" distance between adjustments for yourself.
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