No autism experience but - he sounds pretty normal (sm)
Posted By: Just me on 2008-01-13
In Reply to: Worried about autism. - MRMT
My children talked pretty early but some of their friends who seemed delayed to me at the time are fine now (10 & 7 years old). My son has never been affectionate when asked and is not a big hugger, never has been, but he is in gifted classes and has lots of friends and when he does decide to give me a hug, he means it and it's special. It is so easy to get an idea in your head and then without meaning to, find things that seem to fit your worst fears. With your mother saying she is "90% sure" that has to make you worry even more. But the fact that he acts silly at times and is concerned whenhe hurts his friends are good signs. And many babies have "selective hearing". Please try not to worry too much - and also - this probably sounds ridiculous - but be sure he does not have wax impacted ears - I say this because this was the case with me in first grade - my teachers thought I was mentally impaired - until everyone realized I couldn't hear - and it was just from wax! Once that was taken care of - I became an A student. It could be just some little thing that needs to be looked at. One friend whose child seemed very delayed had the child checked and she actually had fluid in her ears and needed tubes. The child was almost 2 before she walked! and it was because her balance was off from fluid. Anyway, I'm just saying that if there is anything wrong it could be something minor so try not to panic :-)
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I have to say mine is pretty normal....
He will look at a gorgeous thin woman and it doesn't bother me in the least. I think I would be more concerned if he didn't. :)
My experience as a substitute teacher is that this is very normal
behavior for children at her age. Please remember that we just got through a worldwind of holidays and their schedules have been off as far as structure. Almost every child right now is going through this disruptive behavior, because believe it or not, children truly want structure in their lives and thrive upon it. No, it does not make it acceptable and I am the biggest stinker about my children acting appropriately in school. Like I tell my children, I cannot make you gets As in all your subjects, but I can make you responsible for your behavior.
Anyhow, I think the apology to the teacher itself would have been an appropriate punishment at her young age, as children truly want nothing more than acceptance.
BTW, her age level is tough right now. After the winter holidays they ALL seem to get tattling and boisterous and whenever I have to teach kindergartners in the Sprin I pray VERY hard. It is all part of them establishing their identities. You are a very good mother for being so concerned and proactive, but just try to take this stepping stone with a little bit of patience and glory....she is growing up!! Hugs to you!!!
sounds like a normal
reaction/depression to situation. I'm sorry for your loss. I dread going through what you are, and i know my time is near, with elderly parents and elderly husband. I guess a lawyer that specializes in estates could help with those aspects. Might also inquire of a friend, neighbor or church member that has been through similar. To get out of a funk, i'd recommend trying to do something for someone else -- volunteer, donate, help someone who has needs (babysitting, taking elderly to store, etc) That has a way of revitalizing a person. Hope your new year gets better soon.
Sounds to crazy to be normal. sm
Thanks for the advice. I am trying to convince my macho husband to sit while peeing. Ha.
It sounds pretty. I guess you could put
more wood cross-pieces in the bottom and then spagnum moss. Be sure you use special potting mix; regular dirt is so heavy the boxes would split in time.
Wow, your experience sounds sort of like mine.
legs. Horrible cramps. Huge clots and bled for at least 10 days each month. PMS for two weeks prior to that - so what's that leave? Maybe one good week each month, but I got so tired of telling the doctor. She kept saying we have to try all of this other stuff first. So, fine, I tried the pills, the D&C, and this time she said ablation, and I said nope, I want a hysterectomy. So, that was that. I'm so much happier now, but since it's only been a month from my surgery, I am still tired. Hopefully, though this is the ticket; finally! Home free!
I'm hungry and that sounds pretty good right now...
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Sounds like you want something small, simple and pretty.
So do just that! Don't worry about the lists. I think the first decision is to decide where you want to have the wedding. Many places often have on-site wedding planners to help you. In fact, from what you wrote, I think you've already got a good start on the planning. You want something simple, you want a pretty dress. Pick a place and maybe hire a caterer to bring in some simple food... maybe just a cocktail hour with hors d'ouerves, and a cake. You don't need formal music or dancing. I had a friend simply have a caterer come in and do a nice bbq for 30 people in their pretty backyard. Flowers were blooming, really no need to decorate, and they programmed an iPod with a wedding playlist, and played it over the stereo. We had a lovely time, and it was very simple and pretty.
As for gifts, my DH and I did exchange gifts. I bought him a watch, which he still wears 22 years later. We went to Cancun for a honeymoon. (It was much quieter in those days.) While there, he found a really pretty string of blue fresh water pearls. So 1985! But I love them and still wear them today!
Getting the stick sounds pretty straight forward to me
You could talk to someone at the school, tell them what you know, what you plan on doing, and see what kind of support becuase they may suspect problems but don't have facts.
I admit sometimes it seems easier just to look the other way, but what if there was someone that could have helped Caylee Anthony and "looked the other way". Follow your instincts.
If your suspicious prove unfounded you are out nothing but a "friend". He doesn't seem like someone I would want to be friends with and if his child acts the way you say, I wouldn't encourage a friendship between the boys.
yo trose? What is *normal*? Normal means
*normal*? that only means one has a preconceived idea of what sanity is....
which I don't - so I have no answer......*lol*
Anyone here really know about autism?
I met John, Kelly, Jett and Ella when Jett was only about 8 or 9, and actually heard Jett converse.
He spoke clearly, and quite appropriate to the topic at hand. I saw nothing unusual about him, to be perfectly honest.
Could autism develop AFTER that age? I admit I know nothing about it, other than there are varying degrees.
But at the age I saw him, he appeared to be a normal, even a bit precocious, 8 to 9 year old boy.
For the record, the Travoltas are wonderful, gracious people, who treat everyone from maids to CEOs with dignity and respect. No attitude whatsoever. They're definitely NOT typical Hollywood people.
Thanks for any info anyone has.
Worried about autism.
Hey everyone, I was just hoping someone with experience in autism can either confirm or shoot down some fears for me. My mother says that she is 90% sure my son has autism, and although we have had concerns before she mentioned anything, the doc said a couple of months ago to wait until he is 2. He is 22 months now and his next appointment is next month. This has really been worrying my spouse and I recently and I was just hoping for some input.
My son shows some definite red flags, but at the same time seems perfectly normal. For instance:
RED FLAGS: (1) His speech is pretty delayed. He will say "uh oh" and "daddy" and a few other words, but nothing else really and it is near impossible to get him to say any of the words he knows with prompting. He babbles jibberish constantly, however. (2) Sometimes it seems like he is ignoring us, but this is usually when he is occupied with something else. Sometimes he will look at us to his name, sometimes not. It does appear that he is deaf at times. (3) He never points at anything that he wants or is interested in. He will either get it himself or drag us by the finger to whatever he wants. (4) He lines objects up. They are never in any particular order or color and he doesn't get upset when we mix them up or take away one of the objects, however, they are usually the same type of object, ie. cars, dvd cases, blocks. (5) He won't give kisses or hugs when asked, however, does without being asked every once in awhile, hugs much more than kisses. (6) Compared to other children, he seems very behind in listening and really interacting with others.
NORMAL BEHAVIOR: (1) He loves other people and children and will often act silly if someone comes over to our house, showing off. He will bring out toys that he hasn't played with for awhile. (2) He isn't afraid to look us or others in the eyes and always has a ready smile. (3) He loves to cuddle and has no problem with it unless he wants to play. (4) If one of us pretends to cry or if he accidently smacks a friend who is his age and they cry, he will look concerned and give them or us a hug (and a kiss if we are lucky.) (5) He plays with his toys for the most part how they should be played with and gives his favorite stuffed bear rides in his trucks. (6) He has no problems with schedule changes and loves to go places different. (7) He has no repetitive movements with his hands or body, at least none we have noticed.
After actually listing these things, I feel a little more at ease, however the red flags are pretty strong and are very apparent on a day to day basis, especially his speech. I'm thinking he is somewhere on that spectrum at least. Thanks for listening as this has been the cause of some tears lately.
Autism Walk
Hello everybody,
I'm going to be walking for Walk Now For Autism on Sep. 20th of this year. It is a ways away but since this is such an important subject for me i'm trying to get started as early as i can. If you'd like to check it out, register yourself in a city near you, or donate, you can check out my website on their website:
http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian
I appreciate your time,
Tanya 
Autism website
Hello everyone.
I am a mother to a 7-year-old little boy who has autism. I've had so many conversations about autism and being a mother with a son who has autism that i've decided to start a blog. There are so many mothers out there who feel alone (i'm one of them at times) that it'd be nice to read other peoples thoughts and feelings on the topic without it being sugar-coated. Here's the website if you know somebody with autism or just want to read what it's like at times.
www.autismwho.blogspot.com
Autism Speaks
Hello,
I'm doing a walk for Autism Speaks on Sep. 20th in Mn. If you'd like to check out my page it's: http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian
Any donations are greatly appreciated in this battle for a cure or even info as to why this is happening! Let your family, friends, or anybody you can think of know of this great cause and you can help just by getting the word "autism" out there and educating people person by person.
Thanks!
I have also heard he has autism
It has been stated there were very little verbal skills if at all. Still a tragedy no matter what problems he had. He was loved by his parents tremendously. As far as the "lover" rumors, they have been going on for years. Not saying they are true or not, I have no idea. BTW, does it really matter?
what's *normal*?? Normal only means one has a
has he been tested for ADHD/ADD/autism?
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Being as autism discovered in 1943
sorta puts this theory to rest, doesn’t it? Years ago people with retardation, problems with autism not talked about, hidden by the families. In 1943 infants were not overpowered by vaccinations so nah, don’t hold vaccinations responsible.
early detection in autism is tantamount!! AHDH too
get him to a professional......before continual spanking of him which is far more destructive than ALL_OF_YOU getting some professional help....will pray for you!
Remember this.....if you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten.......
evidently whatever you're doing IS_NOT_WORKING.....
No experience with the program but definitely experience with the symptoms! nm
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maybe it's normal and I'm the odd one?
DS#1, age 17, likes a girl who is a junior, so she's probably 16 or 17. I'll call her J. DS has sort of liked her for a while, but she had a boyfriend. That boyfriend dumped her recently because he wanted to date someone else.
J was distraught over it for a couple of weeks and ended up going out with DS so now they're a "couple" and DS is very happy.
She's a bright girl, attractive, on the honor roll, very active in sports, tutors kids in the evening, is in the high school band, etc.
Anyway, J told my son that she needs to have a guy in her life and doesn't really feel complete without one.
Isn't it odd to feel that way, especially at that young of an age? Or maybe it's normal and I'm the odd one?
no it is not normal but is
very sad that she would think that. he needs to watch out or he will be paying child support the rest of his life!
Normal???
Definitely Normal
This is definitely normal behavior. I have a 13 year old and when she saw the Backstreet Boys back when she was older, she had a similar reaction. I remember feeling the same when I saw my "idols" years ago.
This is normal!
I was this way when I started too. I had my first period in December, just after my 12th birthday, and didn't have another one until March. Very common during the first year. And yes, her physical activity can be part of the reason...often athletes and the like have irregular menses.
TO: What is...normal
What is your problem? This woman is scared for her life and the lives of her children and you have the unmitigated gall to try to insinuate that she be subservient to this walking horror she is married to and make nice with him? Apparently your nerve is overwhelmed by any common sense you may have been born with. I wonder if you would feel the same if it were your sister, aunt or god forbid - your mother..ignorant..
To me, this is a normal job. I am up at 4 a.m. and
start work, take a break about 7 to shower and at least put on my work out clothes, including bra, some make up, etc, then backto work. Nothing worse to me than working in jammies...can't take the ob seriously, JMHO. I also like to look presentable should anyone visit (live very rurally, so doesn't usually happen) and especially when DH comes home from work. Who wants to see a wife still in jammies looking a wreck?
No. It is not normal.
My husband is my high school sweetheart. We have been together since we were 16 (39 now) and married for 17 years. We have had some heated arguments but never once has he laid a hand on me nor would he. Never once has either of us called names or disrespected one another. It is just not acceptable to treat someone you love with any less respect than you expect for yourself. It sounds like you do love him but he violated your trust and security in him. If he hasn't been abusive since that one incident, you could consider marriage counseling to help work through trust and forgiveness. If he is emotionally abusive, then it could just be a matter of time before it gets physical again. Your safety is the most important thing. Good luck.
Yes, it's normal. You do need help from DH, mom, in-law. You SM
need time to yourself. Even an hour a day. Believe me, it isn't easy and you should not feel you are the only one who feels the way you do.
Books, commercials, et. al, show endless scenes of serene mothers and babies. Most times are NOT serene, but, trust me, they get better. The more sure of yourself you become, the better things get and the second child will be easier. Wait a minute, I didn't have a second child, but my only child did!
Yes, it's normal. You do need help from DH, mom, in-law. You SM
need time to yourself. Even an hour a day. Believe me, it isn't easy and you should not feel you are the only one who feels the way you do.
Books, commercials, et. al, show endless scenes of serene mothers and babies. Most times are NOT serene, but, trust me, they get better. The more sure of yourself you become, the better things get and the second child will be easier. Wait a minute, I didn't have a second child, but my only child did!
very normal
My hubby is an OB/GYN and that is very common. Just a much better view. Annoying and uncomfortable, yes, but just a better view.
Normal anxiety???
I have a lot going on in my life right now - mother-in-law diagnosed with advanced metastatic ovarian cancer a week and a half ago, requested husband and I go to a marriage counsellor (which I started even though I don't want to), and starting a new full-time job at a hospital (not at home) on Monday. I have not worked FT outside of my home since my children were born and am worried about having them in early and after care, holidays, etc.
Anyway, I have been waking up and night with my heart pounding, cannot get back to sleep for hours, and having a "panicky" feeling in my chest off and on throughout the day. I feel like crying. Do you think this is situational anxiety or do I need medication? I can't stand this feeling!! Thanks for any advice!
Very normal feelings.......sm
I went through the same feelings with both my children, my daughter being the oldest. She had to take a drivers course at our local high school during the summer, then she got her permit. She drove with that for a few months before getting her license. But that first time she went with a girlfriend just down the street to a local burger joint made me crazy. I knew she would go slow and be very cautious, but that feeilng was still there, bordering on panic. She's 23 now. My son came next....he had to take the same course. He's was a little more pushy about the license, but didn't make a big deal out of it. But, unfortunately, within the month after getting them his dad said he could go to his girlfriend's.. it was rainy and I was not happy. She lives on a dead end street which is good, cause a dog ran out in front of him, he dodged it, and ran over the neighbor's utility box and tore up their beautiful grass. He was scared to death. Well, that got fixed and I guarantee he went slower after that. He's 20 now and as I notice a lot of guys do, he drives faster than his sister, but not as fast as his girlfriend, thank goodness!! He drives her car cause he tells her she goes too fast, won't use blinkers, no signals, makes me nuts. But they are grown and made it through those early testing times, and so will yours. By the time my son got his license, my state had graduated license, so he could only drive between certain daytime hours, and not past 7 at night for a few months. Check your state laws...a lot of them have these now.
Very normal. Let her get her license, but
give her rules. No passengers other than you or her dad. No phone use while car is in gear. Drive during daylight only for first 3 months. Make sure she knows ahead of time how she is getting somewhere. Stress following rules of the road, using blinkers, once you are in a lane to turn, go through with it and correct her course later when safe. Calmly explain that driving is a privilege. If she doesn't seem safe enough, make her take a defensive driving course also. It can't hurt.
It seems normal to me. I had a friend
who went to a therapist for years, and I truly got the impression he had her continue to come because she was so entertaining with her stories.
What is more important than style is whether she is helping you. Is your concern that you don't feel you are making progress? Is she having you try new things or otherwise work on your issues? Or is she just having you talk and nothing else?
The only therapy I've had was biofeedback training, which was very helpful for me because it taught me a skill, plus I could talk to the tech like a therapist. She definitely made me feel better about things.
It's not your normal kind of tea..sm
and one cup, I don't think, will make one P three to four times during the night, but whatever works for you.
TOTALLY normal! (sm)
My kids are younger than yours, but I am the youngest of three. I have an older sister and older brother. My brother is the oldest and he is three years older than me. I can remember growing up and being picked on by my brother (and sister) and there were times when I felt like I truly hated him. I'm sure he felt the same about me at times. Now I love him dearly and I think he is one of the greatest men in my life. I'm sure it sounded horrible to you, but don't worry. It's perfectly normal.
Absolutely ~ it is normal.....nm
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I actually have, and it was completely normal - SM
I'm in my mid-20s and have always been very healthy and active. I could never even catch the chickenpox from my friends as a child! LOL! Oh well, I'll have to see if stopping this antihistamine makes a difference. I feel completely fine otherwise.
should say "are" normal....
xx
Perverting the normal
You can rant all day about how happy you are to live alone without a plant, or a pet, or anyone else, but you are the exception, not the rule...and quit dissing the bible.
you asked what was normal
Your parents showed you how to have a peaceful divorce, so I am absolutely sure that you know how to have a peaceful divorce.
normal for this profession sm
Typing in dark, just got up,but we have to have quiet and solitude to pay attention to what we're doing. I rented an office because my husband talks so much, never near my work but used to sit on the stairs and talk to me and kept interrupting. Even with an office I would get upset if someone walked in while I was working. It's part of the problem and I do like people but find them very irritating when I try to concentrate. Now I feel I am a "victim" of having no one to really "talk" to when I need to "talk" because I was so short with everyone. It's hard, I'm lonely too, that's why I come in here. SAD, people don't understand. It's a lonely profession. But then again, I hate "small talk" after all the true in-depth stories I heard from my work, all the rest seems boring and not important. So you have "company" after all!
Not normal but happened in my family
My neice, then a high school senior, was told by her long-time boyfriend of about 3 years that he wanted to break up with her. She went nuts and even tried to commit suicide by swallowing a bunch of Tylenol. She was convinced they were going to be married in a year or two, have kids, and she would be a stay-at-home mom...had it all planned out. Apparently she shared those thoughts with him and that's what sent him packing.
It took her a LONG time to realize he wasn't coming back and I think she still has dependency issues (dependent on people I mean).
I don't agree with how she was raised though. She was put on birth control strictly for contraception at age 16 because her parents knew they were having sex and basically gave her the okay to do so, even in their house. She was treated like an adult, even though she was not, and not ready to act like one, and that really messed the poor kid up, probaby permanently.
Therapy is indeed a good place to start for your son's girlfriend.
Don't know, never lasted for me....am told that it's normal.
Unfortunately the sparks begin to fizzle and eventually burn out when it comes to that department for most couples and you have to really work at trying to spice things back up.
definitely normal kid culture reaction
Remembering standing outside waiting at the Brooklyn Fox for the following groups at one time or another way back when:
Little Anthony and the Imperials
Martha and the Vandellas
The Shirelles
Otis Redding
Little Stevie Wonder (he was 13)
Smokey Robinson and the Miracles
The Ruffin Brothers (David and.....cannot remember the other one's name at the moment)
The Thymes (later on)
before the British Invasion music which them some of us started appreciating......and going ape waiting for the Beatles at 54th Street at the Warwick Hotel, 500-1000 young girls on the 4 corners of that intersection mobbing taxicabs....*LOL* - those were the days....
Not normal if something deadly that could happen-
you know he has sleep apnea and can be deadly and you call that normal? I probably would take him myself to the doctor but then I really am in love with my husband.
But you know how long a normal period
should last, so therefore you take matters into your own hands and be more assertive before you drop over.
Normal or not? Son saying he hates h is sister (sm)
He is 10, she is 3 years younger. She is usually nice to him and loves him. I could understand if he blurted out "I hate you" when they were arguing, but tonight I told him that she won't be home tomorrow afternoon and he and I could go see a movie or something together and he said "she won't be here - good - I hate her." And he said it so mean. I told him he is not allowed to talk about her like that, that she wouldn't talk that way about him and if she did, she would be in trouble. He said, "I don't know why, she's just so annoying and I hate her." I asked him what he thought "hate" meant and he said that it was wishing someone would just "poof, disappear." She tends to be more outgonig than him. She learned to waterski this weekend, while he refused to even try. So I don't know if he is just jealous or what, but it scares me that something so mean can come out of my own child's mouth.
Yep. Normal. Just take a deep breath and
They'll probably make peace in a few short years (when you're old and grey-headed and senile, lol)!
:)
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