Neighbor. son, problem (warning: long)
Posted By: Boo2 on 2006-10-17
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I have a neighbor with a 6-year-old boy. The little boy is an only child and lives an extremely structured lifestyle with some sort of activity scheduled every night, i.e. soccer, church group, Boy Scouts, etc. The little boy gets very little unstructured time to play with the children in the neighborhood, but when he does he is constantly demanding the children play on his terms and tattles on the children constantly, even when they truly did nothing wrong.
However, here’s the problem….some of the children in the children are older, ranging from 4th to 7th in this particular group. Whenever the little boy is around the older children are constantly being reprimanded by his mother to play with him and play with him “nicely,” as she puts it. This particular group of boys (one, of course, being my son) try to include him as much as possible, but they do get annoyed with this tattling and his mother, so they usually take off down the road or something to skateboard, etc. Now, the problem has become mine because evidently I get to hear every morning and every afternoon about something one of the children did. She has gone as far as to reprimand me prior for not standing outside during playtime and not forcing my children to be involved in the church group. In my defense, I am widowed with 2 children who are 8 and 10 and through the 10-year-old’s counselor (the counselor is not for behavior but for dealing with his father’s death and guy things, etc) I have been told that I am to allow them more freedom and not to be under foot all the time. Nevertheless, the truth is that I am sick of being told how to parent and judged constantly. I have spoken to my son on several occasions in private, but it has gotten to the point now that every single day there is something, in her eyes, that my son has said or done that offends her son. Yesterday, it was my son said “that guy acts gay” and she gave me a huge lecture on this. Well, I certainly did not teach him that and I know for a fact he truly does not even know the full meaning of this, but she just condemned me up and down for this. I know that children learn a lot of things at school and have no true meaning of their content, but does she not think this same thing will happen to her at one point? I am at the point where I think it would be best if she just did not allow her son to be around the kids at all if there is nothing she likes anyhow. She is always making comments, etc. and I am just tired of being reprimanded for children being children.
I feel like a total failure and just this second, as I am crying this and typing this, she called and left a message “I just wanted you to know that my son is Star Student of the Week and even though your son barely pays any attention to him at all, he still wants to bring a picture of him to show his classmates. Isn’t he just the sweetest child you know?” This is transcribed verbatim. Please tell me how to handle this neighbor and make nice, because right now I am depressed and angry at the same time. My son is a good boy, although he does do things I may not be particularly thrilled about, but he is a boy and trying to grow up. He is not racist, he does snot discriminate, does not break the law. He is trustworthy and respectful to adults and I get compliments all the time about what a good kid he is, so why is it that I feel terrible about failing him as a mother at this point? I just do not want to constantly reprimand my son for saying something she thinks is inappropriate or mean, nor do I wish her to do that with my child. Suggestions, please!!!!!!
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Warning - this is sad and somewhat discouraging
This has been a terrible and tragic week for our town. A first grader that goes to my son's school was killed last Friday when he was crossing his street to go home after he had chased after his dog. It happened right after school and a bus load of children were there to witness this scene. Then, just 3 days later a former teacher of my daughter lost her 24-year-old son in a car accident. The accident was caused by another driver who crossed the center line. They were both killed.
My daughter just came home from the funeral home and is understandably very upset. She went with her older cousin who also had this teacher and went to school with her son. My daughter is 16 and has been begging me to allow her to get her permit, which I have been putting off due to the fact that I am terrified of the whole driving thing with her. I lost a very close friend in high school due to a car accident, which is probably part of the reason. I also know at least 3 people who have lost their young children to car accidents. When she was telling me about his mother hugging her tight and not letting go tonight, I broke down into tears and told her that I didn't want her to drive, that I was scared. So, now she has stormed upstairs and both of us are in tears. I just don't know what to do. I know I can't keep her from driving forever. I just feels 16 and 17 year olds are simply not mature enough. My boys are 8 and 4 and I know someday I will face this with them to and go through the same thing.
She came down a bit ago and I told her that I wasn't saying she couldn't get her license, but that I was just worried and didn't feel she was quite ready yet. Am I completely wacko or are these normal feelings for parents of driving-aged kids?
Warning: spoilers
That's an interesting thought - about Ben using the smoke monster to spy on people. It has also been used to kill people (Mr. Eko) so it's pretty powerful. But then, Ben doesn't seem to hesitate to kill when it serves his purpose.
I don't trust Juliette - I think they left her behind as a spy. And from the previews, so does Sayid. Maybe we will find out a little more next week (ha!).
Wasn't it interesting that Kate met up with Sawyer's ex-GF? So many connections that the other people don't know about - Sawyer meeting Jack's dad, Claire being Jack's half-sister....
And what about Sun's pregnancy? I know it's early days yet, but surely she should have morning sickness or something, just to remind people that she is pregnant.
I think Nikki at least (and maybe Paolo) got out of the grave and covered it back up so the others wouldn't know they're alive. For what purpose, I don't know....but somehow I don't think we've seem the last of them.
How pathetic is my life that I spend so much time thinking about a TV show???
Another warning about windows being down
I had a friend whose husband had the passenger's side window down and the dog was in the front seat. He was on a leash, but he tried to get some fresh air (small dog as well), he slipped and fell out of the window and was hung by the leash when the husband (while driving) tried to "yank" him back in. He has never gotten over it. Another word to the wise - I wonder if this could be just as much of a distraction as talking on a cell phone while driving. If I had a dog, I think he/she would be in the back seat, and I would literally treat him/her more like a child and belt the animal in to be safe. Sorry to hear of the loss in your life. It must have been devastating.
Warning: gross
Sometimes when I've popped a really big one, that night I will dream about little white worms coming out of my skin.
Yuck yuck yuck yuck yuck!
Singulair warning
I wanted to let people know about my experience with Singulair for my 7-1/2-year-old son. He started taking it in mid September after his first asthma attack in several years. We started noticing that his behavior was getting out of control, matching symptoms of oppositional defiance disorder. He told me he wished he had never been born, and once when he was raging, he threatened to chop my toes off with a hatchet. I have been completely stressed by all of this, and it has caused great stress in my marriage. We unexpectedly stayed out of town for a couple of days and did not give him the Singulair, and unbelievably his behavior began to be more normal. Since then, I have found out about many other instances of children having psychiatric disorders caused by Singulair, some even to the point of committing suicide, and my nephew has also just been taken off of this medication due to behavioral problems. I know that not very person will have such severe side effects, but in our case, we will not ever give this to him again. It has been almost a week since he stopped Singulair, and I am so grateful to have my little boy back to being himself.
fair warning!!!! :)
The Wii is a blast! We bought one last year. Last week I bought Dance Dance Revolution 2 for it. It is extremely hard even on beginner! It will literally wear you out and if you are as out of shape as I am, plan on being very sore! LOL I really do like the Wii and plan on getting the fit later this summer. For us, it's something the entire family loves, except the b/f refuses to do the Dance Dance Revolution. LOL
Congrats on your quitting smoking! We are starting that as well. My b/f just started the Nicoderm patch. If he doesn't have too many side effects from it and it seems to work okay, I'm going to start it in a few weeks. I'm currently just cutting back right now. Cigarettes are getting so darn expensive. Marlboro are over $5 a pack and the fed tax increase of $0.62 starts April 1st. Illinois is trying to pass $1 tax on top of that. Pretty soon it's gonna be $7 for a pack of cigarettes. We've had enough.
Sorry to ramble! :)
Good luck to everyone quitting!
Warning. Technique inside.
He would lay down, grab is nuts in his mouth and kick his leg (like he was scratching) until the deed was done. How he first figured this out, who knows!!! LOL
Halloween candy warning
HALLOWEEN CANDY RECALLED
There is a new warning put out by the Canadian Food Inspection Agency....
Sherwood brand Pirate's Gold Milk Chocolate coins are being recalled due to the fact that they contain Mel amine, the ingredient in milk product that has caused many infant deaths in china. These candies are sold at Costco, as well as many bulk and dollar stores. please make sure to check your childrens halloween candy and DO NOT LET THEM EAT THE PIRATE COINS (you know the ones wrapped in the shiny gold foil) and please let other parents know about this!
I've had problems with security warning pop-ups...
and no matter what I change my settings to, I still get them. There is no "Don't snow this again" option either. I get them while working on a Sten-Tel platform. It really slows me down, as I have to do some things several times before they actually go through. It also adds another toolbar...just what we all need. That just cuts down the viewable size on your monitor.
I tried to get IE6 back, which you can't do even with a system restore, but then read about the mandatory automatic "upgrade" so quit trying to get rid of IE7. Hopefully they may issue some fixes.
Should formula cans have a warning that it's better to breastfeed
Read this article in a Parenting magazine. It's NOT a debate or question to which is best.
Should formula cans have a warning that it's better to breastfeed
While I am a big believer in Breastfeeding, I would never make anyone feel guilty for formula feeding. It's any mother's choice as to what is best for them and the baby. I personally could never have worked and breastfed at the same time!
46% said Yes 54% said No.
Small dog owners Please Read my warning
Yesterday, a lady was driving down our hill with her little doxie in the front seat of the van. I don't think the dog was even a year old yet. Anyway, she sideswiped a telephone pole which put her out of control, her airbags went off, and she couldn't see with all that white powder flying around, and she wound up in a drainage ditch. When the airbags went off, they struck her dog and killed him. Although our neighbor is a nurse and tried CPR, the poor thing had broken ribs which probably punctured his lungs.
So, what I'm saying is if you're going to take your dog for rides, please put them in the back seat, preferably with doggie seat belts, not the front seat. I could barely sleep last night over this. I feel so bad for the poor dog. It didn't have to happen. The lady was so upset over it and feeling so guilty, it took us over 2 hours to get her calmed down.
Severe warning about dangerous dog-toys!!
I came across this blog today on Craigslist: http://www.thechaistory.blogspot.com/
And if you have a dog, it's a must-see. It details what happened to a dog that was severely injured by a dog toy called a "Pimple Ball" made by Four Paws, Inc. The dog ended up losing his tongue, and the pain he had to endure was excruciating.
The dog's owner relates that the Four Paws Co. hasn't owned up to the fact that its toy is dangerous, and he's calling for a international boycott of Four Paws, Inc. After watching his video links of his poor dog's suffering, even though I have cats, I plan to be sure I don't purchase ANYTHING from this company, andhopefully you won't either.
Important addendum to rabies warning below:
(Aaaaggghhh!!! Somebody just SHOOT me!!!)
I guess I'm going to be changing veterinarians soon.... here's an update to the post below:
The oral pain/anti-inflammatory my cat was prescribed (which thank God I didn't give her without researching it!), is "Metacam" (meloxicam) oral suspension. The article below is from the rescue where I got my cat. Thank goodness I checked their website just now!
I was wrong about her vomiting BEFORE we went to the vet. It was last night, which was about 8-10 hours AFTER being given one dose of Metacam p.o. (This was an off-label treatment, as the oral suspension is for DOGS.) Since it was given in the vet's office directly into her mouth, and she weighs less than 10 lbs., she most likely had an OVERDOSE, which is why she vomited up her dinner in every room of the house lase night. The drug had been prescribed to help bring down the inflammation in the area of her lesion and fluid aspiration. But among other things, this drug can cause kidney failure in cats. "No, thanks!" I lost a cat to renal failure a few years back, and it took me 3 years to pay off the over $5,000 in vet bills I'd put on my MasterCard! And the cat still had to be put down, anyway.
So, here I've been spending the morning researching veterinary literature, checking my pet-insurance coverage limits, and biting my nails about the possible damage I might have done to my cat simply by trying to keep her up-to-date on her shots. I'm just about to change my pet-care-policy to "no more shots and no more meds"!
Here's the article:
Metacam Risks in Cats
What is Metacam?
Metacam ® is the veterinary brand name for meloxicam,,a
non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID)used to reduce
pain and inflammation.This article deals with two versions:
Metacam Solution for Injection (for cats)and Metacam Oral
Suspension (for dogs).
Metacam ’s FDA Approval Status
Metacam Solution for Injection was approved for one-time
use only in cats on 28 Nov 2004 (NADA 141-219).Metacam
Oral Suspension was approved for dogs only on 15 Apr 2003
(NADA 141-213).As of July 2006,the approval status of both
medications has not changed.
There is a misconception that using medications in a non-
FDA-approved fashion is illegal.This is simply not so;the FDA
regulates drug manufacturers,not the practice of veterinary
medicine.Veterinarians may prescribe any drugs they have
reason to believe are safe and effective,even if the particular
use is not FDA approved (this practice is known as "off-label "
or "extralabel " use)).However,you and your cat do not have
any FDA assurance that the drug is safe and effective.
Common uses of Metacam in Cats
Metacam is commonly used in cats for two cases:
(a)Metacam Solution for Injection (or simply "Metacam
Injection ")is used to provide post-operative relief of pain and
inflammation for up to 24 hours following procedures such as
dentistry,spaying and neutering.Vets often prescribe a few
daily follow-up doses of Metacam Oral for continued pain
relief,although this is not an FDA approved use.
(b)Metacam Oral Suspension (or simply "Metacam Oral ")is
often prescribed to relieve arthritis pain in cats.Although this
is also not an FDA approved use,it is known to be effective,
albeit with some risk.
Low Safety Margin =Higher Risks
According to the manufacturer ’s product sheet 1 ,Metacam has
a narrow margin of safety (also known as therapeutic index )
in cats,meaning that there is very little difference between a
safe,effective dose and a toxic dose.Repeated doses of
Metacam Oral in cats have been known to result in death,as
documented in the clinical tests 3 submitted to the FDA.
The narrow safety margin in cats is reflected in the FDA ’s
Adverse Drug Experience (ADE)reports 4 for Metacam Oral,
which summarize drug side effects reported by veterinarians.
Of 842 reports for dogs,19 cases of kidney failure and no
deaths were reported.However in 320 cats,105 cases of
kidney failure,48 deaths and 35 cases resulting in euthanasia
have been reported.This clearly indicates that Metacam poses
a much greater risk in cats than in dogs.
The use of Metacam poses not only a significant health risk to
the cat,but also exposes the cat owner to significant financial
risk.The treatment of kidney failure requires days of hospitalization,
and the outcome may be death.Whether the cat survives or
not,the hospital bill can easily exceed $1,000.
Because of Metacam ’s narrow safety margin,veterinarians
will order blood tests to check your cat ’s kidney and liver
functions and general state of health.Don ’t try to save money
by refusing these tests;it ’s essential to know if your cat is at
greater risk.Should side effects occur,your vet is likely to
order another round of tests to check the drug ’s impact on
your cat.Be prepared for these costs.
Problems with Smaller Cats
The post-surgical use of Metacam Oral in smaller cats (under
10 lbs.)poses a unique problem.The product sheet for Metacam
Oral 2 warns against administering the drug directly into the
mouth for dogs weighing less than 10 lbs,as this may cause
an accidental overdose.Instead,it must be mixed with food to
ensure slower absorption.The Metacam Injection used during
surgery may cause loss of appetite,and the cat won ’t eat his
oral dose.So you ’re likely to try to administer the dose directly
into the mouth,but if your cat weighs less than 10 lbs.(and
many do),this only increases the risk of overdose.
Questions for your Vet
Given the clearly documented risks of Metacam Oral in cats,it
is wise to ask your veterinarian the following questions if he or
she recommends its use:
Are my cat ’s blood tests (especially liver &kidney functions)OK?
What side effects should I look out for?
Under what conditions should I discontinue the medication?
Who do I call on evenings or weekends if my cat has a reaction?
Is there a 24-hour emergency animal hospital in the area?
May I have copies of the Metacam product sheets?
Persians are a more delicate breed,are you sure this is safe?
My cat weighs less than 10 pounds,are you sure this is safe?
What other pain medications are FDA-approved in cats?
What pain medications were you using prior to Metacam Oral ’s
release in 2003?
Are these medications safer and/or cheaper than Metacam?
Conclusion
There are clearly documented risks associated with the off-
label use of Metacam Oral in cats which may lead to kidney
failure and death.These risks should be carefully discussed
with your veterinarian before proceeding with any Metacam
treatment.For post-operative pain relief,explore other alternatives
with your veterinarian before agreeing to the use of Metacam.
Acronyms
ADE Adverse Drug Experience
FDA The United States Food and Drug Administration
NADA New Animal Drug Application
References
[1 ] Product sheet:Metacam Solution for Injection for Cats
Boehringer Ingelheim Vetmedica,Inc.(revised October 2004)
http://www.bi-vetmedica.com/product_sites/METACAMINCats/documents/Metacam_Cat_RP.pdf
[2 ] Product sheet:Metacam Oral Suspension for Dogs
Boehringer Ingelheim Vetmedica,Inc.(revised January 2005)
http://www.bi-vetmedica.com/product_sites/METACAMORAL/documents/Metacam_Oral_Susp_rp.pdf
[3 ] Freedom of Information Summary for Supplemental NADA 141-219
(Metacam 5 mg/mL Solution for Injection for cats),28 October 2004
FDA Center for Veterinary Medicine
See "Tolerance Study in Cats on Meloxicam ",pp.24-26
http://www.fda.gov/cvm/FOI/141-219s102804.pdf
[4 ] Adverse Drug Experiences (ADE)Report,9 June 2006
FDA Center for Veterinary Medicine
See "meloxicam oral ",pp.48-64
http://www.fda.gov/cvm/Documents/ade_web_rpts_MN.pdf
Metacam ® is a registered trademark of Boehringer Ingelheim Vetmedica,,Inc.
Braces...Warning...there's a rant a'commin
I HATE THEM!!! I'm about to call the orthodontist and tell him I've given up, my teeth are just fine now and I WANT THEM OFF!!! I'm so sick of worrying about staining my teeth. I've become "obsessive" about brushing. I hate the fact that I'm constantly "tonguing" them and worried about having stuff stuck in them. I don't smile anymore. I don't like to go in public. HATE pictures cuz I don't smile with my teeth and I look like a moron when I smile with my mouth shut. I miss my baby carrots and broccoli. Sandwiches are absolutely impossible. Just all in all a horrible experience and I wish I never would have gotten them...
Sorry and thank you for your time...lol
I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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Who saw the Lost seasone finale? (warning: spoilers)
I can't believe Charlie really died. For a good cause, okay, and he was never my favorite character, but I feel really sorry for Claire.
And what do these people want, these ones on the frieghter? Obviously from Jack's "flash forward", leaving the island now is not a good idea. Why? What does Ben know? Who sent the ship? Penny's father?
It's beginning to look like Locke has a point about not leaving the island. Maybe they are meant to be there. Maybe there is something that they can only accomplish toether. But what?
Hurley was so cool, coming to the rescue in his VW bus. Go Hurley!!
Other thoughts or speculations?
Aqua Dots toys contain poison - a warning.
Millions of toys recalled; contain 'date rape' drug
Two U.S. children went into comas after swallowing Chinese-made Aqua Dots found to contain a chemical that converts into 'date rape' drug when ingested.
November 8 2007: 10:13 AM EST
WASHINGTON (AP) -- Millions of Chinese-made toys have been pulled from shelves in North America and Australia after scientists found they contain a chemical that converts into a powerful date rape drug when ingested. Two children in the United States and three in Australia were hospitalized after swallowing the beads.
With only seven weeks until Christmas, the recall is yet another blow to the toy industry - already bruised by a slew of recalls this past summer.
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Child deaths have prompted FDA hearings on the safety of cold and cough medicines. CNN's Elizabeth Cohen reports
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In the United States, the toy goes by the name Aqua Dots, a highly popular holiday toy distributed by Toronto-based Spin Master Toys. They are called Bindeez in Australia, where they were named toy of the year at an industry function earlier this year.
It could not immediately be learned whether Aqua Dots beads are made in the same factories as the Bindeez product. Both are sold by Australia-based Moose Enterprises.
The toy beads are sold in general merchandise stores and over the Internet for use in arts and crafts projects. They can be arranged into designs and fused together when sprayed with water.
Scientists say a chemical coating on the beads, when ingested, metabolizes into the so-called date rape drug gamma hydroxy butyrate. When eaten, the compound - made from common and easily available ingredients - can induce unconsciousness, seizures, drowsiness, coma and death.
Naren Gunja from Australia's Poisons Information Center said the drug's effect on children was "quite serious ... and potentially life-threatening."
The recall was announced by the Consumer Product Safety Commission on Wednesday several hours after published reports about the recall in Australia.
The two U.S. children who swallowed Aqua Dot beads went into nonresponsive comas, commission spokesman Scott Wolfson said Wednesday afternoon.
In Australia, the toys were ordered off store shelves on Tuesday when officials learned that a 2-year-old boy and a 10-year-old girl were hospitalized after swallowing the beads. A 19-month-old toddler also was being treated.
The news jolted the toy industry because Aqua Dots has been one of the few bright stars of the toy selling season, which, along with overall retailing, has gotten off to a sluggish start. The item, which had been heavily advertised, had appeared on many toy experts' list of must-have holiday toys, and toy sellers are now in the midst of canceling advertising and scrambling to figure out how to replace it.
Chris Byrne, a New York-based toy consultant, noted that the incidents could have been isolated, and Spin Master may be erring on the side of caution.
"This is something that they could not have foreseen. This is an extremely hot toy. ... It's a little scary," Byrne said.
In a statement, Toys "R" Us Inc., said that it issued on Tuesday a "stop sale" on the entire Spin Master Aqua Dots product line in its North American stores and on its Web site after it learned of the news. "We understand that Spin Master and U.S. regulatory authorities are investigating this product and we have asked Spin Master to fully explain what it believes happened," said the toy seller in a statement.
Meanwhile, a separate recall was announced for 405,000 children's products made in China, most of them toy cars, because of dangerous levels of lead.
The recall includes about 380,000 Pull-Back Action Toy Cars imported by Dollar General Merchandising Inc. of Goodlettsville, Tenn., and 7,500 Dragster and Funny Car toys imported by International Sourcing Ltd. of Springfield, Mo.
Four of the recalled products were imported by Schylling Associates Inc. of Rowley, Mass., including the items Duck Family Collectable Wind-Up Toy, Dizzy Ducks Music Box, "Robot 2000" collectable tin robot and Winnie-the-Pooh Spinning Top. The company recalled another 66,000 spinning tops Aug. 22.
Representatives from Schylling Associates Inc. were not immediately available for comment.
Wednesday's recalls include about 7,200 "Big Red" Wagons imported by Northern Tool & Equipment Co. of Burnsville, Minn. Totaling about 405,700, the recalled children's products all had excessive levels of lead in their surface paint.
Although no illnesses connected to the toy car recall have been reported, lead is toxic if ingested by young children. Children's products found to have more than 0.06 percent lead accessible to users are subject to a recall.
Why are you SM tellling me not to post here? Is this a warning because this is a false website? nm
I think the few of us who are here need some straight answers. Sold, Stolen, Hijacked, Owned by a Foreign Country?? What is the truth?
You need to read sticky warning at the top of Politics board.
"let people express his or her opinion and move on"
Use the Golden Rule, don't go over there if you get headache, stay on MT boards.
Ancestry.Com Needs a Surgeon General's Addiction Warning Box
Is to get one of those Ancestry charts online where you put in each person in a family tree. You can then click on 2 people's names and see exactly how they're related to each other.
I couldn't live in the same house with do-nothing people! Warning bells there!! nm
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Child Protective Services needs a call about this situation. This has a big red warning
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Design Star - warning West Coasters: spoiler
Did anybody ever doubt it would be Kim? Woohoo!!!
Oh SOOO cute. But please read inside for a warning (I'm a dog owner) sm
Puppies develop habits really quickly, so discourage licking the can thing. Mine would get cans out of the garbage and one had a cut edge and he terrribly cut his mouth and tongue. I felt like such a careless dog mom. A true accident, but now maybe I can help you prevent the same thing? Please excuse my post... I am not a know-it-all and I actually don't like it when someone posts something lighthearted and then someone (like me) gets kind of off topic in the thread with a reply like this one, but maybe it will help you prevent an accident. But this is an adorable picture and I love your puppy.
I put *warning, graphic* in the subject field, but apparently it didn't show up. nm
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How long is too long to wait for Pap results?
This is a follow up Pap for an abnormal one a few months back. I have waited for the results for over a month and have called the office once. Any advised about being a patient patient - LOL. Its hard when your in this business, I think anyway, not to be more aggressive about stuff like this.
My neighbor
dropped by with a beautiful gerbera plant with bright orange flowers, the kind I like, some notecards with watercolor art of a Siberian husky's profile, and a kind sympathy card with a big, fluffy guardian type dog sitting watch on the front.
She and I both lost dogs at Christmas, and she had spent a little time with CJ, so she was extremely sad that I lost CJ so soon. It was very thoughtful and kind of her. I was quite touched.
ARE YOU MY NEIGHBOR?
Nice, I have one of those outfits too. I call it my "Puffy Ninja" outfit. Kind of like a black Pillsbury Doughboy, right? I noticed that when I fall down while shoveling it makes it kind of hard to get back up with all those layers. My husband took pity and bought a snowblower for me to use and put racing stripes on it to lure me into wanting to use it. Phooey on that. I'll make hot chocolate for him while he snowblows to his heart's content. He can enjoy those racing stripes and cold icy water going down his back while I stir the chocolate in my fuzzy slippers. Doesn't California look good sometimes?
neighbor
Move - the sooner the better.
Your Neighbor is too MUCH!!!
First, what state do you live in? Some states have a one-party (the caller) notification and others it takes the authorization of both parties to tape a phone call. In such a state if you tape a conversation without the other person's permission you can be in deep doo-doo!!
It sounds like management isn't doing what their suppose to. I live in a two-family apartment and have a lot of unused land around the house so I have no idea how the rules are in a large apartment complex work. If management won't help, then I would go to the Sheriff and get a restraining order. Sounds like Nosey Neighbor is more or less off kilter by the alcohol intake.
As for the pup, call animal control. If she didn't license her dog, in many states it's six months) She might get either a warning or ticket. Plus, I think it would be a health hazard to allow an animal to pee and poo in a common indoor walkway.....isn't it???
You don't want to tick management off to the degree that you might have a hefty rent increase or even an eviction.
Let me tell you about my neighbor...sm
I do live in the country. I live on 10 acres along with my parents. My parents live on the other end. BUT my dad had this Mexican guy that worked for him. He let him move his junky camper on the property not very far from me. It is not in my yard but pretty close to it. I would say 150-200 feet over from me. Well I have always had privacy. So I don't like having someone who can see everything I do. Well he used to sit in his camper and peek out his blinds at me when I was in my yard. I would see him. I did not like him at all. Well he had a girlfriend who lived with him. They fought all the time. Every time they would fight almost she would come to my door crying saying he was hitting her and she was afraid. What the heck am I supposed to do? They are illegal so they don't want the law out. Then finally I got to where I didn't answer to the door so she quit coming over here. I guess she got the hint. Well he went back to Mexico. Thank God! She didn't and my dad feels sorry for her and lets her stay. She is nosy. She took it upon herself to have her mail delivered to my mailbox without asking if it was ok. Just gave my address as her own. My address is on my box. Then since she was using my box she took it upon herself to go check the mail and at the same time plunder through mine. If I don't beat her to the mailbox she steals the salepapers. Oh yes. If you ask her about it she says she hasn't. I have seen her. She turns her music up loud so when I go in my yard sometimes I can hear it. She is a hoe and has strange men over all hours of the night who stay until the next morning. She has ended up getting pregnant as a result and still has men come "visit" at night and she is 7 months pregnant. Disgusting! But my dad won't make her leave so either I have to deal with it or move. She is no where around his house so of course it doesn't bother him. I have lived here my whole life so I don't want to leave.
My neighbor uses them as
golf holes in his yard! lol yes i am serious! Atleast yours hides them in the garage. lol
A neighbor said is was the best thing
She looked better than ever once she had the surgery. A good friend (male) said he could only eat mashed potatoes and chicken for months until diagnosed. Once the gallbladder was removed, he felt great and was back to work as a plumber (heavy lifting and all) in what seemed like a short period of time maybe even 6 weeks. Tough call, but I'd say you'll probably be better off having the surgery and they "be gone" once and for all. God bless.
Well if you had a neighbor like mine
who called the health department when I did not cut the grass (had surgery so missed a week or 2 of getting up there) and the department asked me to go there, did and the grass not even knee high so then I called the department back, told them sour grapes from guy because I would not sell to him and do not call me again unless health issue, no garbage, no old vehicles, nothing. We have a commercial cutter, bought just for that but like I said in another part, got estimate of over 300$ and with needing every month, would have to get a second job to pay for just the grass! Mine between 2 other properties and they are not the kind you want to share morning coffee with. The neighbors from hades.
"Send them to the neighbor's."
Don't you dare do that! That's what my neighbors do to me with their kids and it pisses me the frig off! Give them the NyQuil instead ;-)
My neighbor has a (now) first grader - sm
and she has her ears pierced. Mom buys her semi-precious stones, opal earrings, etc. The kid loses them all the time. She has many, many singles now. I would not advise anything of expense for any child under the age of 12. Either get inexpensive CZs or birthstones that are under $20. Hypoallergenic posts are a must though.
meeting the neighbor
One thing I don't see that really will matter especially with these more agressive breeds...are they fixed? If one or both of these are intact males, all bets are off. You do not want to attempt to bring them together if they are intact males because that will change everything.
IMO, you and your neighbor may want your dogs to friends but in all likehood they don't. They are each used to their own territory and if they have not been socialized up to this point, then bringing a strange adult dog into their home will only set them up to fail. In all honesty, your dog is probably going to be happier staying at home without you then going with you to the neighbors.
Ahh Hayseed, I always wish you were my neighbor LOL (sm)
I'm sure you are funny all day every day....on the rag...yuck!! LOL
Isn't he adorable? ..my neighbor has a
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Reminds me of a neighbor
I called the school system on a child who was not attending school (I would see him lots of days in his yard during school time). When the authorities came out the mother tried to tell them she was homeschooling the child. Good thing her word was not taken- this woman can hardly read and is basically right on the fringe of incompetency herself. I think some kind of system ought to be in place to teach children- I personally do not think I have the knowledge to give my own child what they would need. Read on this site where mothers homeschooling and working an 8 hour day? How in the world are they doing that. I think the kids will probably suffer in the longrun.
I have one who started out my neighbor
and became my best friend. She just moved about 5 miles away about a month ago and I miss her already. We used to see each other every day and didn't even have to knock on each other's doors. I miss her coming over in the middle of the night when I was working with hot chocolate. We can talk about everything. Our children are best friends. It's definitely not the same with her not right across the street. Our other neighbor said that neighbors can't be friends, but in my instance it couldn't be further from the truth. We're like family. We go out to dinner almost every Saturday night, and our family's have vacationed together. The spring and summer months will be the worst since we used to see each other every day. I'm really lucky to have her in my life. I wish everyone had someone like her.
Do you live next to my mom's neighbor's too?
My mom has had issues with her neighbor's dogs for a long time. If they aren't barking, they are pooping in the yard, tearing out the trash, etc. We have called the Humane Society. They don't do anything....at least around here they don't. We have called the Sheriff's Department and they said there was nothing they could do. We can't shoot them as that is animal cruelty. Those stupid dogs have more rights than humans do it seems.
If there dog is a big dog, I most certainly would not want it in my house. I have an Aussie that stays outside. When he barks, we don't bring him in the house. We do, however, tell him to knock it off and he usually does. We don't just let him bark and bark. We also don't have neighbors right next to us either.
Irresponsible dog owners are a pet peeve of mine. In fact, I've thought several times of writing a letter to the Editor of our local newspaper about irresponsible dog owners.
Do the other neighbor's say anything about this dog?
punk neighbor kid
Awhile back I wrote that I wish there was a draft and the neighbor's kid would be drafted. Got lots of messages telling me bout the terrors of other neighborhood kids. Just thought I'd update you on this. This kid is 14 years old (is about as big as a full grown overweight adult) and his attitude is getting worse and worse. Seems like his parents don't know how to control him and they don't. He calls his little brother the "B" word (usually what we refer to other women as), he's constantly saying "homee and home boy", uses the "f" word in about every sentence that comes out of his mouth. The other day was about the final point for me. He was using hedge trimmers to do whatever he was doing. Well the thing wasn't working to his liking and he used about every swear word imaginable in a single sentence. The lady two houses across from me in the back yard yelled out to him - "Hey watch your language". She was coughing and sounded sick and I'm sure she didn't like what he was saying. His reply to her was "Shut the "f" up or I'll come over and kill you". I don't think she heard it as he did not say it loud enough but DH and I heard it. All I could think of was where are his parents. They were there about 5 minutes before that. He also has a couple freinds of another color and when they are in the back yard with him he feels the need to do a whole "routine" like what you see in the movies. Well yesterday we happened to catch a movie on TV (by accident - it was on and we couldn't find the remote to change the channel) but it was called Alpha Dog and our mouths about dropped. Not sure if any of you have seen it but it is exactly the way the kid next door acts and talks. They call each other the "B" word (still didn't realize they call guys that), and the expletives in that movie were even more than I can take (and I can sure use the words at times - bad language does not bother me, it's the people who use it and in what reference they use it). I told my DH I have a good mind to go talk to his mother but that wouldn't do any good, and if I did I wouldn't put it past him to torch our house or rob us when we were away. His parents talk to him like nothing I've heard of before (except the low lifes across the street that freely use the "f" word talking to their kids). But the kids parent's have called him a name (I won't use it if by some chance she happens to frequent this board - I have no idea what she does but you never know). But when he asked why she called him that she stated "because you don't have a brain". They are constantly yelling at him. The other day he told his parents he wanted his room to remain completely dark and they said to him "like your heart". Kind of creeped me out. Anyway...we have been planning to move for quite some time, but this was the breaking point to speed up our search. I believe he's probably just a bully and says things he doesn't mean when he knows that other people can't hear him, but anyone voicing they will kill someone is enough for me to "head to the hills" and to really search out what kind of neighbors in different area. We also get a lot of kids playing the base on their car radios so loud the stuff inside our house vibrates. Told my DH today where can we go live in peace and quiet without having to move to a 55+ park. I'm sure every place has kids who are a terror, but I really feel like this is where I don't want to be. I wrote before I wished they'd have a draft but I realized today what he needs is to be in a military school with a uniform and drill sergeants keeping an eye on him 24 hours a day teaching him respect. Being in the Army and going through basic training myself really taught me respect for others and how to be an adult. Anyway...just wanted to vent.
annoying neighbor
you have freaks for neighbors just like we do. You have to be sly and not let them know what is going on (school clothes, new toys, teachers, etc.) I have spent years trying to get to the point where my neighbor just waves and doesn't take it as an invitation to come over and try to interrogate. My husband says you have to be bold with people like that and not to worry about it, they are used to it. Good luck.
That's hilarious! My neighbor said
her best babysitter was a collie. They lived on a busy highway 40 years ago with a chain link fence. Her male collie would let any kid in the yard, but he would never let them leave unless an adult was taking them out. He would grab them by the back of their pants or diaper and pull them away from the gate or fence.
My neighbor, George...
who is taking great care of his wife, who has Alzheimer's, and still finds time to plow the snow off his neighbors' driveway with his tractor.
Dear Neighbor:
Please don't come outside naked. You're too old and you have nothing to see anyway. Yes, I called the police. You're the vice president of a world-wide company for crying out loud. You should know better.
Old neighbor of mines does not have one - sm
no credit cards either. I do him a favor and get him is cigs via mail order (he can't in his state though I can, just cannot have a business ship cigs to you)and ship them to him, and I save him about $30 a carton that way. He pays everything with money orders or cash. He lives off his pension and that is it, he is a retired fireman.
My neighbor/friend comes over...sm
a few times a day to feed and entertain my cat and dog. A lady at the dog park put her dog in a *kennel* that was more like a day care/motel. At night each dog has their own heated space. During the day, all the residents and day care dropoffs are let loose in the yard to play. She even brought things from home and *decorated* his *suite.* It was hilarious envisioning what this place was like. BTW,
My neighbor/friend comes over...sm
a few times a day to feed and entertain my cat and dog. A lady at the dog park put her dog in a *kennel* that was more like a day care/motel. At night each dog has their own heated space. During the day, all the residents and day care dropoffs are let loose in the yard to play. She even brought things from home and *decorated* his *suite.* It was hilarious envisioning what this place was like. BTW, cut
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