Need advice - ex has pulled my kid out of school re MRSA scare
Posted By: 500 miles away on 2007-10-26
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My son lives with his dad 500 miles away. It was his birthday today, he's 13 and in 8th grade. I called to wish him happy birthday. He said his dad had pulled him out of school due to paranoia about MRSA (staph infections) outbreaks. I asked him if there'd been any in his school, he said no, just some of the surrounding communities. He said his dad won't let him go back to school until the school "does something abou it". The ex got on the phone demanding I look up two vaccinations for it online and give my opinion "because I'm in the health field". I type radiology, for goodness sake, and even if I was familiar with the names of the drugs, it doesn't mean I'd know all about them just because I could spell them!
Upon researching this, it appears the chances of getting fatal MRSA are pretty slim, and I had much more chance getting it when I worked on site in the hospital than my son does (son does not play sports if he can keep from it). I think my ex is off the deep end, and I'm afraid I might have to take him to court (again) to force him to let the child go to school. His school is closed tomorrow so I'll have to wait until Monday to call them and see how long my son has actually been absent.
Anybody have any advice for me? How long should I give my ex to work through his paranoia before I call a lawyer (again)? Has anyone else taken their kids out of school over this?
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I just pulled mine out of private school - sm
It's not all that it is cracked up to be. Our one local one that is not affliated with a church is $6K a year per kid (we have 2), plus an extra $100 a month they squeeze out of you for all sorts of stuff. The other schools in town were half the price but all were church schools which we did not want. So that is an aspect you need to look into if you chose to go private. Also the quality of the teachers, are they all certified, etc. We had a headmaster that lied to the parents and the schoolboard on a regular basis, last year he raised tuition $400 a kid, and shortly after that about 7 teachers/aids quit for various reasons, and in all this I dug up a ton of dirt and things behind the scenes that totally stunk, hence kids now go to public school. Class size is the same for us (19) and the discipline is so much better at the public school. A girl in my one daughter's former class is the class bully and at least once a year tries to choke another classmate, has she ever been suspended? NO. Has she ever been expelled? NO. 2 reasons, they school wants the money no matter what, and the kid's mother is an alumni. So not all kids at private school are well behaved angels. They expect a lot from the kids, but I think this particular school is overpriced unfortunately. ------my other daughter is also in 1st grade. She is struggling terribly in reading, though I take blame for some of that as I am very guilty of not reading to her on a regular basis. I am trying to get better at this, and her teacher at school reads with the kids one-on-one to check on their status. My daughter is slowly improving through her and my efforts. On every other level she is average. She cannot add in her head as yet, but I think that is a little advanced for a 6-y/o. She can do simple math on paper and is doing fine with that. ---If you chose to keep her in the public school (and I would because they have lots of resources that most private schools do not have, our private school had no special services at all despite the high tuition), pick up the slack at home, work on whatever subject she is weak on every night for 15 minutes. I do this with my 8-y/o in 3rd grade math, which is her weak subject, and it has made a huge difference. I am also reading with my other daughter at least 3 x a week (need to do 5 though) and it has helped a lot now. Reading a simple 12 page book used to take 45 mintues, now we can do it in about 10-15. --- It is hard to fit this into my schedule but I know I have to do it so they will improve and eventually excel. You just need to figure out what you daughter needs to do, what you need to do to help her reach that goal, go slow though and don't set the bar so high that she will never reach it.
Advice needed - school incident
Okay, I will try to make this short. We send our son to Catholic school. We are Catholic but we also love the atmosphere, i.e. safe and a good community environment. He is in second grade.
When I pick him up today, he tells me this classmate girl has stabbed him in the arm with her pencil! He had to have an ice pack on it for an hour and it still hurts him. She poked thru his shirt and now it's bruised with a red mark in the center. She has a short fuse and apparently was mad that he was invading her "space." They have 4 stations at one table, so it could be difficult for a child to discern where one space ends and another begins.
I am pi**ed off about this.
1. The school didn't call me, but the they did the other mother.
2. The girl's mother (whom I know) hasn't called me about it.
3. I spoke with the principal briefly because his teacher had left by the time I got there, but he is going to talk to the girl and my son about it tomorrow and about personal space. She was in his office for an hour until dismissal today.
I know if it was my kid, I would be calling that mother right up and apologizing. I am so ticked off right now about it that I am worried if I do call, I will lose my cool.
The other thing is this: We have always taught our son to respect others and treat others how you would want to be treated. He has a good moral compass. He is also a big and tough kid. We have always taught him to never hurt others unless it's in self defense. I feel as if they are brushing this off because he is a boy. I think if the shoe was on the other foot and he did it to her, it would be bad news. All hubby and I know is that we don't want it happening again. How do we get our point across? SHould I call the mom and tell her that? My son told me this is not the first time she has done this (poking with the pencil) but it is the first time it hurt like this. She could have gotten him in the eye or hurt someone else altogether! I don't think she belongs in that school if she continues to act that way. The school doesn't have a special needs program.
I am so mad right now I could spit.
MRSA
Cases have practicially quadrupled in my area - it's becoming a HUGE problem. Don't be too quick to jump all over your ex until you speak to the school personally and find out what caused him to do this.
mrsa
I am sure the school has been taking precautions. My kids school has and no one in the school has it, it actually is just in the district. You know people really do not realize how common this is. My sister is an ER nurse and says she must see 8 cases of MRSA every weekend on one shift. I think he may be over reacting just a bit. I would call the school and see what they say. Doesn't your ex understand that really unless he is locked in a room forever he can run into this anywhere or even he can bring it home to him!
MRSA
The best way to protect oneself from bacterial infections, of course, is to keep one's hands away from one's face and to wash hands frequently.
I transcribe on patients who have had this or are suspected of having it all the time, and I do clinic work, although many have been in the hospital, which I believe is the "best" place to pick up MRSA.
Part of the problem is that not everyone realizes that the way many of us take antibiotics is part of the problem. People who do not finish the full course (guilty at times myself because I have a hard time remembering to take) cause the antibiotics to be less effective not just for themselves, but for everyone. I know most of you are aware of this, but several years ago, before I was an MT, my sister and I had a conversation about this and she misunderstood and thought (prior to our conversation) that it only affected the individual who was improperly using the antibiotic. I was surprised because she is very intelligent and has two college degrees, material science engineering and psychology, so it just says to me that it really does not matter how smart a person is, it's what they know (I am not college educated, BTW). Of course, even taking the full course as prescribed does not change the fact that bacteria become resistant over time. The other thing affecting how antibiotics become less and less effective is that doctors will prescribe and patients will take antibiotics when none are necessary. Sometimes the suspicion may be great enough to justify treatment prior to confirmation of a bacterial infection, but sometimes patients request these and are given them without "just cause".
Someone posted wondering about what the schools are supposed to do about the problem. I haven't seen much of the coverage about the current outbreaks, but my understanding is that the schools close in order to disinfect the entire building(s) before returning the students to classes, much like the post offices did with the anthrax scare situation after 09/11.
Like another said, life must go on, but the precautions of keeping hands away from face and washing frequently cannot be stressed enough, IMO, as the most effective protection one can afford themself at the present time.
Good luck!
Daughter has MRSA? sm
About 10 months ago my daughter had what looked like a swollen lymph node in her groin area on the right side (right in the crease where her panties rub it). Took her to a PA and she felt like it was exactly that, a swollen lympyh node and put her on antibiotics. That afternoon I typed a dictation where the patient had the same thing and they determined it was cat scratch fever. At the time my daughter had a huge cat scratch across her stomach. I called the PA back and she changed her medication and within a short time she was fine. About 6 months later the same thing again, took her to the same PA and this time after closer examination she said it was a cyst and I looked and also saw the pore in the center. Once again antibiotics, she said it might eventually have to be I&D'd but wanted to wait a little while longer. She found another one on Tuesday but this time on the left but in the same area. The PA has left the area and my daughter only wanted to see a female so I took her back to her pediatrician....she is about 40 minutes away and usually the wait is a couple of hours, the only reason we switched to the PA. She took one look and said MRSA. Gave her antibiotics and wants to see her back in a week. She says it is probably from a cut from shaving and wants her to throw her razor away and told my to clorox certain areas in the house. If it busts she wants me to take her to the hospital to have a culture. Now I don't know if I should get a second opinion, wait a week, or what. I know how serious MRSA can be, but I also know it is treatable. Believe me, I am not freaked out about this, but want to make sure we are handling this properly. Any opinions?
mrsa=toxic shock
Did she express anything to get a culture...that is the only way to be sure, and also to be sure what antibiotics she needs. I don't want to scare you, but I nearly died of this ib 1994...I had a cyst/boil. I was waiting for it to get big enough to drain...I get these about every three yrs. This was in my armpit, from shaving. It spread throughout my whole system. Three yrs before the one on my big behind got bigger, but since it was not near any vascular supply, it was just painful rather than deadly.
You can't take this stuff seriously enough. Most of the older antibiotics will not touch it.
The main thing is to get something to culture. That is the ONLY way to be sure what you are dealing with.
I read MRSA first diagnosed in 1961
There are things that unless you pick them up, may never know. I have an example: Had carotid ultrasound done. I asked for and got the report (I save any and all that I can including lab work) and the neurologist said ok. Well, happened to have 50% stenosis of the left carotid artery. I asked is that a concern to you and he said well, it should be watched ever so often. Another time, going to have elective surgery done, got EKG and lab done ahead for that. The EKG read abnormal (this was one I was picking up from a previous appendectomy surgery I had). I then asked my internist about it. Never mentioned to me at all. Needless to say when I see abnormal on something, only surgery is a have to surgery, not elective. I see mistakes all the time on my records, not sent out but diagnosis for a scan- had it showing me having hypotension and I have hypertension. Even when the people in the office doing the click and go reports before seeing the doctor, have found errors there. These are not outsourced reports, done right here in the USA. I always get copies of everything.
i don't want to scare you....
This could be completely off the wall and hopefully like the other say it is a complete jealousy issue but I think you need to actually take it seriously, because as lame as this is, I was browsing on myspace... (yea im only 26! lol) but i came across some disturbing profiles... and it turns out there is a HUGE community of adults that LOVE to wear diapers and act like babies. I honestly thought it was a joke until you just kept clicking on all these different profiles which just led you to MORE profiles (dont know if you know how it works)... but it was like this whole diaper fetish. It really was gross to me... I know your child is only 5 years old but hopefully you can put an end to it while he's still young an impressionable. I really went back and forth about posting this at all cause I don't want to act like I'm being pessimistic or think this has ANYTHING to do with the future of your son... i just thought I'd let you know... sorry if i offended anyone!
What a scare!!
My dad was over here and I had an extra hamburger from Sonic. He was eating it and got choked on a pickle. I thought OMG What do I do? He was in the floor on his knees, red faced, gasping for air, and I went over and took the base of my palm and hit pretty hard between the shoulder blades. It came out. I need to learn the Heimlach (sp?). What a scary ordeal.
Call the school. I had a threat like this in my high school and they cancelled school that day.
Thankfully, because the person making the threats was found with material for home made pipe bombs and quit a bit of ammunition and a shotgun. He was arrested and charged. Never allowed back in the school.
I think it would be safer to call the school and get classes cancelled for a day to investigate versus make a scene in the parking lot, especially if the student with the knife is inside with the knife.
Good luck. If nothing happens, pull your child out of school for a week. See what happens. I know that sounds horrible, but small towns is where this happens most often.
sorry, His speaking out against it would scare me too.
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That's the part that would scare me (sm)
My daughter is grown, thank goodness. I don't have to deal with this decision. If I did have a daughter school age, I would be more concerned with the consequences years down the road from this vaccination. It is just too new, in my opinion, and Gov. Perry is trying to shove it down our throats. I would strongly object.
scare tactics
Their "logic" (sic)has been around for years. I'm an old hippie and when I was in college (a large university), every religious freak around said it was THE END because of our sinful ways. We can't change destiny...just trust God and live for each day at a time. Don't let them terrorize you & your family over something they have no way of knowing any more than you do.
Cities scare the poop out of me...
I don't even like to visit cities, much less live in one. I lived 20 minutes outside of Boston my whole life and NEVER visited it for funsies. I only went there as a kid for field trips, and to Logan Airport a few times as an adult. I have some sort of meltdown/panic disorder when it comes to traffic, tunnels, tall buildings, and angry people...which are plentiful in that neck of the woods. Everyone all hopped up on their fancy-pants Starbucks shouting all angry-like on their cell phones...gives me the heebs just thinkin' about it!
Yep, whole other food chain those cities are.
Since when have belittling and scare tactics
ever done anything except exacerbate/escalate this kind of situation. Will reiterate the obvious. You should be helping yourself and deal with your own abuse issues before trying to "help" someone else, if this is the best you can do. This is also coming from someone who has BTDT.
Scare tactics and the economy ? sm
 Anyone else experiencing people using the current economic crisis as an "end of the world" prediction? I would have used the "OTHER" board but some of these people are too "out there." We have a few members of our family scaring the heck out of the kids in the family that this is the "end" and you know the rest. Supposedly we're only going to be here until 2012 and then it's "all over" so they better give up their wordly ways and follow them. I'm so sick of it, I feel that this is the time for all of us to band together and ride out the storm. I'm tired of people trying to "steal" my kids' minds. How do you shut these people up? Some of them are on that "social" network, assembling the family together so we can all share our resources and band together for the big coming of the end. I'm just so very upset right now -- isn't it bad enough that we are struggling. I think things will get better as we get more and more into a stable financial picture. We were just living "too high on the hog" and things will get better. I don't think we're all going to perish. Why can't we just try to be happy and get through it? Why can't it be a new beginning instead of the saved vs. the unsaved and the "end" coming?
Americans are such suckers for SCARE tactics
imposed on us daily by the corporate media.
That's not to say don't be concerned and vigilant - just not to cave everytime they decide to scare us with propaganda.
WHAT is the school supposed to DO about "it" anyway?
In MHO, call your lawyer NOW... he is teaching your children to be afraid, overreact, and believe every scare tactic that comes down the pike.
it doesn't just scare you it scares the person you're in bed with too!!!
My boyfriend had these episodes where he would be falling asleep and then get real tense and start breathing heavy and fast... and i'd try to wake him... and it would take minutes. okay probably seconds... but it felt like forever.
then he would say that he was trying to open his eyes and speak, but couldn't, and describes what you are describing, with a few differences. I looked it up and found sleep paralysis. It sounds very much like this...
it only happens every once in awhile to him, but I sure get so scared when it happens. sounds silly, but it is freaky to see him tense up and know something is happening that i can't stop!!
Also DUI, pulled over at 2:15 a.m.
between 0.12 and 0.13 alcohol level. 0.08 legal limit. Reportedly was smuggling drugs into rehab. She needs to get out of LA fast.
i just pulled it up and
it says "online tools" and then click on "where's my refund" below that.
Whatever you do, DON'T get them in right after the teeth are pulled
Wait at least a year to get fitted. I was a receptionist and had to either quit my job or get my dentures immediately. Mine fit great at first and was told never to take them out (I didn't) ...then one day when answering the phone at work, my bottoms fell out. Thank heavens no one was in the waiting room. How embarrassing!
I don't think I was fitted correctly as they hurt like heck where the bottom jaw met the top of the mouth. I cannot wear the tops now either. They are too loose. I had them religned after a year but it didn't help. Always had trouble eating and drinking anything. Gagged and choked all the time.
I can't eat in restaurants because I at least wear my tops when going somewhere so I don't scare anyone, but can't eat with them.
As for your question, it cost me $700, 12 years ago and another $300 to get then relined. What a waste of $$
Think I'll change my name to Gums. 
Zoey not pulled unfortunately
From Google....
She's already pregnant, so what other kind of shenanigans could Jamie Lynn Spears get into? Nothing involving her show "Zoey 101," according to Nickelodeon, which set the record straight Thursday (January 3) regarding rumors the network was yanking the show in light of Spears' much-publicized situation.
"No truth to that rumor," the show's spokesman Dan Martinsen told MTV News. "We have not made any change to our schedule."
I'm a secret fan, too, but I got pulled away from the end. I have a feeling what's
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No it wasn't, it was pulled off the table to be
reworked and submitted again in January. It won't stop the BYB, they will pay for the licence cause they are making money on all those poor dogs/cats they keep in those cages. That is disgusting and it is inhumane, but those kind of people are deceitful and rotten to begin with and they always find a way.
a long time ago I had a cat who pulled out fur
clear down to leaving an oozing sore that had to be surgically sewn up - vet then said it was an allergy.
I pulled 5 puppies the other day and guess what?
A lady had turned her Pomerarian in because she said was aggressive. I asked the lady who was with me if she wanted to pull that one also she said no, those were highly adoptable and so we left that one. The lady at the place said the dog not aggressive, just being the breed it is with the nipping and such.
Me too! One time hubby and I pulled in front SM
of a car doing that and put our turn signal on. Then another car pulled in front of us and did the same thing. It was a TRAIN!!! For miles it went on like that down the highway, and the guy behind us never got a clue.
I know from where I speak, daughter pulled same stunt
caught her at guys home, he probably in his 20s or so and she was 16. If I had broken the door down in order to get her, I would have been arrested. I knocked, they did not answer, went to the phone and called the police and they came and got her out. You can do things illegal if you like but I have never been in jail and I don’t think I ever want to be. Just me, though.
IMO a lot of pulled posts didnt violate TOS but
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Need advice on a good, adjustable chair for typing. Any advice? nm
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It would take VOLUMES to explain all the crap she has pulled over the years. nm
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Many posts hafta read fast cause they are pulled if
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Zoey pulled, great for that, Britney has been a train wreck for
some time. I am glad her sister's show got cancelled. She supposedly is looked up to by these little teeners, not good. I have read there are money problems for the mother, good about that too, she has lived off both her daughters, let them get a regular job. Britney has been spinning out of control for at least over a year and hopefully someone will have her committed. If you or I, and not answering the courts with their demands for parenting clases, drug checks, depositions, etc. we would have already been jailed. It is no different with her. The mother is accountable probably for her sister's pregnancy, heard she let the boyfriend live with them, just trailer trash all of them.
Anyone ever have a front tooth pulled and have to wear a flipper for awhile up there. nm
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Sounds like my kids...on a school day "we just got home from school!" on a vacation day....sm
But this is our vacation! My husband takes vacation days and leaves town without us...lol! He would never dream of taking a day off to work around the house!
How is the school's fault if Johnny comes to school armed?
And how is the school's fault if off campus people are getting jumped? Everybody wants to blame the schools, but the reason places have gone "zero tolerance" is because every parent whose kid gets popped for an illegal weapon says, "Oh, my little pookie wouldn't do that." Which is exactly what the parents of every perpetrator of school violence has said. At 15, this girl should have been aware that it was verboten and, if they felt that strongly it was necessary, kept it hidden. If she is not capable of thinking that part through, maybe she shouldn't be trusted with pepper spray anyway.
How is this kid in school with chronic infestation? School nurse
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In our school district you can go to any school that you want
but you actually have to pay if you don't live in the District. The private schools here are outrageously priced. You could almost send your child to a community college for the amount they charge.
Re: Advice
I am a new mom to a beautiful baby girl. I didn't think I would mind going to work part-time. Well, I've been crying my self to sleep every night. I have my B.A. in Business Administration and have been in the banking industry for 6 years. I have been searching all over for a legitimate work at home opportunity. It seems like medical transcription is a great opportunity. I'd like advice from people who do this from home. I'd like to know where you got the training and what your first job was (since that seems to be a big issue). Also, will my B.A. help at all? I know employers like people with MT experience but I accquired other skills such as meticulous attention to detail that I know is needed. Any and all information is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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I do have to say that unless you already have an "in" it is difficult to find a job. Most places won't hire you if you don't have at least two years experience but you can't get experience unless someone hires you. You don't necessarily have to get certified right away just take an accredited program that is specifically for medical transcription. Once your done with school just keep trying, don't give up and try to take your time and ace the preemployment tests. If you do really well some places will give you an offer even if you don't have experience. Take the first job you can get because even if it doesn't pay well you are still gaining experience and it will make it easier for you to get a new job.
Cat advice please....
I have a kitten who is appx. 7 months old. He refuses to eat any kind of cat food, canned, dry, dry mixed with canned, dry mixed with water, cat treats, etc. I have tried baby food, dog food, etc. He will only eat KMR weaning powder, which I mix with water. Have tried to mix food into it but he will not eat it. He tries to cover everything up like it should be in the cat box! No vet seems to concerned about this...he likes to eat chicken, people food chicken that is, and turkey. I am stumped.
This cat MUST learn to eat before May because I am going on vacation for 3-1/2 weeks...any suggestions for this problem? 
Thanks for the advice....sm
I will give each a try! I hate to leave him while on vacation, but have no other choice. And the only reason it is for so long is because I don't fly and my DH and I are driving cross country to see family...I'm sure he will be fine, but no kids at home anymore so they are my babies! It's nice to have people to bounce ideas off of! 
I thank you all for your advice - I am
an animal lover, have 2 cats, 2 dogs. Love feeding the birds outside. I can't help feeling betrayed by these outside creatures that probably fill their bellies at my bird feeders and have now started war on my house. I guess I will start off with putting some Dcon in the attic - as much as I hate to kill them, I don't want my house chewed apart either. I just hope they don't die and rot someplace where I can smell them.
My cats were going crazy last night and spent much of the night gazing up at the ceiling in my bedroom with their mouths watering. I hope at least tonight the invader picks another part of the house to snack and dig so I can get some sleep.
Thanks again for the advice.
And Hayseed - I agree that Indian is a little un-PC, so are some of the ones with the smiley faces shooting at each other, but they're pretty funny (I guess unless you're Indian)!
Re: Looking for advice
Thanks, that was very helpful! I'm sorry about the info overload, I guess I just wasn't sure exactly where to begin asking. I think I'll just get the basic foot pedal, upgraded computer, headphones etc. and get some finanicing for the "extras" that may come up and take the plunge.
My advice to you is
Get yourself the book - think it is called Co-Dependent No More and get yourself to a support group ASAP - not sure what they are called - but if someone here does not tell you then call AA yourself and find out the name of the support group for spouses, family, etc. AND if you don't find a supportive support group - hunt around until you do - DO NOT GIVE UP. Help yourself to understand this disease/disorder and get help for yourself and then you can help him through this process also. Thank goodness you do not have children and good for you for asking for help. E-mail me if you want - lots of alcoholics in my family and would be glad to help you!! Take care. Will be praying for you.
This is THE best advice yet. I always will take on sm
10-year-old son's friends, especially when they say rude things. I'll say, "excuse me, what did you just say? Well, we do not talk like that in this house." And I promise you, they either stop coming around or they are VERY polite around me. If they do slip and say something rude they will immediately cover their mouths and say I'm sorry while looking at me. I do scare them a bit, I suppose. But I show them my authority and that I will not stand for that kind of nonsense and then they stop.
If they did that to me I would have immediately turned around and said, "what did you just say?" And then I'd tell a little white lie and say, "I know exactly who you 2 are" (and I'd say it so convincingly) and then say, "It looks like a call into your mother and father is in order today." Have a nice day, guys."
Thanks for the advice
I am assuming he did it sometime on Sunday. He came limping to the house on Monday morning and there was no sign of blood, no fresh blood or no old blood. It doesn't appear to be infected at all. Now that the flap is gone, I don't see any open areas at all. No swelling or redness and it is not touchy at all. He lets me manipulate it and even squeeze his paw so I don't think there is any infection there. I guess we are really bad - but no vets bills unless absolutely no other alternative!
Need advice about how to get what I want done
Okay here goes I can handle a department but when it comes to cleaning my home I have problems getting across what I want or maybe I am too nice. Tell me what you think please!!!
My home is 1st /2nd floor with a basement (laundry /storage). I want them to thoroughly clean the kitchen (any dishes, counters, stove, fridge sweep mop etc) clean all three bathrooms(completely), dust living room, dining room, and hallways. Tidy guest bedroom (you know dust vacuum). I do not want them to clean anyof the childrens rooms or mine or touch my office. I want all door sills wiped/dusted and ceiling fans and lamps cleaned and about the windows divided out so that they are cleaned at least once a month my kids have to clean theirs weekly. I am prepared to pay $100 to $120 a visit and want them in one a week or every other week which ever works better for them so that it stays decent and can be completed within a 3-5 hour time range. I have to be home when they do it because my dog will not allow it otherwise.
My problem is this I was told what I was asking was not over and above and that I was paying an extremely fair wage since the area they are actually cleaning is less than have the square footage. No work in the basement, only hallway and to small bathrooms on the second floor and all of the first floor. A couple of companies I tried were horrible right off the bat and were not asked back. The individuals seemed to work the best but after a month or two the work was being half done and I would have to go behind them checking. I do not have time for this and I do tip usually about $20 a visit. How do you get them to do everything you want. Should I be totally anal and make a check list and if it is not done subtract from their next visit???(husbands suggestion). I just want it done right I am willing to pay good money so that I can spend my free time with my kids and my husband not scrubing toilets and windows.
Thanks I appreciate any advice
Thanks for the advice- however I do not believe
she is depressed, has loads of things to keep her busy. She basically hurt my feelings when she broke her hip last year and I asked what she would like, pears so I got those, knowing she loved chocolate, got some of that and got some flowers. Oh, I had overdone it, too much. I do not remember her saying anyone else had overdone something. I am not going to say anything but that still does not justify running down something I basically went out of my way to provide for her. I only wish I had a son or daughter either 1 that I could count on like she can with me. Oh, well, guess I will just stop trying to be so kind and keep more to myself.
Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it.
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