Neither. Not seen dad in the 21st Century, but did see mom to meet my stepfather. sm
Posted By: Black Sheep on 2008-06-18
In Reply to: Growing up, did you get along better with your mom or dad? - Pollster
They were very young when I was born, only 16 and 19. I have a younger brother who is gay and they have both pushed him away too, though mom a bit less. They were very controlling, highly critical and verbally abusive. The only thing I regret about the lack of relationship is that they managed to drive a wedge between my brother and I. I would thrilled to see him and build a new, grown up relationship, but they have made that impossible.
And for the record...I didn't see either of my parents for about 10 yrs and then decided to try again in my late 30s and early 40s. It proved fruitless. They were more angry, more belittling and just as abusive as ever. I tried, but then again I have changed and I no longer need that sort of negativity in my life.
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I figure it'll be a cool, 21st-century version of -
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On January 21st and thereafter, a check is not going to
magically appear in your mailbox each month to help out. Please don't rely on that!
My stepfather is a big jerk too (sm)
When I go visit my family we stay in a hotel and visit back and forth with them. That way I don't care if I feel unwelcome and I still get to see my mother and other relatives, and if he starts acting jerky, I have somewhere else to go.
It doesn't matter what century
either. The fact is homosexuality is a sin and I will have no part of any business that supports it.
Good for you! I had to stand up to my stepfather (sm)
When I was about 15 or 16 - threatened to burn him with the iron I was using once. He decided to leave me alone from then on. The ones who are mean to children are really just cowards much of the time. Never hit my kids and don't need to.
Turn of the century in New York.
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My mother chose my stepfather over her kids
I have been in the same situation for the last 20 years. My mother figures she only sees us once in a while, so she would rather not be alone the rest of the time. I know how much it hurts to not feel welcome in your mother's house. It shouldn't be that way.
If they want to meet with you....
I would say go ahead and meet them and see what you think. It could be they're looking for a way to get a housekeeper without having to pay benefits and taxes. In that case, quiz them thoroughly about what is expected of you as far as duties, hours and days you will be expected to be available.
It could be legit, but just proceed with caution and trust your instincts.
Who would you most like to meet and why?
My son's homework. The teacher gave them a day to think about who they would most like to meet and why and then write a detailed paper (he's in the 11th grade).
Anyone ever think about this?
So where does one meet these days?
So how does a single person meet someone then, especially if not into the bar scene at all? Okay - let me list where I might meet someone: Church...which usually is very limited because almost everyone is married. Any other suggestions? I know what a huge list I have....
Nice to meet ya!
From the Cape May area on the bay. Are you that far south? - Deena
Meet and greet
I'm going at 1:00. What a shame - I'd love to meet you!
Glad to Meet You....
Now let's see if we get flamed for our beliefs.
Haha, a virtual "burning at the stake," if you will.
When I first read you post, your personality sounds identical to mine. Now that I know we share 'religious' convictions, I wonder if that's indicative of our beliefs impacting our outlooks on life...
Hmmmmm. Interesting!!!
How did you meet your significant other?
With all the posts about how many times you were married or divorced, I thought I'd ask how you met your DH. So how did you meet? Were you high school sweethearts, friends? did you work together? Was it love at first sight or couldn't stand the sight of them?
I lived across the street for about 2 years from where my DH worked but never saw him there. I met him at my grandfather's house in another state. He worked with my uncle who lived with my grandfather. DH lived down the road from my uncle and had gone to school with my uncle's son. It wasn't love at first sight for me. We would run into each other at my grandfather's house and he sort of grew on me. LOL! We've been married for 15 years now.
The two people I would have most liked to meet ....sm
were before my time....Elvis Presley and Marilyn Monroe. There is a tribute artist who is eerily like Elvis I would like to meet though. His name is Shawn Klush. Youtube him. You will be impressed. Going to see him in June.
I wish! I'd love to meet him!
I'm sure they get a million phone calls though.
I just talked to my husband again and we decided to keep him until he looks better, and then we will find him a good home. He's already growing on me, so I have to be careful or I'll get too attached! :)
There's a line in Meet The Parents...
*You can pretty much milk anything with nipples.*
I think it's better to meet people in person around where
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I don't meet the survey target , but
my two boys had a 10:00 p.m. curfew on school nights when they were 16. Curfew was 11:00 on weekends, unless something special was happening. I was told I was absolutely barbaric for setting such early times. My kids didn't tell me that. Other parents did. Not that I cared, mind you.
Each son proved himself to be trustworthy and responsible, and so the day they turned 18, all curfews were lifted. I only asked as a matter of courtesy that they tell me where they were going and give me an approximate time to expect them home so that I knew when to officially start worrying. They didn't have to tell me, but I asked them to tell me, which they did. In fact, for the first week or so after they turned 18 they'd ask me for permission to do something or go somewhere, and I'd reply, "Why are you asking me? You're an adult!" LOL!
They are 18 and 20 now, and doing just fine. The 18 year-old is commuting to a university in our city. He refers to us as his college roommates.
Ladies how did you meet your hubby?
Where and when and did ja' like this guy ?Was your heart justa jumpin'?
making ends meet
I agree if you need money to support your family you should not be going to school right now...and if your full time job is not cutting it then get a couple part time jobs. i work 3 jobs now; 1 FT and 2 PT and have so much work now its unbelievable. I will never go back to working for just one service. You never know when things are going to be slow. If your husband is not getting enough on disability then he needs to look for something else too...there must be something he can do unless he is totally disabled.
In my case, my children were not happy about having to meet and
get to know another of dads girlfriends. You seem awfully supportive of the girlfriend. Are you, perhaps, in the girlfriend position? To me, it is selfish of a parent who pushes their girlfriends/boyfriends off onto their children. My children were old enough to say WE DON'T WANT TO SEE DAD'S GIRLFRIEND and that was good enough for me. I didn't keep them from their father, but when they were at their primary home, that was their comfort zone, where girlfriends weren't pushed off onto them. My job was to protect my childrens best interests. If that makes me sound selfish, oh well.
I am so tired of hearing so many people I meet say they SM
hate cats. What is with these people, and what in the name of God do cats do to offend so many people? One of my friends told me on a shopping trip last fall about 15 times how she hated cats, but LOVES dogs. Finally I just fired back at her and asked her what in the world was wrong with HER? She got red in the face and muttered something about hating when they rub up against her. Give me a break. I could not take any more thatt day. Every shop we went into and she saw a cat on a picture, a mug, ANYTHING and I had to hear how she hated these wonderful, clever little creatures. All my life I have heard this nonsense. What is it with CATS?? My sister and nieces have cats and always have had them and we could not love them more. Would you believe last year my niece was in line at the store waiting to pay for cat food, when a guy behind her actually tapped her on the shoulder and looked at the cat food she was buying and proudly stated I HATE CATS. I agree with my niece when she said to me a few months ago that cats just don't get the recognition they deserve. When her cat of 20 years was failing but according to the vet not in pain, she took him to bed and slept next to him so he could die in her arms, which he did. We will never forget our Willie. He had a sweetness that will live on forever.
go see Meet Dave with Eddie Murphy.
The kids will love it - and so will you. He played it so well! Cracked me up...several times.
For those of you happily married, where did you meet your spouse? sm
Just a curious question. I am single and I am thinking if I stay in church, that might be the best place to meet a good man these days when one finally comes around. It really gets me that some people meet their spouses in a bar and then wonder how they married an alcoholic, lol! 
Off to Vegas to meet up with my best friend from high school. sm
I have not seen or heard from her since our 30-year-old sons were babies. Then we found each other again on Classmates.com and arranged this little vacation. Tonight I will see her after all these years. I'm concerned that I won't have much to say (I'm a very quiet person normally) but we do have show tickets and horseback riding and shopping scheduled already plus I MUST find time to do some gambling (I live where there is NO gambling). I'm very excited!! Plus I booked Business Class tickets. 
That Classmates.com is pretty amazing. I have connected with not only her but my first real love (and first broken heart), 2 girl friends, and 2 old family friends. I really love having this connection with the past because I have very few memories of my years until I was about 23 due to much trauma and it is great to go back and visit some good times.
Wish me luck!!
I think you need to get out of the house and meet people in real life.
Any man can seem fabulous on the phone or through email. Your relationship has become inappropriate and you know it. IF he cheats on his wife, he WILL cheat on you. For your own sanity and well being, you need to end things now.
Any ICs with Northeast Health going to meet and greet today?
I'm going to the 10:30 session. ERMT, you do Samaritan, don't you? It'll be nice to have faces to put to names!
We hardly wear skirts ever and mostly meet at the church (basis of prayer)
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Guilty! But I only work PT and do meet personal quota. Also spend too
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Hey, nice to meet goombas here! Love the fish tradition Christmas Eve!
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Ours attend local college PT and still live at home. Hard to make ends meet "out there" on
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