Neither
Posted By: Anon on 2008-01-30
In Reply to: I don't know, this post down below has me thinking. What are your thoughts, woman to woman. sm - Mom and Wife
Neither would make me upset. If there is someone who wants to put up with him then more power to them. My feeling is I wasn't born with my husband attached to me, and I would move on. I had a life before he came along and I will have a life if we're ever separated. It's not a matter of man vs woman. There are as many health risks in having affairs with some other women than a man. And if you took away physical appearances they are both people, so no difference there. I think society spends too much time focusing on who are you going to be with, find a husband, find a wife, settle down with someone, have kids, grow old together. It get pushed so much into our faces that we believe this is what we're supposed to do with our lives. I think more people should be happy with themselves first and foremost. A person can live alone AND not be lonely. I think friends, family and yourself (finding who you are) is more important than being with someone to live with day after day, then one day finding out they were never happy to be with you in the first place. I would think "well this is just great, I wish I had known that before I invested my time in them as I could have accomplished a lot more". Been married for 25 years through good and bad (no kids), but if it ended I would gather my belongings travel back to where my family and friends are and settle down, get involved in different groups, maybe take some courses that made me feel good about myself and move on with my life. Each of us is constantly growing, and if my husband wanted to be with someone else and not me, then I wouldn't want to stand in his way. You have to love someone enough to let them go if they are not happy, wish them well and make the best of your life. Many people meet second husbands and wife's which they find they are better suited to be with. I don't think its a matter of betrayal or lies. Things just happen in life and like my aunt told me one time. The key to growing old and being happy is adapting to what life gives us (or throws at us depending on how you want to look at it). To me that is what life should be about... constantly learning. I am happy with who I am and I know what I want in life. Well I'm sure that wasn't the answer to the question, but just my personal opinion. As for which would I be more upset with...neither. I'd welcome it and move on with my life.
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