Needing help with things?

Going back to the housekeeper subject, I found this neat site www.domystuff.com

It lets you post what you need done and people place bids for getting the work and then you can rate them and see their ratings.

I'm going to give this a try and thought I would share!

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Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions. 

Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational. 

So, how 'bout you? What will send  you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?

I went through a similar situation with my (now ex-) husband's family during the ten years we were married.

Your husband is NOT the problem, his parents are. You said that your husband tried (albeit unsuccessfully) to get along with his father. So, it seems to me that he *DID* try as best as he could. But, sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things don't work out. So you do what the song says, "You have to know when to hold up; know when to fold up ..."

Now, it seems to me that his parents are treating your children like "holiday turkeys," ... bring them to be brought to the table once or twice a year, but ignore them the rest of the year. Yes, that's pretty much what it sounds like, and my heart goes out to your children 'cause I know the pain they are suffering ... because of their grandparents.

I also suspect that the ONLY reason your husband's parents went to the event was to "stick it" to your husband, and not because of the grandchildren. When you love someone and are truly proud of them, you do everything you can to be part of their life.

The ONLY people who matter in all of this are your immediate family ... You, your husband, and your children. Do not let his parents tear you all apart. I think you all need to get into therapy (you, your husband, and the children), so you can work through this problem AS A FAMILY UNIT, 'cause you're the only family that truly matters. You're all in pain and all of your feelings need to be counted, by each other.

Take it from someone who lived it. 

Your writing my store.  I too went to court over 20 times due to custody battle with a dud.  After 4 years of being dragged in and out of court, I ended up the what I had before I started $100 a week.  I did get sole custody of my son though.  I spent probably about $20,000 on lawyers (4 of them).   I wrote a credit check for $5000 to hold is escrow because I had to sell my house and was planning on paying it after the sale of my house.  Well, the lawyer cashed my check and ended up in jail after he ripped off about $75,000 from clients.  I was out $5000.  

I also had a warrant out for my arrest becuse my ex took a notice I had to go to court out of my mail box.  Being that he was good friends with the neighbors from h&#%, I did get arrested and put in jail for about 4 hours which cost me another $250 for the bail. 

Keep your head up.  It will get better.  I haven't gone to court since 8/05 because both judges, the one in family court and the one in municipal court both told my ex to leave me alone.    Everytime I get the mail I'm expecting to get a notice to go to court.   Believe it or not, it wasn't so bad being in jail, a cell to myself, and away from the h$&% he put me through. 

So here I am, had to sell my house, broke as anything, living in a condo, but my kid is all mine. The ex moved 2 minutes away from me "to keep an eye on me" but what goes around comes around and I'm just waiting for the day he gets what he deserves.  My son refuses to go to his house because his girlfriend also took me to court a few times.  He is supposed to pick him up on Saturday morning and bring him home Sunday night every weekend.  So guess who has to give the kid money for the weekend - me.   That comes out of the $100 a week along with lunch money, clothing, food, etc.   I literally ended up having a nervous breakdown, 6 days in the looney bin. 

Keep your head up, I know exactly what you're going through and somehow it does get better.  ');>

Hayseed said, "No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved." That could be part of my problem. We've been eating a lot of pasta, rice and taters because hubby can't have dark greens, which includes salads, green beans, etc. because of gout and on Coumadin for AVR.  Don't know what else to make anymore.

We gave up coffee, now, too, because both of us were having stomach problems with it. Two cups a day was our limit. He can survive with it, I can't seem to do that. LOL

Dinosaur said, " I had undiagnosed diabetes and would just "poop" out when my blood sugar was too low (or even too high!)."  Diabetes runs in my family and I've been watching my counts for the past 10 years. So far, so good. I don't eat sugary stuff like pies,cakes, candy, soda. Don't like sweets that much.

I was checked for Lyme disease a couple years ago because I had 2 tick bites. That was negative.

The only allergy I have is my home. Ever since we moved to this house, I've had the flu, colds, runny nose, sneezing, coughing, etc.

Guess I'll have to make an appointment with a doctor and try to find out. Usually I'm one of those people who has something wrong that no one can figure it out. When I was 40, I had mono (rare for my age group) and was told I was "borderline Epstein-Barr and Guillame-Barre [sic]."

 I was also checked for B12 deficiency (borderline), Anemia (borderline), rheumatoid arthritis, etc. You name it, I had the test over a 2 year period. The answer? Nada. I'm beginning to think all these "borderline" tests are coming back to bite me.

Thanks for your help. I think I will make an appointment to get checked out again.

1.  Your house payment probably also has your taxes and insurance added in.  If paid off, you'll still have to pay these.  Mine account for about 1/2 of my total house payment.  Plus, 6% is low compared to the other interest rates.  

2.  Debt to credit ratio:  I've had all of my credit cards increase their rates to "default" rates just because my debt was a high percentage of all my credit (no missed payments, no late pays, etc.)  This will affect the teaser rates as well. 

3.  Your 401k is also probably earning some type of interest.  Take that "lost" interest from money you've borrowed into account.  That will help you better compare the interest rates. 

If you feel you have to talk to a debt counselor, there is no shame in that!  Just make sure it's a reputable company.  As with most things, there are a lot of scams out there.  Good Luck!

One, she's a cleaning lady, not a housekeeper...

Two, you didn't catch her "red handed", you don't even know 100% for sure that she took your drawers.  Red handed is when you catch someone in the act, which in this case you did not...

Pet rocks

Hummers

Suburban sprawl

7 year car payments

$5 coffees

Please add  more!

Cell Phones:  If I'd had one of those as a teenager, I wouldn't have gotten into so much trouble for always forgetting to call my parents and tell them where I was, or that I'd be late. 

ATM Machines:  I remember running out of gas on a weekend when the banks were closed back in the 70's, had no credit cards, and would my car would be running on fumes to get home 'cause I couldn't buy gas.  

The Internet:  About 12 years ago, I remember asking someone what the Internet was, and why we needed it.  Now, I'm 100% hooked on it.  Remember the HARD way of doing things in the past?  Like buying theater or plane tickets?  Looking up directions?  Comparing different brands of something you wanted to buy?  Selling something you no longer wanted?  Looking for a house or an apartment?  Getting the latest news?  The list is endless.         Long Live The Internet!!!! 

Google:   Who can live without it?  Especially Google Earth & Google Maps?  Now I'm armed with driving directions, maps, even photos if needed, of where I'm going.  Back in the day when I had to rely on someone's verbal directions, following them and actually getting to your destination was like Russian roulette. 

Digital Cameras:  When I think of all the money I spent on film, and then developing said film, and all the film wasted on bad shots in my lifetime, it makes me cringe.  I love the freedom and flexibility digital cameras give me to take as many photos as I want, and to experiment with them, as well. 

MP3 Players/CD Players:  Think of all the fights you've had in the car over which radio station to listen to listen to, and how loud.  Then think how they never would've occurred if Mom & Dad could've handed each of us our own music source and headphones. 

Solar Lights:  I love solar lights!  Garden lights!  Floodlights!  Christmas lights!  You can fill your yard with them, and the power source is FREE!!! 

Hair-straightening and Curling Irons:  Remember the 60's, and trying to smooth frizzy or too-curly hair with an IRON on your mom's ironing-board?  Or sleeping with HAIR CURLERS?  UGH!!! 

You can probably think of a million more great things than I did.  Let's hear 'em!

The first thing you should do is take her to the vet to have her looked at medically as far as eliminating on the bed.  So many things could be in play here.  Secondly, kittens often try to play rough.  Pull your hand away and refuse to let her do it.  I also make a loud meow sound at the same time and they will usually let go immediately.  The kitty will get the idea before long.  I would make every effort to engage this kitten and get her to like you again.  Have plenty of toys available, make sure there is a scratching post, buy her some catnip.  They are like kids at this age and need positive reinforcement, not you being mad at them.  Best wishes.

Over the course of less than 1 year I will have:

Had a son enlist in the Air Force...

Have that same son get married...making me a mother-in-law...

Same son leave for basic training in December...

And....now his wife's pregnant! All the while, I'll turn 40 in August, which is when the baby's due...at the end of August!

Talk about a whilrwind year...I need a break!  Oh yeah, and my daughter got engaged...whew!