No, but I hate my lying, stealing, sociopathic brother. Does that count? NM
Posted By: anon on 2007-11-10
In Reply to: Does anyone else HATE their sister like I do? nm - mtbt
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I have a great brother like that too! I love my Big Brother!
Enjoy the love!
I have an older brother and younger brother
and I was a terrible handful, especially during high school compared to my brothers.
I am not codoning stealing...
I simply meant that over a course of 15 years you never stated things of value were stolen. Any time you invite someone in your home to do work for you, you cannot expect them to hold back and not take anything, no matter how trivial - it's human nature. Why don't you get a service where they are bonded and usually two or more people? By the way, $70 is NOT a lot of money to pay for housekeeping. I live by myself in an apartment and pay 134.82 but I have a service. If anything gets broken or stolen I just pick up the phone and call their manager.
stealing for scrap
Just this last week there was an article in the paper that someone stole 300 bronze vases from a local cemetary.Isn't that the lowest?
I'd pay it, otherwise I'd feel as though I were stealing which just isn't right. Karma wil
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Stealing then giving to charity?
Used the stolen money to make donations to churches?!? Who does she think she is - Robin Hood? Or was she thinking on judgement day she could say "Yeah, I did some stealing, but I gave some of it to God, so its all good"?!
Stealing child: How to break the habit??? sm
We have a 6-year-old foster child whose birth mom had a stealing problem. Our 6-year-old has had several episodes where she was caught stealing both before she came to live with us and since moving in with us. Conversations with her about it being wrong to steal, talking with the caseworker, psychologist & even a policeman have helped but occasionally she steals something from a store anyway. The last episode was this weekend when she stole some nail polish when my husband turned his back for a moment, even when she was being allowed to buy some lip gloss she was wanting.
Does anyone have any ideas of how to get her to stop stealing? I've talked to the local juvenile court system and all they said was they couldn't do anything unless she is actually arrested.... which of course we're trying to stop. Of note her biological mother had a problem with being arrested several times for stealing and even though it's not documented, we suspect that this child would see her mother steal or her mom had her steal at times for her. There are plenty of times we can go into a store without problems with her, it's only every few months she steals.
Thank you.
Of course! Stealing? That's the oldest trick in the book. lol
I guess she figured what does she have to lose if she thought she was dying. :(
speak of spooing; ever see Stealing Harvard?
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Caught my housekeeper red-handed stealing from me
My household is small, just hubs and myself (with 2 pets). Hubs went out of town to visit his brothers, left early Saturday. I got my housekeeper of say the past 15 years or more to come clean up for me yesterday. Knowing that I was having a doctor's appointment today I had laid out fresh underwear to put on (this is unusual because most times I am without my undergarments but thought I better wear panties today). I put them in my first dresser drawer Saturday night, went and picked her up Sunday, started to lay out all my clothing Sunday evening and my undergarments gone. I am literally ticked beyond belief. I am about to lose a housekeeper- my husband told me for sometime that things were going missing such as things he bought, toilet paper, some forks and spoons, things like that which I normally do not see. If I let her go, I have to do the work myself (she does washing besides housework) but yet I cannot let this pass. Any ideas? I do not think I would be able to get anyone for what I pay her but cannot stand the fact of being stolen from - especially since if she needs something she could ask and I usually get for her. Ideas??
Would you think someone was lying if they said this? (sm)
I have someone I have been seeing for a while who never calls but emails me all the time telling me that he loves me and misses me. But he always says it like this, "I really love you, I mean it. I hope you believe me." or "I am going to miss you while you are gone, I hope you believe that." It is starting to bother me that he always has to add the "I mean it"or "I hope you believe that" part. Why would I not believe it? Why would he not mean it? Does it sound like a lie to you?
He has always written me the sweetest, loveliest emails yet never calls (maybe 10 calls in an entire year and a half). I don't see him all that often but when I sugggest seeing someone else he gets upset and begs me not to, says he will do better, but then things stay the same. I really do care for him but I am starting to wonder if I am just being taken advantage of. He has borrowed small amounts of money from me throughout this time, most of which I have told him not to worry about paying back. So now I am wondering if he is just writing the sweet emails to try to keep the gravy train rolling? 
it's not lying
It's just not. I was about to get all preachy and talk about how we need mythology in our lives--stories that tell teach us morals, that remind us of our traditions--but I'll stay off the soapbox for now and just say that for as long as my kids are willing to believe, I will give them stories to believe in. The five-minute cry when they discover Santa isn't real, is more than made up for by the years of joy beforehand, don't you think?
As for talking in front of the kids, I don't think that's really a big deal, either. Kids love to put this stuff together in their heads, make up stories about it--how come there are so many store Santas? How come mom and dad are hiding these presents in the attic? They ask those questions and still believe. They're kids; they're good at that.
lying
If he is routinely confessing to you about his indiscretions, assuming this is how you know about them, and he is not afraid of you or the consequences, I assume all things being equal, you are free to do the same.
the lying is only part of it
Obviously there is more going on than just the fact that he is lying.. Why is he lying - what is he doing with the money?
You certainly weren't lying after
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Problems with lying on back? anyone else?
For a couple of years I have had trouble with trying to sleep on my back....if I lay flat on my back for more than 10 or 15 minutes I get extremely nauseated...if I fall asleep on my back, I wake up freezing cold. I am a little overweight but not obese. I do have a rather large chest though...I have been embarassed to go mention this to my doctor because it sounds silly to me, but yet it happens every time. The last few days I have been having pain between my shoulder blades and palpitations....I am starting to really worry about my heart but I am just embarassed to go and mention it. I am 40 years old. I know some of you will scold me for not already going....but has anyone else had these symptoms?
Problems with lying on back? anyone else?
Don't be embarrassed about going to the Doc!
Honestly, it sounds like your body is trying to tell you something is wrong. Please get thee to a Doc asap! If nothing else, at least for peace of mind!
Husband lying and I am going carzy
At least once a week I catch my husband in a lie, and it is always about money. He writes checks and lies to me about what they are for, how much they are for, etc. If I ask him how much money he has on him he will even lie to me how much he has. This is just a general question I ask him to know if I need to go get my own or if he has enough for whatever we have planned. When I asked him about it he gets angry and defensive and "cannot remember." Or he will say he told me about it and make me feel I am going crazy. We are actually trying to do Dave Ramsey's "Financial Peace" which says you NEED TO COMMUNICATE ABOUT MONEY AND KNOW WHERE IT IS GOING. What do you think is going on? Where do I get help? I am ready to leave, as he has been lying to me like this the whole 16 years of our marriage. He had a major gambling problem years ago and a counselor once told him, even though you've stopped the gambling you have not stopped the behavior, but he still doesn't get it. I have been in counseling three times with this man. I feel like i am the only one giving 100% to this marriage. I just need to know that it's okay for me to be frustrated and upset and ready to leave this marriage because of it, or am I just freaking out too much? He makes me feel crazy most of the time!!!! Our kids adore him, but I cannot live with him. What do I do?
I certainly do my fair share of lying
but i can't say that i've ever really made up anything huge but nobody has ever really called me on it either. Maybe those I lie to are either just gullible or too nice to say anything about it or maybe not good at spotting a lie. I don't know, but I do know I lie a lot. Maybe it's because of my low self-esteem, and maybe that's why people don't really call me on it, because they pity me too much.
Leave the lying, cheatin dirtbag.
Maybe, if agency lying, you can get any fees back
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It's lying in the absolute literal sense, but so what.
I think it's part of the fun of Christmas. I wasn't traumatized by thinking Santa was real when I was small. And my children, who are now 18 and 20, seem to be well adjusted, too. I also don't think that lying to your children is the worst thing you can do as a parent. The "controlled dissemination of information" can be a good thing. My kids don't need to know what I did when I was a wild child, for example. And on occasion I've told them there were no more Little Debbies in the house, even though I had a personal stash hidden away. LOL!
As far as Santa goes, I loved it. The way I explained it to my children when they got older and stopped believing was that when we're very little, Santa is a noun. He's a jolly old man who brings us gives, a very concrete thing. When we're older, Santa becomes a verb that means "to give". When my oldest became aware of the Santa reality, he wanted to "Santa for my little brother", and kept the fantasy alive for him. Now they do that for others. I consider that a reality.
The arguments regarding the honesty of the Santa fantasy will go on and on. In the end, it's a personal family decision to participate or not, and I think we can all be respectful of other family's decisions by not divulging the truth within earshot of children who believe, and not arguing over the issue with parents who believe otherwise.
whichever one is lying will be the one to resist the meeting nm
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Doesn't sound like he's lying, just sounds like you have different wants.
You're comfy in your life as it is. It's one thing to gain love again, it's a whole different story to gain love along with a roommate and all that comes with that, including losing some sense of freedom and space.
Letting a child about Santa isn't lying, sheesh
Telling about Santa isn't lying, it's a rite of childhood for millions of kids, as is the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. I see no harm in giving my children hope in something so good as Santa. I don't remember being crushed as a child when I found out about Santa, I only remember the joy of waking up on Christmas morning to a full stocking and the anticipation of waiting for the big guy. We were so poor that I don't know how we ever had a Christmas but somehow there were always gifts from Santa, to me that's what he's about, not lying but believing.
People take really strange things far too literally, takes the fun out of the simple things in my opinion.
OMG you are living my life!!!! (Mine is lying behind me as I type this!)nm
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As the saying goes - "Let lying dogs sleep" - no DNA is not in order
What on God's good earth would that accomplish? So that some sick tabloid could then publish a story about this? Those kids know MJ as their father. I don't care whether someone thinks they don't or do look like him. I have a brother in law who looks nothing - and I mean absolutely nothing - facial features, hair color, skin color, or anything, like anyone in his family or even any ancestors in his family. When husband and his sibling are together they all act alike and they all have the same smile, two of them have the same eyes, 3 of them have the same nose, and the way they say certain things they sound like each other and their parents, but not my BIL, his hair, skin color, the way he laughs, talks, or moves - absolutely nothing like his mother, father or any of his siblings. They joke that he was switched at birth, but from the time he was born he was never out of his mother's site in the hospital.
I think most of America does not need to know whether or not the children are really his. For someone to come out and say "I think a DNA is on order", the family should tell that media clown - it is none of your business, leave Michael Jackson's kids alone. They are going through enough as it is. I hope MJ's family tells them no. And I think Debbie Rowe should keep her trap shut.
Count me in!!
But sad to say I will be out of end of the business by the time (if) he makes this film....
DEFINITELY - count me in too....!!
Ok, does it count if
I was given some property FREE and then sold for 150,000? That was all profit or would that be cheating?
Does my granddaughter count? nm
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Can't they cut off his leg and count the rings???
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don't count on Emeril being there in MS *LOL*
Miami Beach (South Beach) or even the one in Orlando or New Orleans - but I doubt he's at the one in MS at the moment.....
BUT ENJOY!!! He's terrific!!!
Count yourself among the lucky few . . .
I don't like to generalize and know that not all men are like that, but IMO she really hit the nail on the head here, and in quite a humorous way, I might add!! I really enjoyed reading her post, but should be on the comedy board . . . LOL!!
BTW, kudos to you and enjoy that man of yours. You really are a lucky one! :)
just life - because I count everything
and when traveling I see things I would never see - like roadrunners and scissor tailed flycatchers in Texas when I was younger. I have regular nuthatches but this really caught my eye and I had to look him up. I have wrens also - always a vocal presence in my yard year round. Just saw a downy woodpecker - have not seen a pileated for years but my wasbund has them in his yard. Chickadees and titmice my favorites this time of year.
Count my butt in too!
I'm in Iowa and it's hard to find atheists who will come out of the closet here.
I would not count on it having come a long way
rather aged quite a bit, sorta frayed around the edges. I enjoyed some of the music entertainment that was there though would not consider going again. One time was enough for me.
Does first grade count? It meant so much to me - LOL
Doug kissed me in first grade and then ignored me forever after that.
Tilden in 5th grade - he picked me to be his square dancing partner.
Lyle in 6th grade - had all the makings of an abusive husband, but didn't realize it at the time.
Tilden again in 7th grade - didn't last too long.
Had a HUGE nonreciprocated crush on Dan in 9th grade.
Bill in 10th grade - he was a Sr. so got to go to prom.
Dumped him for Chuck not long after prom.
Met Tom at church camp that summer - long distance thing.
Tim when I was a junior, who introduced me to his friend, Jerre, who ended up being my husband till this day.
That was fun!
I talked to a pet psychic once. Does that count? LOL
Seriously, she was supposedly a well known and well respected pet psychic. My dog was elderly and in poor health. I'd adopted her at 10-11 years of age, and now it was 5 yrs later. Her owner was not entirely honest with me about her background, so I was curious about that, and her current state of health.
I saw her flyer at a Pet Expo, so I gave her a call. I took notes about what she said. Some of it was accurate (if obvious/generic), and the rest was... well, I wouldn't say *wildly* off base, but it wasn't accurate and/or I didn't believe it. I don't believe she had any kind of gift, though it was an intersting conversation and she was very professional.
I do think some (very few) people do have abilities in this area that most of us don't have, but I also believe most 'psychics' are full of it and just do it for the money. I've never wanted to see a 'people' psychic, and I wouldn't try a pet psychic again either. JMO.
I'd count him out, and file the winnings.
As they say: you snooze, you lose. Boy, what a bunch of characters there though. LOL
Count your blessings and stop...
the complaining. Like previous posts have stated, at least your daughter calls you. You should be glad to have a daughter who thinks enough of you to call you and cares enough to ask if you are upset. It may annoy you now, but what will you do when she stops or isn't there to call any more?
Yes, you can "take care of you" and let this be "your time," but your kids will always be your kids. You can take care of you and still have time to pick up the phone or return a phone call.
My father used to tell the same stories over and over again. Did I always like hearing the same stories? Of course not. But you know what.....I've give anything to hear one of those stories from my dad's lips again but I can't because he passed away last year. The things that annoy us today may be the very thing that we miss later. We just don't stop and take the time to be thankful for what we do have.
Be thankful that you have money and are content with your life. Be thankful that your daughter still cares enough to call. When you count your blessings and focus on the good things, petty things like this won't get you so upset.
If I were his GF, he could count his remaining days
And note: I'll bet if he'd done it to a DOG, he'd have been convicted. For some reason, society (especially men) seem to put little to no value on the life of a cat.
Well, after hearing that story, I put no value whatsoever on HIS life.
Kids rarely help, don't count on it sm
If you have girls - maybe - but if you have boys the DIL usually hates your guts and it's not her fault, she was "trained" by her own mom and the "his mother" label gets placed. You can try everything, not complaining, helping them financially, buying her special cards and gifts, you'll still be "his mother" and you will get nothing but venom. Be prepared for it, most MIL's with boys are going through this. The son is not even allowed to call unless she's out of the house. So be prepared to take care of yourself for as long as you can, prepare financially, prepare your home, but most of all, prepare your central nervous system for total rejection. Learn to rise above, suit up, shut up and show up. Most of all smile and nod a lot.
None anymore. No wait. Let me count!
I was so busy working that most of my friends gave up and I can't blame them. My closest dearest friend of 30-some years died 2 years ago. We only kept in touch by phone in the past 5 years prior to her death.
I have 2 internet friends, one the wife of my boy friend (not boyfriend) from elementary school and one who shares genealogy family with me. He was the brother I never had.
Oh, and my husband. We've been best friends for 40 some years.
Don't count on getting it back. Sad, but it happens all they time. Look out for the girl sm
wearing that distinctive jacket. And inform you child to bring her stuff home with her. She learns a valuable lesson here.
whoops-I meant 12 years ago.....I CAN count..lol
But nothing is so much nicer than at minimum of an 800 thread count. sm
You can find those at Ross' for around 50 bucks a set for queen! :)
Target has 400-thread count for $39.95 per sheet
Do the Disney Chanel and Nickelodeon count - sm
![Roll](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_1_21.gif") I have a 3-year-old and yeah some days the TV is what I use to get some work done. It is only scary when I am humming the preschool tunes when I am alone in the car..... ![Star](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_8_7.gif")
The physician errors too numerous to count
I wish I knew why people don’t listen- could probably make millions if I found out. I went to have CT scan done 1 day - before having it done I said now that is for so and so- nope, that is not what the order read- read for another part of the body. I then asked them to call the doctors office to verify the part to be xrayed. I cannot help these igits that work out here now. I changed my regular physician because of poor doctoring. I NEVER EVER SAID anything about soft stools. Where he got that from who in the he.... knows? I said she was THROWING UP. Thank goodness not huge mistake there as I did not give her the Imodium but 2 times, otherwise she would have the runs from each end.
Do sleep deprivation hallucinations count? - sm
Somewhere on Interstate 8 between Yuma and Tucson,about 3 a.m.
Driving along and all of the sudden I see what I think is a giant jack rabbit/moose walking on the side of the road on a leash held by a big crooked man.
heeheehee Don't know what the jackrabbit/moose thing was but the "man" was a cactus.
At that point it was decided that we had maxed out the benefit of the Java Monster Mochas and took a short snooze at the next rest stop.
Still have good laughs over that one tho.
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