No excuse for this level of entitlement no matter what your stres level or financial situation is!
Posted By: mtgal on 2007-11-20
In Reply to: What is wrong with people?! - makes me sick
We need to stop making excuses for people feeling the need to be ahead of everyone else. It is called being RUDE. Just my two cents.
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We are at Level I
Now it's freezing rain. I could do without that, but I like the snow!
Yeah he is; my DH is too, but on a different level than yours - sm
Your husband hides it, that is a big sign of being an alcoholic. He drinks alcohol daily. These are 2 major signs; Google for the signs and I am sure you will find more. He is a functioning alcoholic; as is my DH. My DH does not hide it though; though he does hide the number of beers he drinks from the kids (for which I am happy) and from his parents when they visit. He runs off to drink in the bathroom when they are here. My DH know he is an alcoholic though I don't think he still quite believes it. He does not get really drunk though; or his body is so used to it he handles it well. I can only tell when he either gets really really talkative and won't leave me alone, or goes the other extreme and picks a big fight. Mine only drinks light beer which in his twisted mind he thinks that makes it okay because it is less alcohol, by what 1%? So he will down anywhere from 9-12 beers a night; has been doing this for the 12 years I have known him and at least 10 years before that. Yes, it causes problems. I get po'd because he forgets conversations we had, picks horrible fights and then "forgets" all about it and wonders why I am so upset, doesn't believe me when I tell him what he did/said---I think he remembers some of it just choses to act dumb because he knows he was such a jerk the night before. There is an organization for spouses/family of alcoholic, forget the name but it is connected to AA, maybe they can help. I've thought about it myself and may go one of these days once I find a meeting in my area. But they may be able to help you see things more clearly. You probably knew just did not want to admit it, it is easy to ignore and just hope he stops but that is not going to happen believe me.
We are at PANDEMIC LEVEL 5.
Look out! We might get a lot of working coming in. I suspect when the this flu hits secondary stage which is about 87 days we will be at full blown flu mode. Lucky you are at home. Beware, schools might be closing because of this threat of the flu.
Now that takes constipation to a whole new level! - nm
I think it depends on the maturity level more than the age -
My daughter started going home by herself for 30 minutes in the afternoon in 1st grade. We lived in a rural community and only 1/2 mile from my parents home.
However, I did not trust my son to stay at home by himself even when he was 12. It was too dangerous even with careful instructions on what he could and could not do, becuase he would always manage to find something he should not do that was not covered in the could not do's!
Okay, girls, I need some insight here on a personal level. (sm)
I have not had a man in my life for the past 3.5 years. I have tried dating and get asked out all the time, but just no interest in the ones doing the asking I guess. I have a very comfortable life and truly am in no need for a man to take care of me. However, I have known this one particular man for over a year and just very recently our friendship seems to be heading to a different level and for the first time I am very attracted to him. So, the other day he e-mailed me and both of us came clean on our feelings. The problem is that he has had his present girlfriend for the past 7 years...they do not live together and really spend little time together, as their lives are significantly different and when asked why he simply states "it just isn't working out and that he could make more time to see her, but he doesn't"
Okay, so now I know I am going to get flamed, but where do you think it goes from here? Both him and I have a seminar to attend with another man in 2 weeks and will also be staying at the same hotel, etc. and I am just so confused as to how I go about keeping my distance but still wanting him. What to do, what to do......this has been on my mind all day and so has he and I am so not use to these feelings at all....like high school all over again.
Blizzard-like conditions here in Indiana. Level II. SM
Level II means no cars on road unless absolutely necessary. My son was sent home from work. Calling for 8-10 inches of snow. It's the blowing snow that is dangerous.
Wait, there would be professional sports, just not at the level we see now, you know what I mean? nm
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On my own personal level, I am sick and tired of the caveman, and
most of the time look away and/or mute when he comes on. Secondly, the gecko bird reminds me of an old 'friend' who turned out to be as cold blooded as a reptile, nasty tail included. Thus, I would like both removed from advertising forever....honestly.
i agree. I thought the knowledge level was very poor
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Is fireplace on same floor you want to heat? The heat will rise up from a lower level unless you
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The WHO raised it to a phase/level 4 now. A phase
5 is pandemic. SARS never made it to a level 4, so it's getting scary now.
Respect is earned, not demanded, and certainly not an entitlement. nm
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I need help getting Financial Aid
I am a nursing student at Laney College and am in my first semester. I applied for Financial Aid in December, I quit my full time day job in order to complete my 17 units with full attention ( I suffer from ADD and depression and find it diffucult to hold down a full time job and go to school full time). I got a serving job at a nearby restaurant that just opened and wish I didn't, because at most I have maybe A table a shift. I did get another serving/bartending job that doesn't start until next week. SOOOOOOOO here's my problem, I go to the financial aid dept. every week, I have filed a petition for the supervisor to call me, or do something, and they still say it will be 4 to 6 more weeks before I even meet with an officer. Is there anything I can do to further this process? Rent is due in 4 days, and I don't have it, I also applied for the GA and food stamps, but got denied on both, because I am a full time student. If you have any, any, any, suggestions please post, I am so desperate and don't want to drop out, but I might have to.
Financial help suggestions
Friends of ours just got notice from their landlord. Apparently they are about $1900 behind in their rent. I think they have been making partial payments for awhile, not just NOT paying the rent. Anyway, the landlord is now demanding payment in full by Dec. 30th or he will evict them. Apparently he is through "working with them". They have no one to borrow from. We can't help them either. They're credit isn't good enough that they can get a bank loan. I've suggested going to social services to see if they can qualify for some rental assistance but that's all I can think of so far.
You have to have your own financial backing
When I paid $60,000.00 down on my house, had to have a paper chase from the bank showing it had been there for some time- I could not go and get $$$ from a family member. I think you are new at this and do not know enough.
I'm no financial genius ...
but this practice could be one of the reasons CA is in such horrible shape.
Wages are high in CA due to the cost of living there. So, wages in another state will be lower, but might be in line with the cost of living there.
financial backing
When you say you backed them financially, are you a part of the organization's structure, or are you basically doing it as a donation? I could be really wrong, so you definitely need to check with the IRS, but I think to be able to deduct those expenses, you either need to be part of the organization's corporate structure or the organization needs to be a 501 non profit.
Speak to the director of financial aid
Ditto the advice on Voc Rehab.
You should be able to get food stamps *if* you qualify for work-study OR work at least 20 hours/week. I would appeal their denial ASAP. Ask for the caseworker's supervisor and say you want to appeal their decision. They should send you a letter with a "hearing" date on it.
Call and ask to speak with the Director of Financial Aid. Be persistent and keep asking for him. If you can't get through go to the Provost office or some higher up at the college. I've done it with a 18 month old in a stroller at my side! :)
One more thing - every single school I have ever attended had some sort of emergency loan for students. It's usually called a short-term loan or something like that. Also see if you can get $ on your ID card for the cafeteria. That can put that on the loan too.
You sound like you have a solid financial
head on your shoulders. Your little one is lucky to have you. I don't wish ill on anyone and hope I didn't come across as sounding as though single parents don't deserve the EIC. They certainly do. Public assistance is another story though and that's why I distinguished between the 2 in my statement. Too many get it that shouldn't.
It's not stressful to have the savings; for me, it's stressful getting it in there. We also do a lot of pre-tax savings, but I still like a refund. Thanks for the well wishes. We're hoping to start rebuilding this month. Houses cost a lot more now to build than they did 10 years ago and we've got 2 kids more than we had then, too. 
Financial assistance question
Does anyone know if there are state programs to help pay for doctors visits. I have never applied for this, but as an MT I have typed reports for people who can't afford doctors visits and they get help. I have not been to an OB/GYN since 2002, and find myself in a position that I have to go. Keep putting it off because I have no health insurance (only catastrophic with a 10K deductable) and I am in a one person income family. Does anyone know if there is state financial assistance available and if so could you provide me with some links so I can find more information on this.
Thanks,
Severe Financial Problems?
Like many, we are really suffering. My husband's employer filed Chapter 11. He kept his job, but his salary has been cut in half.
I have been out of work and looking for months, though I do get a few hundred dollars every month. All that goes toward our household expenses.
We are so far behind in our rent that the landlord's kindness is all that stands between us and eviction, but it's coming.
I know the only solution is more income. My husband WAS persuaded that he would have to find a second job, then I had two interviews. He felt optimistic that I would get on or the other, but I didn't.
Now he says he shouldn't have to get a second job if I don't have one. I understand how unfair that must feel, but his job hasn't paid our rent for nine weeks. Fair seems kind of beside the point.
In previous relationships I've gone through hard financial times, and the men really rose to the occasion. I don't know what to do. My husband plays video games several hours a day while we are going under.
We could have eviction filed on us within two weeks and I'm scared to death. I haven't even been able to get a minimum wages job. I feel that he's just going to ride it down and live in his car.
What should I do? What should I say to him?
Suze Orman, financial adviser...
is giving away a free download of her book. Go to Oprah's web site and download, "Women and Money," free until tomorrow at 5:00. I love anything about her and thought I'd share this! Free stuff is also good!
Enjoy!
Best is find a good financial advisor.
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I am sorry to hear about your house. I hope that you can somehow make a financial recovery.
Actually, it was usually co-workers or friends that I would hear boast about their refunds, and none of them were on public assistance (that I knew of anyway).
As an aside, I am a single parent who gets to claim the EIC. I am the sole support for my daughter so every penny counts. I guess I do not consider stressful to keep money in savings. For me, it alleviates stress to have that safety net there for emergency expenditures or unforeseen events. I also take advantage of all the pre-tax contributions I can claim in the form of IRAs, an HSA, and my little one's 529 account. I guess it is just a different way of looking at things.
No excuse
It is completely rude, but there isn't much else you can do. You can, however, choose a consistant pickup time yourself and let her know what that is. I have done that which creates a big inconvenience to them instead of you. :)
Excuse me?
I have a teenage daughter and I resent the implication that they are all sex-crazed nymphos. At least, that's the way I took your post. Generalizations like the one you just made are offensive.
ExCUSE me?????? sm
Would this be a little sexual harrassment? How terrible for your daughter!! You don't have a choice, you HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. Poor girl, she's so sensitive anyway!!!!! No you are NOT overeacting. Go STRAIGHT TO THE SCHOOL WITH THIS ONE . . .
No excuse for this
The only human thing doesn't cut it. I have worked in hospitals for many years, observed nurses and MDs in action. When administering drugs, there is no excuse for massively overdosing newborns with Heparin. The nurse was probably talking her head off to somebody, had her mind on 10 different things instead of what she should have been doing - passing meds.
If she was tired, then she should not have passed meds or should have had somebody help her to doublecheck herself.
I hope they sue the pants off that nurse and the hospital, too.
EXCUSE ME???
I was correcting MY error...you need to calm down, sister...I would never, ever correct anyone else's mistake, only my own. I made a mistake, I CORRECTED MY MISTAKE. can't you read??????? So freakin' rude, grow up will ya!
Excuse me! sm
Lining my pockets? Are you serious? This is for my daughter, not me. I have plenty of money and don't need their money. We make over $100,000 a year. My daughter is the one who suffered and is continuing to suffer. What would you do if your daughter was traumatized like this?
I think you have a lot of nerve!!!
excuse
all my typo. It has already been a long day. That is why I am on the forum. I needed a break. 
Excuse me, but....(sm)
...we certainly do hear of women who are cruel to animals. Just Google "woman charged with cruelty to animals" and you'll get plenty of hits.
I wonder, as a man, if I could get away with posting a sexist slur like yours about women? I doubt it!
Should have been benefit...excuse me (nm)
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Yes, but their rudeness does not excuse your own
You should always respond to an invitation, even if no RVSP, but most definitely if there is one.
Excuse, did not speak about yours
you must have been trying to read between the lines and never said anything about your dear one. You imaged.
Please excuse my ignorance sm
but do any of these have natural herbs that could counter-act birth control pills? I know that St. John's Wart can counter-affect BCP. I have a terrible problem with insomnia, seemingly inhierted from both parents, but they didn't have it until early 40s. I am 39 and have had problems for well over 10 years. Thanks!
Excuse the typos-been
a long day of typing!
Excuse, then, thought just yours but
i would have told her in that situation you thought just you and the combined kids, husband not going and you want to wait until it would be just you 2 adults so you could catch up on some girl talk- actually if me I would not even put in the girl talk but I know some people not out there like me. I would just tell her sorry, want to go when we girls can spend some time together. If invited somewhere, anyone knows you just don’t make arrangements for a third party to come along- unless you ask first if ok.
I'm sorry but that is the classic excuse
when caught with contraband. He is probably just experimenting at this point but you want to nip that in the bud. He needs to really see what the effects of that will be and that he may think he can stop at any time but the problem is he won't know that he can't stop until it has already happened. I've always felt that stressing the inside damage they are doing to themselves is important but with a teenager looks are really what they care about- try stressing how unattractive and smelly they make a person, where girls that might be interested would pass because of the smoking.
Gee whiz, everyone please excuse me
now while I play with my new puppy for a few hours, buff my toenails, eat some bonbons, put in a few lines of work to include many gross errors while I do so, come back here and read posts for a couple of houres, moan and whine a little, and then spend a couple of hours whining and moaning some more about my DH and sorry life before he comes home from slaving all day to provide me the life of luxury to which I am accustomed and entitled. Hope you have a good day, too, Misha... enjoy your new pup!
Excuse me, you are not saying I slammed anyone, are you?
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Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without
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Excuse the typos sm
Oh boy, just read my post, up late last night watching Super Bowl, Pats fan here. I never heard of Bunco before, thanks for explaining. Women, don't understand why they can't be loyal, staying to myself.
Excuse me. I have a question.
Does this "you do not EVER write off an older family member" edict of yours also include those family members who are relentlessly verbally or physically abusive, unapologetic, unrepentent, constantly undermine you, belittle your children, alcoholics, drug addicts and so on? Maybe you should think that over again. Not all of us live in ivory towers.
Sounds like an excuse to me -nm
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Use the economy as an excuse
How about using the economy as an excuse? You could phrase it that you don't want her to spend her money or something like that. She may seem to enjoy it, but she might jump at the chance to cut one thing out of a crazy shopping season.
Good luck. My family and I stopped exchanging gifts years ago. None of my brothers or sisters have kids and we all decided that we were broke and stressed and just didn't need to do it. It's made Chrismtas much more relaxing. We just get together for a nice dinner and have a good time.
give an excuse and
Half my relatives I have to sleep with one eye open.
Excuse me? I think this is getting kind
of weird, if not sick! This borders already on masturbation!
Can you please explain to me how a woman pregnant in her 9th month can reach her perineum with her hands and massage it for 10 minutes?
It is even advised that the spouse does this as foreplay to intercourse. Please spare me with your links!
This is pathetic!
I think it is better if we stop this discussion right here!
Get over yourself!
I meant country...excuse me!
And I am sorry, but it is Christians (meaning belivers in Christ, ok...)losing our freedom of speech. Just think about it, anything and everything is ok to be discussed on TV, in books, on the radio (you know what I'm talkin' bout too), but mention the word *God* *Jesus* or even anything pertaining to the church, and whoa...no no...don't do that, it might offend someone. Well I'm sorry, but sexual exploitation of women and children happens to offend ME...yet it's all over TV...homosexuality is a sin, yet it's all over TV... I won't go on because I think you're intelligent enough to see my point. Anyhow, MERRY CHRISTMAS...HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS!!!
Please excuse the typing errors...
All I have heard today is "The patient had a giberishgiberish condition that includded gibberish, cough, hack, sneeze gibberish." You get the point.
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